BDSM survey

[WriterDom]

I posted this in the Q&A thread but no one is doing it right. Maybe it's my directions. Out to the side of each activity, start by indicating with a yes or no if you have done it. Then rate the activity from 1 to 5 with one meaning you would do it if a partner really wanted you to, and 5 meaning it's insanely erotic to you. Or any number in-between if your feelings are mixed. If there is no way you'd do it, and have never done it then the proper response is no, no.


I put this together for a friend who is writing a story. Thought it might be fun for the brave submissives to fill out. Some of you might recognize the questions from the Bondage.com profiles. I don't guess they'll mind me using them if I give them a plug.


For each activity, tell whether you have tried it, and how much you like it (or the idea of it, if you haven't done it yet) by giving a rating from 1 to 5.

"No" means you would not do it under any circumstances, 1 means you would do it if a partner really wanted you to (but there's no sexual charge for you at all), and 5 means it's insanely erotic to you.

A. Sex

Anal Sex (get)
Ass Cheek Sex (get)
Vibrators (get)
Breast Sex (get)
Butt Plugs (get)
Dildo - Anal (get)
Dildo - Oral (get)
Dildo - Vaginal (get)
Double Penetration - Dildo (get)
Double Penetration - Multiple partners
Finger Sex (get)
Genital Intercourse
Hand Job (give)
Licking (get)
Licking (give)
Massage (give)
Oral Sex (give)
Phone Sex
Sex in Public
Sex Outdoors Yes
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time)
Teasing (get)
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get)
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get)

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get)
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get)
Bondage - Mental (get)
Bondage - Outdoors (get)
Bondage - Private (get)
Bondage - Public (get)
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet)
Breast Bondage (get)
Caging (get)
Crucifixion (get)
Mummification (get)
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get)
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get)
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get)
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get)
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get)
Restraint in public - under clothes (get)
Suspension (get)
Suspension - Horizontal (get)
Suspension - Inverted (get)

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get)
Body Bags (get)
Duct Tape (get)
Full Head Hoods (get)
Gags - ball type (get)
Gags - bits (get)
Gags - cloth (get)
Gags - inflatable (get)
Gags - phallic (get)
Gags - tape (get)
Gas Masks (get)
Harnessing - leather(get)
Harnessing - rope(get)
Headphone/Earplugs (get)
Masks (wear)
Padlocks (get)
Plastic Wrap (get)
Restraints - Ankle (get)
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get)
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get)
Restraints - Leather (get)
Restraints - Metal (get)
Restraints - Rope (get)
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get)
Restraints - Wrist (get)
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get)
Silk Scarves (get)
Sleepsacks (get) - -
Slings/Swings (get)
Spreader bars (get)
Stocks (get)
Straight Jackets (get)

D. S&M

Abrasion (get)
Anal Dilation (get) - -
Anal Fisting (get)
Asphyxiation (get)
(Foot Sole Torture)
Biting (get)
Choking (get)
Face Slapping (get)
Fireplay (get)
Hair pulling (get)
Nipple Torture (get)
Spanking - on all fours (get)
Spanking - over knee (get)
Spanking hard (get)
Spanking soft (get)
Vaginal Dilation (get)
Vaginal Fisting (get) - -

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get)
Caning (get)
Clothespins (get)
Cupping/Suction (get)
Cutting (get)
Electricity - Tens Unit (get)
Electricity - Violet Wand (get)
- - Flogging (get)
Hairbrushes (get)
Ice Cubes (bottom)
Labial Clip (get)
Nipple Clamps (get)
Nipple Weights (get)
Paddling (get)
Piercing - temp (get)
Riding Crops (get)
Whipping - bullwhip (get)
Whipping - Cat (get)
Whipping - genitals (get)
Whipping - knotted whip (get)
Whipping - switch
Whipping - Taws (get)

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get)
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights)
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees)
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues)
Barosmia (Arousal from smells)
Being Recorded
Bestiality (get) - -
Boot Worship (get)
Branding (sub) No No
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on)
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing)
Catheterization (get)
Cock Rings (others)
Corsets (others) - -
Corsets (you)
Diapers (you)
(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil)
Douching (get)
Enemas (get)
Erotic Dancing (sub)
Exhibitionism
Fear
Feathers/Fur (others)
Feathers/Fur (you)
Foot Worship (get)
Golden Showers (get)
Latex (others)
Latex (you)
Leather (others)
Leather (you)
Lingerie (others)
Lingerie (you)
Medical Instruments
Needles
Oral/Anal Play (get)
Oral/Anal Play (give)
Pain
Piercing (Permanent) (get)
Posing for Erotic Photos
Prostitution (real)
Public Exposure
Recording Scenes
Rituals
Sensory Deprivation (get)
Shaving (get)
Skinny-Dipping
Spandex (others)
Spandex (you)
Speculums (anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom)
Swallowing Semen
Taking Erotic Photos
Tasting Yourself
Tattoo (others)
Tattoos (you)
Tickling (get)
Uniforms (others)
Uniforms (you)
Voyeurism
Wearing Fluids
Wrestling

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub)
Begging (sub)
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub)
Butt Plugs - public (sub)
Chastity Belts (sub)
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you)
Cock Worship (sub)
Collar and Leash (sub)
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar)
Competition (sub) (Subs compete)
Crawling (sub)
Eye Contact Restriction (sub)
Following Orders
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub)
Forced Dressing (sub)
Forced Exercise (sub)
Forced Homosexuality (sub)
Forced Masturbation (sub)
Forced Nudity (sub)
Forced Servitude (sub)
Given Away(Be given away by your dom)
Hot Waxing (sub)
Housework (sub)
Humiliation - Private (sub)
Humiliation - Public (sub)
Humiliation - Verbal (sub)
Kneeling (sub)
Lecturing (sub)
Manicures (get)
Manicures (give)
Name Change (sub)
Orgasm Control (sub)
Orgasm Denial (sub)
Personality Modification (sub)
Pussy Worship (sub)
Serving Orally (sub)
Sexual Deprivation (sub)
Sleep Deprivation (sub)
Speech Restrictions (sub)
Standing in Corner (sub)
Struggling (sub)
Symbolic Jewelry (sub)
Weight Gain/Loss (sub)

H. Role Play

Chauffeuring (sub)
Fantasy Gang Rape (get)
Fantasy Rape (get)
Initiation Rites (sub)
Interrogations (sub)
Kidnapping (sub)
Medical Scenes (sub)
Other Animal Play (sub)
Physical Examinations (sub)
Pony Play (sub)
Prison Scenes
Prostitution (pretend)
Punishment Scene (sub)
Puppy Play (sub)
Religious Scenes (sub)
Serving as Art (sub)
Serving as Furniture (sub)
Serving as Maid (sub)
Strap on Dildos (sub)

 

[girl]

Okay, I didn't do the 'yes/no' for whether I'd done it or not...I've prefaced all the items with the appropriate response.

I haven't done one of these in a long time!

A. Sex

Yes - 3 - Anal Sex (get)
Yes - 1 - Ass Cheek Sex (get)
Yes - 5 - Vibrators (get)
Yes - 3 - Breast Sex (get)
Yes - 3 - Butt Plugs (get)
Yes - 3 - Dildo - Anal (get)
Yes - 3 - Dildo - Oral (get)
Yes - 4 - Dildo - Vaginal (get)
Yes - 4 - Double Penetration - Dildo (get)
No - 5 - Double Penetration - Multiple partners
Yes - 4 - Finger Sex (get)
Yes - 5 - Genital Intercourse
Yes - 4 - Hand Job (give)
Yes - 4 - Licking (get)
Yes - 4 - Licking (give)
Yes - 5 - Massage (give) - not necessarily a sexual thing
Yes - 4 - Oral Sex (give)
Yes - 5 - Phone Sex
Yes - 4 - Sex in Public
Yes - 4 - Sex Outdoors
Yes - 3.5 - Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time)
Yes - 5 - Teasing (get)
No - 4 - Triple Penetration - Dildo (get)
No - 5 - Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get)

B. Bondage

No - 4 - Bondage - full body (get)
Yes - 3 - Bondage - Intricate Rope (get)
Yes - 4 - Bondage - Mental (get)
No - 4 - Bondage - Outdoors (get)
Yes - 4 - Bondage - Private (get)
No - 3 - Bondage - Public (get)
No - 1 - Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet)
Yes - 1 - Breast Bondage (get)
No - 3.5 - Caging (get)
No - 1 - Crucifixion (get)
No - 4 - Mummification (get)
Yes - 3 - Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get)
Yes - 2 - Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get)
No - 1 - Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get)
No - 1 - Restraint Duration: multiple days (get)
No - 1 - Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get)
Yes - 5 - Restraint in public - under clothes (get)
No - 2 - Suspension (get)
No - 2 - Suspension - Horizontal (get)
No - 1 - Suspension - Inverted (get)

C. Bondage Toys

Yes - 5 - Blindfolds (get)
No - 3 - Body Bags (get)
No - 1 - Duct Tape (get)
No - 3 - Full Head Hoods (get)
No - No - Gags - ball type (get)
No - No - Gags - bits (get)
Yes - No - Gags - cloth (get)
No - No - Gags - inflatable (get)
No - No - Gags - phallic (get)
No - 1 - Gags - tape (get)
No - 1 - Gas Masks (get)
No - 3 - Harnessing - leather(get)
Yes - 3 - Harnessing - rope(get)
Yes - 4 - Headphone/Earplugs (get)
No - 3 - Masks (wear)
Yes - 4 - Padlocks (get)
Yes - 4 - Plastic Wrap (get)
Yes - 5 - Restraints - Ankle (get)
No - 3 - Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get)
Yes - 1 - Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get)
Yes - 5 - Restraints - Leather (get)
Yes - 3 - Restraints - Metal (get)
Yes - 4 - Restraints - Rope (get)
No - 1 - Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get)
Yes - 4 - Restraints - Wrist (get)
No - 4 - Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get)
Yes - 3 - Silk Scarves (get)
No - 2 - Sleepsacks (get) - -
Yes - 4 - Slings/Swings (get)
Yes - 3 - Spreader bars (get)
No - 2 - Stocks (get)
No - 1 - Straight Jackets (get)

