Bondage: More questions than answers

[klehmgirl]

What's hot to you when it comes to bondage?

I am interested in exploring bondage with my companion, but I think I want to do so first in a story or two before physically experiencing it.

I have been out on the internet looking around and it excites me.

Does anyone have any favorite sites or perhaps any scenarios you would like to suggest that I put into a story for Literotica readers, so that I can explore this topic in my mind before physically experimenting?

Thanks!

 

[sr71plt]

I include bondage quite a bit--simple immobilization of hands and sometimes ankles as well. For me, it represents total loss of responsibility for what happens. Whisking away a lot of the society-heaped guilt--even when knowing that it's largely symbolic.

 

[klehmgirl]

Thanks, sr71plt - I like your perspective. I have been considering how deep of a trust a couple would have to relinquish power to their companion and trust unconditionally, but conversely be the one who has the ultimate benefit - a body-rocking orgasm. It all seems twisted and intense to me.

 

[sr71plt]

Stories feed on tension. There's instant tension if the risk is high. Thus, although I do on occasion have long-term lovers doing this, I more often than not let the risk enhance the tension needs of the story.

 

[lovecraft68]

Here are a couple of pic threads. The first is more along the erotic lines(and my particular taste now that I'm older and more experienced.)

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=654280

This one is harder core especially look at pic#2

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=375300

I suggest working with "the basics" in the beginning using his tie, your stockings. Doing some teasing with a feather, a rose, a blind fold for some sensory deprivation is a great touch.

If you want to start getting harder, hot wax (again with a blindfold) can give that split second of a little pain, but it fades quickly and a hitachi wand the weapon of choice when you start getting into some hardcore play and forced orgasms.

 

[sr71plt]

Are you asking about bondage, as you posted, KGirl, or are you asking for a lot beyond that, BDSM? There's a difference in all sorts of ways. Hot wax/pain is way beyond simple bondage.

 

[lovecraft68]

Are you asking about bondage, as you posted, KGirl, or are you asking for a lot beyond that, BDSM? There's a difference in all sorts of ways. Hot wax/pain is way beyond simple bondage.

You see where I said build up slowly, and mort often than not bondage experimentation will lead to further exploration. Or do you think people just stay bound and lay there while getting laid?

Each person stops where they are comfortable and some just keep going. But we all started with that very simple first time of having our hands tied to the bed.

 

[sr71plt]

I believe the question is just about bondage. And I'll bet most engaging in simple bondage do not go farther. You have to be an entirely different sort of person to want what's farther.

 

[lovecraft68]

I believe the question is just about bondage. And I'll bet most engaging in simple bondage do not go farther. You have to be an entirely different sort of person to want what's farther.

I agree, but how do you know what kind of person you are?

Using a common analogy if Marijuana is referred to as a gateway drug, simple bondage is the gateway to the lifestyle.

For some a little bondage is a kinky thrill and it ends there, but for others its just the beginning.

And the OP, if she returns, can make what she wants out of my post. Its not like I'm being rude to her.

 

[sr71plt]

The question thus far is about bondage. Perhaps the OP will say that more than bondage was meant. Bondage is not about either inflicting or receiving physical pain. I'll stick to the thread question. If the OP just wanted to know about bondage, giving a response about pain and hot wax is misleading.