Bi-curious beginner

[williewonker]

Need some help. I really screwed up. I am a bi-curious guy, and I went to a hot springs just the other day. There were several naked guys, and I started talking to one. He was very friendly. He said that the steam room was nice, so I went and invited him to come along too. He took a while to get there since he only had one leg. Anyway we were there alone. My problem is that I did not know how to get something started. I could not think of how to start getting to touch him without knowing how he would react. So how is this done??? Any ideas??

 

[weathered2]

... So how is this done??? Any ideas??

Quite a long time ago, a lesbian in-law said there were a number of "signals" for indicating interest, but the family reunion we were attending at the time was not a good place to explore the subject further. It's a good question. I'm curious too. Short of exposing a "boner", is there any customary approach that's more subtle?

 

[weathered2]

Re: Re: Bi-curious beginner

... Short of exposing a "boner", is there any customary approach that's more subtle?

*guess not* (bump)

 

[zantac666]

I don't know when it i the right time all i know is when i was 13 and had a sleep over my friend did the first move by rubbing my ass and the he moved closer and reached around and startedto stroke my cock and i could feel his cock against my butt.

and we have been seing each other ever since he married and his wife does not know of it.

I'm 44 now

 

[zantac666]

Next time you are in the same situation just ask.

I have oly been with one guy but if i might have sex with another guy.

 

[weathered2]

I keep coming back to this one wondering what a poor fellow could do yet minimize the risk of getting his nose broken. I haven't been in such a situation (yet?), but thought about something that might work in the steam room situation, and might apply in other circumstances as well. I'd really tune into the person's eyes, facial expression and body language, then if everything seemed cool, say something like, "Man, your shoulders look stiff, want me to massage them for you?". That shouldn't result in a broken nose; I think at most you'd only hasten his exit if you had misread the situation. You'd know as you expanded the range of your massage if he was into more or not. Shit, that's turning me on now. (Oops, did I say that out loud?)

 

[IJustMight]

I know how you feel

I had one experience with another guy when I was 14, on a sleep over. He initiated it so it was easy for me. Now, I have no idea how to have that experience again. I can approach women, but am totally clueless with men and it scares me to death. Maybe it wont happen again, who knows. I still think about sucking my friends cock way back when and it is still one of my most exciting fantasies.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

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[williewonker]

bi-curious beginner

Thanks for all that good advice from all of you. I will be going back to the springs next weekend, and will let you know what happens. I have no trouble starting to talk to men, it is just bringing the subject up-no pun intended. I like that idea of a back-rub in the steam room. He cannot punch me out for asking if he wants an innocent backrub.