Bachelor and bachelorette parties and cheating

[lc69hunter]

The NY Post had a headline stating that 70% of Americans have cheated on their partner at a bachelor or bachelorette party.

However, when you dig into the numbers they quoted, it was a bogus headline. But the underlying numbers are still a bit of a shock.

It breaks down that approximately 36% of men and 43% of women admitted having cheated on their partner at one. This begs the question, which the article obviously did not talk about, is "what is defined as cheating?). That is as broad as the day is long.

This is why my wife and I always treated a bachelor or bachelorette as an automatic hall pass, because with alcohol and semi-naked bodies, shit happens and you get carried away.

Your thoughts?

 

[eric_erosfan]

I guess those percentages are of the people that attend one of those parties? Seems kind of high. I've only been to one bachelor party where two fully nude girls simulated sex with each other. Basically performed for 20 minutes while a big dude that accompanied them stood by and kept an eye on things. Then they left and all we had left was beer and a baseball game on TV. Tbh, most bachelor parties I went to were golf or fishing outings.

 

[screwher]

I’m not really big on the idea of bachelor or bachelorette parties. Maybe it’s changed over the years, but isn’t the concept suppose to be “one last night of fun” before marriage? If you’re going to have that attitude, then don’t get married.

 

[J_Bone]

I call bullshit on those numbers unless their definition of cheating is the mere sight of nude or semi-nude strippers or dancers. However, I would assume the definition is the more conventional engagement in some type of sexual activity.

I've attended dozens of bachelor parties and actually crashed a few bachelorette parties by happenstance. And while it might happen on occasion, it is rare and nowhere near those percentages.

I mean, over a third of men and nearly half of women? That equates to a bachelorette party with 20 partnered/married women, 8-9 of them are engaging in some form of sexual activity. Just don't buy it based on my experience.

 

[12oclocktales]

Not that it matters, but this article was published last May and surveyed 6000 people. Most of the activities admitted to were “chaste” (their word): 33% cited lap dances, for example, though 11% said they slept with someone, 9% in a threesome.

 

[lc69hunter]

I agree with the above comments. what they define as cheating has to be so broad so as to say that getting a lap dance or a boob or cock in your face is cheating, though my ex said that a lot of hot shit happened at most of the ones she attended, including Moms of the bride and groom

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've heard of so much cheating at these places and not the pornos of these parties.

Everyone seems to get a bit wild. There are some very wholesome stories of bachelor and Bachelorette parties which are actually cute.

 

[whatahoot]

Honestly, I always thought that bachelor and bachelorette parties were assumed to be a bit of a free pass to have some wild fun. The whole premise behind a bachelor / bachelorette party is to bid farewell to the things that you supposedly won't be doing once you're married. To me that would include having sex with other people.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

The NY Post had a headline stating that 70% of Americans have cheated on their partner at a bachelor or bachelorette party.

However, when you dig into the numbers they quoted, it was a bogus headline. But the underlying numbers are still a bit of a shock.

Wait a second, are you saying the media is not accurate, especially the NY Media? LOL (just busting your chops)

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I’m not really big on the idea of bachelor or bachelorette parties. Maybe it’s changed over the years, but isn’t the concept suppose to be “one last night of fun” before marriage? If you’re going to have that attitude, then don’t get married.

My ex and I did a joint M/F party. We rented a charter boat for the night and 45-50 friends joined us for a nice cruise around the bay with great food, drinks, music and dancing. It was before Uber, but I had arrangced a bunch of cabs to take most people home safe.

 

[TravisAW]

Wifey has been away on a hen party this weekend, gets home tomorrow. I've told her to get up to whatever she wants as long as I get the details but she's worried there's too many family members there to do much more than kiss someone, even if the chance arose.

 

[Mike130]

Bill Clinton once said that a blowjob isn’t cheating, and he’s a Rhodes scholar so maybe he knows what he’s talking about… I don’t know, I’m just here cause I’m a pervert.

K, bye.

 

[frappingwilly]

If there is touching, it's cheating imo.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I've only been to a couple of bachelor parties. One was a racist standup comic in a firehouse. My own was just a card party with my three best buddies. Yes, there was a VHS porno tape played.

But one was for a guy I worked with. I got cajoled into attending by some other co-workers. I knew the guest of honor's boss would be there, so I figured it would be a pretty tame gathering. In the living room of a house that was way too nice for such goings-on, five or six of us drank beer until the doorbell rang and tall, skinny, Puerto Rican gal came in a started the party. She played music on her boombox and danced around. I didn't find her all that hot, but there was a sense of 'danger' in the air.

