Best way to find the 3rd for 3some?

[slapacus]

Hi,

Just curious, how hard is it to actually find a woman interested in a MFF threesome? Wanted to know if anyone had advice to give a married couple? We have the MF part down but thinking of adding another F...

If you have manages this in the past how? I have a huge fantasy of watching my hot wife with another women!

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

Hi,

Just curious, how hard is it to actually find a woman interested in a MFF threesome? Wanted to know if anyone had advice to give a married couple? We have the MF part down but thinking of adding another F...

If you have manages this in the past how? I have a huge fantasy of watching my hot wife with another women!

Easiest way is a swing club. Other than that any night club might do. You can always try on Craigslist.

 

[slapacus]

Hi: thanks sgt! might try the swing club. Any near Berkshire UK?

 

[cumslut4u]

The two of you invite your wifes hot friend over. Encourage her to have lots of wine. Then encourage her to take off some clothes when she feels flushed from all the wine. Then have your wife make a move on her.

At least that's what happened to me the first time

You're welcome

 

[slapacus]

The two of you invite your wifes hot friend over. Encourage her to have lots of wine. Then encourage her to take off some clothes when she feels flushed from all the wine. Then have your wife make a move on her.

At least that's what happened to me the first time

You're welcome

Wow thanks...that is what I call sound advice! You rock!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have no experience in this area as I am lame, but I've heard finding that second female is like finding a worm's asshole. From my friends that have been involved, it has always been more of a "right place at the right time thing", rather than actively seeking them out.

But I'm sure many have found their third with much such success.

 

[southern_gal]

I have no experience in this area as I am lame, but I've heard finding that second female is like finding a worm's asshole. From my friends that have been involved, it has always been more of a "right place at the right time thing", rather than actively seeking them out.

But I'm sure many have found their third with much such success.

This. And This again. My husband and I have talked this over many times and I think he wants to watch me with another woman almost as much as I want to try it myself. Great. Now where is she? Once I made up my mind to throw caution to the wind and live a little I was certain she would show up on my doorstep the following day. She did not. Ok. Our address got lost in translation? I sent out the good vibes once more. She still did not show up. Where could she be? It is that easy isn't it? I decided to wait one more day but still........
To make a long story even longer I have not a clue as to where to find her. There are issues to overcome. She simply must be discreet and of course disease free. Cannot live in our town and this is a small town so now what? We have thought about an escort but what would that guarantee? We live just over an hour from New Orleans and thought about that but have you ever taken a good look at some of the women in the clubs there? We did. So now I am back to waiting for "her" to show up on my doorstep. I am beginning to think Santa will be here before she is.

 

[Eilan]

Wow thanks...that is what I call sound advice! You rock!

This is sarcasm, right?

 

[Lord Pmann]

This is sarcasm, right?

No. It is sound advice. That advice sounds like shit.

I'm kidding. I have no opinion on what will work. That doesn't seem like it would normally work. But what do I know? I'm a virgin. Practically.

 

[Eilan]

No. It is sound advice. That advice sounds like shit.

I'm kidding. I have no opinion on what will work. That doesn't seem like it would normally work. But what do I know? I'm a virgin. Practically.

It wouldn't work on me, but I'm an old harpy.

 

[Porkwarrior]

If it is more for your wife's experience than yours, take your wife one weekend to a gay/lesbian club. The sexuality meter is a lot more flexible with the gay crowd, and you might find the right woman that clicks. A lot of times just going there, having drinks, and playing the "would you want to fuck her?" game can be arousing in itself. Or just watching your wife dirty dancing with another woman on the floor and her getting used to another woman's hands on her body can be fun. If you are open to a hands off policy with the 3rd a gay club can be really fun.

Are you capable of sitting on the sideline's and only watching your wife be pleasured by another woman?

"Sex clubs" in my experience tend to be like nudist beaches...full of honest, beautiful people...but one's you generally do not want to see with their clothes off or would take home. (BTW -- sorry if that sounds judgmental to all the Litsters that are regulars at nudist beaches & sex clubs......but if you are not full bore into a "lifestyle" there is a certain "ick" factor for the more vanilla but wholehearted experimentals)

 

[Kikoro]

A friend of mine and her husband have been having trouble with this. I've filled in that role before, but the hubby got a little too jealous because of her "history" with me, so it was anything but smooth. He liked the part about undressing me and touching me, but when I started working with his wife, things got really awkward. It is probably best to pick someone neither of you have history with.