D. S&M

Yes - 3 - Abrasion (get)
No - 1 - Anal Dilation (get) - -
No - No - Anal Fisting (get)
No - No - Asphyxiation (get)
No - 1 - (Foot Sole Torture)
Yes - 5 - Biting (get)
Yes - 5 - Choking (get) - Without breathplay - hand tight around the throat without cutting off oxygen
No - 4 - Face Slapping (get)
Yes - 5 - Fireplay (get)
Yes - 5 - Hair pulling (get)
Yes - 2 - Nipple Torture (get)
Yes - 4 - Spanking - on all fours (get)
Yes - 4 - Spanking - over knee (get)
Yes - 3 - Spanking hard (get)
Yes - 4 - Spanking soft (get)
No - 1 - Vaginal Dilation (get)
Almost! - 3 - Vaginal Fisting (get) - -

E. S&M Toys

Yes - 2 - Belt/Strap (get)
Yes - 1 - Caning (get)
Yes - 1 - Clothespins (get)
Yes - 1 - Cupping/Suction (get)
No - 2 - Cutting (get)
Yes - 3 - Electricity - Tens Unit (get)
Yes - 4 - Electricity - Violet Wand (get)
Yes - 4 - Flogging (get)
Yes - 2 - Hairbrushes (get)
Yes - 3 - Ice Cubes (bottom)
No - 3 - Labial Clip (get)
Yes - 2 - Nipple Clamps (get)
No - 2 - Nipple Weights (get)
Yes - 3 - Paddling (get)
No - * - Piercing - temp (get) Not sure about this...it intrigues me and scares me at once
Yes - 2 - Riding Crops (get)
No - 2 - Whipping - bullwhip (get)
Yes - 3 - Whipping - Cat (get)
Yes - 3 - Whipping - genitals (get)
Yes - 3 - Whipping - knotted whip (get)
No - 1 - Whipping - switch
Yes - 2 - Whipping - Tawse (get)

F. Fetish


No - No - Abandonment (get)
No - No - Acrophilia (Arousal from heights)
No - No - Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees)
No - 1 - Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues)
-- - 1 - Barosmia (Arousal from smells)
No - 1 - Being Recorded
No - 5 - Boot Worship (get) I think this should be (give), but either way, it's 5
No - 1 - Branding (sub)
No - No - Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on)
No - No - Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing)
No - No - Catheterization (get)
Yes - 3 - Cock Rings (others)
Yes - 5 - Corsets (others) - -
Yes - 4 - Corsets (you)
No - No - Diapers (you)
No - 1 - (Sex involving mud/dirt/oil)
Yes - No - Douching (get)
No - 1 - Enemas (get)
No - 3 - Erotic Dancing (sub)
Yes - 3 - Exhibitionism
Yes - 4 - Fear Depends on the fear, of course
Yes - 4 - Feathers/Fur (others)
Yes - 4 - Feathers/Fur (you)
Yes - 5 - Foot Worship (get)
No - 3 - Golden Showers (get) specific scenarios
Yes - 4 - Latex (others)
No - 3 - Latex (you)
Yes - 5 - Leather (others)
Yes - 5 - Leather (you)
Yes - 4 - Lingerie (others)
Yes - 3 - Lingerie (you)
No - No - Medical Instruments
No - 2 - Needles
Yes - 3 - Oral/Anal Play (get)
Yes - 2 - Oral/Anal Play (give)
Yes - 4 - Pain Depends on the scene and the implement
Yes - 4 - Piercing (Permanent) (get)
No - 3 - Posing for Erotic Photos
No - 1 - Prostitution (real) Prenegotiated
Yes - 3 - Public Exposure
No - 1 - Recording Scenes
Yes - 5 - Rituals
Yes - 4 - Sensory Deprivation (get)
Yes - 3 - Shaving (get)
No - 5 - Skinny-Dipping 32 years old and never been skinny dipping!
Yes - 2 - Spandex (others)
Yes - 1 - Spandex (you)
No - No - Speculums (anal)
Yes - No - Speculums (vaginal)
No - No - Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom)
Yes - 1 - Swallowing Semen
Yes - 2 - Taking Erotic Photos
Yes - 3 - Tasting Yourself
Yes - 5 - Tattoo (others) if they're good!
No - 4 - Tattoos (you)
Yes - 1 - Tickling (get) not ticklish
Yes - 5 - Uniforms (others)
No - 3 - Uniforms (you)
Yes - 5 - Voyeurism
Yes - 4 - Wearing Fluids
Yes - 4 - Wrestling

G. Power Play

Yes - 3 - Bathroom use control (sub)
Yes - 3 - Begging (sub)
Yes - 4 - Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub)
Yes - 1 - Butt Plugs - public (sub)
No - 1 - Chastity Belts (sub)
Yes - 3 - Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you)
Yes - 3 - Cock Worship (sub)
Yes - 5 - Collar and Leash (sub)
Yes - 5 - Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar)
No - 1 - Competition (sub) (Subs compete)
Yes - 4 - Crawling (sub)
Yes - 4 - Eye Contact Restriction (sub)
Yes - 5 - Following Orders
No - 3 - Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub)
No - 3 - Forced Dressing (sub)
Yes - 2 - Forced Exercise (sub)
No - 4 - Forced Homosexuality (sub)
Yes - 4 - Forced Masturbation (sub)
Yes - 4 - Forced Nudity (sub)
No - 4 - Forced Servitude (sub)
No - 3 - Given Away(Be given away by your dom)
Yes - 5 - Hot Waxing (sub)
No - 3 - Housework (sub) In a service sense
Yes - 5 - Humiliation - Private (sub)
No - 3 - Humiliation - Public (sub) In a controlled environment, the rating goes up
Yes - 5 - Humiliation - Verbal (sub)
Yes - 5 - Kneeling (sub)
No - 2 - Lecturing (sub)
Yes - 5 - Manicures (get)
No - 3 - Manicures (give)
Yes - 5 - Name Change (sub) Yes - 4 - Orgasm Control (sub)
Yes - 4 - Orgasm Denial (sub)
Yes - 3 - Personality Modification (sub)
No - 2 - Pussy Worship (sub)
Yes - 3 - Serving Orally (sub)
Yes - 3 - Sexual Deprivation (sub)
No - 1 - Sleep Deprivation (sub)
No - 5 - Speech Restrictions (sub)
No - 2 - Standing in Corner (sub)
Yes - 4 - Struggling (sub)
Yes - 5 - Symbolic Jewelry (sub)
No - 1 - Weight Gain/Loss (sub)

H. Role Play Most of these I've done online, tho not irl - responses are all rl

No - 4 - Chauffeuring (sub)
No - 5 - Fantasy Gang Rape (get)
No - 5 - Fantasy Rape (get)
No - 5 - Initiation Rites (sub)
No - 4 - Interrogations (sub)
No - 4 - Kidnapping (sub)
No - 1 - Medical Scenes (sub)
Yes - 4 - Other Animal Play (sub)
No - 1 - Physical Examinations (sub)
No - 1 - Pony Play (sub)
No - 3 - Prison Scenes
No - 4 - Prostitution (pretend)
Yes - 3 - Punishment Scene (sub)
No - 2 - Puppy Play (sub)
Yes - 3 - Religious Scenes (sub)
No - 2 - Serving as Art (sub)
Yes - 3 - Serving as Furniture (sub)
No - 3 - Serving as Maid (sub)
No - 3 - Strap on Dildos (sub)

Talk about laying it all out on the line, huh?


girl

 

[cymbidia]

Please note:
1. All my answers are YES – I have done this thing unless I’ve indicated otherwise.
2. All my answers refer to me getting the action done to me unless the opposite (give) is indicated.

A. Sex

5- Anal Sex
4- Ass Cheek Sex
3- Vibrators
2- Breast Sex
5- Butt Plugs
4- Dildo - Anal
2- Dildo - Oral
4- Dildo - Vaginal
4- Double Penetration - Dildo
3- Double Penetration - Multiple partners
3- Finger Sex – does this include fisting?
3- Genital Intercourse
3- Hand Job (give)
3- Licking
3- Licking (give)
3- Massage (give) – sexual and nonsexual?
4 - Oral Sex (give)
3- Phone Sex
3- Sex in Public
4 - Sex Outdoors
2- Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time)
4 - Teasing
2 - Triple Penetration - Dildo
3 - Triple Penetration - Multiple partners


B. Bondage

4 - Bondage - full body
4 - Bondage - Intricate Rope
5- Bondage – Mental
4- Bondage - Outdoors
5 - Bondage - Private
5 - Bondage – Public
2- Boxing / Closeting Being put in a box or closet) – yikes! One of my remaining fears…
4- Breast Bondage
NO - 3- Caging – if, by a cage, a see-through-thing-made-of-bars-or-slats is meant
NO - 3- Crucifixion
4- Mummification – i’ve done this with saran wrap and medical bandages (not the sticky kind)
4- Restraint Duration: 0-1hr
4- Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs
4 - Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs
NO - 3 - Restraint Duration: multiple days – Without any kinda break from the bondage? Could one use one;s limbs properly after all that bondage? Hmmm… sounds intriguing…
3 - Restraint Duration: overnight or full day
5 - Restraint in public - under clothes
NO - 2 - Suspension
NO - 2 - Suspension - Horizontal
NO - 2 - Suspension – Inverted


C. Bondage Toys

5- Blindfolds
3- Body Bags
1- Duct Tape – I have very sensitive skin; duct tape on my skin might kill me ~s~… on the plus side, though, it marks up so well, my skin
5 - Full Head Hoods – oh gods, yes… and I have such a nice one, too
2 - Gags - ball type – they make me drool and then I get self-conscious
4 - Gags - bits – okay, I like pony play – there – you know all my secrets now
2 - Gags - cloth – talk about dry mouth…
3 - Gags - inflatable
4 - Gags - phallic
1 - Gags - tape – There’s that sensitive skin prob I’ve got going, again
2 - Gas Masks – I’d rather have a hood, thank you
4 - Harnessing - leather
3 - Harnessing - rope
4 - Headphone/Earplugs
NO - 2 - Masks (wear) – for roleplay scenes?
5 – Padlocks – the bigger, the better; I don’t want to get out of my bondage but I feel compelled to try, and I will get out if you leave me a way out – padlocks prevent that, don’t they?
4 - Plastic Wrap
5 - Restraints - Ankle
5 - Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves
5 - Restraints - Hand Cuffs
5 - Restraints - Leather
4 - Restraints - Metal - I really dislike metal handcuffs, though, and would put a 1 or 2 here if that’s what this item was referring to.
4 - Restraints - Rope
3 - Restraints - Thumb Cuffs – OUCH! Ever been in these things????
5 - Restraints - Wrist
5 - Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist
3 - Silk Scarves – fun for light playing
2 - Sleepsacks
3 - Slings/Swings
5 - Spreader bars
4 - Stocks
NO - 2 - Straight Jackets


