Biggest pet peeves?

[wetandwhat]

Speaking of big dicks....


Understanding what the pet peeves of others are may actually help one become a better writer. It may serve as useful criticism in a way, causing an author to think a bit more about something they write. Of course, someone could have an extremely narrow perspective on such things and go on endlessly about it and not see the forest for the trees.

My hero.

"titties" - I absolutely ABHOR the word "titties"; what are we, 12?

Tits and tities should never be used outside of cat calls of show us your tits or girls gone wild videos.

No, but titties has always seemed to me to be one of those little wink wink words that makes me wonder about the age of the character.

"Dick" is one that makes me think of twelve year olds, especially used in a sentence like, "That's it, baby, suck my dick."

All I can see is a twelve year old grabbing his crotch yelling, "Yo, suck my dick!"

Plus just the word dick is so unsexy.

 

[lovecraft68]

My hero.



Tits and tities should never be used outside of cat calls of show us your tits or girls gone wild videos.



Plus just the word dick is so unsexy.

I'm sure some like it, but its my peeve.

I am not fond of cunt at all. For me I just hear it as a slur directed at a woman even if it is used in a sexual context.

I was raised to believe the two most ignorant words in the language are "cunt and nigger" and will say neither.

Although I have used both in a story coming from an ignorant asshole character, there is something to be said for realism...and those characters always meet bad ends.

 

[SandraMustard]

Could this all be regional culture influences? I think, say, and write titties (usually smaller ones), dicks (sometimes derogatory but not always), and pussy. The C-word, only as a slur. I grew up using these in the Chicago area. They sound normal to me. I'm retro that way (yes, that too).

 

[RejectReality]

I've reached the point where I'm not sure I have any.

There are things that will make me dislike a story, but it's not consistent. What comes across as slimy and juvenile in one tale works just fine in another. I can forgive even frequent grammar errors for the most part, so long as the story is engaging. A story with only one or two flubs that isn't capturing me can be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

The list of things I shy away from in my own work is a different story.

 

[sr71plt]

Apparently some of you writers demand that all of your characters are politically correct--or at least so in your personal perspective. How dull and unimaginative.

 

[lovecraft68]

Apparently some of you writers demand that all of your characters are politically correct--or at least so in your personal perspective. How dull and unimaginative.

Re-read my post, I said there are two words I do not use in r/l

Then said I have used them in stories for realism because my characters do not speak as I speak.

Once again you shoot yourself in the foot in your hurry to take shots at people.

 

[lovecraft68]

Could this all be regional culture influences? I think, say, and write titties (usually smaller ones), dicks (sometimes derogatory but not always), and pussy. The C-word, only as a slur. I grew up using these in the Chicago area. They sound normal to me. I'm retro that way (yes, that too).

Certainly cultural. In the UK women say cunt in porn all the time and a lot of UK authors use it, I guess it doesn't have the same connotation it does around here.

I have used tittles here and there as you do, if a girl is very small on top, dick I have used here and there just because if you say "cock" all the time its redundant, but I roll my eyes even when I type it.

 

[sr71plt]

Re-read my post, I said there are two words I do not use in r/l

Then said I have used them in stories for realism because my characters do not speak as I speak.

Once again you shoot yourself in the foot in your hurry to take shots at people.

You always think all of my posts are about you, don't you? It goes with your delusions of adequacy.

 

[lovecraft68]

I have a pet peeve about authors who write on the same free site as the rest of us, yet somehow think they're better than everyone else.

 

[SandraMustard]

author quarrelsomeness

 

[legerdemer]

The sounds of words

About 20 years ago I had a huge aversion to "cunt" - in fact, I got extremely pissed at one of my students who used it in an informal way, not realizing at all that anyone would consider it an actual insult. I really did rip him a new one (he survived, happily).

