biting

[Guest]

Hi, I'm new to all this, but I have a question and you people seem like the experts to ask. I've been reading your forum and it is so cool how you are open and real and vibrant. (Enough ass kissing, unless you really like it of course.)

Anyhow.... I love biting. Being bit and biting back. It's almost instinctive. My boyfriend, the love of my life and all time best lay on the planet, does NOT like biting. Occasionally, he will nip me a little as a favour. However, I have a hell of a time not biting him. I guess I use my teeth a lot too. He told me once that I dragged my teeth across his bottom lip sometimes when we kiss and I didn't even know I did. Teeth are very sensual to me, just like lips and tongue, and I thought I was being very gentle. <Okay, I will get to the point.>

I used to love spankings and rough sex a lot, but that was when I hardly ever came. With my boyfriend, I come 3-4 times every time we have sex and that seems to have abated. However, how do I get rid of this urge to bite?

In a weak moment of cyber-sex with a stranger, I stunned myself and went way over the edge, fantasizing biting to the point of bloodletting. (I DO have a thing for vampires. Which came first? The vampire or the bite? Ageless question.) Anyway, I got off on the whole smearing blood on his cock and fucking it so much I was dizzy.

In real life, I am so anti-violence, it's annoying.

What the hell is going on? Am I nuts?

Beauteous

 

[DarkKalika]

Ok, this may seem like an obvious question, but have you talked to your boyfriend about how you enjoy biting? I might even suggest bringing up the bloodletting fantasy. You don't necessarily say that it happened while cybering with stranger; just that you once had a fantasy about it. I think it would let your boyfriend know that it's a seriously sexual thing, not just a violent way of expressing yourself by taking chunks out of people!

That being said, you should definitely let him know that biting and being bitten really turns you on, if you haven't already. He might become a little more receptive to the idea when he realizes how much it would please you.

However, if he still isn't into it, I'd suggest maybe having sex doggy-style and biting your pillow. Poor substitute for the human body, but it'll do in a pinch!

(Just wanted to add that I, too, have a thing about biting and being bitten. I had to do the bite-the-pillow thing with men and women who were not into it like I was. Luckily, my current boyfriend once had a girlfriend who really was into bloodletting, so he's kind of used to it by now! Good luck!)

 

[Guest]

I have talked to him, which is why he does the little nibble now and then. I think I might introduce it the next time we have cyber-sex, which he is just catching on to. He might handle it better there since it's all pretend. He really hates pain. I have to admit, that I used to like it a fair bit and still like to walk that edge now and then. That you can't get over cyber.

Thanks for the advice. A pillow might be a good idea. I use it now and then anyway to dampen the screams.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I wish you luck in trying to encourage him to share your desire for biting. I am not sure it will work though, as unless he can get some release or pleasure from it himslef he is unlikely to get into it past the level of tokenistic at most. We both have a love of biting so are lucky. Also remember it is not a safe thing with casual encounters because of health risks. Hope you find a way to get what you need.

Catalina

 

[A Desert Rose]

Oh... I love being bitten and bruised. I am not into bleeding, however.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

I'm not into bloodletting either, but I do LOVE both biting and being bitten. My b/f sometimes bites me all over my body...hips, butt, sides, neck, shoulders (and bites quite hard I should add.) It's such a HUGE turn on! I'm thankful that my guy enjoys being bitten as well because I almost always bite down when I come. He thinks its incredibly sexy when I bite his lower lip while we're kissing or having sex.

Personally, I agree you should just talk to him about it and see what he says.

 

[shy slave]

I love being bitten, on my breasts in particular.

Not sure how you go about convincing someone that to bite you or accept being bitten if they really dislike it.

You could try compromise, by agreeing to role play and being able to nibble areas that feel less pain. My back can take a heck of alot more than other places, but everyone is different.

I know that this takes the spontaneous aspect of it away. It may help him to go along with it if he knows he is not going to end up covered in bites.

Other than that it seems to be a similiar difficulty to convincing a partner to enjoy any aspect of BDSM if they simply don't like it.

I wish you well and hope you and he can figure it out, without one of you missing out on what you want/need.

 

[Guest]

Does anyone ever get everything they need? I wonder what that would feel like? The world would probably stop turning.

Oh, well,

I get a hellova lot more

than I ever did before.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Anyhow.... I love biting ... In real life, I am so anti-violence, it's annoying ... What the hell is going on? Am I nuts?

Beauteous

No, but then i like the taste of blood.

 

[Etoile]

For some reason I really get off on being bitten on the neck, the harder the better. I've had hickeys there that don't go away for days and days. I don't think I've ever really been bitten elsewhere, so I'm not sure I'd be into it. Sometimes I like to bite my partner as well, most often just a little nip on the shoulder but sometimes I'll chew the neck.

 

[alonelygal]

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[Vixandra]

It is possible to teach someone to enjoy biting.
My now hubby was the close to being the typical Catholic Choir boy (no really) and his previous g/f wasn't really that animated during sex.
What a change he got. Moving along- he had never been biten, knawed on, or anything similar to that much less done it to anyone else.
After years of teaching and obvious reactions, he will now bite me and actually enjoy being biten in return.