D. S&M

5 – Abrasion
3 - Anal Dilation
NO – 1 - Anal Fisting – Can we say “THAT fist is not going to fit in there!” boys and girls?
4 - Asphyxiation
5 – Biting – I play rough
4 - Choking
5 - Face Slapping – C’mon…
3 - Fireplay
2 - Foot Sole Torture
5 - Hair pulling – oh gods yes
5 - Nipple Torture
5 - Spanking - on all fours
5 - Spanking - over knee
5 - Spanking hard[/B]
4 - Spanking soft
5 - Vaginal Dilation
5 - Vaginal Fisting – I’ve been to the ER for this before – last summer, as a matter of fact – it’s a very interesting thing to tell the ER people about, by the way, and I’d not recommend the experience


E. S&M Toys

5 - Belt/Strap
4 – Caning – ONLY with a Dom/me I really trust. I was badly hurt during a caning in the distant past and it’s only in the last six months that I could play with a cane again without freaking at the thought. Trust is paramount.
4 – Clothespins – standard issue in every toyboxes, right?
NO – 3 - Cupping/Suction – I’m WAY curious
NO – 3 – Cutting – was gonna…
4 - Electricity - Tens Unit
4 - Electricity - Violet Wand
5 – Flogging
3 – Hairbrushes
3 - Ice Cubes
4 - Labial Clip
4 - Nipple Clamps
3 - Nipple Weights
5 - Paddling
5 - Piercing – temp – need you ask?
4 - Riding Crops – another standard issue item
4 - Whipping – bullwhip – ONLY with a Dom/me I really trust
5 - Whipping – Cat – I’ve got this suede cat…
4 - Whipping - genitals
4 - Whipping - knotted whip
4 - Whipping - switch
5 - Whipping – Taws – one stroke with a tawse = about five strokes with a riding crop, I think – at least the tawse I have


F. Fetish

1 – Abandonment – I fear this
NO – 1 - Acrophilia (Arousal from heights)
2 - Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees)
NO – 1 - Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) – what?????
NO – 2 - Barosmia (Arousal from smells)
1 - Being Recorded
1 - Bestiality
1 - Boot Worship
NO – 2 - Branding (sub)
1 - Brown Showers(Skat Play - Getting shit on)
1 - Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing)
4 – Catheterization – Once upon a time, I had Dom who was big into medical fetishes…
4 - Cock Rings (others) – oh I think they look so erotic,a nd to know it’s on while we’re at dinner…
3 - Corsets (others)
5 - Corsets (you)
NO – 1 - Diapers (you)
NO – 1- Dirty (Sex involving mud/dirt/oil)
3 - Douching (get)
4 - Enemas (get)
2 - Erotic Dancing (sub)
4 - Exhibitionism
2 - Fear
NO – 1 - Feathers/Fur (others)
NO – 1 - Feathers/Fur (you)
NO – 1 - Foot Worship (get)
3 - Golden Showers (get)
NO – 2 - Latex (others)
2 - Latex (you)
4 - Leather (others)
4 - Leather (you)
4 - Lingerie (others)
4 - Lingerie (you)
4 - Medical Instruments
5 - Needles
5 - Oral/Anal Play
5 - Oral/Anal Play (give)
5 - Pain
5 - Piercing (Permanent)
Posing for Erotic Photos
NO – 1 - Prostitution (real)
4- Public Exposure
2 - Recording Scenes
3 - Rituals – there was one Dom… I had to kiss his hand, ritually, every time we met, no matter where we were at the time, public or private…
4 - Sensory Deprivation
5 – Shaving – you shave me and then I’ll shave you
4 - Skinny-Dipping
3 - Spandex (others)
3 - Spandex (you)
3 - Speculums (anal)
4 - Speculums (vaginal)
2 - Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom)
4 - Swallowing Semen – I usually like the taste and love how it makes him feel to watch me swallowing
5 - Taking Erotic Photos
5 - Tasting Yourself – I taste good
4 - Tattoo (others)
4 - Tattoos (you)
2 - Tickling
1 - Uniforms (others)
1 - Uniforms (you)
2 - Voyeurism
NO – 1 - Wearing Fluids – Like, uh, water? Milk? Semen? I don’t even understand this one.
4 - Wrestling – I’m strong and I’ll fight hard


G. Power Play

4 - Bathroom use control
4 - Begging
5 - Behavior Restrictive Rules
5 - Butt Plugs – public
NO – 3 - Chastity Belts – I’m really interested in these
4 - Clothing choice (Have your clothes chosen for you)
3 - Cock Worship – I’m not really sure what this means and I think I do it as a matter of course in a BDSM relationship
5 - Collar and Leash
5 - Collars (Be made to wear a collar)
1 - Competition (Subs compete)
3 - Crawling
4 - Eye Contact Restriction
5 - Following Orders
4 - Food Choice/Directed Eating
4 - Forced Dressing
4 - Forced Exercise
N/A - Forced Homosexuality – I’m bi – this doesn’t apply to me
5 - Forced Masturbation – though you can’t really force what’s done with delight, can you?
4 - Forced Nudity
3 - Forced Servitude
1 - Given Away(Be given away by your dom)
3 - Hot Waxing
1 - Housework
3 - Humiliation - Private
2 - Humiliation - Public
3 - Humiliation - Verbal
3 - Kneeling
3 - Lecturing
4 - Manicures
4 - Manicures (give)
2 - Name Change
5 - Orgasm Control
2 - Orgasm Denial
2 - Personality Modification
3 - Pussy Worship - As with cock worship, i’m not really sure what this means and I think I do it as a matter of course in a BDSM relationship
5 - Serving Orally
2 - Sexual Deprivation
2 - Sleep Deprivation
4 - Speech Restrictions
3 - Standing in Corner
4 - Struggling
5 - Symbolic Jewelry
3 - Weight Gain/Loss


H. Role Play

2 - Chauffeuring
4 - Fantasy Gang Rape
5 - Fantasy Rape
2 - Initiation Rites
4 - Interrogations
5 - Kidnapping
5 - Medical Scenes
NO – 2 - Other Animal Play – if it’s not pony play or puppy play, then I haven’t done any of it
5 - Physical Examinations
4 - Pony Play
4 - Prison Scenes
3 - Prostitution
5 - Punishment Scene
3 - Puppy Play
2 - Religious Scenes
4 - Serving as Art
3 - Serving as Furniture
2 - Serving as Maid
3 - Strap on Dildos – I have one and have definitely used it through the years, but I only like to use it when my Dom/me is fully in control of the scene and I am not made to try to Top – I really dislike being made to Top

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I posted this in the Q&A thread but no one is doing it right. Maybe it's my directions. Out to the side of each activity, start by indicating with a yes or no if you have done it. Then rate the activity from 1 to 5 with one meaning you would do it if a partner really wanted you to, and 5 meaning it's insanely erotic to you. Or any number in-between if your feelings are mixed. If there is no way you'd do it, and have never done it then the proper response is no, no.

This is from a subs view, not a Domme? Some of these activities I have done to someone, yes but not to myself so it is confusing to me

 

[WriterDom]

Yeah, a Dom/me list would be slightly different, but I have no interest in putting one together. I know what I like
Also at bondage.com they have separate checklist for switches.

 

[cymbidia]

I would be happy to dig up and post a similar checklist aimed at Dom'mes should any of you want it.

 

[SilverVeil]

Dang ... this is a long one. I don't have a lot of experience, but here is what I have done (indicated by a yes) willing to do (willing) not possible for some reason or another (n/p), never done (n/a) or no how, no way in hell (no)
OOPS !!! SORRY I MISSED THE 1-5 rating. I have fixed that oversight.

A. Sex

Anal Sex (get) yes- 5
Ass Cheek Sex (get) yes-3
Vibrators (get) yes- 5
Breast Sex (get) yes- 4
Butt Plugs (get) yes-5
Dildo - Anal (get) yes-5
Dildo - Oral (get) maybe- 2
Dildo - Vaginal (get) yes- 4
Double Penetration - Dildo (get) yes -4
Double Penetration - Multiple partners willing-5
Finger Sex (get) yes- 4
Genital Intercourse yes-4
Hand Job (give) yes-3
Licking (get) yes-3
Licking (give) yes-3
Massage (give) yes-4
Oral Sex (give) yes-4
Phone Sex yes-3
Sex in Public yes-4
Sex Outdoors Yes -5
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time)
yes in the past once-3
Teasing (get) yes-3
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get) yes- used dildo in ass and pussy, cock in mouth -5 5 5 5 5 5
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get) willing -4

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get) yes-4
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get) willing-2
Bondage - Mental (get) yes-4
Bondage - Outdoors (get) willing-5
Bondage - Private (get) yes-5
Bondage - Public (get) maybe-3
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet) no no
Breast Bondage (get) no-1
Caging (get) no
Crucifixion (get) NO
Mummification (get) NO
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get) yes-5
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get) yes-5
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get) yes-5
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get) n/p
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get) willing-3
Restraint in public - under clothes (get) willing-4
Suspension (get) no
Suspension - Horizontal (get) no
Suspension - Inverted (get) NO

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get) yes-5
Body Bags (get) no
Duct Tape (get) no
Full Head Hoods (get) no
Gags - ball type (get) yes-4
Gags - bits (get) no
Gags - cloth (get) yes-5
Gags - inflatable (get) no
Gags - phallic (get) willing-3
Gags - tape (get) willing-3
Gas Masks (get) no
Harnessing - leather(get) willing-4
Harnessing - rope(get) willing-3
Headphone/Earplugs (get) yes-3
Masks (wear) no
Padlocks (get) maybe-2
Plastic Wrap (get) no
Restraints - Ankle (get) yes-5
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get) n/p
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get) yes-5
Restraints - Leather (get) yes-5
Restraints - Metal (get) willing-5
Restraints - Rope (get) yes-4
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get) willing-2
Restraints - Wrist (get) yes-5
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get) n/p
Silk Scarves (get) yes-4
Sleepsacks (get) - - no
Slings/Swings (get) n/p
Spreader bars (get) willing-5 5 5
Stocks (get) no
Straight Jackets (get) no

