Big Time Problem ...

[Malaria]

no you should have been a boyscout...(in UK girls can be scouts) Oh the things we got up to!!!

If relaxtion is still the over bearing problem Mathis, try stimulation when you're very sleepy. Almost asleep then let your partner try again. chances are you'll be too sleepy to worry.

 

[mathis847]

I have only been able to ever get myself off clitorally - and I'm ok with that... it still takes me a very long time - often as long as an hour - but damn, it's worth it.

Gspot though, my husband is amazing at - and I love it. But if I could only have one or the other, I'd go for the clit without a second's hesitation.

This doesn't make me enjoy sex any less however - and I really look forward to my alone time. Additionally, it has really made me respect and appreciate the need for us to have a separate (solo) sex life of self-pleasure.

Though my stunted clit is annoying, I did go 24 years before discovering it's potential.

I've still only been able to get off twice by self-manual stimulation - but I have graduated with honours from the vibrator to the showerhead... and in my continuing preparations for the impending energy crisis, I feel it's only doing my part to ensure that I finesse the manual skill.

I mean... imagine a water and battery shortage...

I shoulda' been a girlscout.

well it usually takes me forever when its clitoral ... honestly .. if im not using a vibe , its longer then an hour .. sometimes ... the other night we mianly focused on me at first .. then i wanted to focus on him a bit .. then we went back to me .. and i finished .. maybe i have been focusing on him too much instead oh myself .. well .. now i know .. i still would like to know new things to try ... to make it an even better experience for the two of us .. im the type of person that gets tired of the same stuff over and over again ... so .. sometime new , maybe new positions ??? can yall help me out with that now ????

 

[M's girl]

After reading in the other thread you started I, for one, can understand why you have problems reaching orgasm. For most women things have to be pretty much OK (at least) outside the bedroom first. A lot of women have a problem reaching orgasm anyway, even when things are OK, so I'm not surprised at all that it does not work for you at this moment.

i posted here because the sex kinda just .. stopped .. or at least he stopped caring .. and now .. its like .. i get to spend time with him when its convienant for him .. like .. he comes home from work .. and sits at the tv screen , or at the computer screen .. i really dont understand this .. its almost like , im unimportant to him now .. the only time we really spend time together is in the bedroom , which i honestly dont consider spending time together at all .. im so confused .. i feel , basically .. like ... ugly , and not good enough .. for him .. sometimes ...

I'm 'afraid' you really need to sort this out first, before things can improve again when you two have sex.