Pornofan420
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Wow. Talk about lucky accidents. Around the end of October, Mrs. 420 went off her birth control pills. This wasn't planned any more than interruption in her health care coverage was planned.
At first, I wasn't terribly worried about her going off the Pill. Why? We weren't having a whole lot of sex. At bad stretches, we'd go whole months without much in the way at all of sex. Her libido was not on the radar at all. There was plenty of snuggling and nuzzling in bed, but an almost whole absence of erotic spark from her.
I'm madly in love with my wife, but that sucked ass. And it's sucked ass for years now. When we first got together @ the end of '95, we were going at it hammer & tongs. Admittedly, we were doing the long distance thing for a while and it was the whole "new relationship" vibe, but even after I moved to California we had great sex.
We used to be active in our local S&M scene. We travelled out of state to attend S&M conventions. That rocked.
After a few years, the sex started to taper off. Okay, that happens. The Meter may go to 11, but you don't leave it there. Mrs. 420 just wasn't feeling it. And no matter that she'd rather be horny, she was finding that she just wasn't. Forget 11, we started topping out at 6. Then 5. And eventually, sex became an infrequent occurence.
Then she went off the pill at the end of October.
About 2-3 weeks ago, almost out of nowhere, I find myself going down on her in the living room. Suddenly we're having sex on the new leather couch. What? I mean, rock on, but what? Where did this come from?
After doing a little web research, she came across multiple sources that say that taking birth-control pills is linked to decreased libido. Talk about ironic.
This article estimates that only 5-10% of women on the Pill suffer diminished (or wholly crushed) libido. But Mrs. 420 is one of them. So is a friend of ours who recently went off the Pill. So is another buddy's ex-wife.
We're a little peeved. This is, in our opinion, a pretty serious side effect that we don't think has gotten anywhere near enough attention. I'm not surprised that the drug companies don't want to announce that the Pill might prevent pregnancy while smothering your interest in actually having sex, but the medical and women's health communities should be at least mentioning this.
Mrs. 420 also reminds me that she suffers from clinical depression and the whole time she's been on anti-depressants (17 years - basically her entire adult life), the Pill has been her method of choice and NOT ONE of her doctors ever mentioned that it could be related to depression and lowered libido. (She's hugging me now as I type. She never used to do that!)
Now we're back to condoms and looking into other non-hormonal birth control. I'm totally down with condoms. I'm most of the way to filling up my first Good Vibrations Safer Sex League card. Good Vibes also gives volume discounts if you buy quantities of the same condom. I'm really favoring Kimono these days.
Anyone else had this experience?
At first, I wasn't terribly worried about her going off the Pill. Why? We weren't having a whole lot of sex. At bad stretches, we'd go whole months without much in the way at all of sex. Her libido was not on the radar at all. There was plenty of snuggling and nuzzling in bed, but an almost whole absence of erotic spark from her.
I'm madly in love with my wife, but that sucked ass. And it's sucked ass for years now. When we first got together @ the end of '95, we were going at it hammer & tongs. Admittedly, we were doing the long distance thing for a while and it was the whole "new relationship" vibe, but even after I moved to California we had great sex.
We used to be active in our local S&M scene. We travelled out of state to attend S&M conventions. That rocked.
After a few years, the sex started to taper off. Okay, that happens. The Meter may go to 11, but you don't leave it there. Mrs. 420 just wasn't feeling it. And no matter that she'd rather be horny, she was finding that she just wasn't. Forget 11, we started topping out at 6. Then 5. And eventually, sex became an infrequent occurence.
Then she went off the pill at the end of October.
About 2-3 weeks ago, almost out of nowhere, I find myself going down on her in the living room. Suddenly we're having sex on the new leather couch. What? I mean, rock on, but what? Where did this come from?
After doing a little web research, she came across multiple sources that say that taking birth-control pills is linked to decreased libido. Talk about ironic.
This article estimates that only 5-10% of women on the Pill suffer diminished (or wholly crushed) libido. But Mrs. 420 is one of them. So is a friend of ours who recently went off the Pill. So is another buddy's ex-wife.
We're a little peeved. This is, in our opinion, a pretty serious side effect that we don't think has gotten anywhere near enough attention. I'm not surprised that the drug companies don't want to announce that the Pill might prevent pregnancy while smothering your interest in actually having sex, but the medical and women's health communities should be at least mentioning this.
Mrs. 420 also reminds me that she suffers from clinical depression and the whole time she's been on anti-depressants (17 years - basically her entire adult life), the Pill has been her method of choice and NOT ONE of her doctors ever mentioned that it could be related to depression and lowered libido. (She's hugging me now as I type. She never used to do that!)
Now we're back to condoms and looking into other non-hormonal birth control. I'm totally down with condoms. I'm most of the way to filling up my first Good Vibrations Safer Sex League card. Good Vibes also gives volume discounts if you buy quantities of the same condom. I'm really favoring Kimono these days.
Anyone else had this experience?
