bdsm and meditation

[arctic-stranger]

recently i started meditating on a regular basis. I have found it gives me great concentration in other areas of my life, and i am thinking it will increase my focus as a dom.

Has anyone else had this experience? Do any of you meditate, and if so how, and how has it helped you?

 

[graceanne]

I meditate, but not during sex or anything bdsm related. I've found it really helps me relax, and when I can feel my body tearing a new ulcer into me (namely I get cramps in my tummy) I sit back and do some meditating. It really helps.

When I was a kid, my grandpa taught me how to meditate for just that reason. He told me if I didn't learn to relax I was going to get sick. I wish I'd made it more of a regular in my life.

 

[sphynx's dragon]

I meditate fairly regularly, generally to help clear my head and recenter myself. I've found it really helps me keep calm and deal with the many idiots I encounter at work every day.

 

[shy slave]

I meditate most days.

I have a separate room with a small waterfall, crystals etc.

It has a lovely energy in there, as soon as I walk through the door I begin to relax.

Regular meditation, even if only for ten minutes, is am important part of who I am.

The first time I was ever put into bondage I began drifting just as I do when I meditate.

Picture the scene: Incense or oil burning, quiet music, small rose and amethyst crystals placed around the room, eyes closed, tied and bound and the the person you trust and love is right beside you ~ How could you not drift into that space where nothing exists but the private space in your mind?

Since finding D/s my meditations have changed; I can go further, deeper and come back without feeling I need to stay where my mind had been.

Has anyone else found similiarities between aspects of D/s and a meditative state?

 

[Netzach]

I've begun doing progressive relaxation, very basic tensing and relaxing of muscles from head to toe. I find it's helping a HUGE amount with everything in my life. Relaxation is learned. Relaxation is not learned in the intellectual front brain, it's learned in the animal brain.

 

[canadiancutie]

I've been meditating since before I knew what the word "sub" meant. w00t.

 

[grace9]

I meditate most days.

I have a separate room with a small waterfall, crystals etc.

It has a lovely energy in there, as soon as I walk through the door I begin to relax.

Regular meditation, even if only for ten minutes, is am important part of who I am.

The first time I was ever put into bondage I began drifting just as I do when I meditate.

Picture the scene: Incense or oil burning, quiet music, small rose and amethyst crystals placed around the room, eyes closed, tied and bound and the the person you trust and love is right beside you ~ How could you not drift into that space where nothing exists but the private space in your mind?

Since finding D/s my meditations have changed; I can go further, deeper and come back without feeling I need to stay where my mind had been.

Has anyone else found similiarities between aspects of D/s and a meditative state?

Hi shy

D/s and meditation?....a point in both of letting go? A yielding of my stubborn self to my more pliant nature? That was part of the attraction to D/s for me. To have a deeper physical experience of that relinquishment of self that I have in meditation was what appealed to me. A point where, mentally, physically and emotionally I give in. I cease struggle and find a way to just "be". In both I stop thinking. I stop "do"ing. A triad of sorts of mind, body and soul is reached and they all feel aligned.

I'm still new to this...so...this and a grain of salt...will barely season a steak.

Gracie~

 

[grace9]

recently i started meditating on a regular basis. I have found it gives me great concentration in other areas of my life, and i am thinking it will increase my focus as a dom.

Has anyone else had this experience? Do any of you meditate, and if so how, and how has it helped you?

I have meditated daily since 1998. I usually do it in the am (dawn) when it feels like I have the world all to myself.
As for how it helps?....general concentration, peace of mind, feeling at ease in my skin, I don't knee jerk react.....it's helped in so many ways. Over time it has not changed me as much as helped me find the still waters within. I feel centered mostly. More than anything else. The combined tools I've gained from it help me to experience life in each moment as opposed to react to it the way I used to.

Bottom line?....It gets me in touch with myself and gives me the serenity to surrender to my brighter nature.

Gracie~

 

[flowerchilde]

I've found that being able to meditate has allowed me to take my submission further than I ever thought I would be able to go! I can concentrate more fully on the sensations when my mind is not full of the everyday chatter that tends to be swirling around in there. I also find that both meditation and submiting relax me in similar ways, there's a very stress relieving quality to giving up control of your body.

 

[arctic-stranger]

I am curious. what do you do when you meditate. I try to let go and just breath, with no other concerns for the 20 to 30 minutes i do it. sometimes i go over a phrase, and sometimes i just try to relax and clear my mind.

 

[His_pita]

My Dom has me learning to meditate. I find it hard to get my brain to focus and calm down. I usually start by saying my mantra several times and that does help me feel more relaxed. He has me focusing on myself and my submission. Which isn't has easy as focusing on him.

I like the early morning idea. I have been trying to mediate at the end of the day and usually find myself just replaying the days events over in my head.

