blue masturbation

[Guest]

hi all, Im hoping someone can help me, Ive read alot of stuff here and it seems like great advice is always given. I recently broke up with my year-long long distance boyfriend. My first love and everything. It has been a little less then a month now and I can no longer masturbate because hes the only guy I can fantasize about. I get horny and begin masturbating then I think of him and I start feeling sad and then its over. How do I break my mental connection between him and my personal sexual pleasure???

 

[ZshadeZ]

Well... why did you break up?

 

[His Whimsicality]

Come on Sera, I don´t believe you possess so little fantasy. There must be other men in your life that you find attractive as well as situations you don´t have experienced yet.

 

[robbied]

Your dilemma

Sera,

It seems to me that you broke up with him not because you didn't want to be with him anymore, but because you couldn't take being apart from him so much. Understandable reason, many of us know how difficult and unfulfilling a long distance relationship can be. But it is also tragic. Tragic because it's easier to break up with someone when there is a reason to not like them. That's why I think it's so difficult for many couples to remain friends after they've broken up, at least one side usually finds a reason to push away, dislike or even hate the other. It makes the whole separation thing easier by saying, "Well he was a bastard anyway" or "I can do better." But unfortunately that is not always the case, and it doesn't seem to be with you.

So now that I've stated your problem, I guess here's the part where it would be good to leave some friendly advice as to what to do about it, huh? I think because you have had most or all of your sexual experience with him, you've learned that it is from him that the pleasure is derived. While that was true, and possibly would be again if he were with you right now, you must realize that some of that pleasure came from yourself. A relationship is a two way thing, and with him gone, that still leaves half of the equation. So you only have one half to rebuild. I would suggest seeking some cheap, but worthwhile thrills, I don't mean necessarily a one-night stand although that is a possibility. You've come to this site and that's a good start. Try reading some of the stories here to see what kind of thoughts turn you on. Maybe getting into a hot email conversation, or even exchanging photos. Just go at your own speed, you don't have to expect to feel sexually renewed overnight. Let the suitors win your affection, the game will be as fun as the prize.

robbied

 

[Guest]

robbied, I'm in disbelief at how well you understand the situation and even put it into words so perfectly. Your right I put my trust and my heart into him but the distance has unraveled us and I would find myself accusing him, and yelling at him and just being horrible. I knew it was depressing me and hurting both of us, although he never reacted back to me and so I had to tell him I can't do it anymore. I miss him madly but I dont regret my decision because neither of us is capable of changing the cycle. Thank you so much for the original advice, I mostly expected to hear that I just need time or that I should move on or something sarcastic but you were truly helpful.

 

[robbied]

Glad to be of help

Sera,

I am glad to be of help, and flattered by your thanks. I think what's most important is to separate the issues. Even if something crazy happened, and you were no longer apart or whatever, I think that if you work on exploring your fantasies and modes or erotic stimulation, you'll be better off. What I mean is, in or out of a relationship, if you can enjoy your sensual side, you'll be happy.

If you ever want an attempt at a cure to the blue in the masturbation, email me at robbied@literotica.org and I will gladly oblige. I'm not a seasoned pro or anything, but I have a few tricks up my sleeve

robbied

 

[AusTess]

Brad Pitt.
Tom cruise.
Edward Norton.
Yul Brynner.



Okay,Maybe Yul aint EVERYONE's cup of tea.I never said i was normal.

surely you can block him out,lay back and think of ANYONE but him.

Or try reading something while masturbating.
Get lost in the story.
It works for me.

 

[Guest]

Aus Tess, Ive never fantasized about celebraties. I dont care about looks, I just need to know the guy and trust him-even if its just a masturbation fantasy, which by the way I have no problem fantasizing its just that all my great fantasizes are about him, he inspires them because I want him. Its been a tough weekend for me because I hung out with two very good friends of mine both under the age of 22 that are married. I met a few guys this weekend and I have guys in my classes at school that I flirt with but none of them interest me. I know I should probably get over him but its hard to go against what your heart wants. What really kills me now is that even though we agreed to be friends he has avoided me- It actually gives me mixed feelings because I dont know if its because he was tired of me anyway or if he really loves me and hes trying to make it easier for me, either way it really just sucks.

robbied, Thank you for the offer, I'd like to email you sometime.

 

[AusTess]

Married at 22?



Well shit.

 

[ptobrien]

dear Sera,
next time you are feeling a little horny try to imagine 2 or 3 great looking guys standing around your bed and posing for you with their hard cocks. When you are ready, simply invite one of them to lay down between your legs and rub his penis into your clitoris, after a while you will find you would really like to filled with his big throbbing cock. As an extra stimulant you might like to imagine one of the other men licking your clitoris while you are being fucked: it always works for me : )

 

[AusTess]

Cos we all know that the thought of lotsa of men with hard,throbbing penises is enough to tip us over into orgasm land as if by magic.

 

[WriterDom]

Did you see the movie The Horse Whisperer? Well, I'm a pussy whisperer. I can heal you. contact me if you wish.

 

[Kasha]

WriterDom

For the last post, no disrespect at all...you probably are but I thought that was one of the funniest things I have read to date... I actually laughed out loud.... please don't think I mean to be insulting...it was just kinda unexpected...I really needed the laugh so I thank you WriterDom.....

 

[WriterDom]

Re: WriterDom

I really needed the laugh so I thank you WriterDom.....

you are most welcome

 

[Guest]

ptobrein, thank you for offering up your fantasy-more then one guy does not appeal to me, however if I did end up using it and sadly all the guys would end up having my ex's voice and touch. I don't know about a bunch of guys AusTess but just the thought of my ex aroused wracks my bod with the promise of many orgasms, the few times we were together he made good on all those promises and then some. Yeah my friends being married so young is pretty disturbing especially when they were the wild party animals who swore they could never be domesticated and they rolled their eyes if I mentioned weddings and babies. Its not fair they get the life I want you know.