bdsm...where to start?

[lovechild27]

I have always been interested in BDSM. I would love more than nothing to be tied up, nipples clamped and pussy tortured. My bf now will role play with me, him being master. He wont go any further though. I will not force him, and love him so I wont go anywhere else to fulfill this. But are there any ideas of how I could maybe gently ease him into this? I know he hasnt really had any experience. I have talked to him, but hes pretty stubborn...I would like to maybe just show him instead....

 

[RisiaSkye]

Maybe you could find some particularly erotic BDSM-tinged reading, and share it with him. Take turns reading it to each other; look for pieces that express the fantasies you most want to explore with him.

It doesn't happen in a day, but over time, we learn each other's desires. Be patient with him. If he's already willing to take on the difficult dance of Master/slave, then it seems like he's interested. Make sure that you discuss the reasons for his reservations, also. It may be that he's afraid of hurting or disrespecting you, or other common "newbie" fears. These things can be addressed, and fairly easily, but only through open communication.

In any case, I hope it works out for you both.

Best,
RS

 

[papillon24]

Love child,

I understand your feeling. It just takes time as Risa said. I'm a switch but have not been a sud for years. My Bf at the time being has an enormous potential for being a wonderful Dom. It has taken around 6 months for him to get into the lifestyle just barely.

Be patient and don't push. He will come around sooner or later as he gets to know what your desires and turn-ons are. If he is truely into pleasing you than he will put that into practice.

Maybe you could do the whole Adult shop tour of you town and you could drop hints to things you like there. He might just buy you something as a gift and use it. Just a sugestion.