Beauty

[MorgaineLaFay]

Is it really skin deep?

I wonder, how it differs for the sexes.

I know as I grow older, I notice I am not looking for a 6 pack of abs to take home with me. Not to say I don't notice attractive people, of either sex. But I notice the mouth first. A good set of lips, have you.

Do men, in general, need an attractive barbie doll on their arm?

And then woman, what do you want?

Do looks matter?

Do you take the time to get to know a stranger if they don't catch your eye with their looks?

Does your attraction starat instantly or does it build?

 

[JazzManJim]

Do looks matter?

Absolutely it does.

Spend ten minutes in a bar and look around.

Read a few of the threads on the boards here.

I'll admit that being online gives personality a premium over looks, but I can count scores of women who have completely stopped talking to me altogether once they got a look at my picture. I've seen it happen with other folks, too.

So, yeah.

 

[perks]

it's the look of my left ring finger that seems to stop most people.

 

[ShyGuy68]

Is it really skin deep?

This is a hard question. I often think that beauty depends on the woman, and if she's comfortable with who she is, and her looks.

Do men, in general, need an attractive barbie doll on their arm?

No I prefer somebody that I can talk to, laugh with, lean on when I'm sad, who's shoulder I can cry at if needed.

Do looks matter?

She have to have something that I'm attracted to, either her personality, eyes, face or what else catches my eye.

Do you take the time to get to know a stranger if they don't catch your eye with their looks?

Yes I do try to do that, but sometimes I do fail as well.

Does your attraction starat instantly or does it build?

It can go both ways.

Great thread by the way!

 

[binkley]

Intelligence, kindness, vitality, quirkiness, comfortability, open-mindednes; these all do it for me.

Few things catch my eye quicker than that certain kind of smile that says "there's a real person behind this smile, someone worth talking to".

But I'm a sap.

 

[Wiggles]

There are different kinds of beauty. I guess you'll be attracted to whatever you're looking for at that moment in time.

Physical attributes play a big role in attraction. But I believe the beauty inside is more important. A hot body might get a lay, but a beautiful mind and heart are more likely to find love. Sometimes you get both, sometimes neither.

Just my opinion.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I wear a ring. It doesn't seem to stop anyone.

As far as...Intelligence, kindness, vitality, quirkiness, comfortability, open-mindednes; You can't SEE these things when you first see someone. For this I wonder, do you give a so-so looking person a chance?

I'm no size 6 anymore. I use to strive to be, a year or so ago. But I have no need for it. I am a woman. I have an awesome body. It's not perfect by any means. But I am very comfortable in my skin. I carry myself like I am. For this I am happy.

But in someone else's eyes, I may not be, worth taking that second chance, to stop and talk to.

What makes you stop, and give that person your attention? If they haven't grabbed it with their appearance in general?

 

[floridaguy64]

I wear a left finger ring as well.......

I wear a ring. It doesn't seem to stop anyone.

As far as...Intelligence, kindness, vitality, quirkiness, comfortability, open-mindednes; You can't SEE these things when you first see someone. For this I wonder, do you give a so-so looking person a chance?

I'm no size 6 anymore. I use to strive to be, a year or so ago. But I have no need for it. I am a woman. I have an awesome body. It's not perfect by any means. But I am very comfortable in my skin. I carry myself like I am. For this I am happy.

But in someone else's eyes, I may not be, worth taking that second chance, to stop and talk to.

What makes you stop, and give that person your attention? If they haven't grabbed it with their appearance in general?

What gets my attention is the way a woman carries herself in public. That says to me that she is either confident and sure of herself....... or not. The ring issue matters not to me.... If I like you upon first glance, sex is not the reason I might initiate a conversation with you. At my ripe age of 39, one can never have too much in the way of friendship. And if sex happens, then that I would consider one of life's bonuses, and not a prerequisite for attraction.

 

[perks]

well, hmmmmm, if a wedding ring isn't stopping them, maybe it is my looks.

 

[floridaguy64]

well, hmmmmm, if a wedding ring isn't stopping them, maybe it is my looks.

Maybe it's them...... ever wondered why most singles shy away from the marrieds? I have and quite often.......... just a thought.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

well, hmmmmm, if a wedding ring isn't stopping them, maybe it is my looks.

Ya that is it. Fucking Italian-Scottish babe makes me turn the way every time.

You know that isn't what I meant...but I just gotts say it.

 

[perks]

Ya that is it. Fucking Italian-Scottish babe makes me turn the way every time.

You know that isn't what I meant...but I just gotts say it.

I didn't mean you meant that, silly.

I was just meaning, that I'd hope the ring being a reason was a bit more deep than if my hair were pretty or not, you know?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Just for the record. Or my record... I think singles hit on married people because there is no chance of commitment.

 

[floridaguy64]

Ya that is it. Fucking Italian-Scottish babe makes me turn the way every time.

You know that isn't what I meant...but I just gotts say it.

Did ya say Italian and Scottish?................ hmmm, yummy!

Scots/Irish here............ there be lots o passion in that thar combo!

 

[floridaguy64]

Just for the record. Or my record... I think singles hit on married people because there is no chance of comitment.

Maybe....... I've never had that occur though......

 

[perks]

Just for the record. Or my record... I think singles hit on married people because there is no chance of comitment.

but we know that's not true, don't we?

 

[perks]

Did ya say Italian and Scottish?................ hmmm, yummy!

Scots/Irish here............ there be lots o passion in that thar combo!

thank you

 

[floridaguy64]

thank you

anytime doll.......... anytime!

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

but we know that's not true, don't we?

Damn.

And yeah.

You're right.


<insert flame here>







Fuck'em

 

[floridaguy64]

Damn.

And yeah.

You're right.


<insert flame here>







Fuck'em

What about marrieds hitting on marrieds?

Does this really occur and how often?.... I currently reside in Atlanta and the only time I hear of this is with couples that swing.

 

[perks]

What about marrieds hitting on marrieds?

Does this really occur and how often?.... I currently reside in Atlanta and the only time I hear of this is with couples that swing.

lol, it happens, probably more than the single thing, because they're both looking for something more, but not looking to break up the marriage, safety, see?

 

[floridaguy64]

lol, it happens, probably more than the single thing, because they're both looking for something more, but not looking to break up the marriage, safety, see?

I must either be blind or niave............. I strike up conersations for conversation's sake........ am I missing something?

 

[AspiringToBe]

Doesn't it make you wonder where the balance is between what people say and how they act? I have heard so many people say that they are attracted to personality first, but upon research of the topic in the real world, I have to say that more often I am noticed for my hair or breasts or legs prior to any efforts to gain insight on my personality.

Sorry if I busted in on someone's territory here. I am new. Chastise me at will.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Married people tend to look for a good soul-fuck.

No strings attached, but please meet me at so&so, same time next week. All during their lunch break.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Doesn't it make you wonder where the balance is between what people say and how they act? I have heard so many people say that they are attracted to personality first, but upon research of the topic in the real world, I have to say that more often I am noticed for my hair or breasts or legs prior to any efforts to gain insight on my personality.

Sorry if I busted in on someone's territory here. I am new. Chastise me at will.

Welcome Darlin.