Nowadays, especially in my writing and reading erotica, I don't mind "cunt" at all and use it much more often than "pussy." I even use "cunt" in my personal play time with my partner. But if someone were to actually call me a cunt and mean it, I'd be pissed as hell all over again.

So yep, it's all context. But "titties" still rubs me the wrong way - it's the sound of it, nothing at all to do with the politics.

Dick, cock, shaft, member- no worries. Fuck-stick, love-pole - almost always hilarious rather than sexy. I learned my English as a teenager on the East Coast, and grew up in a fairly conservative family (we never talked about sex outright, though my mom was open-minded enough to help me get birth control when she realized I became sexually active and wisely didn't want me relying on the rhythm method).

And that just goes to show we differ in our tastes, which is what the OP asked about.

 

[HandsInTheDark]

Women who orgasm while being raped

In reality this is not unheard of. This is because an orgasm is a physical activity with certain characteristics, which rape can trigger. This doesn't mean it's anything like pleasant or fun; in fact rapes where the victims orgasm are probably the more destructive ones, because then the victim has to struggle with the thought that they "must have wanted it" because of how their body responded, on top of everything else.

I agree it's absurd to posit that the victim has a hot, pleasant, oh-yeah-more orgasm when raped. Serious masochism aside, it only means that the author is trying to have his cake and eat it too.

 

[sr71plt]

I have a pet peeve about authors who write on the same free site as the rest of us, yet somehow think they're better than everyone else.

Yeah, I can understand how you irritate some folks with your false sense of superiority--well, adequacy, actually.

 

[sr71plt]

About 20 years ago I had a huge aversion to "cunt" - in fact, I got extremely pissed at one of my students who used it in an informal way, not realizing at all that anyone would consider it an actual insult. I really did rip him a new one (he survived, happily).

There's a difference between using it as a slam and using it to describe a vagina, you know. It's like the word "asshole." Exactly like the word "asshole," so why hasn't that come up in the same context? Because folks understand more clearly that the uses of "asshole" are totally unrelated?

There are times I'd use "vagina," times I'd use "cunt," and times I'd use "pussy." It all depends on the context of the story, the character using the term, and whether or not I wanted to grab the reader's attention by using one rather than another. I usually use "cunt," though, because my contexts are usually pretty straightforward. The same reason I usually use "cock." Zing right to it.

 

[SamScribble]

I suspect to those of us born and bred on the eastern edge of the pond cunt has a whole different - and mainly positive - set of associations. Blame Chaucer.

 

[sr71plt]

In reality this is not unheard of. This is because an orgasm is a physical activity with certain characteristics, which rape can trigger. This doesn't mean it's anything like pleasant or fun; in fact rapes where the victims orgasm are probably the more destructive ones, because then the victim has to struggle with the thought that they "must have wanted it" because of how their body responded, on top of everything else.

I agree it's absurd to posit that the victim has a hot, pleasant, oh-yeah-more orgasm when raped. Serious masochism aside, it only means that the author is trying to have his cake and eat it too.

That and some folks realize we write erotica fiction here (ergo having our cake and eating it too), which is meant to enable sexual arousal/pleasure, mostly by pushing the envelope of fact. The courtroom is down the hall and to the left; the medical clinic is down the hall to the right. The church is upstairs. We put the soap box away as it's not conducive to sexual arousal/pleasure, which, again, is the point or erotic fiction.

 

[DustOnDaBotl]

Anyone who beats to death the phrase, "That being said" or someone whose opinion may differ from my own and responds to something I have said with "Listen". I guess it makes them think they are on a plateau or two higher than myself when they do this. I challenge any one of them to compare brain pans with me.

 

[sr71plt]

I suspect to those of us born and bred on the eastern edge of the pond cunt has a whole different - and mainly positive - set of associations. Blame Chaucer.

Speaking of straightforward fun.

 

[legerdemer]

There's a difference between using it as a slam and using it to describe a vagina, you know.

Of course, exactly.

