BBW & sexuality

[Montana_Roze]

I am a recent reconvert to the internet. I used to chat years ago. Remember when things were free?

I have been mildly surprised(ok more like WOWZERS) how many men like bigger women.

Does any other bbw want to talk about this with me?

Or anyone else. Not limiting this to bbw's. Men who love them may reply as well lol.

 

[quickcarl31b40]

I've always loved BBW

Montana,
I've always loved BBW and always will. Women who are comfortable with their size are, in my opinion, better lovers and more willing to share themselves and explore their sexuallity than some little "Barbie" doll who worries about how many calories that salad has. Thanks for starting this thread.

Carl

 

[homeboy84u]

I Like BBW, too.

To be honest, I like all sizes and shapes of women but I am partial to BBW's.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

May I ask what it is that draws you men to this fetish? I've always wondered.

 

[braincum]

A slim woman I know asked me the same question. I thought a minute, and said, "When I make a big woman cum, I love to feel all of her respond; all that flesh, all that pleasure. Hooha!

 

[2old2care]

Fetish????

May I ask what it is that draws you men to this fetish? I've always wondered.

Why do you call it a fetish? What is wrong with a man just enjoying the company of a person irregardless of size?

I've never considered my enjoyment of a BBW as a fetish....

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Sorry, I've always seen the "BBW" thing as a fetish.

 

[Montana_Roze]

A slim woman I know asked me the same question. I thought a minute, and said, "When I make a big woman cum, I love to feel all of her respond; all that flesh, all that pleasure. Hooha!

OK wow no one has ever put it like that........hooha1

 

[Montana_Roze]

Sorry, I've always seen the "BBW" thing as a fetish.

Hmmm I have fetishes but I have never thought of myself as one?

 

[BedtimeStories77]

I'm not sure how to explain it, really, it was just the impression I always got.

 

[Emes]

I am a BBW and have never seen myself as a fetish either!

It has taken a lot for me to be comfortable with my body....and to realise that i am not a 'freak' and that men like women my size. Yes i know i could do with losing a bit of weight but thats for me...no-one else.

I think men like to have the pretty skinny things so they look good with their friends....but want something to get a hold of in the bedroom, lounge, kitchen, etc!

You only need to look at the am pics bit on here to see how popular us BBW are....hell...it surprised me when Masters pic thread was running, how many people liked my body!!!!!

 

[liv2lik]

Hey, I'd like to clear one thing up (If I may). A "fetish" is a reference to the sexualization of the non sexual, ie. a shoe fetish is one who not mearly finds shoes sexy, but it ultimately is the key to his erotic satisfaction.
Having an attraction template that either extends to a broader spectrum of body image or is focused on a narrower spectrum is just a preference.
Personally, I think sexy people are sexy. I don't really exclude anyone, but my experiences are what they are. I have definitely had some very voluptuous women rock my world (*sigh*). It is'nt exclusive, but they are definitely in the mix of who I'm gonna notice when I walk into a room.

 

[Guest]

May I ask what it is that draws you men to this fetish? I've always wondered.

As a BBW I find this offensive.

 

[shadowdame]

As a BBW I find this offensive.

As another BBW, so do I.

Just because we are big women doesn't mean we aren't attractive, or undesireable. I've learned this the hard way. I've grown very comfortable in my own skin and with who and what I am. I used to have the attitude when I was a kid that if others didn't like me so be it. I can't make everyone happy, only myself. I've found that attitude again and you know what? I've met lots of people in r/l guys included, that like me just the way I am and don't want me to change one bit.

BBW's are awesome women!

 

[Jonny G]

women are just womaen, and god bless them, size just doest matter to a real man, its the woman underneath, weather she be pammy anderson, who i think could bore the tits off me, or some overweight lady who just might get my undies off after 2 mins...!

not that im easy like...!

size, weight, color, tall, small, fat, thin, good looking or not so........its the woman, and that what i love...! as long as they are nice, with no prejudise etc...!

i thank you.

 

[TitilateMe]

I'm aware that some men clearly prefer their women in larger sizes and that others really want the model-type. I discovered that dating men who have any particular size preference wasn't something I wanted to do. I figured that men who liked me, liked me, and I didn't want that to be based upon my looks exclusively.

I used to think that there were BBW lovers and others who weren't. I learned that men who didn't think they were "into" bigger women liked me. It was interesting to see them change their minds. It did require someone who was a bit more openminded to accept dating someone who he didn't see himself with. Dating someone based only on sterotypical looks can be narrowminded on either end of the scale.

I personally was open to dating men who were of any size, as long as their brains was nice and big.

 

[Jonny G]

its the person, i agree, some big women repluse me, but not cause of the size, its personality that matters.

 

[mymastersslut]

As another BBW, so do I.

Just because we are big women doesn't mean we aren't attractive, or undesireable. I've learned this the hard way. I've grown very comfortable in my own skin and with who and what I am. I used to have the attitude when I was a kid that if others didn't like me so be it. I can't make everyone happy, only myself. I've found that attitude again and you know what? I've met lots of people in r/l guys included, that like me just the way I am and don't want me to change one bit.

BBW's are awesome women!

I couldn't agree more Shadow....

We BBW's are awsome women in our own way!!!

