boyfriend does not like anal sex

[DarlingNikki]

We have not done it together, but we've each done it with others. It's been my experience that guys whine and beg for it, so I offered it to the current boyfriend because I thought he would be excited. But he's very ho-hum about the idea. He says that there isn't enough stimulation once you actually penetrate, that it's like a big, empty cavern in there. Was there just something weird about the girl he did it with or did they do it wrong, or is it that he's simply someone who doesn't enjoy it? Do any other men feel that way, that there's not enough stimulation with anal sex?

 

[Guest]

 

[fingers_larue]

hmmmmm

I'll have some of that if the old BF isn't going to take you up on that offer....

 

[Blindinthedark]

Was there just something weird about the girl he did it with or did they do it wrong, or is it that he's simply someone who doesn't enjoy it? Do any other men feel that way, that there's not enough stimulation with anal sex?

I don't know what your BF is talking about. I think anal penetration is tighter than vaginal and I like it just fine. It may be that your boy just doesn't like it.

Is this a problem for you? If it's something that you want then you'll have to take that up with the bf. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about it. Different strokes ... yadda. Now if it is something that you want that's a problem. But if I understood your post right, it's not something that will kill you if you don't get it.

Do you enjoy anal sex?

 

[ThisCharmingMan]

So....

Hello good peoples of the Literotica site.


I am the boyfriend, and Im here to set it straight.

I never once professed a dislike for anal sex.

I happen to be a very free and liberated man.

I have had anal sex on more than a few occasions, but its always been a wild, condomless, un-lubricated affair.

And more than once things were not as clean as I would have liked. (as in shitty,get it?)

So heres the deal.

I am more than down, in fact I look forward to experimenting with anal sex with my beautiful DarlingNikki. I just want to do it right. Clean, slippery, fun, and prepeared.

Look at her AV, damn that girl looks good. I really cannot wait.....


Baby, show me that way.


Hugs and kisses.

ThisCharmingMan.

 

[DarlingNikki]

Oh dear. What have I gotten myself into?

 

[RandomInk]

Well, if you want to do it clean, prepared, slippery, and fun then do it. Apparantly she wants to experiance this with you and thinks it'll be great, otherwise she wouldn't be here asking for help.

So, you two talk about it, go out and buy the necessary items together, and begin to experiment with anal sex with eachother. My advice would be to start like virgins to the topic, that way you don't lose the affection that should be involved with any relationship sexual or not, no matter what your kinks. I suggest a lot of foreplay and teasing (play with her ass, get it?). Then, when you two are ready and cleaned up, go for it.

Build up to the event, make it magical and more enjoyable than anything you two have experianced in the past

Let us know how it turns out

 

[Blindinthedark]

Well CharmingMan I'm sure you and Nikki will have tonnes of fun.

There are alot of threads dedicated to anal on the How To forum. Just do a search. If the messiness is the prob you folks might have to consider an enema. If you go this route do your homework. Retal tissue is delicate.

Other than that, it's all part of the game. You go in knowing what comes out ... so to speak.

If you want the play to be cleaner use the condom. That's the only other peice of advise I'll give ya.

Have fun and rem to shower after.

 

[dreamer]

Re: Re: boyfriend does not like anal sex

Well, unlss maybe you have a HUGE fart bubble going on up there

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA

I almost spit my grape juice all over my computer with that one.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I've had a man say that while anal was very tight at the entrance, the rest was not that 'feelable' while he thought that during regular sex he could feel my pussy contracting the whole length of his cock??? What do you guys think?

 

[DarlingNikki]

I've had a man say that while anal was very tight at the entrance, the rest was not that 'feelable' while he thought that during regular sex he could feel my pussy contracting the whole length of his cock??? What do you guys think?

Yes! That's what he said.

Well anyway now he insists on doing it, so I guess that's what we'll be doing this weekend.

 

[shescurious]

So Nikki, I am just wondering if he "caught" you here talking about it and felt the need to vindicate himself or what. It just seemed a little odd that he registered and what not just to post his defence...

Of course I could have taken it all wrong too....

Anyway, I cannot offer any advice that hasn't already been offered so I hope you two enjoy yourself this weekend.

 

[DarlingNikki]

So Nikki, I am just wondering if he "caught" you here talking about it and felt the need to vindicate himself or what. It just seemed a little odd that he registered and what not just to post his defence...

Of course I could have taken it all wrong too....

Anyway, I cannot offer any advice that hasn't already been offered so I hope you two enjoy yourself this weekend.

Actually I sent him the link to this thread... we had a whole conversation about it... he's so funny.

Thanks... I'm sure we will enjoy ourselves.

 

[James G 5]

I've had a man say that while anal was very tight at the entrance, the rest was not that 'feelable' while he thought that during regular sex he could feel my pussy contracting the whole length of his cock??? What do you guys think?

