Bisexual vs. bi-curious

[Etoile]

Just a discussion topic I'd like to throw out there...what's the difference between "bisexual" and "bi-curious" in your eyes?

 

[oh21]

I always thought that bi-curious was more like you had had a few fantacies about it, thought you maybe were interested in a bisexual experience, but that you weren't really sure yet.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

I would say that if you're bi-curious, it is unlikely that you've actually had a bisexual experience. And one experience does not a bisexual make...I think that you really have to have had a few experiences and know that you want to continue having them to have a right to call yourself bisexual. I think if there's any doubt, you're probably still bi-curious

 

[Angel]

You don't need actual experience to be Gay or Straight, and I don't think you need experience to be Bi-Sexual. I was quite sure of my sexuality before my experience.

Bi-Sexual is Bi-Sexual.

IMHO, Bi-Curious is simply when you're curious but unsure not only if you are, but if you want to take it a step further and find out.

 

[Guest]

You don't need actual experience to be Gay or Straight, and I don't think you need experience to be Bi-Sexual. I was quite sure of my sexuality before my experience.

Bi-Sexual is Bi-Sexual.

IMHO, Bi-Curious is simply when you're curious but unsure not only if you are, but if you want to take it a step further and find out.

In total agreement. I only used the term 'bicurious' when I was just that... no experience and no clue if I wanted to experience it.

Once I knew that I did...I dropped the curious and knew that I was bisexual.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

I consider myself bi curious, I've had fantasies of certain male/male encounter (i.e a guy giving me head, sucking my nipples etc) but have not gone through with it yet. With me the guy would have to be 100% gay and a boyish type, by that I mean not the manly type, for me even to to go through it.

 

[MissTaken]

There was a time when

I used to say I am not bi "curious", I was a bi "virgin."

The point being that I had no experience but felt and knew it was something I wanted.

 

[Netzach]

Personally, I could have and have had a fully engaged *relationship* with both sexes. One that could or could not have led to picket fences and pet parakeets sunset walks and all that crap.

As soon as I decided the world would not end if I kissed a girl, I knew that I could also marry one if the right one came along.

That was long before I actually did kiss a girl. That and the ensuing sex simply confirmed my hunches.

bicurious, I think that was a crappy awkward moment in high school before I ever met another real live out bisexual and I knew they existed, but were probably all in Europe or something, it was just a word I'd learned in sex-ed. Bi sex u al. Whos that?

Maybe it was me, with my late night dreams about making out with that girl in my dance class in a van?

Nah.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

You don't need actual experience to be Gay or Straight, and I don't think you need experience to be Bi-Sexual. I was quite sure of my sexuality before my experience.

Bi-Sexual is Bi-Sexual.

IMHO, Bi-Curious is simply when you're curious but unsure not only if you are, but if you want to take it a step further and find out.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

I knew I was bi before I experienced girly loving, and I have not gone back on it since I realized it.

My best friend is bi-curious. She's tried things with women, and she'd like to try more, but she's not ready to decide if that's something she really wants to include in her LIFESTYLE, rather than just exploration.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

I'm curious about bi-men, so I guess that makes me by-bi-curious?

In another thread we were also talking about people who were homosexual (either sex) but curious about hetrosexual sex. That would also make THEM bi-curious, would it not?

And bi-curious to me sorta kinda means that your curosity has not been adquetly explored to answer the question; no matter how far you took it. Otherwise you wouldn't be curisous, you'd know.

One young person I know (male) had been having sex since age 11 with girls, had a male/male sexual incounter when 15 and turned bi, then realized that he'd stopped having sex with women all together by age 16 and declared himself gay.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Ya know i have never declared myself bi-curious...just because i always knew i loved women in an emotional and sexual way. Curious to me just means You wanna try it out to see if you might like it....therefore i have personally never been curious....and i loved the way other litsters put it...i figured wasn't any point in trying to say it better than they all ready had!!!

PET

 

[Temptress_1960]

I was bi-curious... til my first experience with another woman.

Although I'm still pretty inexperienced with women, I consider myself bi-sexual. I prefer men, but I do like women...

Can I have both, please?

 

[James G 5]

I was bi-curious... til my first experience with another woman.

Although I'm still pretty inexperienced with women, I consider myself bi-sexual. I prefer men, but I do like women...

Can I have both, please?

Yeah............
Mebbe we're not bisexual or bi-curious, mebbe we're just GREEDY

 

[alltherage]

I am bi. I have known this for most of my life. In darker moments, when i become very introspective, I sometimes try to figure out if in reality I am lesbian and somehow using my "attraction to men" as a means of denying who I am in reality. Thus far, the answer has always come back that I am bi. I sometimes wish I were one or the other and that my labido
was not nearly so strong a force in my life.

 

[killallhippies]

bi-curious is something for college kids with too much time on their hands and bored people seeking an "adventure." i knew i was bi at 15 when i first learnt the meaning of the word. i was never curious.

 

[Lightning]

Re: There was a time when

I used to say I am not bi "curious", I was a bi "virgin."

The point being that I had no experience but felt and knew it was something I wanted.

