Boudoir Photography

[Keleigh]

Hi, I am brand new to the forum. I have "lurked" a couple times trying to figure out how to sign up, etc. I have a question and I'd love to get some input, especially from the guys.
I have been married to a wonderful guy for 7 years. He has a birthday coming up and I had a friend take some "boudoir" style photos of me. I'm not terribly thrilled with how they turned out, I think I look kind of chubby. My best friend insists that he isn't going to see that, that he's going to only see that I was trying to look hot for him. Do you think that's true? Should I have them redone? Should I go get them professionally done? (It'll cost me a lot more and they probably won't be ready for his birthday)
Suggestions?

 

[Scary Gary]

If a picture is worth 1,000 words...

He'll be far too busy reading to notice

Sounds like jitters *wink*! I'm sure anyone who's seen you in the buff for the past 7 years certainly wouldn't have any problems with seeing you in the buff on film!

 

[stang99]

Hi, I am brand new to the forum. I have "lurked" a couple times trying to figure out how to sign up, etc. I have a question and I'd love to get some input, especially from the guys.
I have been married to a wonderful guy for 7 years. He has a birthday coming up and I had a friend take some "boudoir" style photos of me. I'm not terribly thrilled with how they turned out, I think I look kind of chubby. My best friend insists that he isn't going to see that, that he's going to only see that I was trying to look hot for him. Do you think that's true? Should I have them redone? Should I go get them professionally done? (It'll cost me a lot more and they probably won't be ready for his birthday)
Suggestions?

You have been with him for 7 years and you are worried now?
If he has been with you that long he is surely in love with you and finds you beautiful no matter what you think.

Just because you see a little roll doesnt mean he will focus on what you see as a flaw.

 

[Bobmi357]

Go with the existing photos you have. Your husband will see you doing your best to look hot, for him. He won't see any stretch marks or scars etc....

Women often complain that we men don't pay attention and thats often true. But what many women don't realize is that in our minds eye, we see them as they were when we first met them.

I know intellectually that my wife has aged over these past 10 years or so. I know she now occasionally finds a grey hair which sends her into tizzies. But she's still as beautiful to me as when I met her as a 22yr old gorgeous babe.

So go with the photos, he'll love them, and who knows? Perhaps he'll take up an interest in a little "private photography". In any event he'll see his woman, posing for him and him alone. And that will make his blood race.

 

[Keleigh]

Thank you so much for your replies! It made me feel so much better to be reminded that he won't be nearly as critical as I am of myself. I guess I don't look bad, I do work out and am a decent weigth. It's hard because in my mind I picture myself as I was at 18, and now that I'm not 18 anymore, and have had 2 children, I see something different in the mirror.
I have decided that since the pose I liked best didn't turn out right (bad lighting) my friend and I are going to shoot another roll of film and hope for some more pictures that I might be happier with as well as these.
Thank you so much! Now I just have to sit down and plan out the next poses and such!

 

[creampiestories]

If you know the pose you like, spend the roll on that pose. If he has a decent camera, make him do auto-exposure bracketing.

BTW, I very much agree with the others. My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years (including dating and 17 years of marriage). Is she as hot as the nubile girls I see? No. But she is more: she has experience and she loves me and we are connected by those 20 years. I would adore her for going to the effort to make something she thinks I would like.

I am confident that the man you love enough to pose for will see the woman he shares his life with, and not the woman you wish you could be.