Weird
I've never heard of or encountered this
It's always a MUCH different grip & feel with better sensations for me *shrug*

 

[Guest]

Re: So....

. . . So heres the deal.
I am more than down, in fact I look forward to experimenting with anal sex with my beautiful DarlingNikki. I just want to do it right. Clean, slippery, fun, and prepeared.
Look at her AV, damn that girl looks good. I really cannot wait.....
Baby, show me that way.
Hugs and kisses.
ThisCharmingMan.

My man insists my ass tightly grips the full length of his cock tightly - and that his strokes are hot and slippery and often more arousing than pussy sex.

We totally agree that clean, slippery, fun and prepared are the best way to go!

Good luck and best wishes!!!

(please post about how things go after - we love to hear good sex chat! )

 

[DarlingNikki]

Hey sweetsubsarahh - I read your anal sex manual the other day and thought it was really excellent... I would have given it more than a 5 if I could.

I'll let everyone know how it goes...

 

[Guest]

Hey sweetsubsarahh - I read your anal sex manual the other day and thought it was really excellent... I would have given it more than a 5 if I could.

I'll let everyone know how it goes...

Thank you DarlingNikki! What a truly nice thing to say!

Have a wonderful time, and yes, please share all the naughty details!!

 

[Another Shy One]

some men (most?) think anal sex demeans the woman. Another possibility is that he finds it less than appealing (disgusting?). Your boyfriend my try to use some sort of excuse to avoid doing it.

 

[Guest]

some men (most?) think anal sex demeans the woman. Another possibility is that he finds it less than appealing (disgusting?). Your boyfriend my try to use some sort of excuse to avoid doing it.

Well, it does sound like the boyfriend in this case is interested! LOL

Personally, I don't believe men think anal sex is demeaning to women. Wild, erotic, arousing, intense, yes - but not an insulting act. In fact, most men I discuss this with are usually begging their partners to allow them to enjoy the experience!

(so who is really in charge? )

 

[SupaStyles]

Oh dear. What have I gotten myself into?

Id say its what your trying to get him into..

 

[RoughPlay]

Do any other men feel that way, that there's not enough stimulation with anal sex?

Anal sex is the best thing in the universe. It gives plenty of stimulation, too much if anything as its so nice and tight in there.

 

[WynEternal]

Weird
I've never heard of or encountered this
It's always a MUCH different grip & feel with better sensations for me *shrug*

Well, I have heard of some women who's muscles actually just totally relax a little bit into the sex. It's not as difficult for the penis to go in and out and totally opens.

 

[Another Shy One]

Well, it does sound like the boyfriend in this case is interested! LOL

Personally, I don't believe men think anal sex is demeaning to women. Wild, erotic, arousing, intense, yes - but not an insulting act. In fact, most men I discuss this with are usually begging their partners to allow them to enjoy the experience!

(so who is really in charge? )

I thought that I implied what I am going to say, but I see that have to elaborate my argument some more then.

Men think anal sex is arousing, yes. However, you must have heard about the fact that men see women in two ways (Madonna's and prostitutes). The phenomenon is much more complex than it sounds, but it's not entirely false either. This means, that men are willing to do anything with certain women sexwise, while they behave differently with others.

If a man loves a woman (therefore, if he considers her a "Madonna"), he will refuse certain things because he will think that they demean her.

Now, this is true for the majority of men in my opinion. I am certain that you met married couples on here where the man does like anal sex on the wife (and much more). But these couples are the minority of the population.


I hope I was clear enough

 

[Zmey]

Dump the bastard!

 

[Guest]

I thought that I implied what I am going to say, but I see that have to elaborate my argument some more then.

Men think anal sex is arousing, yes. However, you must have heard about the fact that men see women in two ways (Madonna's and prostitutes). The phenomenon is much more complex than it sounds, but it's not entirely false either. This means, that men are willing to do anything with certain women sexwise, while they behave differently with others.

If a man loves a woman (therefore, if he considers her a "Madonna"), he will refuse certain things because he will think that they demean her.

Now, this is true for the majority of men in my opinion. I am certain that you met married couples on here where the man does like anal sex on the wife (and much more). But these couples are the minority of the population.


I hope I was clear enough

Yes, you were very clear - but I'm afraid we're going to have to agree to disagree on this one!

I have heard that argument before - concerning wives giving blowjobs - but I still don't think it is a respect issue. That kind of attitude - "saving" your wife by not forcing her to condone or participate in such actions - is actually quite demeaning to women, in my opinion.

I'm happily married, happily sexed, and well-respected by my hubby of almost 16 years!! And, I think oral and anal sex are a great deal more mainstream than they used to be.

(and the first time we tried anal sex? It was MY idea! )

But everyone is different - that's why there are so many different naughty story categories on this site! As long as you are enjoying sex - life is good!