BDSM vs Lovemaking

[midwestyankee]

Let's be honest: is there anyone here who isn't flying the sex flag high?

My flagpole doesn't reach 90 degrees often any more, so even when I fly the flag it's not necessarily very high.

 

[Licia]

The book "50 shades of Gray" specifically the character of Christian Gray, is all about someone who only can have a relationship through BD/SM, that he is so screwed up that he cannot stand intimacy and BD/SM is a way to control things so someone doesn't violate his space. There are people who only relate through D/s,BD/SM or only can achieve intimacy through that, which to be honest concerns me, because then to me it is more like a crutch then an expression of who we are, as a facet of who we are...but that is me, if that gets them to where they need to be, well, that's theirs.

If that's what the book describes my ears are already full.

 

[Stella_Omega]

If that's what the book describes my ears are already full.

A lot of readers are saying that the book describes some very hot sex.

 

[Licia]

Don't you think it's OK if maybe a part of sex, at least, is about you?

*gasp*

Ya mean it's not?!

Anyway, partner centralization tends to happen for me only during BDSM stuff. Otherwise I drift from eat that muff like a soft serve ice cream cone to shit, gotta get the kid's permission form sent back to school. I do enjoy reading during otherwise, however.

 

[Licia]

A lot of readers are saying that the book describes some very hot sex.

Ha!

*paraphrases her last quote*

I do love to read during otherwise, however.

 

[Azalea]

A lot of readers are saying that the book describes some very hot sex.

It was pretty hot for me!