 

[graceanne]

For me, I meditate more when I'm sick, because it's great pain relief. I didn't realize how much of my stress I carry in my stomach till I got sick this last time. Whenever I'd start worrying, or thinking of Ella, or anything like that I would get severe cramps in my stomach. I found that if I started breathing deeply and slowly, and clearing my thoughts that sometimes I wouldn't need any more pain meds. And even if I did need more pain meds, I needed less than I did when I wasn't meditating.

Quite frankly I can, if I concentrate hard enough, relieve pain without any help. This only works for minor to moderate pain. It did not work when I was in labor with A. But I can get rid of bad headaches and stuff, while I'm meditating. Unfortunately the pain usually comes back as soon as I stop meditating.

 

[graceanne]

I am curious. what do you do when you meditate. I try to let go and just breath, with no other concerns for the 20 to 30 minutes i do it. sometimes i go over a phrase, and sometimes i just try to relax and clear my mind.

I start by counting my breaths, and concentrating on just that. If that doesn't work, I say the Lords Prayer over and over. I've known other people who repeat bible verses in their heads while praying. The bible says to 'meditate on the word of the lord'.

 

[shy slave]

Hi shy

D/s and meditation?....a point in both of letting go? A yielding of my stubborn self to my more pliant nature? That was part of the attraction to D/s for me. To have a deeper physical experience of that relinquishment of self that I have in meditation was what appealed to me. A point where, mentally, physically and emotionally I give in. I cease struggle and find a way to just "be". In both I stop thinking. I stop "do"ing. A triad of sorts of mind, body and soul is reached and they all feel aligned.

I'm still new to this...so...this and a grain of salt...will barely season a steak.

Gracie~

I am glad I am not alone in seeing the similiarities between submission and meditation.

If thats your grain of salt its either a large grain or a very small steak!

I like how you describe how the triad comes together.

grace has it made your meditations easier to 'go further' or develop since discovering D/s?

 

[Leolover711]

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Peace Peace Peace

Anything and everything is possible.

If you have never read it, read, Be Here Now by Ram Das

D/s and even good vanilla sex is about being here concentrating in the moment. This is the rationale behind tantric yoga. Using sex to suspend your mind, oh yeah and all that stuff about raising your kundalini.

 

[shy slave]

My Dom has me learning to meditate. I find it hard to get my brain to focus and calm down. I usually start by saying my mantra several times and that does help me feel more relaxed. He has me focusing on myself and my submission. Which isn't has easy as focusing on him.

I like the early morning idea. I have been trying to mediate at the end of the day and usually find myself just replaying the days events over in my head.

Lots of people find the morning better.
Unfortunately I like sleeping to much to meditate then.

I usually meditate at the end of a day. It helps me unwind and put the day into perspective.
If the days thoughts are going over and over in my mind I imagine locking them in suitcase, sending them away in a hot air balloon or tying them to the string of a hellium balloon ~anywhere that allows my mind to be free of thoughts, worries, uncompleted tasks for a short time
I have a friend who writes their thoughts down before meditating, including what tasks need to be completed later, that way they don't forget things but nor are they too distracted to meditate.

I can't focus on mantras and manage to go into a reasonably deep meditation.

I use several ways to meditate depending on what how i feel at the time.
I can hear a Spirit guide in my mind describing a peaceful situation.
Or I listen to a cd of the Ohm.
Or I picture a pin prick of light on the floor getting larger until it is a column of light with droplets of light falling down.

I do believe in spirit guides and angels (insert your own eye rolling emoticion here!) so my meditations are generally aimed at getting closer to Spirit/God.

I have found that when I am very stressed I find it hard to make time to meditate, ironic when this is the time I need it most of all.

 

[shy slave]

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Shanti Shanti Shanti

AAAAUUUUUUMMMMMM

Peace Peace Peace

Anything and everything is possible.

If you have never read it, read, Be Here Now by Ram Das

D/s and even good vanilla sex is about being here concentrating in the moment. This is the rationale behind tantric yoga. Using sex to suspend your mind, oh yeah and all that stuff about raising your kundalini.

So now people will wonder which bit of your body is called a Kundalini.

Before you know it you will be describing chakras, colours and starting whole threads on healing !!
Imagine the kind of posts you would get if you entitled it 'healing hands'

Edit to add:
One day I may get round to starting a web group about Spiritual things, will let you know if and when I do

 

[O'Mac]

I meditate regularly. Though I suppose in my case it usually consists of going to a crowded pub and watching a game or two on the tele while having a few pints of Strongbow. I suppose it's not what some would call orthodox meditation, but if the whole point is to relax and refresh yourself physically and mentally, I don't see how it's not valid.

 

[shy slave]

I meditate regularly. Though I suppose in my case it usually consists of going to a crowded pub and watching a game or two on the tele while having a few pints of Strongbow. I suppose it's not what some would call orthodox meditation, but if the whole point is to relax and refresh yourself physically and mentally, I don't see how it's not valid.

Its very valid in terms of relaxing however meditation is often seen as a time to turn inwards and reflect on things beyond your everyday thoughts.

This isn't easily done in a crowded pub, unless your with others jointly praying that your team wins.

