baby dom needs advice

[realyuris]

so i'm a 20 year old lesbian and i've been with my first girlfriend for almost 7 months and i'm wondering how i can introduce bdsm to her?? i've talked to her about trying some basic stuff and she says she's 'open to new things' but she's sort of vanilla and i dont want to make her feel like she has to do anything just to appeal to me or to like horrify her with something way too kinky. and also it must be really weird and scary to assume the roll of submissive for someone who hasn't even thought about it before.
im also sort of guilty for having sadistic fantasies about my cute sweet girlfriend;;;

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

There's nothing wrong with fantasies, as long as you know that's what they are. When the time is right, you can talk them over with her, and eventually they may even come to fruition. More likely, they will evolve, and a revised version of them will emerge.

It is important that you get her consent for anything, and give her a safe word, and stop if she says stop. Google "BDSM checklist", and go over it with her. Find out what interests her, and what she says is off limits. Her submission doesn't have to be scary, and you don't have to tie her up.or beat her just start slowly and keep it enjoyable for you both, remembering that you may have to be patient.

Also, it may turn out that BDSM is not for her at all. You should be prepared for that eventuality. I hope it works out - she sounds willing if you go slowly. Good luck to you.