Best Advice?

[The_Fractal_King]

From my shrink in high-school:

People will care a lot more if you know when to stop and change direction than if you are able to push yourself to the breaking point.

 

[GoldenGams]

If you're having trouble with someone subordinate to you, and you have to mention who is in charge or bring up rank, one of the two of you is wrong.. Don't let it be you.

Interestingly enough, shortly after he got promoted to Major, he was always mentioning his new rank. That is why I remembered his quote so well

OMG -- I was part of a meeting last year where some of my colleagues brought some concerns to the attention of our superior, and all we got back was, "Well, you work for me." None of the issues (neither theirs nor mine (I had a different one)) were ever addressed and I am still itching to leave 10 months later.

My best advice was three little words from my dad -- Life goes on. No matter how badly I think I've screwed up, I can get up tomorrow morning and be a little further away from it.

 

[ms.read]

the best...

"The best way escape a problem is to solve it."
"It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan."
"It does not matter how slowly you get there, so long as you do not stop."
This peice of advice is really working for me now. I have faced my fear of dentists. ( so far, keep yor fingers crossed for me!) I need to have over 5 grand of work done on my teeth.
I don't drive, so I don't travel much. I need a license, so I applied for my permit. My test is june 3!
I cleaned my house yesterday. To most of you out there this would be no big feat, but you are staring at the words of someone who was a perpetual messmaker. I got rid of nine ( count'em) bags of clothes, 3 bags + 4 big boxes of trash, and a bit of junk. I can now rest easy in the knowlege that I will always be able to walk around the bed in the bedroom, I can shake my booty in the parlor without knocking a hundred items over, and I can cook a meal in less time than it does to clean the counters in the kitchen. I am pretty damn proud of myself, but am humbled by the shame of living in such a sorry state in the first place.

So now, I give you another peice of advice:

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain."

Also, "Doing the best in this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment."

where did all this advice come from? A book entitled, " 1001 smartest things ever said." it really has changed my life.

 

[Jenny_Kawaii]

"Put your "big-girl" pants on and get the fuck over it."

 

[damppanties]

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[lesbiaphrodite]

A true lady always knows when it's time to leave.

 

[ms.read]

bump!


Love is a choice

 

[TE999]

My mother was of old New England stock, and her favorite expressions were:

You can't run by someone else's lights.

What can't be cured, must be endured.

Drive a hard bargain and stick to it.

An honest days work for an honest day's pay.

and

Don't follow leaders, watch the parking meters.

Um...no...that last one was said by Bob Dylan. It made sense at the time.

 

[PublicAffection]

It doesn't matter who caused the problem, so don't point fingers. What really matters is who comes up with the solution to make sure it doesn't happen again.

(Lesson learned this week)

 

[Rob_mDear]

My mom told me...

Be good.
If you won't be good, be careful.
If you won't be careful, name it after me.

 

[michchick98]

What is the best advice you've given or gotten and how has it affected/effected you in the long run?

"If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

My mom used to always say that to me and to my brother. We were always taking stuff apart to see how it worked and could never get it back together. That was all she would ever say when we "broke" our toys...LOL.

Of course, it still applies today, but I've long since gone beyond the taking things apart phase of my life. Now I put things together daily at my job and most of the time they work the first time around.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

You've got two choices: live or die.

 

[WRJames]

Never ignore a problem.
Actually, the way this was orignally given to me was "never let anything go." It was a piece of advice from my second line manager when I first went into management. His example -- your employee wanders in five minutes late (myu comapany used to be extremely anal about working hours) -- if you ignore it, then you've permitted it. Find out the first time why it happened.

Well, my first reaction was that this was crazy -- it went against anything I had ever conceived about being a "nice" "tolerant" person. But his point was -- you are going to have to face up to the problem eventually. Better to do it at once. Better to show that you are paying attention, that you are consistent.

My children were very young at the time, and I started to deal with them the same way.

Closely related to the first piece of advice -- never make your presence an unusual event.

Again, from the second line. This one is easier to understand. Try to talk to each employee every day. Make sure that they know you are there, that you care what they are doing, again, that you are paying attention. Of course, this applies to children too, even more so.

I actually did not stay in management for very long. But my children certainly benefited from those precepts.

 

[jomar]

The professor who directed my master's thesis told me: "When someone asks you a question, and you need a few minutes to think before answering, take those few minutes! Don't feel obligated to talk until you're certain of what you really want to say."

This advice made a huge difference for me because it taught me the value of pausing to truly consider things before diving headlong into answers. Prior to that time, I had not done so.

In the long-term, I believe that advice also taught me that silence during communication is not always a bad thing.

Another helpful one is to simply ask a person "Why do you ask?" when they ask you something. It may change your response.

There's a lot of good stuff on this page.

I wish I had time to assemble a 'best of' in one place. (Hint hint . . .)

There are several small books out about 'Dad's wisdom and helpful life hints.'