In which case its a worthwhile amount of time spend with a group, chanting, praying and deep meditation.

 

[O'Mac]

Its very valid in terms of relaxing however meditation is often seen as a time to turn inwards and reflect on things beyond your everyday thoughts.

This isn't easily done in a crowded pub, unless your with others jointly praying that your team wins.

In which case its a worthwhile amount of time spend with a group, chanting, praying and deep meditation.

Chanting, praying, watching. Yeah, I never even thought about that until you mentioned it. I suppose at times the whole experience can be somewhat interupted, but I suppose people can just find relaxation in any sort of way that suits them the best.

 

[grace9]

I am glad I am not alone in seeing the similiarities between submission and meditation.

If thats your grain of salt its either a large grain or a very small steak!

I like how you describe how the triad comes together.

grace has it made your meditations easier to 'go further' or develop since discovering D/s?

Hi shy

Since discovering D/s my meditations have gotten "lighter" actually.....it's odd...I used to go so deep that I would "fade out" and lose touch with my immediate environment....now they still center and connect me but D/s is taking me to some pretty in depth places inside. It's almost like my A.M. meditations become refreshers. Morning inhalations that recharge my spirit. With D/s and my SO involved at that level of surrender it is sometimes daunting to me. In the beginning I had minor meltdowns. This is my first official D/s relationship and it threw me for a loop how I would be so upset minutes or hours afterward. Sometimes even the next day! It was whenever I let myself go completely that I was very frightened after....(I'm not too chicken to say that, lol)....*pats self on back for bravery*.....That has since passed but it was a hurdle. Now I let it happen....I get out of the way and release.

I think my prior experience with meditation DEFINITELY helps me to go deeper with D/s. It did not take too many times with each other for me to rocket to my "Zen" place and once there....getting prodded further along....releasing control about where it was I would be going....and letting go of control about what would happen and how I'd get "back"....That was enlivening and difficult. I have never felt more bare in my life than in those moments or more fully alive.

With meditation I stand on the cliff of the spiritual abyss of All That Is....since D/s, it is like being coaxed to fall beyond the edge and when rocketing through the air...I discover I can fly.

*sits down, folds hands, polite*

Shutting up now

ps - no you're not alone in seeing a connection and thank you also for your nice comments above about my lightly salted thoughts....

 

[grace9]

So now people will wonder which bit of your body is called a Kundalini.

Before you know it you will be describing chakras, colours and starting whole threads on healing !!
Imagine the kind of posts you would get if you entitled it 'healing hands'

Edit to add:
One day I may get round to starting a web group about Spiritual things, will let you know if and when I do

*raises hand*
If ya start one...I'd join

G~

 

[ammre]

i do yoga, have a tibetian singing bowl in the pitch of E for the solar plexis and it's color is yellow, which gives willpower type energy.
I also walk, hula hoop and spin poi for a sort of physical release.

but uh enough of that stuff.
i also use pain to meditate. Your workd is absolutelly going nuts? well a good pain clears the surface sort of like a drop of dawn into a pan with a layer of oil at the surface. Suspension is that meditation for me. my entire world feels super calm once i'm done.

 

[shy slave]

Hi shy

Since discovering D/s my meditations have gotten "lighter" actually.....it's odd...I used to go so deep that I would "fade out" and lose touch with my immediate environment....now they still center and connect me but D/s is taking me to some pretty in depth places inside. It's almost like my A.M. meditations become refreshers. Morning inhalations that recharge my spirit. With D/s and my SO involved at that level of surrender it is sometimes daunting to me. In the beginning I had minor meltdowns. This is my first official D/s relationship and it threw me for a loop how I would be so upset minutes or hours afterward. Sometimes even the next day! It was whenever I let myself go completely that I was very frightened after....(I'm not too chicken to say that, lol)....*pats self on back for bravery*.....That has since passed but it was a hurdle. Now I let it happen....I get out of the way and release.

I think my prior experience with meditation DEFINITELY helps me to go deeper with D/s. It did not take too many times with each other for me to rocket to my "Zen" place and once there....getting prodded further along....releasing control about where it was I would be going....and letting go of control about what would happen and how I'd get "back"....That was enlivening and difficult. I have never felt more bare in my life than in those moments or more fully alive.

With meditation I stand on the cliff of the spiritual abyss of All That Is....since D/s, it is like being coaxed to fall beyond the edge and when rocketing through the air...I discover I can fly.

*sits down, folds hands, polite*

Shutting up now

ps - no you're not alone in seeing a connection and thank you also for your nice comments above about my lightly salted thoughts....

Grace you describe the feelings so well, thanks for that.

And don't shut up your words make sense to me, but then again maybe that should worry you a little!

lol

 

[arctic-stranger]

Thank you for your thoughtful responses. Are Netzach and i the only doms who meditate regularly?

PS living in the cabin has given me both more and less time to meditate. There is only one room and a loft, so when the kids are here, it is impossible. but when it is just me....even doing the dishes is a meditative activity.