Bi Switches?

[barebacknubianf]

I've been thinking recently. I know - you can almost hear the cogs creaking with rust. Anyway, what I've been thinking about is, my bisexuality and the fact that I'm a switch. It's only just occurred to me after about twelve years of sexual activeness that I tend to be domme towards other girls, and subbe towards men, and basically never the other way around. I wonder if any other bi-girls feel that way (and any bi-guys, for that matter). Is it normal? It makes sense in my head, and I enjoy the lifestyle I have but I'm curious to see if I'm alone, and what opinions others have about the matter.

 

[buxxxom]

Whether I'm being sub or domme, for me, depends solely on the situation and not the person I'm with. I'll be either sub or domme, with both sexes. And that can change, too, sometimes, depending on where the situation goes and what I think my partner wants.

 

[intothewoods]

I have a friend who totally fits this description.

I'm not bi (er, except to the extent we kind of all are, or something like that) but I definitely tend to be more flirtatiously dominant with girls.

On the other hand, I kind of imagine myself behaving a certain way based more on a person's personality than their gender, if that makes sense. I'm kind of a sassy flirt with lots of men, because I don't feel submissive towards them. They just don't have that effect on me. There aren't many men I meet who make me go all super super sub girly, you know? And I can only think of like two women in my lifetime who I'd put in that category.

So in conclusion, what the fuck was my point? Eh, I don't know. I'm just avoiding work.

 

[myinnerslut]

So in conclusion, what the fuck was my point? Eh, I don't know. I'm just avoiding work.

im avoiding GOING to work... does that count?

sorry, i dont have much to add to the conversation as im not a switch, but i find it easier to sub to men then to women.

 

[barebacknubianf]

I have a friend who totally fits this description.

I'm not bi (er, except to the extent we kind of all are, or something like that) but I definitely tend to be more flirtatiously dominant with girls.

On the other hand, I kind of imagine myself behaving a certain way based more on a person's personality than their gender, if that makes sense. I'm kind of a sassy flirt with lots of men, because I don't feel submissive towards them. They just don't have that effect on me. There aren't many men I meet who make me go all super super sub girly, you know? And I can only think of like two women in my lifetime who I'd put in that category.

So in conclusion, what the fuck was my point? Eh, I don't know. I'm just avoiding work.

Heh. I think most of us are avoiding work. And pretty succesfully too, in my case.

Flirtatiously dominant. Hmm. I like the concept.

 

[Netzach]

I find that the "sub to men bi switch femme" is far more prevalent than the "sub to women bi femme switch."

Which I guess to the extent that I'll put my ass in the air, it's gonna be for another girl, 99 percent of the time. But to go with the territory I generally prefer to beat up boys and butches than girls and femmes.

 

[Shankara20]

I am a bi switch at the base of my being. If active, *sigh*, I would be a gay Top. I have no desire to bottom to a male. I will bottom to the right female, but am more willing to Top females.

I flirt all over the place, flirt to men and flirt to women, flirt as a Top and flirt as a bottom - that is my slut being expressed. But that lack of clear expression of identity on my part has caused some communication problems with others - sorry

When I hunger to give my sexual drive expression I dream about a male standing naked before me ready to do my bidding. *sigh*

I dress in panties and bra's and I love pink - and I Top more than bottom. Go figure.

ps - when I am on my knees with a cock in my mouth I am still the Top. That cock in my mouth is no longer his cock, it is my cock - I own it and will do with it what I want the way I want and it had damned well better do what I want when I want.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm a bi switch. I'll Top both men and women, but the only female I'll bottom to is my girlfriend, who's also a bi switch. For some reason that I can't wrap my head around, I have to be the main bitch, LOL. (Though there are a few Lit women I'd stretch that for. ) I like to bottom to men as well. I like to play on both sides with both genders, but I do admit that I'm happiest when I'm submitting to Master. He's a switch as well (who also likes to play with men occasionally, though I don't know that I'd really call him bi), so I do tie him up sometimes, which makes my scenario even more complicated and confusing.

We're all a bunch of sluts around this place.

 

[intothewoods]

But that lack of clear expression of identity on my part has caused some communication problems with others - sorry

You promised not to tell! Sorry, that was so juvenile.

ps - when I am on my knees with a cock in my mouth I am still the Top. That cock in my mouth is no longer his cock, it is my cock - I own it and will do with it what I want the way I want and it had damned well better do what I want when I want.

Hmm...I totally get this, but I don't think I could get into that head space. I think I'm just a total sub when I'm sucking cock. Well, if I ever get to suck any again. (wisftully) If I'm being dominant with a guy, I have to just fuck him.

 

[intothewoods]

Btw, I have a bit of that girl next door thing going on, and so lesbians always feel the need to tell me they aren't in to me in the least. Am I wearing a sign that says please evaluate my sexual attractiveness? 'Cause I seem to get that shit a lot!

 

[Shankara20]

Sorry, that was so juvenile.
:

oooo age play

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

I would technically be considered a bi-switch. I nearly always dominate other men and women but I sub to my wife. And she is the only one who can bring that out in me.

