Black girls, lets have a strait story + REPOST

[SupaStyles]

This is another subject that I have wondered about over the years. From almost the beginning of time blackmen have seeked out white women and getting the prize but almost the opposite has been true for black women, a lot of the reasons I've heard from black women is they feel they need to support their own heritage or something along these lines. It also seems other african americans seem to kind of unofficially frown on the blackgirl/white guy relationship.
I have also heard theories that suggest SOME black men will have their fun with white women then settle down with a black woman and the women know this so they will wait for the guys to just settle down. Now out of all the black friends I have only 1 of them is married to a black girl, so I don't know how my findings pan out.
In fact it seems the only interacial relationship that seems prevalent is the blackman/white woman. Yes I know that there are all kinds of different backgrounds with each other but they seem to be a large minority as far as relationships go.

I think Ive rambled on long enough with my sometimes incoherent points.. BUT I think they main idea can be seen there somewhere.

So basically what black women think about interacial realtionships


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[Guest]

Woohoo!

Bubble butts

Woohoo!

Bubble butts

 

[KillerMuffin]

Being neither black nor white, but a woman, it's my opinion that a black woman she have a relationship with the man who does it for her. She should be who she feels the most comfortable being. She should be not only proud of her heritage, but of herself and her abilities to make decisions for herself. If that means she loves a white man, then so be it.

I think that she can maintain her heritage, stay true to her "blackness" and still have the man she loves.

 

[Monazwx]

It's OK w/ me.

It's not always about the money, (yes, I saw your post on the "How To" forum).

BTW, the post needs a spelling buddy.

I keep hearing about honouring black heritage and supporting the black man, but doesn't that mean picking whomever I choose and having the freedom of choice to do just that?

Sometimes I wonder about "blackness" and my duties as a black person to the race.

CV, bubble butts get to ya hummm

 

[Blackbich]

See, let us know what you want...and you shall receive, maybe!

I, personally, don't have a problem with interracial couples. I do take issue with people who refuse to date people of their own race for stupid reasons. I have heard many, many black men say they don't date black women because we 'all have attitude'. I've also heard 'white women are more docile' and 'white women give head' as reasons for this phenomenon. That is the biggest crock of bullshit I've ever heard! There is not a group of people where all the people fit the criteria of the stereotype for that group. Hell, did that sentence make any sense? Anyway, despite what these men think, all black women don't have attitudes, there are black women who give head (proudly raising hand), and there are white women who will beat your ass for not treating them right. I also think it depends on the 'man'. My brother dates heavy white women who have been ignored by white men. Why? Because, in general, these girls have low self esteem; they don't fit society's idea of the beautiful woman and they appreciate 'anyone' who thinks they're beautiful. They're easily manipulated and that's exactly what my brother, and the scum that have his mentality, is looking for in a woman. They can have men like that, thank you very much. For a long time, I refused to date black men because this is the only type of man I was meeting. I'm sorry...have enough problems of my own, don't need you adding to my mental stress. I have since learned that there are some good ones out there. They're all married, mind you, but they are out there.

You might have a point when you say that black women tend to try to remain loyal to 'our men' however disloyal they tend to be towards us. A lot of my friends feel this way and feel a bad black man is better than a good white man. I say...fuck that noise. I'm a good person and will not accept less than the same from whoever I'm with. Since I'm working I expect the same, there will be no baby's mama drama, you will keep your hands to yourself and if you expect me to be ready when you want some, I expect the same. There will be no verbal belittling or jealousy and you will do manly things around the house...change the filters, take out the trash and vacuum the floor - sorry, there's a lot of rug in this house and I get tired easy. Besides, vacuuming is manly. What, it is!!! Anyway, I also want you to be a genuinely good person. Not too much to ask but I'm having a hard time with it.