 

[lik_m_ade]

So many things I want to say in this thread, so little time

So here goes:

1) Agree with the statement that one doen't have a fetish for a person, but rather objects and individual body parts.

2) That being said, I believe Eve was trying to ask a question to better understand others' interest. Having seen her name on some threads that I don't frequent, I wonder at times about her interest in them, but don't make the effort to ask. I'm sure she didn't intend to produce negative feelings for anyone, so I'd say give it the benefit of the doubt and share your thoughts with her.

3) I personally don't like the term BBW. Simply because The first B doesn't necessarily lead to the second B for me. I really like curvy women, definitely my preference, but being curvy, doesn't automatically make you beautiful in my book. Personality, sense of humour, intelligence, wit, style, and self-perception all contribute to the package of what makes a beautiful woman. Thus, for me, not all curvy women are beautiful and those less curvy aren't necessarily excluded either-it all depends on the total woman.

4) What's nice about curves for me is being able to hold, hug, play and move together without worrying about the other's wellbeing. (I'm a big boy and don't always want to hold back on account of a size difference) Also curves are fun to run fingers over, to caress, to lick, and enjoy in an intimate fashion. And I find them visually appealing when tastefully presented.

5) I'm tired of numbering my points it makes me feel like I'm at work.

So that's my take on things-for me it's the individual woman and how she feels about herself that makes or breaks how sexy I find her. Curves are great, but only part of the package.

That's it for me-thanks for reading, carry on!

Cheers,

Lik

 

[Jonny G]

I couldn't agree more Shadow....

We BBW's are awsome women in our own way!!!

Being big doesnt make you awsum...! there is so much more than just that one thing....!

 

[shadowdame]

Being big doesnt make you awsum...! there is so much more than just that one thing....!

Very true, Johnny, very true.

 

[College_geek]

Hmm...such a risky topic, but not so uncommon.

I've been a large girl my entire life, so I've had to grow up with other people looking at me differently. During high school, I always wanted to be looked at like a sexual object because I knew it probably would never happen. I had very low self-esteem and focused a bit too much on how others viewed me.

After coming to college, some things changed and some things didn't. I learned that there are men who like larger women and this made me happy and boosted my confidence. I've thought about why this is many times before and this is kinda what I came up with.

I think some men do take it as a fetish. They normally prefer slim women, but for whatever reason, bbws gets them off and from time to time they enjoy watching porn with bbws or having sex with them. Porn mags and websites treat bbws as a fetish category which keeps fueling this idea. I've talked to a few people before about "why it's a fetish", with me arguing against it and them for it. They basically said that it's a "sick fetish" because it's "not widely accepted and not the standard". I think this is bullshit, but whatever.

Now, I think most men who like larger women, whether they exclusively like bbws or they generally just like women of any shape, size, and color, take it as a perfectly normal thing. BBWs are women too, and a good deal of bbws that I have met, both online and in real life, have more spirit, personality, enthusiasm, and love for themselves than I've seen in slim or average girls. (In fact, a lot of the slim girls I know still think that they're overweight and complain about their looks more than I ever did.) The men that I have talked and flirted with online, especially the ones that frequent my photo threads, like all types of women as long as they're easy to talk to, fun to be with, and have a love of sex.

 

[shadowdame]

So many things I want to say in this thread, so little time

So here goes:

1) Agree with the statement that one doen't have a fetish for a person, but rather objects and individual body parts.

2) That being said, I believe Eve was trying to ask a question to better understand others' interest. Having seen her name on some threads that I don't frequent, I wonder at times about her interest in them, but don't make the effort to ask. I'm sure she didn't intend to produce negative feelings for anyone, so I'd say give it the benefit of the doubt and share your thoughts with her.

3) I personally don't like the term BBW. Simply because The first B doesn't necessarily lead to the second B for me. I really like curvy women, definitely my preference, but being curvy, doesn't automatically make you beautiful in my book. Personality, sense of humour, intelligence, wit, style, and self-perception all contribute to the package of what makes a beautiful woman. Thus, for me, not all curvy women are beautiful and those less curvy aren't necessarily excluded either-it all depends on the total woman.

4) What's nice about curves for me is being able to hold, hug, play and move together without worrying about the other's wellbeing. (I'm a big boy and don't always want to hold back on account of a size difference) Also curves are fun to run fingers over, to caress, to lick, and enjoy in an intimate fashion. And I find them visually appealing when tastefully presented.

5) I'm tired of numbering my points it makes me feel like I'm at work.

So that's my take on things-for me it's the individual woman and how she feels about herself that makes or breaks how sexy I find her. Curves are great, but only part of the package.

That's it for me-thanks for reading, carry on!

Cheers,

Lik

Point well taken Lik.

 

[SensualMan_in_PA]

Other than those god-awful years of puberty, I never sought out a physical relationship with a woman simply because of her body type. A woman’s personality, sensuality, attitude and sense of humor all combine to add to or detract from her physical being. I have looked at many women who have all the "desired" physical attributes but something about their persona turned me off. It's more than a check list of physical traits that determine whether I am attracted to a woman. All that said I do love curvy and voluptuous.

 

[WyldBreeze]

Just noticed this thread and saw some interesting conversation. I'll have to check back from time to time.