D. S&M

Abrasion (get) no
Anal Dilation (get) - -yes - 555 (love that plug thingy !!!)
Anal Fisting (get) no
Asphyxiation (get) NO NO NO
(Foot Sole Torture) no
Biting (get) no
Choking (get) NO
Face Slapping (get) no
Fireplay (get) no
Hair pulling (get) yes-1
Nipple Torture (get) yes-2
Spanking - on all fours (get) yes-5
Spanking - over knee (get) yes-5
Spanking hard (get) yes-3
Spanking soft (get) yes-5
Vaginal Dilation (get) no - Heh ... like this hole tight
Vaginal Fisting (get) - - willing, but never done it and a bit afraid of it -2

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get) yes-4
Caning (get) no
Clothespins (get) no
Cupping/Suction (get) no
Cutting (get) NO
Electricity - Tens Unit (get) NO
- - Flogging (get) NO
Hairbrushes (get) yes-3
Ice Cubes (bottom) yes-4
Labial Clip (get) no
Nipple Clamps (get) yes-5
Nipple Weights (get) willing-4
Paddling (get) yes-4
Piercing - temp (get) no
Riding Crops (get) willing-3
Whipping - bullwhip (get) no
Whipping - Cat (get) no
Whipping - genitals (get) yes (with a strap) 4
Whipping - knotted whip (get) no
Whipping - switch willing-3
Whipping - Taws (get) willing -2

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get) no
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights) no
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees) yes, an old b/f lost his leg (no rating applies)
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) no interest
Barosmia (Arousal from smells) no interest
Being Recorded willing-5
Bestiality (get) - - NO NO NO NO
Boot Worship (get) no
Branding (sub) No No
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on) NO
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing) NO
Catheterization (get) no
Cock Rings (others) willing-3
Corsets (others) - - willing-3
Corsets (you) willing-4
Diapers (you) no
(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil) yes- oil -3
Douching (get) yes-2
Enemas (get) yes-4
Erotic Dancing (sub) yes-4
Exhibitionism willing-4
Fear no
Feathers/Fur (others) yes-3
Feathers/Fur (you) yes-3
Foot Worship (get) willing-1
Golden Showers (get) NO
Latex (others) no
Latex (you) no, allergies
Leather (others) yes-4
Leather (you) yes-4
Lingerie (others) yes-3
Lingerie (you) yes-4
Medical Instruments willing-2
Needles NO
Oral/Anal Play (get) yes-555
Oral/Anal Play (give) yes- 555
Pain NO
Piercing (Permanent) (get) willing-3
Posing for Erotic Photos yes-5
Prostitution (real) I take the 5th
Public Exposure yes-4
Recording Scenes willing-5
Rituals yes-4
Sensory Deprivation (get) willing-2
Shaving (get) yes - 55555
Skinny-Dipping yes-555
Spandex (others) willing-3
Spandex (you) yes-2
Speculums (anal) no
Speculums (vaginal) heh ... at my obgyn's only
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom) NO
Swallowing Semen yes-4
Taking Erotic Photos yes-5
Tasting Yourself yes-4
Tattoo (others) no
Tattoos (you) yes-3
Tickling (get) willing-2
Uniforms (others) not interested
Uniforms (you) not interested
Voyeurism willing-3
Wearing Fluids NO
Wrestling willing-3

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub) n/p
Begging (sub) yes-4
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub) yes-1
Butt Plugs - public (sub) yes-5
Chastity Belts (sub) willing-3
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you) willing-2
Cock Worship (sub) yes-5
Collar and Leash (sub) willing-5
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar) yes-5
Competition (sub) (Subs compete) no I don't share well
Crawling (sub) n/p
Eye Contact Restriction (sub) not interested
Following Orders yes-4
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub) no
Forced Dressing (sub) no
Forced Exercise (sub) n/p
Forced Homosexuality (sub) willing-4
Forced Masturbation (sub) willing-5
Forced Nudity (sub) willing -5
Forced Servitude (sub) willing-4
Given Away(Be given away by your dom) NO he does not share well either
Hot Waxing (sub) not interested
Housework (sub) NO heh I do it anyway
Humiliation - Private (sub) No
Humiliation - Public (sub) No
Humiliation - Verbal (sub) NO
Kneeling (sub) n/p
Lecturing (sub) n/a
Manicures (get) yes-4
Manicures (give) yes-4
Name Change (sub) yes-2
Orgasm Control (sub) yes-4
Orgasm Denial (sub) yes-1
Personality Modification (sub) not possible
Pussy Worship (sub) n/a
Serving Orally (sub) yes-4
Sexual Deprivation (sub) n/a
Sleep Deprivation (sub) n/p
Speech Restrictions (sub) no
Standing in Corner (sub)no
Struggling (sub) yes, while restrained-4
Symbolic Jewelry (sub) yes-4
Weight Gain/Loss (sub) no

H. Role Play

Chauffeuring (sub) willing-3
Fantasy Gang Rape (get) willing-4
Fantasy Rape (get) willing-4
Initiation Rites (sub) have not done
Interrogations (sub) n/a
Kidnapping (sub) n/a
Medical Scenes (sub) n/a
Other Animal Play (sub) NO
Physical Examinations (sub) n/a
Pony Play (sub) no
Prison Scenes n/a
Prostitution (pretend) n/a
Punishment Scene (sub) yes-5
Puppy Play (sub)NO
Religious Scenes (sub) n/a
Serving as Art (sub) n/a
Serving as Furniture (sub) n/a
Serving as Maid (sub) n/a
Strap on Dildos (sub)n/a


For what it's worth ... here it is.
(Thanks cymbidia for the explanations)

 

[SexyChele]

Okay, I'll it a shot. Not sure how much of this I've done, but here goes...


A. Sex

Anal Sex (get) - Yes - 5
Ass Cheek Sex (get) - Yes - 4
Vibrators (get) - Yes - 5
Breast Sex (get) - Yes - 3
Butt Plugs (get) - Yes - 4
Dildo - Anal (get) - Yes - 4
Dildo - Oral (get) - Yes - 2
Dildo - Vaginal (get) - Yes - 4
Double Penetration - Dildo (get) - Yes - 4
Double Penetration - Multiple partners - No - 4
Finger Sex (get) - Yes - 4
Genital Intercourse - Yes - 5
Hand Job (give) - Yes - 4
Licking (get) - Yes - 4
Licking (give) - Yes - 5
Massage (give) - Yes - 5
Oral Sex (give) - Yes - 5
Phone Sex - Yes - 4 [color=royal blue]If done with the right person[/color]
Sex in Public - Yes - 3
Sex Outdoors - Yes - 4
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time) - No - Not sure
Teasing (get) - Yes - 5
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get) - Yes - 4
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get) - No - 5

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get) - Yes - 4
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get) - No - 4
Bondage - Mental (get) - Yes - 5
Bondage - Outdoors (get) - No - 3
Bondage - Private (get) - Yes - 5
Bondage - Public (get) - No - 3
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet) - No - 2
Breast Bondage (get) - Yes - 4
Caging (get) - No - 4
Crucifixion (get) - No - 1
Mummification (get) - No - 1
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get) - Yes - 4
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get) - No - 3
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get) - No - 3
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get) - No - 2
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get) - No - 3
Restraint in public - under clothes (get) - No - 4
Suspension (get) - No - 3
Suspension - Horizontal (get) - No - 3
Suspension - Inverted (get) - No - 1

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get) - Yes - 5
Body Bags (get) - No - 1
Duct Tape (get) - Yes - 3
Full Head Hoods (get) - Yes - 2
Gags - ball type (get) - No - 2
Gags - bits (get) - No - 3
Gags - cloth (get) - Yes - 4
Gags - inflatable (get) - No - 3
Gags - phallic (get) - No -3
Gags - tape (get) - Yes - 3
Gas Masks (get) - No - 1
Harnessing - leather(get) - No - 4
Harnessing - rope(get) - No - 3
Headphone/Earplugs (get) - No - 2
Masks (wear) - No - 3
Padlocks (get) - No - 2
Plastic Wrap (get) - Yes - 4
Restraints - Ankle (get) - Yes - 5
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get) - No - 4
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get) - Yes - 5
Restraints - Leather (get) - No - 5
Restraints - Metal (get) - No - 4
Restraints - Rope (get) - Yes - 3
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get) - No - 3
Restraints - Wrist (get) - Yes - 5
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get) - Yes - 5
Silk Scarves (get) - Yes - 5
Sleepsacks (get) - - No - 2
Slings/Swings (get) - No - 4
Spreader bars (get) - No - 5
Stocks (get) - No - 5
Straight Jackets (get) - No - 3

D. S&M

Abrasion (get) - No - 1
Anal Dilation (get) - No - 5
Anal Fisting (get) - No - 1
Asphyxiation (get) - Yes - 1
(Foot Sole Torture) - No - 1
Biting (get) - Yes - 4
Choking (get) - Yes - 1
Face Slapping (get) - No - 4
Fireplay (get) - No - 1
Hair pulling (get) - Yes - 3
Nipple Torture (get) - Yes - 5
Spanking - on all fours (get) - Yes - 5
Spanking - over knee (get) - Yes - 5
Spanking hard (get) - Yes - 4
Spanking soft (get) - Yes - 5
Vaginal Dilation (get) - No - 5
Vaginal Fisting (get) - Yes - 1

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get) - Yes - 5
Caning (get) - No - 3
Clothespins (get) - Yes - 4
Cupping/Suction (get) - Yes - 4
Cutting (get) - No - Would not want
Electricity - Tens Unit (get) - No - 1
Electricity - Violet Wand (get) - No - 1
- - Flogging (get) - No - 3
Hairbrushes (get) - No - 4
Ice Cubes (bottom) - Yes - 3
Labial Clip (get) - Yes - 4
Nipple Clamps (get) - Yes - 5
Nipple Weights (get) - Yes - 5
Paddling (get) - Yes - 5
Piercing - temp (get) - No - 2
Riding Crops (get) - No - 4
Whipping - bullwhip (get) - No - 2
Whipping - Cat (get) - No - 2
Whipping - genitals (get) - Yes - 4
Whipping - knotted whip (get) - No - 1
Whipping - switch - No - 3
Whipping - Taws (get) - No - 1