A friend of mine told me one time that more white men would go out with black women but that they aren't "as strong as black men and don't want to deal with the criticism they'd get from their friends and family." So, what is it that makes black men/white women willing to deal with the criticisms of their families? I've dated white guys and, yes, my step-father laid into me for it. I bit back and he finally left me alone. Based on what my friend said, maybe there is more societal pressure on white men to be with white women, I can't answer this for you. I did find out later from other sources that the guys I dated hadn't told their families or friends. *sigh* My Mr. Right could be Latin or Asian for that matter...who am I to spit in the face of true love because of skin color??

Oh, another bone of contention for me where black male/white female couples are concerned are the kids. Probably not for the reason you're thinking though. I get soooo tired of seeing biracial kids with nappy ass hair, I don't know what to do! If you are going to bring a child into this world by someone who is SO different from you, at least have the decency to find out how to take care of black hair because, despite the way it may look at times, our hair is VERY different than that of other races.

Anyway, now that I've babbled everyone's eyes off, I say interracial away but it's definitely not for the weak based on most people's reactions. By the way, I've seen more white man/black woman couples since I've been in Vegas. It was unseen when I was in the Midwest. Gee imagine...

 

[Blackbich]

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Sometimes I wonder about "blackness" and my duties as a black person to the race.

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I thought I was the only person who felt that way. Glad to see I'm not alone.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I'm all for interracial couples. I'm ethnically Far East Asian/Caucasian and all my relationships/involvements have been interracial. Grew up in Sweden and felt utterly Swedish and caucasian until recently. Guess coming to the UK where race issues are much more prominent adds to you becoming more aware of the fac that you do look different. It's funny that I mostly forget I look Asian...(even my friends admit to thinking I'm caucasian!)

I don't think that any ethnicity has a duty towards their background. Many people are mixed nowadays in one way or the other, maybe even just nationalitywise. We feel different which nationality, ethnicity or culture we belong too. Just because you look black, Asian or Caucasian it doesn't mean you have any responsibilities or 'duties' towards anyone but yourself. Same depending on where you from nationality, culturally or even socially.

An African-American friend of mine (born and bread in the US) told me she had at high school received comments from other black girls that she wasn't acting "black" enough. That she was too "white" in her ways. They weren't keen on the way she spoke, dressed, acted and that she never ever went out with a black man. She told me it's not about "hating her own race". It's just that's the person she was! She didn't date black guys because she felt they didn't treat her with enough respect compared to the white guys. That's her experience. She didn't like the whole debate, just wanted to be who she was. Figured that if those girls didn't have enough belief in themselves as people, then they may go for the whole "stick to your own race" thing, but she shouldn't need to.

Regarding the whole thing about black men going for white women, but settling down with black girls. That goes for heaps of cultures! It's not a black/white phenomenon. I have seen heaps of Middle Easter, Asian, African and Western people do the same thing. A Greek guy my friend new had a white British gf for four years. They lived together and she was sure he'd marry her. After four years when he was done with studies he just went back to Greece and married some Greek woman his mom approved of.

I think that in general you probably need to be aware that not everyone will like that you're an interracial couple, and awareness is important, but also that both people need to be prepaired for that stuff. Nothing might happen, but awareness and being prepaired is good. Still, no point going on unless both are willing to take that fight if it one day is needed.

 

[Blackbich]

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Grew up in Sweden and felt utterly Swedish and caucasian until recently.
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Really? How cool was that? I've always wanted to go to Sweden. *sigh*

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An African-American friend of mine (born and bread in the US) told me she had at high school received comments from other black girls that she wasn't acting "black" enough. That she was too "white" in her ways. They weren't keen on the way she spoke, dressed, acted and that she never ever went out with a black man. She told me it's not about "hating her own race". It's just that's the person she was! She didn't date black guys because she felt they didn't treat her with enough respect compared to the white guys. That's her experience. She didn't like the whole debate, just wanted to be who she was. Figured that if those girls didn't have enough belief in themselves as people, then they may go for the whole "stick to your own race" thing, but she shouldn't need to.
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Exactly!! *sigh* In high school, I tried to fit in with people who had this mentality. I was so bad that I deliberately messed up in my classes to avoid appearing too smart. After all, I guess it's assumed that black people can't be smart. That's what's so sad about it. How can we expect for white society to believe we can do anything when black society doesn't believe it. It took me becoming an adult before I finally realized what I had done to myself. I heard I act too white all my life and, even now, I get it from so called friends. They don't understand why I don't listen to just R&B, they don't like that I date other races of men. I'm strong enough now to ignore it. I wish I had been half this strong in high school. I'd probably be a neurosurgeon or something now.

