Bottoming from the top?

[bjackson]

I'm sorry if this has been gone over before, but I didn't find anything in previous posts about this. I'm pretty much a switch, and can get into either dom or sub mode pretty easily usually, however the partner I am with is normally submissive and that's fine, however, I really, really, like recieving anal sex from a strap on. Now, literally speaking, ordering someone to give me pleasure seems like a domly thing to do, however it practice it feels submissive for me, and dominate for her, and it kinda hurts the dynamic.

Is there any thing you guys can think of to kind of reverse the feelings towards the role? I've tried being forceful about it, but somehow no matter how strong and harsh I order it, it just does not seem to change how it ends up feeling.

Thanks!

 

[Netzach]

Put a plug in her ass/ and/or a dildo in her pussy while she's doing it.

I've found this takes the edge off of males when I want to get fucked - maybe it will put some oomph in her motor and still keep her in her place.

 

[MechaBlade]

I'm sorry if this has been gone over before, but I didn't find anything in previous posts about this. I'm pretty much a switch, and can get into either dom or sub mode pretty easily usually, however the partner I am with is normally submissive and that's fine, however, I really, really, like recieving anal sex from a strap on. Now, literally speaking, ordering someone to give me pleasure seems like a domly thing to do, however it practice it feels submissive for me, and dominate for her, and it kinda hurts the dynamic.

Is there any thing you guys can think of to kind of reverse the feelings towards the role? I've tried being forceful about it, but somehow no matter how strong and harsh I order it, it just does not seem to change how it ends up feeling.

Thanks!

I have been trying to get my head around this issue as well. Receiving anal seems like a plainly submissive act. However, receiving a rimjob and giving oral also seemed submissive to me at first, but now I have little trouble domming in these activities. So it may be just a matter of feeling domly as you do it. Or adding new aspects to it, like Netzach suggested, can help.

 

[RJMasters]

There is something inheirently "empowering" when you attach a cock to something. The cock is a symbol of power and has been worshiped throughout the ages as such.

The question you purpose is a tricky one but here is something you can try. You could try to shift focus from commanding her to one of objectification. In short you are using her to get off period. Its not about her pleasuring you...its about you pleasuring yourself and you are using her as nothing more than a tool.

You can work on establishing this attitude in both yourself and her by being on top and making her lie still. Tieing her up might even go one step further.

Making her stand against a wall as you use her by pushing back into her.

This may help in changing the whole dynamic of what is going through your mind and hers. Later when this mentality is set, you can then allow her some movement and see if it holds up.

I am sure she will have a much easier time getting her head around being used by you for your pleasure, than being commanded to do something of a dominant nature to you.

Another thing you could do is just before you are about to cum, spin around and finish via oral. If she enjoys oral/swallowing, then for her it will be a pay off and she is doing what she is doing in order to get that. In doing this you making the fucking a means to a end, not an ends in itself.

Just a few thoughts and hope they are helpful in stimulating your thinking.

 

[Netzach]

There is something inheirently "empowering" when you attach a cock to something. The cock is a symbol of power and has been worshiped throughout the ages as such.

The question you purpose is a tricky one but here is something you can try. You could try to shift focus from commanding her to one of objectification. In short you are using her to get off period. Its not about her pleasuring you...its about you pleasuring yourself and you are using her as nothing more than a tool.

You can work on establishing this attitude in both yourself and her by being on top and making her lie still. Tieing her up might even go one step further.

Making her stand against a wall as you use her by pushing back into her.

This may help in changing the whole dynamic of what is going through your mind and hers. Later when this mentality is set, you can then allow her some movement and see if it holds up.

I am sure she will have a much easier time getting her head around being used by you for your pleasure, than being commanded to do something of a dominant nature to you.

Another thing you could do is just before you are about to cum, spin around and finish via oral. If she enjoys oral/swallowing, then for her it will be a pay off and she is doing what she is doing in order to get that. In doing this you making the fucking a means to a end, not an ends in itself.

Just a few thoughts and hope they are helpful in stimulating your thinking.

This works really well, except sometimes when you really like to get fucked the still human dildo doesn't cut it. The oral finish is another really good technique. Pair that with some chastity restrictions and welcome to being a Sadist.