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get) - No - 1
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights) - No - 1
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees) - No - Not sure
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) - No - 3
Barosmia (Arousal from smells) - No - 3
Being Recorded - Yes - 4
Bestiality (get) - No - 1
Boot Worship (get) - No - 3
Branding (sub) - No - Would not do
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on) - No - Would not do
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing) - No - Would not do
Catheterization (get) - No - 1
Cock Rings (others) - No - 3
Corsets (others) - No - 3
Corsets (you) - Yes - 5
Diapers (you) - No - 3
Sex involving mud/dirt/oil - No - 1
Douching (get) - No - 4
Enemas (get) - No - 4
Erotic Dancing (sub) - Yes - 5
Exhibitionism - Yes - 4
Fear - No - 3 Depends on the fear
Feathers/Fur (others) - Yes - 5
Feathers/Fur (you) - Yes - 5
Foot Worship (get) - Yes - 4
Golden Showers (get) - Yes - 3
Latex (others) - No - 1
Latex (you) - No - 1
Leather (others) - No - 3
Leather (you) - No - 4
Lingerie (others) - Yes - 4
Lingerie (you) - Yes - 5
Medical Instruments - No - 4
Needles - No - 1
Oral/Anal Play (get) - Yes - 4
Oral/Anal Play (give) - Yes - 5
Pain - Yes - 3 Depends on the degree of pain
Piercing (Permanent) (get) - No - 2
Posing for Erotic Photos - Yes - 4
Prostitution (real) - No - 4
Public Exposure - No - 4
Recording Scenes - Yes - 4
Rituals - No - 4
Sensory Deprivation (get) - No - 3
Shaving (get) - Yes - 4
Skinny-Dipping - Yes - 5
Spandex (others) - No - 2
Spandex (you) - No - 3
Speculums (anal) - No - 4
Speculums (vaginal) - No - 4
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom) - No - Unsure
Swallowing Semen - Yes - 5
Taking Erotic Photos - Yes - 5
Tasting Yourself - Yes - 4
Tattoo (others) - No - 1
Tattoos (you) - No - 1
Tickling (get) - Yes - 2
Uniforms (others) - No - 1
Uniforms (you) - No - 3
Voyeurism - No - Not sure
Wearing Fluids - No - 2
Wrestling - Yes - 4

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub) - Yes - 4
Begging (sub) - Yes - 4
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub) - Yes - 4
Butt Plugs - public (sub) - No - 4
Chastity Belts (sub) - No - 4
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you) - Yes - 3
Cock Worship (sub) - No - 5
Collar and Leash (sub) - No - 5
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar) - No - 5
Competition (sub) (Subs compete) - No - No interested
Crawling (sub) - Yes - 4
Eye Contact Restriction (sub) - No - 4
Following Orders - Yes - 4
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub) - No - 3
Forced Dressing (sub) - No - 3
Forced Exercise (sub) - No - 3
Forced Homosexuality (sub) - No - 4
Forced Masturbation (sub) - Yes - 5
Forced Nudity (sub) - Yes - 5
Forced Servitude (sub) - No - 4
Given Away(Be given away by your dom) - No - 4
Hot Waxing (sub) - Yes - 4
Housework (sub) - No - 1
Humiliation - Private (sub) - No - 1
Humiliation - Public (sub) - No - Not interested
Humiliation - Verbal (sub) - No - Not interested
Kneeling (sub) - Yes - 5
Lecturing (sub) - No - 2
Manicures (get) - No - 3
Manicures (give) - No - 4
Name Change (sub) - No - 3
Orgasm Control (sub) - Yes - 5
Orgasm Denial (sub) - Yes - 4
Personality Modification (sub) - No - 2
Pussy Worship (sub) - No - 3
Serving Orally (sub) - No - 4
Sexual Deprivation (sub) - No - 3
Sleep Deprivation (sub) - No - 1
Speech Restrictions (sub) - No - 3
Standing in Corner (sub) - No - 2
Struggling (sub) - Yes - 4
Symbolic Jewelry (sub) - No - 3
Weight Gain/Loss (sub) - No - 1

H. Role Play

Chauffeuring (sub) - No - 1
Fantasy Gang Rape (get) - No - 5
Fantasy Rape (get) - No - 5
Initiation Rites (sub) - No - 4
Interrogations (sub) - No - 3
Kidnapping (sub) - No - 3
Medical Scenes (sub) - No - 4
Other Animal Play (sub) - No - 1
Physical Examinations (sub) - No - 4
Pony Play (sub) - No - 4
Prison Scenes - No - 4
Prostitution (pretend) - Yes - 5
Punishment Scene (sub) - Yes - 5
Puppy Play (sub) - No - 1
Religious Scenes (sub) - No - 1
Serving as Art (sub) - No - 5
Serving as Furniture (sub) - No - 3
Serving as Maid (sub) - Yes - 4
Strap on Dildos (sub) - No - 5

 

[cymbidia]

If someone can explain the things I did not understand I can edit it and fix my answer.

Anal/Vaginal Dilation: From Soul’s Haven (http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/gen_dictionary.php3#A)

Dilation means, simply, “Stretching an opening. The two most common forms are anal dilation (stretching the anus open) and vaginal dilation (stretching the vagina open). Dilation can be temporary or permanent - the goal of permanent dilation being to permanently stretch that opening.”

In terms of what we do in play situations, SilverVeil, “dilation” refers to instruments inserted into our bodies in either of those places that are meant to stretch us open in a permanent manner or just temporarily. A fist, for example, would be a means of temporary dilation. Someone undergoing gradually larger butt plugs as a form of training them to take larger and larger items would be a form of permanent dilation. (I don’t know anything about whether one’s anus would shrink back down once the plug use was discontinued for awhile.)

Taws: This was spelled incorrectly on the list. The actual spelling is “tawse” and it’s a special sort of slapper made with two wide tails of very thick leather. Here’s one very much like the one i have: http://www.stockroom.com/a318.htm . (I got mine from this place a few years ago and the handle is smoothly polished ironwood. That’s the biggest difference i can see between the two based on this pic.)

 

[SilverVeil]

Thanks cymbidia !!!

Like I said .. learn something new every day here at Lit.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I would be happy to dig up and post a similar checklist aimed at Dom'mes should any of you want it.

There are not many Dommes here, I think. It is no matter.

 

[SweetBrat73]

A. Sex

Anal Sex (get) Yes-3
Ass Cheek Sex (get) No-2
Vibrators (get) Yes-4
Breast Sex (get) No-4
Butt Plugs (get) No-3
Dildo - Anal (get) Yes-3
Dildo - Oral (get) No-No
Dildo - Vaginal (get) Yes-5
Double Penetration - Dildo (get) Yes-4
Double Penetration - Multiple partners No-5
Finger Sex (get) Yes-5
Genital Intercourse Yes-5
Hand Job (give) Yes-5
Licking (get) Yes-5
Licking (give) Yes-5
Massage (give) Yes-5
Oral Sex (give) Yes-5
Phone Sex Yes-2
Sex in Public Yes-4
Sex Outdoors Yes-5
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time) No-No

Teasing (get) Yes-5
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get) No-maybe
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get) No-No

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get) No-4
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get)Yes-5
Bondage - Mental (get) No-No
Bondage - Outdoors (get) No-3
Bondage - Private (get) Yes-5
Bondage - Public (get) No-3
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet) No-1
Breast Bondage (get) No-2
Caging (get) No-No
Crucifixion (get) No-No
Mummification (get) Yes-4
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get) Yes-5
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get) Yes-4
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get) No-2
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get) No-No
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get) No-No
Restraint in public - under clothes (get) No-3
Suspension (get) No-?
Suspension - Horizontal (get) No-?
Suspension - Inverted (get) No-? ...does this mean with those hooks??? That just sounds horrible to me...but if it's with ropes and stuff I'd be more than happy to try that

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get) Yes-5
Body Bags (get) No-1
Duct Tape (get) Yes-4
Full Head Hoods (get)No-2
Gags - ball type (get) No-3
Gags - bits (get) No-1
Gags - cloth (get) Yes-4
Gags - inflatable (get) No-1
Gags - phallic (get) No-2
Gags - tape (get) No-2
Gas Masks (get) No-ummm what do you do with gas masks???
Harnessing - leather(get) No-2
Harnessing - rope(get) No-2
Headphone/Earplugs (get) No-4
Masks (wear) No-1
Padlocks (get) No-2
Plastic Wrap (get) Yes-2
Restraints - Ankle (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Leather (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Metal (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Rope (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get) No...well not during sex...
Restraints - Wrist (get) Yes-5
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get)No-4
Silk Scarves (get) Yes-5
Sleepsacks (get) - - No-don't know what those are
Slings/Swings (get) No-5
Spreader bars (get) I'm guessing these are for between your feet and such??? if so...Yes-5
Stocks (get) No-?
Straight Jackets (get)No-No

D. S&M

Abrasion (get) No-no
Anal Dilation (get) - -No- no
Anal Fisting (get) NO-NO
Asphyxiation (get) No-No
(Foot Sole Torture) No-No
Biting (get) Yes-5...if not done to leave marks
Choking (get) No-3
Face Slapping (get)No-No
Fireplay (get) No-No
Hair pulling (get) Yes-5...only if done right by your partner...don't just want my hair pulled...that's no fun
Nipple Torture (get) No-No
Spanking - on all fours (get) No-5
Spanking - over knee (get) Yes(well bent over a couch arm or table...never had it over someone's knee) -5
Spanking hard (get) No-5
Spanking soft (get) Yes-4
Vaginal Dilation (get) Yes-1
Vaginal Fisting (get) - - yes-1

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get) Yes-5
Caning (get) No-no
Clothespins (get) Yes-5
Cupping/Suction (get) No-?
Cutting (get) No-No
Electricity - Tens Unit (get) No-no
Electricity - Violet Wand (get) No-no
- - Flogging (get) No-no
Hairbrushes (get) No-3...if you mean getting spanked with one
Ice Cubes (bottom) Don't know what you mean by bottom but we've played with Ice so...Yes-4
Labial Clip (get) No-3
Nipple Clamps (get) Yes-5
Nipple Weights (get) No-no
Paddling (get) No-3
Piercing - temp (get) No-no
Riding Crops (get) No-no
Whipping - bullwhip (get) No-?
Whipping - Cat (get) No-?
Whipping - genitals (get) Yes-5
Whipping - knotted whip (get) No-?
Whipping - switch Not since I was a kid LoL but No-No
Whipping - Taws (get) No-?