 

[Bramblethorn]

If it is more for your wife's experience than yours, take your wife one weekend to a gay/lesbian club. The sexuality meter is a lot more flexible with the gay crowd, and you might find the right woman that clicks.

A different perspective on this: http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-14339-bars:-not-a-good-place-to-pick-people-up,-actually.html

"Couples seeking a third are most often heterosexually identified, male-female pairs seeking another woman; sometimes these couples will come to the store asking for information about lesbian bars at which they could find such a partner. I'm here to tell you that this is a terrible idea that should be avoided at all costs.

There certainly may be women hanging out at girl bars who might be interested in threesomes with another woman and a man in the right time and place. However, if they've chosen to go to a dyke bar, that time and place is not there... women there have deliberately chosen to come to a space where they will NOT be sexualized by men. "

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hi,

Just curious, how hard is it to actually find a woman interested in a MFF threesome? Wanted to know if anyone had advice to give a married couple? We have the MF part down but thinking of adding another F...

If you have manages this in the past how? I have a huge fantasy of watching my hot wife with another women!

Ah, the elusive Hot Bi Babe!

FWIW, there are HBBs out there who are looking for a threesome with a MF couple, but they are VASTLY outnumbered by couples looking for a HBB. It doesn't make your situation impossible, but it does mean you shouldn't expect an opportunity to fall into your lap.

Most (all?) of the threesomes I've been involved in started out as friendship between a couple and another person. The single got to know the couple and build up a relationship of trust and respect first; some time later, often years down the road, things developed in a sexual direction.

 

[oldjoejoe]

This. And This again. My husband and I have talked this over many times and I think he wants to watch me with another woman almost as much as I want to try it myself. Great. Now where is she? Once I made up my mind to throw caution to the wind and live a little I was certain she would show up on my doorstep the following day. She did not. Ok. Our address got lost in translation? I sent out the good vibes once more. She still did not show up. Where could she be? It is that easy isn't it? I decided to wait one more day but still........
To make a long story even longer I have not a clue as to where to find her. There are issues to overcome. She simply must be discreet and of course disease free. Cannot live in our town and this is a small town so now what? We have thought about an escort but what would that guarantee? We live just over an hour from New Orleans and thought about that but have you ever taken a good look at some of the women in the clubs there? We did. So now I am back to waiting for "her" to show up on my doorstep. I am beginning to think Santa will be here before she is.

Although I am not active now, my previous wife and I were active swingers for over 20 years. Finding a female third is not at all impossible, but it is dificult. We lucked out at a lesbian bar a couple times. There is a really good swing club in Gulfport MS. No sex at the club, but a great safe place to meet other like minded people. Socials are also a great way to meet others and house parties are mabe the most fun. To find these places, go to nasca.com We liked both types of 3somes and mostly did 4somes and larger groups. Swing events are the best chance of finding what you are looking for. Good look and have fun.

 

[southern_gal]

Although I am not active now, my previous wife and I were active swingers for over 20 years. Finding a female third is not at all impossible, but it is dificult. We lucked out at a lesbian bar a couple times. There is a really good swing club in Gulfport MS. No sex at the club, but a great safe place to meet other like minded people. Socials are also a great way to meet others and house parties are mabe the most fun. To find these places, go to nasca.com We liked both types of 3somes and mostly did 4somes and larger groups. Swing events are the best chance of finding what you are looking for. Good look and have fun.

I wish I had the nerve to do this. It is indeed something that excites us both but I know me very well and when it gets right down to it, I am not sure if I could go thru with it. A group setting is hard to imagine. I could get naked for one other person or a couple but a group? Doubtful.

 

[poppaslittlewhore]

My husband and I have been lucky and found ourselves in the company of other women. It just kinda happened. You can't plan these things. Word of advice from experience. Don't be with anyone you are friends with or anyone that you could be friends with. Unless you can work out a full time thing, it gets awkward.

