Bedding a Married woman

[AuntLuvr]

Has anyone had any sexual experiences with a married woman. I have this married woman that I met about a year ago...and It seems as though she enjoys flirting with me and has made comments to me aboout being a "very independent woman"!

What would be the best way to approach her about having a secret relationship together that woud involve tons of sex..I'm just alittle nervousabout breechig the subject with her and I'm curious to find out if she's hinting toward me with the comments she makes that she wants to get into my pants and shes waiting for me to make the first move or what?

If anyone has advice let me know

thanks
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[SubNebGuy]

my first question: are you prepared to destroy someone's marriage just to get your rocks off?

I'm all for sex, but if her husband isn't ok with her screwing other people, back away.

i'm pretty open minded, but marriage is sacred. if both parties aren't 'in the know' about the swinging ways of the offending partner, bad stuff can happen.

 

[Bert Notorius]

I sleep with a married woman every night of the week and let me tell you- it's pretty freakin' great!

 

[Wyldfire]

I sleep with a married woman every night of the week and let me tell you- it's pretty freakin' great!

Yeah, you better say that about your wife. lol.

 

[Wyldfire]

my first question: are you prepared to destroy someone's marriage just to get your rocks off?

I'm all for sex, but if her husband isn't ok with her screwing other people, back away.

i'm pretty open minded, but marriage is sacred. if both parties aren't 'in the know' about the swinging ways of the offending partner, bad stuff can happen.

A freaking men. Helping someone cheat on thier spouse guarentees you a place in a special hell. The one reserved for rapists and child molesters. The main devils there all look like guys you'd see in Jail telling you your new name is glove.

 

[Wise_Man]

my first question: are you prepared to destroy someone's marriage just to get your rocks off?

I'm all for sex, but if her husband isn't ok with her screwing other people, back away.

i'm pretty open minded, but marriage is sacred. if both parties aren't 'in the know' about the swinging ways of the offending partner, bad stuff can happen.

I would never do it but if sum1 is ready to cheat then the marriage is dead

 

[Linyari]

I would never do it but if sum1 is ready to cheat then the marriage is dead

Not necessarily. Aside from the people that just cheat because it's what they do, lots of marriages are recoverable after an affair. Statistically, most marriages do not end after an affair.

But you're right that when the average person goes looking elsewhere it does mean that the marriage is in trouble. Such a silly thing, because cheating never fixes things and only makes them worse. Much, much, much worse. I've always felt that it just made more sense to end the marriage if you think it's beyond hope because the headache of trying to put it back together after an affair is so excessive. Just kill it off and be done with it. Because it's going to be there for the rest of the marriage, even if you fall back in love with your spouse.

But I deal with a lot of people who have the issue of a cheating spouse in their marriage who do eventually work it out and go on to have very happy and long marriages.

(Note: This doesn't mean I condone being the Other Man/Woman. I think it's kind of a scuzzy thing to do. I'll sleep with a lot of people, but being attached immediately makes you a no go for me. It's that whole karma thing.)

 

[Bert Notorius]

I think I would be more likely to forgive my wife over a fling than she would if I had one. Do men and women view sexual fidelity differently or is it totally an individual thing? If my wife came to me and told me she'd slept with a guy on a business trip because she'd had a few and got horny, I could get over that. If she told me she slept with a guy because she's not in love with me anymore, it would crush me. If I slept with another woman for any reason, she'd cut my balls off. Does it really just boil down to men are in it for the sex and women for the, I don't know, companionship- no, wrong word, total commitment? Shit, I'm rambling.

But none of any of that fits swingers whatsoever. I'm so confused.

 

[Linyari]

I think I would be more likely to forgive my wife over a fling than she would if I had one. Do men and women view sexual fidelity differently or is it totally an individual thing? If my wife came to me and told me she'd slept with a guy on a business trip because she'd had a few and got horny, I could get over that. If she told me she slept with a guy because she's not in love with me anymore, it would crush me. If I slept with another woman for any reason, she'd cut my balls off. Does it really just boil down to men are in it for the sex and women for the, I don't know, companionship- no, wrong word, total commitment? Shit, I'm rambling.

But none of any of that fits swingers whatsoever. I'm so confused.

My husband has told me repeatedly that if I slept with someone else and it was just a fling, he'd be able to forgive me without a whole lot of issue.

But if I had an actual affair where I really cared about the person I slept with, it would crush him.

Me, I'd be pissy either way. However, I would be more pissy about an emotional affair. But we are swingers, and while we may share sex, emotional connections are sacred. *shrug*

 

[MaxAgain]

Statistically, most marriages do not end after an affair.

And if I told you you had a 90% chance of surviving an airplane crash that was going to happen, would you still fly?

I wouldn't want that kind of responsibility for someone else's life.

 

[Poetic_Musings]

Has anyone had any sexual experiences with a married woman. I have this married woman that I met about a year ago...and It seems as though she enjoys flirting with me and has made comments to me aboout being a "very independent woman"!

What would be the best way to approach her about having a secret relationship together that woud involve tons of sex..I'm just alittle nervousabout breechig the subject with her and I'm curious to find out if she's hinting toward me with the comments she makes that she wants to get into my pants and shes waiting for me to make the first move or what?

If anyone has advice let me know

thanks
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Very few people like you less after making a move on them, even if they reject you - it gives them psychological power.

Only one way to find out - make a move.

 

[Not Normal]

Has anyone had any sexual experiences with a married woman. I have this married woman that I met about a year ago...and It seems as though she enjoys flirting with me and has made comments to me aboout being a "very independent woman"!