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get) No-no
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights)No-?
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees) No-no
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) No-no
Barosmia (Arousal from smells) No-2
Being Recorded No-?
Bestiality (get) - - NO-NO WAY IN HELL!!!
Boot Worship (get) No-no
Branding (sub) No-No
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on)EW! NO-NO
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing)EW!NO-NO
Catheterization (get)No-no
Cock Rings (others) No-5 Love the thought and so does he
Corsets (others) - - No-No
Corsets (you) No-?
Diapers (you) No-No
(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil) No-No
Douching (get) No-No...it's actually not good for a woman to do on a regular basis unless directed by a doc...
Enemas (get) No-No
Erotic Dancing (sub) No-yeah if I was thin and cute
Exhibitionism Yes-4
Fear ??? Most likely No-No
Feathers/Fur (others) Yes-4
Feathers/Fur (you) Yes-5
Foot Worship (get) No-No
Golden Showers (get) NO-NO
Latex (others) wearing latex??? No-? maybe 3
Latex (you) No-maybe 3
Leather (others) Yes-5
Leather (you) Yes-5
Lingerie (others) No-?2
Lingerie (you) Yes-4
Medical Instruments No-No
Needles No-No
Oral/Anal Play (get) Ok...I'm not really sure what you mean by this one...I've had oral play and anal play...???
Oral/Anal Play (give) see above
Pain Yes-??? the pain I've recieved 5...just depends on what they are doing...most of the time I wouldn't want pain alone... really don't know how to answer this one...
Piercing (Permanent) (get) Yes (my ears-not during sex or sex play)
Posing for Erotic Photos LoL again only if I were thin and cute
Prostitution (real) NO-NO
Public Exposure Yes-4
Recording Scenes No-???3
Rituals No-??? depends on what it is I reckon
Sensory Deprivation (get) Yes-4...only one sense usually...sight
Shaving (get) No-???3
Skinny-Dipping Yes-5
Spandex (others) Yes-4
Spandex (you) Yes-4
Speculums (anal) No-No
Speculums (vaginal) No-No...personally I think only my OBGYN should use this LoL
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom) No-No I'd kill my man first real jealous here...so is he
Swallowing Semen Yes-5 normally...when I'm pregnant I don't like it...makes me sick for some reason...oh well
Taking Erotic Photos No-again only if I were thin
Tasting Yourself Yes-4 I taste good too LoL
Tattoo (others) No-No
Tattoos (you) No-No
Tickling (get) No-not very ticklish here unless I want to be...
Uniforms (others) No-???2
Uniforms (you) No-???1
Voyeurism Yes-3
Wearing Fluids ummm...LoL I really don't get this one...
Wrestling Yes-5

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub) No-No
Begging (sub) No-No...I've begged before...but only cause he loves to tease
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub)No-No
Butt Plugs - public (sub) No-no
Chastity Belts (sub) No-we are both interested in this one
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you)No-No
Cock Worship (sub) Don't really know what this means...
Collar and Leash (sub) No-No
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar) No-No
Competition (sub) (Subs compete) No-No
Crawling (sub) No-No
Eye Contact Restriction (sub)No-No
Following Orders No-No
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub)No-No
Forced Dressing (sub) No-No
Forced Exercise (sub) No-No
Forced Homosexuality (sub) I'd kill him first
Forced Masturbation (sub) No-No
Forced Nudity (sub) No-No
Forced Servitude (sub) No-No
Given Away(Be given away by your dom)No-No
Hot Waxing (sub) No-No
Housework (sub) I'm a mother and soon to be wife...I do this all the time reguardless...hate it though
Humiliation - Private (sub) No-no
Humiliation - Public (sub) No-No
Humiliation - Verbal (sub) No-No
Kneeling (sub) Only when giving a blow job...Yes-3 makes my knees hurt
Lecturing (sub)No-No
Manicures (get) I wish!!! No-5
Manicures (give) No-1...I suck at it
Name Change (sub) No-No
Orgasm Control (sub) No-???3
Orgasm Denial (sub) No-No
Personality Modification (sub) No-No
Pussy Worship (sub) No-5
Serving Orally (sub) No-4
Sexual Deprivation (sub) No-No
Sleep Deprivation (sub) Yes-No...just cause of the baby though
Speech Restrictions (sub) No-No
Standing in Corner (sub) No-No
Struggling (sub) No-No
Symbolic Jewelry (sub) No-???
Weight Gain/Loss (sub) No-No

H. Role Play - Have never tried any of the below...so I'll just number to how much I'd like to do them.

Chauffeuring (sub) 2
Fantasy Gang Rape (get)NO
Fantasy Rape (get) This one is hard to answer...I've been raped and it was no way fun...but it's kind of a turn on if it's someone you know and what they are really doing is pleasing you beyond belief LoL so a 5 for that type
Initiation Rites (sub) ??? 2
Interrogations (sub) 1
Kidnapping (sub) 4
Medical Scenes (sub)1
Other Animal Play (sub)No
Physical Examinations (sub) 3
Pony Play (sub) No
Prison Scenes No
Prostitution (pretend) 2
Punishment Scene (sub)3
Puppy Play (sub) what???
Religious Scenes (sub) No
Serving as Art (sub) No
Serving as Furniture (sub)No
Serving as Maid (sub) 4
Strap on Dildos (sub) 4

Ok those are my answers

Brat

 

[inferiormale]

begging for answers

Hi people,

I find that most everything on this list excites me. There are some things on the list that I am ashamed or afraid to admit that I might like. Some of these I like and wish I didn't. Guess I just have to accept it.

There are some items on the list that leave me wondering. I either don't know what they are or don't understand how they would be used in an SM scene. I would appreciate if someone could elaborate for me as to how these things come into play in the SM world. Maybe someone could briefly describe how a scene would go:

• caging
• gas masks
• plastic wrap
• abrasion
• asphyxiation
• fireplay
• cutting
• whipping-taws
• abandonment
• fear
• medical instruments
• voyeurism
• personality modification
• struggling

My humble thanks.

 

[Belilica]

I posted this in the Q&A thread but no one is doing it right. Maybe it's my directions. Out to the side of each activity, start by indicating with a yes or no if you have done it. Then rate the activity from 1 to 5 with one meaning you would do it if a partner really wanted you to, and 5 meaning it's insanely erotic to you. Or any number in-between if your feelings are mixed. If there is no way you'd do it, and have never done it then the proper response is no, no.


I put this together for a friend who is writing a story. Thought it might be fun for the brave submissives to fill out. Some of you might recognize the questions from the Bondage.com profiles. I don't guess they'll mind me using them if I give them a plug.


For each activity, tell whether you have tried it, and how much you like it (or the idea of it, if you haven't done it yet) by giving a rating from 1 to 5.

"No" means you would not do it under any circumstances, 1 means you would do it if a partner really wanted you to (but there's no sexual charge for you at all), and 5 means it's insanely erotic to you.

A. Sex

no-3-Anal Sex (get)
yes-4-Ass Cheek Sex (get)
yes-5-Vibrators (get)
yes-4-Breast Sex (get)
yes-4-Butt Plugs (get)
yes-2-Dildo - Anal (get)
no-2-Dildo - Oral (get)
yes-5-Dildo - Vaginal (get)
no-4-Double Penetration - Dildo (get)
no-1-Double Penetration - Multiple partners
yes-3-Finger Sex (get)
yes-5-Genital Intercourse
yes-2-Hand Job (give)
yes-5-Licking (get)
yes-5-Licking (give)
yes-4-Massage (give)
yes-5-Oral Sex (give)
yes-3-Phone Sex
no-5-Sex in Public
no-5-Sex Outdoors Yes
no-no-Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time)
yes-5-Teasing (get)
no-1-Triple Penetration - Dildo (get)
no-1-Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get)

B. Bondage

no-1-Bondage - full body (get)
no-3-Bondage - Intricate Rope (get)
no-no-Bondage - Mental (get)
no-2-Bondage - Outdoors (get)
no-4-Bondage - Private (get)
no-no-Bondage - Public (get)
no-no-Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet)
no-3-Breast Bondage (get)
no-no-Caging (get)
no-no-Crucifixion (get)
no-no-Mummification (get)
yes-4-Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get)
no-2-Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get)
no-no-Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get)
no-no-Restraint Duration: multiple days (get)
no-no-Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get)
no-3-Restraint in public - under clothes (get)
no-2-Suspension (get)
no-2-Suspension - Horizontal (get)
no-2-Suspension - Inverted (get)

C. Bondage Toys

yes-3-Blindfolds (get)
no-no-Body Bags (get)
no-2-Duct Tape (get)
no-no-Full Head Hoods (get)
no-no-Gags - ball type (get)
no-no-Gags - bits (get)
no-no-Gags - cloth (get)
no-no-Gags - inflatable (get)
no-no-Gags - phallic (get)
no-2-Gags - tape (get)
no-no-Gas Masks (get)
no-3-Harnessing - leather(get)
no-3-Harnessing - rope(get)
no-no-Headphone/Earplugs (get)
no-2-Masks (wear)
no-no-Padlocks (get)
no-no-Plastic Wrap (get)
no-4-Restraints - Ankle (get)
no-1-Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get)
no-4-Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get)
no-3-Restraints - Leather (get)
no-2-Restraints - Metal (get)
no-3-Restraints - Rope (get)
no-3-Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get)
yes-5-Restraints - Wrist (get)
no-2-Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get)
yes-5-Silk Scarves (get)
no-3-Sleepsacks (get) - -
no-3-Slings/Swings (get)
no-2-Spreader bars (get)
no-1-Stocks (get)
no-no-Straight Jackets (get)

D. S&M

no-no-Abrasion (get)
no-3-Anal Dilation (get) - -
no-3-Anal Fisting (get)
no-no-Asphyxiation (get)
no-no-(Foot Sole Torture)
yes-4-Biting (get)
no-no-Choking (get)
no-no-Face Slapping (get)
no-no-Fireplay (get)
yes-5-Hair pulling (get)
no-3-Nipple Torture (get)
no-3-Spanking - on all fours (get)
no-1-Spanking - over knee (get)
no-no-Spanking hard (get)
yes-4-Spanking soft (get)
yes-2-Vaginal Dilation (get)
yes-4-Vaginal Fisting (get) - -