 

[peachykeen]

Mr K and I have a few couples we socialize with, some of whom we would consider close friends, that are interracial. Of the three black/white couples we hang out with, one is black male/white female and two are black female / white male. I also have another good girlfriend who is black and is presently partnered with a Japanese man. So, although I'm sure to some extent there is a holdover mentality of white women being seen as a 'prize' by some black men, I sure do know a few black women who date/marry etc. whoever it is that takes their fancy. As it should be.

 

[Lovepotion69]

Really? How cool was that? I've always wanted to go to Sweden. *sigh*


Sweden's nice. Go in the summertime. Stockholm's beautiful!

Well, high school isn't the easiest time to be strong against peer pressure. The main thing is that you know where you stand nowadays.

I fell in love with a black guy and mom didn't approve as she was afraid that me going out with a black man might "drag down my status" in other's eyes, as she had felt people hadn't been too nice about her being with a white man.

I'm willing to choose the man I want to marry in the future, no matter his race. I'll make that choice only if the guy is up for standing by my side. I don't want anyone beside me who'll run away when we'll need each other the most if things come to worse. So yes, I guess both need to be strong.

 

[SupaStyles]

very true everyone should be with who they are comfortable with no doubt. But that wasn't the point really. I was more curious on tendancies then indavidual preferences..

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Being neither black nor white, but a woman, it's my opinion that a black woman she have a relationship with the man who does it for her. She should be who she feels the most comfortable being. She should be not only proud of her heritage, but of herself and her abilities to make decisions for herself. If that means she loves a white man, then so be it.

I think that she can maintain her heritage, stay true to her "blackness" and still have the man she loves.

 

[SupaStyles]

I have heard many, many black men say they don't date black women because we 'all have attitude'. I've also heard 'white women are more docile' and 'white women give head' as reasons for this phenomenon. That is the biggest crock of bullshit I've ever heard! There is not a group of people where all the people fit the criteria of the stereotype for that group.

Well there will ALWAYS be exceptions to any stereotype and we are talking general terms here while would imply usually atleast 51%+ of a group.

I have seen a white girl box out a black dude before but it was a event when it happened.. when you see a black girl box out a black dude its just amusing kind of, well not amusing but not out of the ordinary. Out of all my black friends that have white girls they are like you descibe very submissive for the most part.. But I have also seen some of these girls that have been around a bit do build up thier own backbone. Soon after that I see them with white guys.. hehe

there are black women who give head (proudly raising hand),

hear hear

You might have a point when you say that black women tend to try to remain loyal to 'our men' however disloyal they tend to be towards us. A lot of my friends feel this way and feel a bad black man is better than a good white man.

This is one of the points I get very interested in.. confused and interested..

vacuum the floor - sorry, there's a lot of rug in this house and I get tired easy. Besides, vacuuming is manly. What, it is!!!

yeah its almost a power tool.. hehe

A friend of mine told me one time that more white men would go out with black women but that they aren't "as strong as black men and don't want to deal with the criticism they'd get from their friends and family."

In general I'd say that could be true but it seems a lot of black women don't even want to see for themselves..

So, what is it that makes black men/white women willing to deal with the criticisms of their families?

I think it has to do with a lot of white mne are intimidated by black men a little so her father will say something but it wont likly be to him and will not really admit to it.. I also think a lot of people think they owe "the black man" a lot for all these transgressions but I dont know why this same sense of dept isn't usually offered to black women... (another issue entirly)

I did find out later from other sources that the guys I dated hadn't told their families or friends. *sigh*

I guess it depends the attitude of your area and people your dealing with entirely but I have never known someone who has kept a honey on the hush unless it has been one of those 'big' girls then I've seen some covering up..

