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[shadowoftheheart]

Yup. Blah.

RL crap hit, ended the RL relationship I (thought) I shared with a wonderful RL subbie/slave.

So now, I am rethinking things. Not sure what my place is in the lifestyle any longer. Am I interested? Yes. Am I a dominant? Not sure any more. The "sub" I was with was not very good. I take some responsibility for this failure .. so be it.

I guess I am ranting, or venting. Not really asking for advice I guess, though if anyone has words of wisdom, I won't refuse to listen.

Ah well.

 

[Chicklet]

I think it's a pretty common identity crisis after a relationship ends.

Hell, each time my relationships end I question everything down to my very sexual orientation.

hugs for you, and you'll figure out who you are again eventually. And whoever that is won't be any worse or better than who you were before, just different.

C

 

[shadowoftheheart]

Thanks, Chicklet. I am sure you're right, it just takes time.

 

[Literotti]

Yup. Blah.

RL crap hit, ended the RL relationship I (thought) I shared with a wonderful RL subbie/slave.

So now, I am rethinking things. Not sure what my place is in the lifestyle any longer. Am I interested? Yes. Am I a dominant? Not sure any more. The "sub" I was with was not very good. I take some responsibility for this failure .. so be it.

I guess I am ranting, or venting. Not really asking for advice I guess, though if anyone has words of wisdom, I won't refuse to listen.

Ah well.

When I hear that someone has lost a loved once, either because of divorce or death, I always say,

You are lucky to have had someone to share those good times with, but life and love always begins and ends.

What I'm trying to say here is that we need to appreciate the good times and to not beat ourselves up too much about what went wrong or what we failed to do in the relationship, and then move on with our lives.

You will live to love again.

Good luck to you.

 

[subgrl18]

hey im sorry ur having a hard time... venting is good tho... i get like that... doubt myself and who i am when a relationship ends...it can be hard.. i hope everything works out for you.

 

[the_pet]

I hear you ....

 

[shadowoftheheart]

Thanks everyone.

It does help to hear from other people.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hell, each time my relationships end I question everything down to my very sexual orientation.

IF you ever feel the need to give some guy a test drive to convince yourself that males are, in fact, okay to hang with, I'll be happy to provide reassurance...

Either that or I'll convince you beyond a shadow of a doubt that lesbian is the only way to fly! *LOL* Won't be much doubt, one way or the other!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Yup. Blah.

RL crap hit, ended the RL relationship I (thought) I shared with a wonderful RL subbie/slave.

So now, I am rethinking things. Not sure what my place is in the lifestyle any longer. Am I interested? Yes. Am I a dominant? Not sure any more. The "sub" I was with was not very good. I take some responsibility for this failure .. so be it.

I guess I am ranting, or venting. Not really asking for advice I guess, though if anyone has words of wisdom, I won't refuse to listen.

Ah well.

Life and love are learning experiences, always "works in progress", never a finished product until we breathe our last.

Cherish the good, discard the bad, and hold dear the lessons learned in this relationship so you don't make them again in the next.

Nuff said!

 

[Auraka6669]

Whenever a bad relationship ends. Keep in mind. It could have lasted longer... and it still would have been a bad relationship.

The end isn't always a bad thing.

Lastly, what does not kill you. Makes you stronger.

 

[SweetGigi]

How are you feeling today?

Are you feeling any better?