E. S&M Toys

no-2-Belt/Strap (get)
no-no-Caning (get)
no-no-Clothespins (get)
no-no-Cupping/Suction (get)
no-no-Cutting (get)
no-no-Electricity - Tens Unit (get)
no-no-Electricity - Violet Wand (get)
no-no- Flogging (get)
no-no-Hairbrushes (get)
yes-3-Ice Cubes (bottom)
no-no-Labial Clip (get)
no-2-Nipple Clamps (get)
no-1-Nipple Weights (get)
no-1-Paddling (get)
no-1-Piercing - temp (get)
no-no-Riding Crops (get)
no-no-Whipping - bullwhip (get)
no-no-Whipping - Cat (get)
no-no-Whipping - genitals (get)
no-no-Whipping - knotted whip (get)
no-no-Whipping - switch
no-no-Whipping - Taws (get)

F. Fetish


no-no-Abandonment (get)
no-no-Acrophilia (Arousal from heights)
no-no-Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees)
no-no-Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues)
yes-4-Barosmia (Arousal from smells)
yes-5-Being Recorded
no-no-Bestiality (get) - -
no-no-Boot Worship (get)
no-no-Branding (sub)
no-no-Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on)
no-no-Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing)
no-no-Catheterization (get)
no-3-Cock Rings (others)
no-no-Corsets (others) - -
no-4-Corsets (you)
no-no-Diapers (you)
no-no-(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil)
no-no-Douching (get)
no-no-Enemas (get)
no-2-Erotic Dancing (sub)
no-4-Exhibitionism
no-2-Fear
no-no-Feathers/Fur (others)
no-4-Feathers/Fur (you)
yes-5-Foot Worship (get)
no-no-Golden Showers (get)
no-no-Latex (others)
no-4-Latex (you)
no-no-Leather (others)
no-3-Leather (you)
no-no-Lingerie (others)
yes-5-Lingerie (you)
no-no-Medical Instruments
no-no-Needles
no-2-Oral/Anal Play (get)
no-1-Oral/Anal Play (give)
yes-3-Pain
no-no-Piercing (Permanent) (get)
yes-4-Posing for Erotic Photos
no-no-Prostitution (real)
no-no-Public Exposure
yes-5-Recording Scenes
no-2-Rituals
no-1-Sensory Deprivation (get)
yes-4-Shaving (get)
yes-3-Skinny-Dipping
no-no-Spandex (others)
no-no-Spandex (you)
no-no-Speculums (anal)
no-no-Speculums (vaginal)
no-no-Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom)
yes-1-Swallowing Semen
yes-5-Taking Erotic Photos
yes-3-Tasting Yourself
no-no-Tattoo (others)
no-no-Tattoos (you)
yes-4-Tickling (get)
no-3-Uniforms (others)
no-5-Uniforms (you)
no-2-Voyeurism
no-1-Wearing Fluids
yes-3-Wrestling

G. Power Play (I'm not into any of this except where indicated)

Bathroom use control (sub)
yes-4-Begging (sub)
yes-2-Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub)
Butt Plugs - public (sub)
Chastity Belts (sub)
yes-4-Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you)
Cock Worship (sub)
Collar and Leash (sub)
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar)
Competition (sub) (Subs compete)
Crawling (sub)
Eye Contact Restriction (sub)
yes-3-Following Orders
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub)
Forced Dressing (sub)
Forced Exercise (sub)
Forced Homosexuality (sub)
Forced Masturbation (sub)
no-3-Forced Nudity (sub)
Forced Servitude (sub)
Given Away(Be given away by your dom)
Hot Waxing (sub)
Housework (sub)
Humiliation - Private (sub)
Humiliation - Public (sub)
Humiliation - Verbal (sub)
Kneeling (sub)
Lecturing (sub)
yes-4-Manicures (get)
yes-3-Manicures (give)
Name Change (sub)
yes-5-Orgasm Control (sub)
no-1-Orgasm Denial (sub)
Personality Modification (sub)
Pussy Worship (sub)
Serving Orally (sub)
Sexual Deprivation (sub)
Sleep Deprivation (sub)
Speech Restrictions (sub)
Standing in Corner (sub)
yes-5-Struggling (sub)
Symbolic Jewelry (sub)
Weight Gain/Loss (sub)

H. Role Play

no-1-Chauffeuring (sub)
no-no-Fantasy Gang Rape (get)
yes-5-Fantasy Rape (get)
no-3-Initiation Rites (sub)
no-4-Interrogations (sub)
no-3-Kidnapping (sub)
no-no-Medical Scenes (sub)
no-no-Other Animal Play (sub)
no-no-Physical Examinations (sub)
no-no-Pony Play (sub)
no-no-Prison Scenes
no-1-Prostitution (pretend)
no-3-Punishment Scene (sub)
no-no-Puppy Play (sub)
no-no-Religious Scenes (sub)
no-no-Serving as Art (sub)
yes-3-Serving as Furniture (sub)
no-4-Serving as Maid (sub)
no-3-Strap on Dildos (sub)

 

[sabbathstorm]

A. Sex

Anal Sex (get) yes 5
Ass Cheek Sex (get) yes 3
Vibrators (get) yes 4
Breast Sex (get) yes 3
Butt Plugs (get) yes 4
Dildo - Anal (get) yes 4
Dildo - Oral (get) yes 3
Dildo - Vaginal (get) yes 5
Double Penetration - Dildo (get) yes 5
Double Penetration - Multiple partners yes 5
Finger Sex (get) yes 5
Genital Intercourse yes 4
Hand Job (give) yes 5
Licking (get) yes 5
Licking (give) yes 5
Massage (give) yes 3
Oral Sex (give) yes 4
Phone Sex yes 2
Sex in Public yes 4
Sex Outdoors yes 4
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time) yes 4
Teasing (get) yes 5
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get) yes 5
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get) yes 5

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get) yes 3
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get) no
Bondage - Mental (get) no
Bondage - Outdoors (get) no
Bondage - Private (get) yes 3
Bondage - Public (get) no
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet) no
Breast Bondage (get) no
Caging (get) no
Crucifixion (get) no
Mummification (get) no
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get) yes 4
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get) no
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get) no
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get) no
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get) no
Restraint in public - under clothes (get) no
Suspension (get) no
Suspension - Horizontal (get) no
Suspension - Inverted (get) no

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get) yes 5
Body Bags (get) no
Duct Tape (get) no
Full Head Hoods (get) no
Gags - ball type (get) no
Gags - bits (get) no
Gags - cloth (get) no
Gags - inflatable (get) no
Gags - phallic (get) no
Gags - tape (get) no
Gas Masks (get) no
Harnessing - leather(get) no
Harnessing - rope(get) no
Headphone/Earplugs (get) no
Masks (wear) yes 4
Padlocks (get) no
Plastic Wrap (get) no
Restraints - Ankle (get) no
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get) no
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get) yes 5
Restraints - Leather (get) yes 5
Restraints - Metal (get) yes 5
Restraints - Rope (get) no
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get) no
Restraints - Wrist (get) yes 3
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get) no
Silk Scarves (get) yes 5
Sleepsacks (get) no
Slings/Swings (get) no
Spreader bars (get) no
Stocks (get) no
Straight Jackets (get) no

D. S&M

Abrasion (get) no
Anal Dilation (get) no
Anal Fisting (get) no
Asphyxiation (get) no
(Foot Sole Torture) no
Biting (get) no
Choking (get) no
Face Slapping (get) no
Fireplay (get) no
Hair pulling (get) yes 5
Nipple Torture (get) no
Spanking - on all fours (get) yes 2
Spanking - over knee (get) no
Spanking hard (get) no
Spanking soft (get) yes 2
Vaginal Dilation (get) no
Vaginal Fisting (get) yes 4

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get) no
Caning (get) no
Clothespins (get) no
Cupping/Suction (get) no
Cutting (get) no
Electricity - Tens Unit (get) no
Electricity - Violet Wand (get) no
- - Flogging (get) no
Hairbrushes (get) no
Ice Cubes (bottom) yes 5
Labial Clip (get) no
Nipple Clamps (get) no
Nipple Weights (get) no
Paddling (get) no
Piercing - temp (get) yes 4
Riding Crops (get) no
Whipping - bullwhip (get) no
Whipping - Cat (get) no
Whipping - genitals (get) no
Whipping - knotted whip (get) no
Whipping - switch yes 5
Whipping - Taws (get) no

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get) no
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights) no
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees) no
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) no
Barosmia (Arousal from smells) no
Being Recorded yes 5
Bestiality (get) no
Boot Worship (get) yes 5
Branding (sub) no
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on) no
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing) no
Catheterization (get) no
Cock Rings (others) yes 4
Corsets (others) yes 3
Corsets (you) yes 5
Diapers (you) no
(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil) no
Douching (get) no
Enemas (get) no
Erotic Dancing (sub) yes 3
Exhibitionism yes 5
Fear no
Feathers/Fur (others) yes 3
Feathers/Fur (you) yes 3
Foot Worship (get) yes 3
Golden Showers (get) no
Latex (others) yes 3
Latex (you) yes 4
Leather (others) yes 5
Leather (you) yes 5
Lingerie (others) yes 4
Lingerie (you) yes 4
Medical Instruments no
Needles no
Oral/Anal Play (get) yes 5
Oral/Anal Play (give) yes 4
Pain yes
Piercing (Permanent) (get) yes 5
Posing for Erotic Photos yes 3
Prostitution (real) no
Public Exposure yes 3
Recording Scenes yes 3
Rituals yes 4
Sensory Deprivation (get) no
Shaving (get) yes 5
Skinny-Dipping yes 4
Spandex (others) yes 3
Spandex (you) yes 3
Speculums (anal) no
Speculums (vaginal) no
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom) no
Swallowing Semen yes 4
Taking Erotic Photos yes 3
Tasting Yourself yes 5
Tattoo (others) yes 5
Tattoos (you) yes 5
Tickling (get) yes 2
Uniforms (others) yes 5
Uniforms (you) yes 5
Voyeurism yes 5
Wearing Fluids no
Wrestling no

