Bdsm

[Olivianna]

or there is something about me that calls out for a little roughin' up.

 

[LateralMovement]

Either way: It's pic time. Kthx.

 

[Sean]

you are so bloody transparent.

Isn't he though? I suspect he's never been laid in his miserable life.

 

[Hell Kat]

Isn't he though? I suspect he's never been laid in his miserable life.

probably not but whatever happens i'm still not answering his question so what a waste of a thread.

 

[MechaBlade]

I wouldn't condemn anyone for their choices either. However, I read an article by a woman "in the lifestyle." She talked about how in the morning, she has to get up get the kids ready and housework done, bathe and then present herself to her "Master". Wake him up while she's sitting on her knees, palms up, then wait for his "inspection". He would tell her if she needed to shave, cut her fingernails/toenails, change her nailpolish. He controlled every aspect of her life beyond the day to day stuff in which he wanted nothing to do with it. If she gained a few pounds he would with hold food from her. All of this was for her own good of course.

This doesn't sound like a lifestyle to me, but more like thinly veiled abuse.

Abuse can only occur when one party doesn't like what's happening.

 

[~Avalon~]

Abuse can only occur when one party doesn't like what's happening.

hmm
interesting thought.

However, a lot of people are abused simply because they don't think they're worthy of anything else. And someone in a weakened mental state may in fact enjoy the abuse, but it doesn't mean it isn't abuse.

I'm not saying that's fact for everyone. As I said it seems like thinly veiled abuse. not is IS abuse.

 

[MechaBlade]

hmm
interesting thought.

However, a lot of people are abused simply because they don't think they're worthy of anything else. And someone in a weakened mental state may in fact enjoy the abuse, but it doesn't mean it isn't abuse.

Yes it does. Or it at least has to be damaging in some way. Otherwise, how do we tell it apart from good treatment?

 

[~Avalon~]

Yes it does. Or it at least has to be damaging in some way. Otherwise, how do we tell it apart from good treatment?

hmm
I really do get what you're saying.
There really are plenty of people who can't tell it apart from good treatment.
In the case I described, if the woman is happy then more power to her. I just have a hard time believing that having every single aspect of your life controlled by someone could make anyone happy.
I don't think that all D/s relationships are abusive. But, I do think that your Master locking the fridge and controlling what you eat because you've gained 3lbs is abusive.

 

[Retrieval]

i find the majority of men i have been with have enjoyed holding me down, pulling my hair, and dominating me in other ways--to the extent that i have to believe this is quite commonplace behavior in males.

I don't think that qualifies as BDSM.

 

[Sean]

hmm
I really do get what you're saying.
There really are plenty of people who can't tell it apart from good treatment.
In the case I described, if the woman is happy then more power to her. I just have a hard time believing that having every single aspect of your life controlled by someone could make anyone happy.
I don't think that all D/s relationships are abusive. But, I do think that your Master locking the fridge and controlling what you eat because you've gained 3lbs is abusive.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=355882&highlight=list

 

[Retrieval]

probably not but whatever happens i'm still not answering his question so what a waste of a thread.

You won't answer, therefore it's a waste of a thread?

So what you're saying is, any thread that is actually a question is pointless unless you answer it.
HAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

[~Avalon~]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=355882&highlight=list

I'll have to read that later.
right now I have to go make pancakes for my kids, who are far more controlling of my life than any guy has ever been.

 

[Hester]

I don't think that qualifies as BDSM.

then please tell us what does "qualify" as bdsm

 

[Retrieval]

then please tell us what does "qualify" as bdsm

Look it up, there are thousands of sources on the subject. I'm not into typing out long posts.

 

[Hester]

Look it up, there are thousands of sources on the subject. I'm not into typing out long posts.

you claimed Oli's post didn't qualify. i'm sure she has read some of this material, as have i. if you are going to "disqualify" someone's post then tell us why. otherwise, let her define it as she likes.

