Bi or Bi Curious?

[Vaslim74]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

 

[perturbedmusic]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

 

[Vaslim74]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

That makes perfect sense to me! Thank you

 

[Britva415]

Then there's the bi-curious which are the guys who are pretty sure they're bi but aren't 100% sure because they haven't experienced it.

This goes AWAY once they play with a guy, because then they aren't curious about bisexuality anymore, they're either just bi or they're just not bi.

I guess they could still be bi-curious if they've, say, topped but not bottomed. Or if they've fucked a mouth but not an ass. They could still be curious - but then they aren't bi-curious, they're bottom-curious or anal-curious.

To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

I don't think that that's necessarily hetero-flexible.

It could be, but I think that that's closer to "bi-sexual but hetero-romantic."

I think heteroflexibility is being willing to have sexual contact or activity with another man but absent sexual attraction to the man.

Like how you'd fuck a woman you aren't sexually attracted to if the opportunity made it beyond easy and you didn't have to pursue her at all. You aren't attracted to her but you'll do it anyway since she's right there, already naked, and clearly ready to go.

One can be aroused without being attracted. To me this is how heteroflexibility works. It's not bi-curiosity at all, it's a purely pragmatic opportunism.

 

[Britva415]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

You don't sound curious to me. You sound like you know you're bi.

 

[perturbedmusic]

I don't think that that's necessarily hetero-flexible.

It could be, but I think that that's closer to "bi-sexual but hetero-romantic."

I think heteroflexibility is being willing to have sexual contact or activity with another man but absent sexual attraction to the man.

Like how you'd fuck a woman you aren't sexually attracted to if the opportunity made it beyond easy and you didn't have to pursue her at all. You aren't attracted to her but you'll do it anyway since she's right there, already naked, and clearly ready to go.

One can be aroused without being attracted. To me this is how heteroflexibility works. It's not bi-curiosity at all, it's a purely pragmatic opportunism.

You’re probably right in the differentiation between bi-curiosity and hetero-flexibility. I think bi-curiosity tends to become blanket term for all “straight” men that either desire or engage in same sex sexual activity.

I’m sure I’m probably in the minority amongst other men, but I find it extremely difficult to have sex with a woman I’m not sexually attracted to. Granted, I have in the past, but it was nearly impossible to keep an erection and my thoughts often wandered.

I think there has to be some level of attraction aside from an exuberant participant to become aroused enough for sexual contact. Liking dick doesn’t mean you automatically want to suck any hard dick that makes itself available.

 

[drobert44]

I began dating sissies; then looking for a gay man, now a total bottom for cock.

 

[TheDubbs]

Eh, yeah it gets confusing when I start to try to differentiate between bisexual and biromantic and all that. Just easier to say I’m bi and leave it up to the individual as to whether I’m attracted to them or not.

 

[load69]

Right now I am bicurious...Give me your cock and let me suck a load of hot cum out of it so that I can finally call myself bi

 

[Britva415]

Even though I’ve had some experience, I’m curious for more.

Sure, but are you curious about whether you're bi or not?

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

Older I get the more Bi curious I am.

Weird.

 

[Vaslim74]

Thank for all your replies! I guess base on my action I guess I would just say that I am bi not bi-curious at this point.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

It took a few experiences for me to realize I was more than curious.

 

[PFWilly]

I moved from curious to bi about 60 years ago.

Yeah, I’m very old. But still bisexual. LOL

 

[dodgeboy2]

The question I have is, do you still call yourself bi curious if you have played around with a couple of guys? Or do you base it on what you did with those couple of guys? My experience has been a little kissing, sucking and being sucked, and my ass fingered. Also all of this has been during mmf. I have yet to play with a guy one on one, but I am will and wanting too.

Thanks

Here is my humble opinion, your are bi curious still! Why do I think that here are my reasons:

1) You have done minimal from what you described which seemingly isn't enough for you to know
2) Until you do any and all of what you are curious about you will never totally know
3) Once you mind and body has accumulated enough data your mind will evaluate and tell you if in fact you are bi, I mean being bi curious doesn't necessarily mean you are bi just that your desire/curiosity wants to know if you may have that tendency.

Good luck in finding your path to whatever your sexual needs and desires take you!

 

[newhere2learn]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

I'd agree. I'm bi for play. But nil interest in kissing, hugging or dating men. Just, to fuck

 

[HappyToBeAlive]

I call myself bisexual.

I have never been with a guy, and likely never will. Yet I am bisexual as much as my friend who at the time was virgin called himself heterosexual. He was not hetero-curious just because he has not slept with someone…

Bisexuality comes in many forms… one can be sexually attracted to men, women and/or other genders but only romantically attracted to women…

In my opinion, one as a man could play once with another man and find out it is not what they want… that does not make them homosexual or bisexual…

At the end, I think sexual orientation is a personal call. If you play with same gender people but you do not feel you are bisexual, so be it… although in my humble opinion I would question if it is not a case of bi-erasure, fear of accepting oneself, or biphobia… but figuring that out is a personal quest each of us should walk…

In 1991, the magazine “Anything that walks” posted the bisexual manifesto:

"We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone's sexuality, including your own."

Anything That Moves, inaugural edition, Winter 1991, p. 3


If you do not know if you should call yourself heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, asexual or something else, then I think you should either embrace yourself with no tags and enjoy what you enjoy, or if you feel you need a tag, read about the different sexual orientations and then based on your feelings and experiences, apply a tag to yourself.

Tags are useful to find comunity, to find information and for research purposes. But tags by themselves are at best insufficient to describe the sexual identity of a particular individual.

 

[dingdongditchding]

I think terminology is up to interpretation. To me, bi-curious is equivalent to hetero-flexible. As in, you’ll engage in sexual activity with another man but have no romantic attraction or desire for a romantic relationship.

As opposed to bi-sexual which I think of as more of a romantic sexuality and harbor romantic attraction to both men and women.

good answer. I feel that way. maybe a tiny bit of affection

 

[OralAllOver]

I wouldn't worry about labels too much ... that's part of shedding clothes, right? (ditching their labels)

I'm a cocksucker, that's a description of what I enjoy

https://rule34.xxx/index.php?page=post&s=view&id=10510053&tags=gay+suck

 

[Ciceri]

I saw a Dom for quite awhile but wasn’t the least bit attracted to him. I just liked his control over me. Still think I’m not bi

 

[leicesterbiguy]

I am bisexual and proud to be so xx

 

[saintcero]

No longer curious. I am bi experienced but definitely not bi romantic. This morning I am definitely bi hungry. Call it whatever you like past that.

 

[FLuvsNipsnDicks]

I wouldn't worry about labels too much ... that's part of shedding clothes, right? (ditching their labels)

I'm a cocksucker, that's a description of what I enjoy

https://rule34.xxx/index.php?page=post&s=view&id=10510053&tags=gay+suck

Perfect!!