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub) no
Begging (sub) no
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub) no
Butt Plugs - public (sub) no
Chastity Belts (sub) no
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you) no
Cock Worship (sub) no
Collar and Leash (sub) no
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar) no
Competition (sub) (Subs compete) no
Crawling (sub) no
Eye Contact Restriction (sub) no
Following Orders no
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub) no
Forced Dressing (sub) no
Forced Exercise (sub) no
Forced Homosexuality (sub) no
Forced Masturbation (sub) no
Forced Nudity (sub) no
Forced Servitude (sub) no
Given Away(Be given away by your dom) no
Hot Waxing (sub) no
Housework (sub) no
Humiliation - Private (sub) no
Humiliation - Public (sub) no
Humiliation - Verbal (sub) no
Kneeling (sub) no
Lecturing (sub) no
Manicures (get) yes 2
Manicures (give) no
Name Change (sub) no
Orgasm Control (sub) no
Orgasm Denial (sub) no
Personality Modification (sub) no
Pussy Worship (sub) no
Serving Orally (sub) yes 4
Sexual Deprivation (sub) no
Sleep Deprivation (sub) no
Speech Restrictions (sub) no
Standing in Corner (sub) no
Struggling (sub) no
Symbolic Jewelry (sub) no
Weight Gain/Loss (sub) no

H. Role Play

Chauffeuring (sub) yes 3
Fantasy Gang Rape (get) yes 5
Fantasy Rape (get) yes 5
Initiation Rites (sub) no
Interrogations (sub) no
Kidnapping (sub) no
Medical Scenes (sub) no
Other Animal Play (sub) no
Physical Examinations (sub) no
Pony Play (sub) no
Prison Scenes no
Prostitution (pretend) yes 1
Punishment Scene (sub) no
Puppy Play (sub) no
Religious Scenes (sub) no
Serving as Art (sub) no
Serving as Furniture (sub) no
Serving as Maid (sub) no
Strap on Dildos (sub) no

 

[Guest]

A. Sex

Anal Sex (get) yes 4
Ass Cheek Sex (get) yes 5
Vibrators (get) yes 5
Breast Sex (get) yes 3
Butt Plugs (get) yes 4
Dildo - Anal (get) yes 4
Dildo - Oral (get) yes 3
Dildo - Vaginal (get) yes 5
Double Penetration - Dildo (get) yes 5
Double Penetration - Multiple partners yes 5
Finger Sex (get) yes 4
Genital Intercourse yes 5
Hand Job (give) yes 4
Licking (get) yes 5
Licking (give) yes 5
Massage (give) yes 5
Oral Sex (give) yes 5
Phone Sex yes 2
Sex in Public yes 4
Sex Outdoors Yes 5
Swinging (Trading your partners with other partners for any amount of time) yes 2
Teasing (get) yes 5
Triple Penetration - Dildo (get) yes 3
Triple Penetration - Multiple partners (get) yes 3

B. Bondage

Bondage - full body (get) yes 2
Bondage - Intricate Rope (get) yes4
Bondage - Mental (get) yes 4
Bondage - Outdoors (get) yes 3
Bondage - Private (get) yes 5
Bondage - Public (get) yes 3
Boxing / Closeting (get)(Being put in a box or closet) yes 1
Breast Bondage (get) yes 5
Caging (get) yes 3
Crucifixion (get) yes 1
Mummification (get) yes 1
Restraint Duration: 0-1hr (get) yes 3
Restraint Duration: 1-3hrs (get) yes 2
Restraint Duration: 3+ hrs (get) yes 2
Restraint Duration: multiple days (get) yes 2
Restraint Duration: overnight or full day (get) yes 3
Restraint in public - under clothes (get) yes 5
Suspension (get) yes 2
Suspension - Horizontal (get) yes 2
Suspension - Inverted (get) yes 1

C. Bondage Toys

Blindfolds (get) yes 5
Body Bags (get) yes 3
Duct Tape (get) yes 3
Full Head Hoods (get)yes 4
Gags - ball type (get) yes 4
Gags - bits (get) yes 3
Gags - cloth (get) yes 5
Gags - inflatable (get) yes 3
Gags - phallic (get) yes 3
Gags - tape (get) yes 3
Gas Masks (get) yes 1
Harnessing - leather(get) yes 3
Harnessing - rope(get) yes 4
Headphone/Earplugs (get) yes 1
Masks (wear) yes 2
Padlocks (get) yes 2
Plastic Wrap (get) yes 3
Restraints - Ankle (get) yes 5
Restraints - Arm & leg sleeves (get) yes 4
Restraints - Hand Cuffs (get) yes 5
Restraints - Leather (get) yes 5
Restraints - Metal (get) yes 4
Restraints - Rope (get) yes 5
Restraints - Thumb Cuffs (get) yes 3
Restraints - Wrist (get) yes 5
Restraints - Wrist to ankle/neck/waist (get) yes 3
Silk Scarves (get) yes 5
Sleepsacks (get) - - yes 3
Slings/Swings (get) yes 5
Spreader bars (get) yes 4
Stocks (get) yes 3
Straight Jackets (get) yes 5

D. S&M

Abrasion (get) yes 2
Anal Dilation (get) - - yes 3
Anal Fisting (get) yes 1
Asphyxiation (get) yes 1
(Foot Sole Torture)
Biting (get) yes 5
Choking (get) yes 2
Face Slapping (get) yes 3
Fireplay (get) yes 3
Hair pulling (get) yes 3
Nipple Torture (get) yes 5
Spanking - on all fours (get) yes 5
Spanking - over knee (get) yes 5
Spanking hard (get) yes 3
Spanking soft (get) yes 5
Vaginal Dilation (get) yes 4
Vaginal Fisting (get) - - yes 3

E. S&M Toys

Belt/Strap (get) yes 2
Caning (get) yes 2
Clothespins (get) yes 5
Cupping/Suction (get) yes 5
Cutting (get) yes 1
Electricity - Tens Unit (get) yes 2
Electricity - Violet Wand (get) yes 2
- - Flogging (get)
Hairbrushes (get) yes 1
Ice Cubes (bottom) yes 3
Labial Clip (get) yes 5
Nipple Clamps (get) yes 5
Nipple Weights (get) yes 4
Paddling (get) yes 3
Piercing - temp (get)yes 3
Riding Crops (get) yes 3
Whipping - bullwhip (get) yes 2
Whipping - Cat (get) yes 2
Whipping - genitals (get) yes 2
Whipping - knotted whip (get) yes 1
Whipping - switch yes 2
Whipping - Taws (get) yes 1

F. Fetish


Abandonment (get) yes 2
Acrophilia (Arousal from heights) yes 3
Acrotomophilia (Sex with Amputees) yes 3
Agalmatophilia (Sex with Statues) yes 3
Barosmia (Arousal from smells) yes 2
Being Recorded yes 5
Bestiality (get) - - yes 5
Boot Worship (get) yes 3
Branding (sub) yes 1
Brown Showers (get) (Skat Play - Getting shit on) yes 1
Brown Showers (give)(Skat Play - Shitting on someone/thing) yes 1
Catheterization (get) yes 1
Cock Rings (others) yes 2
Corsets (others) - - yes 4
Corsets (you) yes 4
Diapers (you) yes 1
(Sex involving mud/dirt/oil)
Douching (get) yes 2
Enemas (get) yes 1
Erotic Dancing (sub)yes 3
Exhibitionism yes 4
Fear yes 4
Feathers/Fur (others) yes 5
Feathers/Fur (you) yes 5
Foot Worship (get) yes 3
Golden Showers (get) yes 3
Latex (others) yes 3
Latex (you) yes 3
Leather (others) yes 4
Leather (you) yes 5
Lingerie (others) yes 4
Lingerie (you) yes 4
Medical Instruments yes 3
Needles yes 1
Oral/Anal Play (get) yes 5
Oral/Anal Play (give) yes 5
Pain yes 4
Piercing (Permanent) (get) yes 2
Posing for Erotic Photos yes 4
Prostitution (real) yes 4
Public Exposure yes 4
Recording Scenes yes 4
Rituals yes 3
Sensory Deprivation (get) no
Shaving (get) yes 5
Skinny-Dipping yes 5
Spandex (others) yes 4
Spandex (you) yes 4
Speculums (anal) yes 3
Speculums (vaginal) yes 3
Supplying victims (Providing subs for your dom) yes 3
Swallowing Semen yes 5
Taking Erotic Photos yes 5
Tasting Yourself yes 5
Tattoo (others) yes 5
Tattoos (you) yes 5
Tickling (get) yes 3
Uniforms (others) yes 3
Uniforms (you) yes 4
Voyeurism yes 5
Wearing Fluids yes 4
Wrestling yes 3

G. Power Play

Bathroom use control (sub) yes 2
Begging (sub) yes 5
Behavior Restrictive Rules (sub)yes 2
Butt Plugs - public (sub) yes 3
Chastity Belts (sub) yes 2
Clothing choice (sub)(Have your clothes chosen for you) yes 4
Cock Worship (sub) yes 4
Collar and Leash (sub) yes 4
Collars (sub)(Be made to wear a collar) yes 4
Competition (sub) (Subs compete) yes 1
Crawling (sub) yes 3
Eye Contact Restriction (sub) yes2
Following Orders yes 5
Food Choice/Directed Eating (sub) yes 2
Forced Dressing (sub) yes 3
Forced Exercise (sub) yes 1
Forced Homosexuality (sub)yes 5
Forced Masturbation (sub) yes 5
Forced Nudity (sub) yes 5
Forced Servitude (sub) yes 4
Given Away(Be given away by your dom) yes 3
Hot Waxing (sub) yes 1
Housework (sub) yes 1
Humiliation - Private (sub) yes4
Humiliation - Public (sub) yes 3
Humiliation - Verbal (sub) yes 1
Kneeling (sub) yes 4
Lecturing (sub) yes 1
Manicures (get) yes 1
Manicures (give) yes1
Name Change (sub) yes 2
Orgasm Control (sub) yes 4
Orgasm Denial (sub) yes3
Personality Modification (sub) no
Pussy Worship (sub) yes 5
Serving Orally (sub) yes 5
Sexual Deprivation (sub) yes 2
Sleep Deprivation (sub) yes 1
Speech Restrictions (sub) 2
Standing in Corner (sub) 3
Struggling (sub) 5
Symbolic Jewelry (sub)3
Weight Gain/Loss (sub) 1

H. Role Play

Chauffeuring (sub) 1
Fantasy Gang Rape (get) 5
Fantasy Rape (get) 5
Initiation Rites (sub) 3
Interrogations (sub) 3
Kidnapping (sub) 3
Medical Scenes (sub) 3
Other Animal Play (sub) 5
Physical Examinations (sub)4
Pony Play (sub) 4
Prison Scenes 3
Prostitution (pretend)5
Punishment Scene (sub) 4
Puppy Play (sub) 4
Religious Scenes (sub) 2
Serving as Art (sub) 5
Serving as Furniture (sub) 2
Serving as Maid (sub) 2