I like that interpretation, MissTaken. I think that's where I would qualify. I know that I definitely want to try & experience, but my wife & I are trepidatious about actually doing it. More for the health & whom reasons than anything else.

 

[april-wine]

I often have a hard time putting a label on it....I have had sexual experiences with men, as well as women....While I enjoy men and often find men attractive, I just don't want to have sex with them....I want my girl....That's all....

 

[Temptress_1960]

Yeah............
Mebbe we're not bisexual or bi-curious, mebbe we're just GREEDY

You say that like it's a bad thing.

 

[Fallen_Angel_Eyes]

hmmm

I always figured bi-curious were for those types who had the occasional fantasy and then got drunk and ended up fooling around with someone during a game of spin the bottle, and who went around saying 'I'm ok with it, honest, I don't want to be put into a pigeonhole'. And then they fall for someone of the same (or opposite, if you're talking from the other end of the scale) sex.

Bi people are just those who like people of both sexes, and have made that decision.

Kinda supported by that scale thingy, u know, from the some report, which levels 0-6.

0. Totally heterosexual, with no incidents of homosexuality.
1. Mainly heterosexual, with incidents of homosexuality.
2. Mainly heterosexual, with more than incidental homosexuality.
3. Equally homosexual and heterosexual.
4. Mainly heterosexual, with more than incidental homosexuality.
5. Mainly homosexual, with incidents of heterosexuality.
6. Totally homosexual, with no incidents of heterosexuality.

Apparently only about 3% of the population is a 0 or 6. Which says a lot. Bi-curious would be between 1 and 2, and 4 and 5. Roughly. and that probably makes no sense, and I'm probably sounding like the stupid new girl, but yeah, that's my penny's worht. Go me.

F.A.E

 

[James G 5]

Re: hmmm

I always figured bi-curious were for those types who had the occasional fantasy and then got drunk and ended up fooling around with someone during a game of spin the bottle, and who went around saying 'I'm ok with it, honest, I don't want to be put into a pigeonhole'. And then they fall for someone of the same (or opposite, if you're talking from the other end of the scale) sex.

Bi people are just those who like people of both sexes, and have made that decision.

Kinda supported by that scale thingy, u know, from the some report, which levels 0-6.

0. Totally heterosexual, with no incidents of homosexuality.
1. Mainly heterosexual, with incidents of homosexuality.
2. Mainly heterosexual, with more than incidental homosexuality.
3. Equally homosexual and heterosexual.
4. Mainly heterosexual, with more than incidental homosexuality.
5. Mainly homosexual, with incidents of heterosexuality.
6. Totally homosexual, with no incidents of heterosexuality.

Apparently only about 3% of the population is a 0 or 6. Which says a lot. Bi-curious would be between 1 and 2, and 4 and 5. Roughly. and that probably makes no sense, and I'm probably sounding like the stupid new girl, but yeah, that's my penny's worht. Go me.

F.A.E

That's the Kinsey Institute scale
According to the Kinseys, most folks are 1's, 2's, 4's, and 5's, with a smattering of 3's and a VERY low incidence of 0's and 6's....in fact they commented that 0's and 6's are probably equally rare

 

[Fallen_Angel_Eyes]

That's the name, yeah. But it kinda proves my point, while at the same time scattering it upon the waters....

 

[James Blandings]

I don't think someone has to have had experiences with both men and women to know that they are bisexual.
I'm not real fond of the term bicurious, but if people want to apply it to themselves, thats their business.. My opinion is that if you have more than a fleeting interest in sex with both men and women, you are bisexual, just as a person who has never had sex but who's attracted to the opposite sex is straight and to the same sex is gay.
We dont call virgins who are thinking about the opposite sex straight curious.

 

[Etoile]

My personal opinion is that bi-curious can be either the drunk college types or the kind who think they might be bisexual, but haven't tried it yet and aren't sure. Usually when I hear the term I think drunk college type, but I acknowledge that there might be people out there (perhaps in the personals ads) who just aren't sure and want to try it out. Maybe they'll discover they're bisexual, or maybe they really just prefer one. I had that experience myself. In high school I knew it was at least bisexual, but my experience was limited to guys through my first semester of college. (I never did anything more than kissing or dry humping with clothes on, thankyouverymuch!) When I met my girlfriend and realized the emotional connection I have with women is so much more powerful, I came to identify as lesbian.

 

[namron711]

I would say that if you're bi-curious, it is unlikely that you've actually had a bisexual experience. And one experience does not a bisexual make...I think that you really have to have had a few experiences and know that you want to continue having them to have a right to call yourself bisexual. I think if there's any doubt, you're probably still bi-curious

What Deliciously said...

 

[h_i_s]

For myself .... i was bi-curious, meaning i found other women attractive, and had fantasies of sexual experiences with other women, which i was open to experiencing for real, if i found one who interested me, and was able and willing to act on those fantasies.

i experienced another woman. Yet, having acted on my curiousities & and had a few fantasies come true ... and now KNOWING how much i enjoyed it ...and STILL wanting to go back for more, rather than being repulsed or having lost interest in sexual activities with other women, ... i am no longer JUST bi-curious, i am bisexual.

Just *my* interpretation of the two terms, and what they mean to me, ... for myself.