Oh, another bone of contention for me where black male/white female couples are concerned are the kids. Probably not for the reason you're thinking though. I get soooo tired of seeing biracial kids with nappy ass hair, I don't know what to do! If you are going to bring a child into this world by someone who is SO different from you, at least have the decency to find out how to take care of black hair because, despite the way it may look at times, our hair is VERY different than that of other races.

I have some issues when parents regardless of bm/ww or bm/bw when they seem to thinks it's neccesary to do their hair in some sort of thug style.. It aint right seein a 2 year old with a intrikit(I cant spell I admit it) cornrow patterns that Iverson would be like DAAAMN about.. (another seperate issue hehe)

Anyway, now that I've babbled everyone's eyes off, I say interracial away but it's definitely not for the weak based on most people's reactions. By the way, I've seen more white man/black woman couples since I've been in Vegas. It was unseen when I was in the Midwest. Gee imagine...

Well there is a lot of mixed couples here but again a predominance with black men/white women and it is not uncommon for the mix to go on being canada (ontario) is considered the most multicultural in the world..

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[teddybear4play]

I've dated a sista before.

It was interesting.

TB4p

 

[SupaStyles]

Care to elaborate?

 

[Guest]

<------

I am a white guy

I have dated black chicks in the mid 70's and got the crap beat out of me many times cause (excuse the way I put this) I was dating a nigger to me the white guys that beat me were the niggers I am from Los Angeles I lived in Compton in the 60's
to me there is no color barrier but it is a cutural thing I would imagine

 

[teddybear4play]

We didn't make it. Had nothing to do with race; we just wasn't each other's types.

She was a good kisser, though.

TB4p

 

[Minkey Boodle]

My skin-tone tricks folks all the time. When I would go out with a dude I used to date, I'd get fucked up looks from some folks, and I could see the salt in some of the black women's gaze. He thought it was funny, and I just ignored it. Who cares?

 

[SupaStyles]

Re: <------

Damn that must have been quite the experience.. Ive met a very few peeps from compton and from what they say I cant imagine being 'different' and livin there.. But Im guessing that was before it was REALLY bad..

I am a white guy

I have dated black chicks in the mid 70's and got the crap beat out of me many times cause (excuse the way I put this) I was dating a nigger to me the white guys that beat me were the niggers I am from Los Angeles I lived in Compton in the 60's
to me there is no color barrier but it is a cutural thing I would imagine

 

[Guest]

I was in Compton while the riots were going on Compton was never nice when I was there
I moved to Carson in 1969 where I got beat up by assholes because I liked black chicks
Carson at that time as about
1/3 Black
1/3 Mexican which I dated too
1/3 White also dated

 

[SupaStyles]

yeah but in the 80's early 90's you would of just been shot probably.. :|

I was in Compton while the riots were going on Compton was never nice when I was there
I moved to Carson in 1969 where I got beat up by assholes because I liked black chicks
Carson at that time as about
1/3 Black
1/3 Mexican which I dated too
1/3 White also dated

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

seeked out

seeked out?

There are many Black women who engage in interracial relationships. Many Black men date/ marry White or other non-Black women. However most Black men seek out Black women, and most Black women seek out Black men.

In any event, enjoy.

 

[SupaStyles]

Good point.. BUT.. they are being paid to do that.. hehe.. Thanks tho..

seeked out?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Back when I was a black woman...








....sorry, wrong thread!

 

[hornyinsocal200]

I've dated asians because they are small

Black girls cause thet were tall (mmmmm, bubble-butts)

Redheads cause they were angry

Yet, married two blondes ? (no, not at the same time)

go figure !

It's all good

 

[SupaStyles]

I wish there was some more of those pics posted also.. hehe