Boyfriend trouble

[Littlepoppyhole]

My boy friend is extremely dominant over me. He has reduced me to the most submissive creature you would want to meet. He has forced me into whipping, water sports, double penetration, Chasity Pants, fisting, tittie wanking, tittie torture, waxing, branding and Vagina and Clitoris Torture. He is now aiming to force me into castration, to be like his other submissive toys. I need to know whether this is a submission too far? What would you advise me.

I really love him and don’t want to lose my man.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

If anything is too far for you, then it is too far. Submissives are allowed and should have limits and the Dominant partner should respect them. Without consent, it’s not BDSM, it’s abuse.

 

[MissMandy86]

Get rid of him ....

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

You love him. If you saw a beloved friend or family member treated this way, what would you say to them?

 

[cocktaildress21]

My boy friend is extremely dominant over me. He has reduced me to the most submissive creature you would want to meet. He has forced me into whipping, water sports, double penetration, Chasity Pants, fisting, tittie wanking, tittie torture, waxing, branding and Vagina and Clitoris Torture. He is now aiming to force me into castration, to be like his other submissive toys. I need to know whether this is a submission too far? What would you advise me.

I really love him and don’t want to lose my man.

Let's start here: I think you're a guy, and this is your favourite wank fantasy.

Having said that, I know that truly unhealthy, damaging and dangerous relationships do exist. I've heard of precisely one here in Denmark, in which a woman subjected herself to an abusive couple, and was literally beaten to death.

You should not allow anyone to force you into anything. If you're not enjoying it, there is only one answer - and that is no. And if he insists, there is only one response, and that is to leave.

Furthermore, absolutely any and all threats to your health or security should be met by immediately contacting the police.

Also, on the off chance you're not fake - please seek counselling.

 

[cookiecat]

I read your other posts.

You serve 4 Masters.

You lost your Master to an illness.

In August, you were seeing someone to serve.

And now this.

Fantasy is fun.

 

[PaxNurgle]

There are people who come here to this forum that are trying to be sincere in seeking advice. While others hope to share their honest, true life experiences with other people. But honesty is the key, not just in relationships, but on anonymous forums where people might want to share real experiences they might not otherwise.

So with that said, THANK you to Cookiecat for outing the impostors like this. This being an erotic stories site, the original post would be better served as a theme for an erotic story, and then posted as such in the stories section of the website. Unless the thread is clearly about "Describe your favorite fantasies" or something similar, I am generally not in favor of posting erotic fiction as if it was true personal experience in the forums- it is deceptive and kind of dishonest. Just my two pence.

 

[Master_Doctor]

My boy friend is extremely dominant over me. He has reduced me to the most submissive creature you would want to meet. He has forced me into whipping, water sports, double penetration, Chasity Pants, fisting, tittie wanking, tittie torture, waxing, branding and Vagina and Clitoris Torture. He is now aiming to force me into castration, to be like his other submissive toys. I need to know whether this is a submission too far? What would you advise me.

I really love him and don’t want to lose my man.

Ok I will be bluntly honest with you. You keep saying he has forced you... he plans on forcing you. If these things are acts you consented to... well then he isnt forcing you. You agreed to it. If not then its abuse and you should leave. Period.

I can not advise you. Why not? Because Im not the one in this relationship per se. I cant in all honesty tell you if these acts are too far (submissive). Only you can tell if they are too far for you. Some would argue that you are still with him... so it might not be. You have to choose for yourself if this is something you signed up for... or is it abuse.

You use words like force... you want advice... but then you say that you dont want to loose your man... even though you admit he has other submissive toys.

Using my psych hat. I will say you come off as someone who is willing to let her dominant push her past her normal limits, out of your comfort zone because you are afraid that if you dont obey him fully (in ways you are not comfortable with) then you will loose him. Red flags for possible co-dependency. Not a clear sign because I dont know enough of your history or his.

See I could sit here and tell you... yes, clearly this seems like a case of abuse.... But then you will as likely suddenly defend him and his actions than agree with someone else's view. In the end. Only you can honestly say if he pushes you past what you are willing to submit to... only you can honestly say if it is too much.

There are some sub/slaves who feel there is NO such thing as too much, there are others that have so many limits that you often want to ask... are you sure that your submissive?? The level that you need/want to submit is completely individualistic. I cant answer a question only you know.

But I will tell you this much. If you want/ need more respect our of your Dominant. There are plenty of them out there that would treat you with much more respect. I openly admit im poly. In ethically and dedicatedly poly, which means I dedicate myself fully to two, maybe three submissive women. It doesnt mean that I want to have every woman I meet. It also means that I respect, care and protect every woman who chooses to place herself (see consent) under my authority and control.

You seem to have the duality of not wanting to submit to certain acts that he had planned for you... AND the fear of loosing him out of disobedience. YOU have to choose which it is going to be... because they are NOT compatible... and no matter what any of us tells you... you are going to do what you want most anyway.

Good luck. If I seem cynical... its because ive seen this many times... and even tried to help and 'save' a sub from a bad or abusive Dominant. More often than not got burned for trying to help. My advice is honest and unbiased however.

 

[Jada59]

Let's start here: I think you're a guy, and this is your favourite wank fantasy.

Having said that, I know that truly unhealthy, damaging and dangerous relationships do exist. I've heard of precisely one here in Denmark, in which a woman subjected herself to an abusive couple, and was literally beaten to death.

You should not allow anyone to force you into anything. If you're not enjoying it, there is only one answer - and that is no. And if he insists, there is only one response, and that is to leave.

Furthermore, absolutely any and all threats to your health or security should be met by immediately contacting the police.

Also, on the off chance you're not fake - please seek counselling.

Agree.

 

[Master_Doctor]

I read your other posts.

You serve 4 Masters.

You lost your Master to an illness.

In August, you were seeing someone to serve.

And now this.

Fantasy is fun.

Thank you. I had many thoughts along the same lines as you. My previous post on the subject was not just for the OP, but for anyone else that may be in that sort of REAL situation but be afraid to ask.

It as been said that a man (or woman ) can not serve two Masters. They will end up loving one and hating the other. I have never seen anyone even attempt to serve 4. If I have a girl thats interested in me tell me that she serves someone else. I will wish her well and swipe left, explaining that if I am your Master. I will always come first.

 

[Master_Doctor]

Let's start here: I think you're a guy, and this is your favourite wank fantasy.

Having said that, I know that truly unhealthy, damaging and dangerous relationships do exist. I've heard of precisely one here in Denmark, in which a woman subjected herself to an abusive couple, and was literally beaten to death.

You should not allow anyone to force you into anything. If you're not enjoying it, there is only one answer - and that is no. And if he insists, there is only one response, and that is to leave.

Furthermore, absolutely any and all threats to your health or security should be met by immediately contacting the police.

Also, on the off chance you're not fake - please seek counselling.

Wow you story sounds sadly much like the original Story of 'O' in the 1960s