Best dating site to find a Domme

[stx1100]

Hello, as with a lot of people here, i lurk in the shadows. Sorry for not contributing. i lost my Domme as She moved across the country. i having a business and ties to here in New England had to stay.

i feel empty inside without having a Mistress. i feel most free (which most subs would agree) when kneeling naked before a Mistress awaiting Her command and ready to serve Her.

i am an attractive, educated guy and can find women, but the relationships feel shallow and empty, not the depth that i have felt when being owned and collared by a Domme.

Anyway, what is the best dating sites for me to find a potential Domme. i stumbled upon my last Mistress through c.l. through luck. She realized that i was a natural sub that was hidden. She coaxed it out of me, making me realize that i am truly a sub that has always been attracted to strong women. Funny, i thought it was just that i was attracted to bitchy women and enjoyed a challenge.

i have tried c.l., but i just get responses from fin Dommes. I looked online and there are just so many dating sites for BDSM. Any suggestions. Thank you for your time.

 

[CutieMouse]

Why limit yourself to BDSM dating sites? A lot of kinky people use OKCupid - it seems to give the most options re: orientation, and the profile questions they offer include BDSM topics.

If you go that route, I do strongly suggest answering a few hundred questions (across multiple topics); it's the best way to let the algorithms do their work & link compatible profiles. It may still be an uphill battle (male submissives tend to outnumber female dominants, in my experience), but anything is possible!

 

[MastersDelight]

It's not a dating site, but Fetlife will let you find events where there are lots of local like minded people. You can try to find a Domme that way. Wish I could be more help. Good luck!

 

[stx1100]

Thank you for the suggestions. I will try them both.

 

[box13]

"fin Dommes" ....? Financial Dommes? Yes, there's lots of those.

2nd on Fetlife suggestion. Someone will talk about munches where you can hangout with others in some kind of environment...vanilla or whatever. In a more populated area that seems like it would work pretty well. Never done it, myself.

Good luck.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I tried the dating site thing for a while but haven't really pursued it in a long while. I was on Alt.com for a while, but that one is a pay to respond- sure it's "free" to sign up, but you have to be a paying member to actually be able to contact anyone (which is the whole point of signing up in the first place, so in other words, its not really "free," is it.) The numbers were heavily skewered towards men seeking women (as opposed to the other way around) and I suspect that is the case with most dating sites, especially BDSM related, sadly.

Collarme/collarspace really WAS free to join in the true sense, except: the men to women ratio was just as bad as Alt.com and, of the dominant women who were on there, a sizable percentage of them had their only listed BDSM interest as "financial domination" (gee, fancy that.)

One thing I picked up from online dating is, ANYONE can be a financial domme- all you need is a picture of an attractive woman (it doesn't need to actually be your picture- heck you don't even need to actually be female to pull it off!) and a profile, and the idea is, you can find enough horny men with more money than sense to keep your bills paid. Easy money. You can tell I'm a bit cynical here, but I've seen a bit too much of this kind of thing online.

 

[stx1100]

Thanks for the info pax. i have seen at least one fake on c.l. She insisted that i pay Her a tribute before We/we would meet to show that i was real. i told Her that i wanted to hand it to Her in person, but She said She wanted it before.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I had a very similar experience to that very recently, but on Backpage.com. (I posted about it in another thread I think.)

I responded to a hot looking professional domme whose interests seem inticing to me, but she said she wanted a $200 gift card sent to her before she would even meet me for the first time. I dug deeper, and eventually discovered that the "woman"(?) whose ad I was interested in had actually posted two other identical ads- in two different cities that were both clear across the country from me. I know some people travel for business, but, geez! I just wasn't buying it.