 

[intothewoods]

oooo age play

You have NO idea.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm a Dominant, sadistic summonabeach. Sexually I'm straight, but I'll paddle, flog, cane, bind, needle, wax, mummify either gender. I haven't had many males bottom for me for some reason, but the few that have said I did fine. *grins and shrugs*

I will bottom for a scene, in order to learn more about using a particular toy or technique, but it's an educational thing. I don't get a sense of "pleasure" or "pride" in doing so beyond, "Damn, glad I got through that!" I don't necessarily want to hit the Top I'm learning from, but I don't want to go through it again. I've bottomed for men and women but it's a rare thing.

So if Shank need an ass whoopin' I'll be happy to administer... *grins*

I know... I'm such a tease...

 

[Shankara20]

So if Shank need an ass whoopin' I'll be happy to administer... *grins*

prick teaser....

 

[TheDivineMsM]

But to go with the territory I generally prefer to beat up boys and butches than girls and femmes.

Interesting..i have the same issue...any enlightenment why?
I find personally, girly girls, i dunno i like em too much i guess,l and i dont wanna be mean to them. I want to stroke them, love them, suck them not beat them up...lol

With men and butches i guess it is all the taming the *alpha* perhaps? i dunno what are your thoughts?

 

[Shankara20]

Interesting..i have the same issue...any enlightenment why?
I find personally, girly girls, i dunno i like em too much i guess,l and i dont wanna be mean to them. I want to stroke them, love them, suck them not beat them up...lol

With men and butches i guess it is all the taming the *alpha* perhaps? i dunno what are your thoughts?

As I think about this right now I realize that with the really "sweet" boys, the sweeter they are the more I want to hurt them - hurt them real bad , with the more butch boys I just want fuck 'em and make them beg for attention.

wonder why I feel that way

 

[courtneycakes]

I wish I could help you or give you some type of advice...but quite frankly, the idea of being with another girl sexually is enough to make my stomach turn. I'll try anything once, don't get me wrong, but I don't really ever see it happening.


Does that make me weird?
hah

 

[Shankara20]

I wish I could help you or give you some type of advice...but quite frankly, the idea of being with another girl sexually is enough to make my stomach turn. I'll try anything once, don't get me wrong, but I don't really ever see it happening.


Does that make me weird?
hah

no not weird at all, just not bi...

Oh, I am just aware of how I feel, but, don't get me wrong, I love how I am - thanks for wishing you could help in any case


here sweet-boi, sweet-boi, sweet-boi.... (over 18 only need apply)

 

[vtxxxr]

Im not bi, but Dom on both, have been serviced by both sexes,ok, maybe that sounds wrong...LOL and can say that I would bottom for the right female, however when I was into the scene alot, I would do what Geoff does, for strictly educational purposes....I do perfer to be Dom all the time!

 

[Netzach]

Interesting..i have the same issue...any enlightenment why?
I find personally, girly girls, i dunno i like em too much i guess,l and i dont wanna be mean to them. I want to stroke them, love them, suck them not beat them up...lol

With men and butches i guess it is all the taming the *alpha* perhaps? i dunno what are your thoughts?

I dunno. I think I kind of grok female authority because it was all I was exposed to as a kid, where male authority was always kind of a joke, and I was always fascinated by the cracks in that facade. Whereas women really *could* scare the crap out of me. Or just turn me on so I want to roll arond in bed and like you said, lick them, but not necessarily beat them up. (Though my gf and I used to trade off slapping one another in the heat of sex, I can't complain on that at all, it wasn't a contest, I don't think.)

Maybe I identify with femmes to the point where assaults on their pain tolerances and humiliation tolerances elicit too much identification on my part, I'm not sure what it is. I have moments of sadistic fantasy involving femmes, but they're kind of brief and lame and very scattered, compared to those I have involving men/butches.

 

[Sir Victor]

I've been thinking recently. I know - you can almost hear the cogs creaking with rust. Anyway, what I've been thinking about is, my bisexuality and the fact that I'm a switch. It's only just occurred to me after about twelve years of sexual activeness that I tend to be domme towards other girls, and subbe towards men, and basically never the other way around. I wonder if any other bi-girls feel that way (and any bi-guys, for that matter). Is it normal? It makes sense in my head, and I enjoy the lifestyle I have but I'm curious to see if I'm alone, and what opinions others have about the matter.

Interesting point bareback. It seems that this is how it is in nature with higher mammals. There is an alpha male as Dom over the entire group, and an alpha female who is Domme over the females to make sure that things run smoothly in the den. I would say that it is completely normal and part of our instinctive wiring.

Let me ask, would you offer your sub girl to a Dom that you were serving, if she was willing?

 

[MissLouBeLou]

I'm a bi female switcher. Until recently I thought I was sub to all men and dom to all women but I recently met a bi male switcher and he and I can play for hours chopping and changing from top to bottom. I was suprised how he brings my dom side out and i got toally lost in abusing his body!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

you sound just like me. I dont have much urge to domme men but women is a different story. That is why I want a male Master and a female sub/slave

 

[MissLouBeLou]

you sound just like me. I dont have much urge to domme men but women is a different story. That is why I want a male Master and a female sub/slave

I am just about the luckiest girl in the world and for the past year have had a male Dom and a female sub. I don't know what else to say about the experience other than thinking about them makes me grin and my heart beat that little bit faster!