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BlackShanglan said:
Smart horsie.
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Smart horsie.
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Sub- for the right top.CharleyH said:Still do not find something to post too. Are you all subs?
In reading lit and other forums - I wonder who is sub and who is strong. I do think it comes out in posts - this post is simply direct.
That's a mighty big if! I would never bottom for anyone who uses "sub" as a perjorative.
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Stella_Omega said:Sub- for the right top.
That's a mighty big if! I would never bottom for anyone who uses "sub" as a perjorative.
Good point. I know of several who are not weaklings, regardless of their predisposition.
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"I wonder who is sub and who is strong"
"are you strong? Weak? Dom? I say sub"
Oh, you crack me up.
"are you strong? Weak? Dom? I say sub"
Oh, you crack me up.
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I get a bigger thrill from tying than being tied but most of my pleasure evolves from pleasuring.
You work it out...
You work it out...
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Honey123 said:
I don't know about Charley, but I suspect that you are a switch.
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Honey123 said:
Huh?
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Honey123 said:
Yep, thought so. Your hint there kind of gave me that idea. You like the change back and forth from sub to Domme, back to normal, then maybe Domme to sub. That's common, actually. The power exchange, as a friend of mine once said, is part of the fun for a lot of people.
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SEVERUSMAX said:
I find it an incredible turn on to make someone melt before my eyes....and I to be able to melt by someone just looking at me....although, that's not the definition of Sub and Domme...
I do believe that if given the chance, I'd be an incredible Domme....I like the idea of having that sexual power...to make someone do what I want on command...to have them on their knees....but, I also want to be controlled..
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Honey123 said:
Yep, excellent switch material. If you enjoy both situations, or even the idea of them, that's an indication of being a natural switch. Have you ever explored or tried to explore either your Domme or sub sides?
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CharleyH said:Still do not find something to post too. Are you all subs?
In reading lit and other forums - I wonder who is sub and who is strong. I do think it comes out in posts - this post is simply direct.
I don't understand the question. Are you saying that because you're not interested enough in any of the threads to post in them that everyone msut be submissive, sexually or otherwise? What is the logical connection between the two?
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You can not delineate who is a sub and who is dom by strength. subs are just as strong or even stronger than some doms. i know what you meant but i thought i would interject this.CharleyH said:
there is power in letting go
there is power in giving over
there is strength in acceptance.
my point of view.
v~
(betwixt and between)
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Honey123 said:no...
Don't get too down about that. It's common. Everyone in BDSM, top, bottom, or switch, had to start somewhere. I can PM you some sites or info that you can use to explore that more if you wish.
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weeelll...Honey123 said:no...
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Stella_Omega said:weeelll...
Yes, let's encourage her. Plenty of kisses.
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I was thinking about this myself, last night- could't post coherently, though, so I gave up.LadyJeanne said:
I remember when I was new to the scene and finally "Out" how exciting- and disorienting- it was. I saw Top and bottom behavior everywhere. I bet I seemed obnoxious a lot of the time. (seemed? what am I saying!)
A note to new tops- relax! You can accept a compliment, or sympathy, or a jesting remark without jeopardising your status
Give yourself permission to simmer down a little... 
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vella_ms said:
Agree 1000%
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Stella_Omega said:I was thinking about this myself, last night- could't post coherently, though, so I gave up.
I remember when I was new to the scene and finally "Out" how exciting- and disorienting- it was. I saw Top and bottom behavior everywhere. I bet I seemed obnoxious a lot of the time. (seemed? what am I saying!)
A note to new tops- relax! You can accept a compliment, or sympathy, or a jesting remark without jeopardising your status
Well stated. I'm only 3 years actively into the lifestyle, so I would have agree with you there. There is a tendency to try to be tough and hard and serious and stern all of the time. It's not about that. It's about being yourself and having fun, as well as helping the bottom have fun and be himself/herself too. It took me a little while to realize that.
As always, you have useful remarks and advice on that topic.
Being an innocent in these things - whose that laughing? - I'm not sure what all the fuss is about. I can be whatever my SO want's me to be. It seems to have worked. She only gets cross when I obsessively follow her around the house trying to get into her underwear.
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neonlyte said:
That's a good sign of a healthy libido. Or did you mean to WEAR her undies? Well, that's just being yourself too, which is healthy as well.