It's like the word "asshole." Exactly like the word "asshole," so why hasn't that come up in the same context? Because folks understand more clearly that the uses of "asshole" are totally unrelated?

It's perhaps idiosyncratic to me, but I think of "asshole" in a much more unisex way, whereas most (but not all, admittedly) use the pejorative sense of "cunt" only against women, just like people use "dick" pejoratively against men (I've very rarely heard a woman being referred to as a "dick", whereas I've occasionally heard "cunt" being applied to a man). And the use of "cunt" for a man doesn't make that sense of the word any more acceptable to me. All of these uses are the pejoratives, just as what you suggested for "asshole".

But this now seems to be evolving into a very esoteric linguistic treatment.

There are times I'd use "vagina," times I'd use "cunt," and times I'd use "pussy." It all depends on the context of the story, the character using the term, and whether or not I wanted to grab the reader's attention by using one rather than another. I usually use "cunt," though, because my contexts are usually pretty straightforward. The same reason I usually use "cock." Zing right to it.

I sometimes try to introduce variations just because I get tired of using the same word, and yes, different terms for different characters and occasions.

(How very AH appropriate... )

 

[shutterpsb]

No matter how many times I read the rules for "lay versus lie" in my blue book of grammar I still pick the wrong one in the first draft. Every time.

 

[sr71plt]

No matter how many times I read the rules for "lay versus lie" in my blue book of grammar I still pick the wrong one in the first draft. Every time.

I have to stop and think three times about that one, as well. And I try to completely write around the who/whom issue.

 

[wetandwhat]

Certainly cultural. In the UK women say cunt in porn all the time and a lot of UK authors use it, I guess it doesn't have the same connotation it does around here.

I have used tittles here and there as you do, if a girl is very small on top, dick I have used here and there just because if you say "cock" all the time its redundant, but I roll my eyes even when I type it.

I like cunt but I've never had it used as a derogatory slur against me.
Instead of dick I like to use erection but I also had an erector set as a kid and I still love toys.

 

[Handley_Page]

Could this all be regional culture influences? I think, say, and write titties (usually smaller ones), dicks (sometimes derogatory but not always), and pussy. The C-word, only as a slur. I grew up using these in the Chicago area. They sound normal to me. I'm retro that way (yes, that too).

Certainly cultural. In the UK women say cunt in porn all the time and a lot of UK authors use it, I guess it doesn't have the same connotation it does around here.

I have used tittles here and there as you do, if a girl is very small on top, dick I have used here and there just because if you say "cock" all the time its redundant, but I roll my eyes even when I type it.

It strikes me that, having a "multi-cultural society", there's a real difference in stress with swear words. Make no bones about it, people, these are (traditionally) assessed as 'swear words'; ie., words not used in what was once called "polite society".
The result is that some swear words, probably imported from wherever (and, of course, the returning military) mean slightly different things to different people.

That gorgeous bird in the corner of the bar may have a cunt as big as the Mersey Tunnel or the Thames estuary, but it's not a description one might use to any but ones most intimate of friends, and then fairly quietly. But the stupid SOB who drops your TV or Ming vase may well get called a "cunt" at fairly high volume if he drops it.
Please note the difference. To call someone a cunt implies that they are more than slightly dim.

The term "dick" is a long-used words to describe a person who is not quite with it or up to speed. One who makes mistakes despite being told and/ or taught. These days it is more often "dick-head" (or even 'bell-end'). It ain't often used in terms of the physical size of his prick.

 

[tanyachrs]

No matter how many times I read the rules for "lay versus lie" in my blue book of grammar I still pick the wrong one in the first draft. Every time.

I don't even try on that one. I write what seems right to me and figure my grammar is better than most people's and the rest can go ahead and judge me.

 

[R. Richard]

No matter how many times I read the rules for "lay versus lie" in my blue book of grammar I still pick the wrong one in the first draft. Every time.

Check out 'The Correct Use Of Lay/Lie' By R. Richard.