Eventually, it was time for the main event and she sat us all down and she pulled out a spraycan of whipped cream. The idea is that we would each take out our dicks and she would spray your dick with whipped cream and 'lick it off'. I was not comfortable with this at all, but I didn't see a way out. So, one by one, the guys whipped out their dicks, I presume. I tried pretty hard not to look. My co-workers' dicks were not of interest to me. She worked her way down the line until she was kneeling in front of the guy seated next to me. I saw him unzip and pull his dick out. Seated, with underwear and jeans on, he was only exposing a little. She sprayed the whipped cream and sucked it off. Then it was my turn.

I stood up and unzipped and pulled my dick out. She quickly sprayed the whipped cream and bent over to suck it off. I noticed that she never actually touched me. She sucked the glob of whipped cream off from an inch or so away. So, my worries about 'cheating' went away.

*BRAG ALERT* It was weird the next day when a couple of the guys complimented me on having a big cock. I am average. But it felt good to be told I was hung.

When she was done with the whipped cream 'trick', the show was over and she left. The party moved to a local bar and I went home.

 

[gtnlynn]

I didn't count it as cheating, but I know some people would. My wife was at a bachelorette party with a stripper. He pulled her up front and got behind her, squeezing her braless boobs through her halter top. The he bent her over a chair and lifted her skirt, pretending to fuck her from behind. There was no penetration, just rubbing against her panties. She was a bit drunk and didn't care, but nothing else happened.

 

[freakinblue]

I didn't count it as cheating, but I know some people would. My wife was at a bachelorette party with a stripper. He pulled her up front and got behind her, squeezing her braless boobs through her halter top. The he bent her over a chair and lifted her skirt, pretending to fuck her from behind. There was no penetration, just rubbing against her panties. She was a bit drunk and didn't care, but nothing else happened.

I’m not the morality police but your last sentence is problematic, for me. I hope it was more like your wife was into it than she didn’t care.

 

[gtnlynn]

I’m not the morality police but your last sentence is problematic, for me. I hope it was more like your wife was into it than she didn’t care.

I can't say for sure, but it did not bother her much.

 

[luckyseven]

I didn't count it as cheating, but I know some people would. My wife was at a bachelorette party with a stripper. He pulled her up front and got behind her, squeezing her braless boobs through her halter top. The he bent her over a chair and lifted her skirt, pretending to fuck her from behind. There was no penetration, just rubbing against her panties. She was a bit drunk and didn't care, but nothing else happened.

I’m not the morality police but your last sentence is problematic, for me. I hope it was more like your wife was into it than she didn’t care.

I can't say for sure, but it did not bother her much.

My wife has also been in a similar situation. She was tipsy but knew what was happening, and she wasn't upset or concerned as she was having fun, and the experience didn't bother her either.

If it were unsimulated consensual sex, I am not sure if it would bother me or not.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife has also been in a similar situation. She was tipsy but knew what was happening, and she wasn't upset or concerned as she was having fun, and the experience didn't bother her either.

If it were unsimulated consensual sex, I am not sure if it would bother me or not.

My wife was and still is free to do whatever she wants as long as she tells me about it. There are other conditions.

 

[luckyseven]

My wife was and still is free to do whatever she wants as long as she tells me about it. There are other conditions.

My wife and I have a similar understanding, but I am intrigued by "other conditions".

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I have a similar understanding, but I am intrigued by "other conditions".

One "date" only with each man. Condoms required. No friends. Tell me everything

 

[luckyseven]

One "date" only with each man. Condoms required. No friends. Tell me everything

How can you ensure those conditions are met?

 

[gtnlynn]

How can you ensure those conditions are met?

She tells me. I trust her. If there are exceptions, such as sex with no condom if she knows the man is clean and sterile, we allow them.

 

[luckyseven]

She tells me. I trust her. If there are exceptions, such as sex with no condom if she knows the man is clean and sterile, we allow them.

We are more flexible. Condoms are desirable but not essential, and sex isn't restricted to a one-night stand. We have both had sex with mutual friends but in a swinging scenario, and we love to talk but not every detail, just the notable things outside the norm.

 

[gtnlynn]

We are more flexible. Condoms are desirable but not essential, and sex isn't restricted to a one-night stand. We have both had sex with mutual friends but in a swinging scenario, and we love to talk but not every detail, just the notable things outside the norm.

It worked for us. She had sex with others in our 30's and none since turning 40.