It took a lot of patience- I'm a biter, always have been. One of my fav things is to kiss/bite from my lover's ear down thier throat and over to thier chest, etc. Tis part of how I express myself physically.

If its truely imporant- let him know. Perhaps find a story or two that involves sensual biting and email the link to him, saying how you liked when X bit Y and it made you so hot.
Good luck.

 

[Guest]

Things seem to have worked out. He does bite me on occasion and I bite the pillow. He has tolerated a little nip now and then without too much complaint. It has become fairly trivial to me now as the sex continues to improve in cosmic proportions in every other direction. What's a bite or not when your man makes you come three or four times a day? I've decided to let it go and enjoy the incredible wonder that is him, and oh, it works so, so well.

It's all good.

 

[EroticGent]

I am the same way, I like biting but do not enjoy being bitten. My slave loves to bite, I would like to find a way to slowly come around to it but mostly it just hurts.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Martin Toye ~ martina y diego

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[Marquis]

Re: Re: biting

No, but then i like the taste of blood.

Blood sausage?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

and blood

Blood sausage?

Nah, too fattening, although if you think about it, the female breast would be as well.

Guess i'll settle for a shoulder, tight ass cheek, or sensitive inner thigh.

 

[Kassiana]

My husband encourages me to bite him, although I don't know if what I do is all that satisfying, since once I told him I was biting him and he said, surprised, "You were?"

I find that I don't mind biting in less-sensitive areas, especially around a good orgasm, but my neck can't take much at any time. Too many nerves in too small an area.

 

[Marquis]

Re: and blood

Nah, too fattening, although if you think about it, the female breast would be as well.

Guess i'll settle for a shoulder, tight ass cheek, or sensitive inner thigh.

Yum.

I can definitely see the attraction there, although I figure it'll be at least another decade before I'm ready to break skin.

 

[LunarKitten]

Hi, I'm new to all this, but I have a question and you people seem like the experts to ask. I've been reading your forum and it is so cool how you are open and real and vibrant. (Enough ass kissing, unless you really like it of course.)

Anyhow.... I love biting. Being bit and biting back. It's almost instinctive. My boyfriend, the love of my life and all time best lay on the planet, does NOT like biting. Occasionally, he will nip me a little as a favour. However, I have a hell of a time not biting him. I guess I use my teeth a lot too. He told me once that I dragged my teeth across his bottom lip sometimes when we kiss and I didn't even know I did. Teeth are very sensual to me, just like lips and tongue, and I thought I was being very gentle. <Okay, I will get to the point.>

I used to love spankings and rough sex a lot, but that was when I hardly ever came. With my boyfriend, I come 3-4 times every time we have sex and that seems to have abated. However, how do I get rid of this urge to bite?

In a weak moment of cyber-sex with a stranger, I stunned myself and went way over the edge, fantasizing biting to the point of bloodletting. (I DO have a thing for vampires. Which came first? The vampire or the bite? Ageless question.) Anyway, I got off on the whole smearing blood on his cock and fucking it so much I was dizzy.

In real life, I am so anti-violence, it's annoying.

What the hell is going on? Am I nuts?

Beauteous

Ah, a subject I much enjoy I love being bitten, luckily Master loves to bite me, so it's a bit of a win-win. I do bite occassionally - he doesn't enjoy the sensation, but says he likes it when I do it because it means he's made me lose control lol

I don't think you're nuts at all. It's one of those things people like for no discernable reason. And if you like it, and it doesn't bad-hurt (as opposed to good-hurt) anyone, then don't even try to figure it out, just enjoy it when you can.

If your boyfriend isn't into it, sit him down and have a talk and try to figure something out for the both of you. Maybe bitting into a pillow or something would satisfy you both - you for the bitting and him for being the unbitten one. I'm sure there is a compromise in there somewhere for you both.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Re: Re: and blood

I can definitely see the attraction there, although I figure it'll be at least another decade before I'm ready to break skin.

Perhaps an acquired taste ... perhaps not. It's not just the shrill scream, nor the warm and salty explosion on your tongue ... if you're lucky ... It's that undeniable, your-ass-belongs-to-me realization in both of your minds when you slowly shake your head back and forth ....

 

[melancholygirl]

Re: Re: Re: and blood

Perhaps an acquired taste ... perhaps not. It's not just the shrill scream, nor the warm and salty explosion on your tongue ... if you're lucky ... It's that undeniable, your-ass-belongs-to-me realization in both of your minds when you slowly shake your head back and forth ....

Spot on!

 

[TigerClaw]

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[robynwildchild]

repressed urges?

nm

 

[robynwildchild]

Re: repressed urges?

some become violent or physical when it comes to withdrawal from sex. men seem to notice when i'm more fiesty and physical when i haven't gotten any in a while... numerous times. being fiesty.. vicious.. it can hurt.. for me it just comes wit the territory .... i've had boys that don't like it and it just dampens my desire.. even tho i will appeal to thier sense of what they want

i LIKE to bite.. i see nothing wrong with it ... MIND their sensitivity tho... which is hard.. maybe you could find other ways to alleviate this urge.. bite a dildo?

have it beat out of you? lol

i only really like to fuck around with those that react. such as, i like to tickle those that i know will jump or squirm... i think its a control thing.. to keep everyone on thier toes.. [/B][/QUOTE]