 

[southern_gal]

My husband and I have been lucky and found ourselves in the company of other women. It just kinda happened. You can't plan these things. Word of advice from experience. Don't be with anyone you are friends with or anyone that you could be friends with. Unless you can work out a full time thing, it gets awkward.

More than likely the perfect 3rd for me would need to live somewhere on the dark side of the moon. We are in a smallish kind of town and the very last thing I could live down would be to bump into him/her with someone that knew me. I would be utterly mortified.

 

[oldjoejoe]

I wish I had the nerve to do this. It is indeed something that excites us both but I know me very well and when it gets right down to it, I am not sure if I could go thru with it. A group setting is hard to imagine. I could get naked for one other person or a couple but a group? Doubtful.

Based on what you have posted, I would think the club in Gulfport would be a good place to try. There is never any pressure on anybody. At worst you would have a good time in a friendly place and you can go home alone together. The number one rule there and other places is that NO means NO. Give it some thought as it can be a lot of fun.

 

[Acktion]

It's just my opinion but...

A few things I picked up from my experiences.

1) Let HER make the selection and keep your mouth shut and enjoy. The babe will NOT be as babelicious as your wife. She will make sure of that. Just shut up and groove with the move.

2) College age females aged 19-23 or divorcees between 36-40 are the statistically highest possibility, as both are going through experimental stages. This can backfire as they also bring emotional baggage if it is not crystal clear that the existing MF are a rock solid couple first and foremost. College about to move back home or professional women on vacation from far away are best for a first experiment.

3) IF you are allowed to get involved, then absolutely, positively shower more attention on the one with the keys to where you sleep. You are welcoming this other female into your bed for HER benefit. Keep that firmly in your mind. If you don't, you may wake up with her kneeling between your legs with a bottle of superglue.

4) Unless you are taking some helluva vitamins, the pair of double x chromosomes WILL outlast your poor xy. Accept it now. Just because you sprayed three massive loads of cum from your throbbing manhood, does NOT mean they are satisfied. This isn't a porn flick. If you have to give yourself lockjaw, do not yawn. If you have to prop your eyes open with toothpicks, do not close them. Your dick may go soft, but you still have two hands and a mouth. Use them wisely.

I've got more, but I'll stop there as the rest should be saved for the intermediate and advanced classes on being the M in an MFF.

 

[Acktion]

Note to the F in the MF couple looking for another

Uh huh. NOW you see how the other half lives, huh? It's all candy while you are waiting for us to make the move on you, but now the shoe is on the other foot.

Seriously though, here are some tips for the girls out there in a couple that want to find another girl. (Guys, remember to shut the fuck up and let her work what SHE wants)

1) Learn to see with the eyes of a predator instead of prey. What is it that YOU did when going out to attract some attention before you became part of a couple? Look for the girl that is doing those things.

2) The "hawty", the most beautiful woman in the place with every pair of eyes on her has her choice. Lower your sights just a touch to see the other women as well. There will be one that is almost, but not quite, as goddess touched as the burning flame at the center of attention and wants that damn attention, damn it! You'll see her shoot dirty looks at the one getting all of the looks from everyone else.

3) Buy her a drink. Invite her to sit with you. Talk with her. You KNOW how you reacted when you were getting attention you liked versus attention that made you a bit uncomfortable. If she's digging it, try a non-sexual touch first and check her response. Gradually turn up the heat. When the two of you are kissing is the time to ask if she would like to come with the two of you somewhere a little more private. If at any point she starts acting more nervous than excited, back off and toss her back, friendly if you please, and cast your hook again. After the second one, everybody in that place will know you are on the prowl. Give it about ten minutes for someone to sniff the bait and if no one does, leave. Change clubs before trying again.

4) Last but possibly most important. There is a reason the bathroom is on the other end of the house from the kitchen. Friends and co-workers should be approached very cautiously if at all. If you have any doubt at all, don't. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a weekend getaway to another city and while you are there, checking into the same spots you would have when you were single and lonely and while you were waiting for Mr. Right wanted to check out Mr. Forrightnow. In fact, the first time, it would be much, much easier to do it that way.

Hope that helps somebody. If not, I will leave you with these last two words.

Vegas, baby.