What would be the best way to approach her about having a secret relationship together that woud involve tons of sex..I'm just alittle nervousabout breechig the subject with her and I'm curious to find out if she's hinting toward me with the comments she makes that she wants to get into my pants and shes waiting for me to make the first move or what?

If anyone has advice let me know

thanks
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I'm gonna make a guess here and say you're not married, and probably have never been married.

When someone is married it feels good to flirt a little and get flirted with. Its a little ego boost that means a little more than when you were single. It says "I still got it." It does not (usually) mean that the person is looking to go beyond some harmless flirting.

And...as mentioned sleeping with a married person is a scuzzy thing to do.

 

[Carnevil9]

I say go for it. Nobody misses a slice off a cut loaf......Carney

 

[RuReal]

From someone who did not mean to, but got involved with a married woman a while back I have something to say!

Don't do it. It was one of the things that I figured I would never ever do, but I guess that is a lesson to all never say never. Heart tends to beat out the mind sometimes.

It will cause you endless pain not to mention the pain it can cause others. Hell even years later thinking about this woman disturbs me. I am not sure if it is her or how fucking stupid I was to get involved with her.

From a mans point of view leave her alone guy so not worthy it no matter how hot she is, or how good she could be in the sack not worth it at all.

 

[eudaemonia]

These things generally do not end well. Adding to that the fact that she's your aunt ... well ...

If you've got the nerve to do it and can live with any possible consequence*, then by all means.

* -- emotional pain, eventual self-loathing, her divorce, unplanned pregnancy, etc.

 

[AuntLuvr]

well, I really hit a strong social nerve when i posted this...WOW I didn't think it would get this in depth....Well I do believe she is a swinger..so does that make any difference

 

[yoshimitsu]

well, I really hit a strong social nerve when i posted this...WOW I didn't think it would get this in depth....Well I do believe she is a swinger..so does that make any difference

If when you say secret relationship you mean no one in the outside world knows but her husband is ok with it then that could make a difference.
If by secret relationship you mean her husband doesn't know about it then it probably doesn't make a difference but that would depend on how their relationship is set up.

 

[RuReal]

It is almost too easy to strike a nerve on a web site, but what I am saying is it probably is not worth the issues. No matter what she says or the signals she is giving off.

well, I really hit a strong social nerve when i posted this...WOW I didn't think it would get this in depth....Well I do believe she is a swinger..so does that make any difference

 

[SubNebGuy]

When someone is married it feels good to flirt a little and get flirted with. Its a little ego boost that means a little more than when you were single. It says "I still got it." It does not (usually) mean that the person is looking to go beyond some harmless flirting.

And...as mentioned sleeping with a married person is a scuzzy thing to do.

truer words have never been spoken. I love to flirt with a particular female friend of mine.
and we both know nothing will come of it...its just a friendly ego stroking for a couple of friends that need a confidence boost from time to time.

 

[Troffman]

Has anyone had any sexual experiences with a married woman. I have this married woman that I met about a year ago...and It seems as though she enjoys flirting with me and has made comments to me aboout being a "very independent woman"!

What would be the best way to approach her about having a secret relationship together that woud involve tons of sex..I'm just alittle nervousabout breechig the subject with her and I'm curious to find out if she's hinting toward me with the comments she makes that she wants to get into my pants and shes waiting for me to make the first move or what?

If anyone has advice let me know

thanks
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You can do this AuntLuvr no problems
It just takes time and a strategy (ive got one that works for me).
SLIME YOUR WAY IN

 

[lovelorn4u69]

The sex wll be great but the ending regret much greater

 

[borg3of4]

You've got a lot of good advice with a lot of good reasons not to pursue this further . You should listen to it. But....... What to hell, I say fuck her . You only go around once . Life would be really dull if you did everything you were supposed to.

 

[AuntLuvr]

I just wanted to add this. over half the replies on here are talking about how I will regret it and cause alot of distress. How will I feel regret? I'm single, no attachments....how will it cause me headaches? I mean I'm not screwing up MY life...I'm free to do what I want....YOur concern shouldn't be aboout me...it should be more focusedon why SHe wants to do this..and screw up her life..or whatever...If she wants to play like she's single and live with herself for going through with it then tha's her business. I have no cualms about it.

 

[borg3of4]

I just wanted to add this. over half the replies on here are talking about how I will regret it and cause alot of distress. How will I feel regret? I'm single, no attachments....how will it cause me headaches? I mean I'm not screwing up MY life...I'm free to do what I want....YOur concern shouldn't be aboout me...it should be more focusedon why SHe wants to do this..and screw up her life..or whatever...If she wants to play like she's single and live with herself for going through with it then tha's her business. I have no cualms about it.

Your right . She's not a babe in the woods . She's not an innocent that you lied to, or tricked , or pretended to be someone your not so you could get into her pants. She is a mature ,knowledgeable consenting adult and if she wants to fool around , it's her choice . It may just as well be with you .

Obviously it's not real good idea ,but again " What the hell "
Actually I don't think you are charting new territory here . I suspect that somewhere/sometime in the history of man someone has slept with a married woman other than her husband .

 

[Bert Notorius]

I just wanted to add this. over half the replies on here are talking about how I will regret it and cause alot of distress. How will I feel regret? I'm single, no attachments....how will it cause me headaches? I mean I'm not screwing up MY life...I'm free to do what I want....YOur concern shouldn't be aboout me...it should be more focusedon why SHe wants to do this..and screw up her life..or whatever...If she wants to play like she's single and live with herself for going through with it then tha's her business. I have no cualms about it.

Do you know how many guys are shot, stabbed, punched, maimed, lacerated, bruised, slapped, embarassed every year by jeaolous husbands?

A lot.

That's the beauty of natural selection I guess...