 

[pink]

Before anybody says anything, no, this does not belong in the BDSM section. The people over there are obviously into it.

I want to know about the people that are not into it so much that they can be described as bondage, dominants or sadomasochists.


Do you think it's weird?

Are you curious to try certain aspects of BDSM but haven't for whatever reason?

Have you tried it but found it too extreme?

Had a bad experience that you never want to repeat?

Fantasised about it but can't find an interested partner?

What are your views on it?

i don't understand the need for extreme pain that others need. i myself wouldn't mind a milder form, just to increase the endorphins and nerve endings in my body. i have found someone to do this with and in time, we will. Bondage and D/s comes much more naturally to me.

 

[bisexplicit]

I like a dominant, powerful man who knows what he wants, and is convinced of his right to take it - not someone who is into creating a "scene" involving some elaborate bondage set-up. I'm not entirely sure where my tastes and preferences fall on the BDSM scale.

 

[Faneros]

I think I would enjoy BDSM, but I know I wouldn't want my balls stepped on. I do have my limits!

 

[rosco rathbone]

i--to the extent that i have to believe this is quite commonplace behavior in males.

That's what I've always said.

 

[pink]

I think I would enjoy BDSM, but I know I wouldn't want my balls stepped on. I do have my limits!

i would totally step on your balls.

 

[Retrieval]

you claimed Oli's post didn't qualify. i'm sure she has read some of this material, as have i. if you are going to "disqualify" someone's post then tell us why. otherwise, let her define it as she likes.

If what she says qualifies as BDSM, then what she's saying is; Whenever sex becomes a bit rough it can then be classed as BDSM.

 

[Olivianna]

I don't think that qualifies as BDSM.

i think of so-called BDSM as indicative of a particular attitude. if you're going to say that 'BDSM' necessitates the use of aluminum handcuffs, feather teasers, and a certain type of nipple clamp, i'd have to argue that all that shite is bs.

 

[Trajal]

I've never really had a purely non-bdsm relationship. It's been a part of my life since my initial sexual awakenings really, so feels completely natural.

I live in a 24/7 D/s relationship with my girlfriend and we're perfectly normal well balanced people. However she likes to give up the power of many decisions and choices to me.

She's perfectly capable of making her own decisions and got through a great deal of adversity without me, but she enjoys giving that control over. I enjoy taking it. It's a mutual thing.

We of course do the bondage/pain stuff in bed, she's not into pain as much as some of my past girlfriends, but she's more into bondage and slavery than some of them so whatever, the levels we have found work very well within our own personal and mutual chemistry.

Some people enjoy it, some don't. Some people like bananas, some hate them. Whatever, it's just about personal choice. A lot of my friends know about this side of my life and I have to put up with the occasional joke, but other than that it's simply accepted.

I don't entirely understand why people get so worked up about it to be honest, if it's something you enjoy, go for it. No need for it to be considered taboo in any way.

 

[Hester]

That's what I've always said.

i think it's repressed in a lot of men, especially when in the presence of certain types of women.

i wouldn't say it's universal, but i do think it's part of "typical" male biology (hormones, esp testosterone, etc.) albeit in varying degrees and definitely modulated by social experience.

 

[Olivianna]

If what she says qualifies as BDSM, then what she's saying is; Whenever sex becomes a bit rough it can then be classed as BDSM.

fine, i'll elaborate--i don't think that the majority of men have a proclivity for wearing latex masks, sporting riding crops, or performing enemas on their sexual partners (i.e. bona fide 'BDSM', as you might say)--but, i do think that the majority of men do enjoy a bit or a lot of domination, enforcement of pain, and the such, when it comes to the roles they assume with their sexual partners. my point is that what you term 'BDSM'--a presumably members-only, marginal lifestyle choice--is in large part the crystallization (for lack of a better term) of an attitude towards sexuality that is shared/appreciated by the majority of men.