Awfully warm wax

[Krinaia]

So we've all heard the arguements of beeswax versus parafin and what not on the types of candles... but i have a different question to ask...

Recently I had wax dripped on me and the scene had to be stopped because it was too painful. The first time I halted action, he tried it on his hand and felt I was being a bit of a wimp. But quickly decided it was too much for me. We wondered why his hand would be okay and my legs and body wouldn't.... and then we thought perhaps it was because the wax was somehow more painful against my skin because the areas had larger pores then the inside of my hand (which he dripped the wax on and though I found it to be very warm, it was not so warm I screamed in pain)... anyhow the inside of a hand should be more sensitive then the calf yes so what other reason could there be?

Any theories?

 

[LunarKitten]

So we've all heard the arguements of beeswax versus parafin and what not on the types of candles... but i have a different question to ask...

Recently I had wax dripped on me and the scene had to be stopped because it was too painful. The first time I halted action, he tried it on his hand and felt I was being a bit of a wimp. But quickly decided it was too much for me. We wondered why his hand would be okay and my legs and body wouldn't.... and then we thought perhaps it was because the wax was somehow more painful against my skin because the areas had larger pores then the inside of my hand (which he dripped the wax on and though I found it to be very warm, it was not so warm I screamed in pain)... anyhow the inside of a hand should be more sensitive then the calf yes so what other reason could there be?

Any theories?

The inside of your calf isn't used as much as the hand is, the skin is a bit thicker there and less sensitive because it is used to much. It could also have something to do with how closely the wax was dripped from onto the leg itself. Sometimes if they drop it from a bit higher, the wax has time to cool a bit before it hits the skin.

Don't feel bad about stopping the scene. It's much better to do that to maybe suffer 2nd or 3rd degree burns. If it was so hot you screamed, it was too hot for you, regardless of how someone else maybe could have taken the same wax at the same altitude. Different people have different pain thresholds.

 

[Krinaia]

Re: Re: Awfully warm wax

The inside of your calf isn't used as much as the hand is, the skin is a bit thicker there and less sensitive because it is used to much. It could also have something to do with how closely the wax was dripped from onto the leg itself. Sometimes if they drop it from a bit higher, the wax has time to cool a bit before it hits the skin.

Don't feel bad about stopping the scene. It's much better to do that to maybe suffer 2nd or 3rd degree burns. If it was so hot you screamed, it was too hot for you, regardless of how someone else maybe could have taken the same wax at the same altitude. Different people have different pain thresholds.

okay i can see more details are needed... the wax was dripped from his chest height... with me laying on the ground so that's probably five feet... and it was onto my belly and legs and thighs... while he dripped the wax into my palm from about one and a half feet

and perhaps screamed was an overstatement... yelp would be more appropriate and i would add that we've done wax play scenes before and never with this reaction

 

[LunarKitten]

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okay i can see more details are needed... the wax was dripped from his chest height... with me laying on the ground so that's probably five feet... and it was onto my belly and legs and thighs... while he dripped the wax into my palm from about one and a half feet

and perhaps screamed was an overstatement... yelp would be more appropriate and i would add that we've done wax play scenes before and never with this reaction

Hmmm...odd. Did he use a new type of wax this time? Could also be an alteration in your body - if you had been warm before hand, the pore on the skin would be more open.

Honestly, I'm as stumped as you are Maybe someone with more knowledge about the actual process will come along shortly. (I'm rather fond of saying I'm the doee not the doer lol)

 

[Marquis]

Wax that is not painful on your palm cannot create second or third degree burns on your thigh.

All in all, your thigh is simply more sensitive but as to the question I think you're really asking, yeah I think it's possible you're being a little wimpy.

 

[BlueSugar]

I third the skin on your thigh is softer then that of your hand.

and maybe... maybe ... are you close to a cycle bc our bodies do funny things and react differently at certain times.

ooor maybe it was too much melted wax built up before pouring? It got the chance to get a little too hot?

Was the was colored? Different colors retain heat differently I've found.

 

[lark sparrow]

Was the area tortured beforehand? I usually find wax play to be more erotic than painful, but when hot wax was used over the same area that a clothespin zipper had just been pulled off of, the wax felt intensely painful.


If not, perhaps shaving made it more sensitive/slightly irritated, or as others have said you were simply more sensitive physically or psychologically at the time, or the obvious - your calf is more sensitive than the inside of your hand whether it seems it should be or not. Testing on the inside of your wrist/arm might give you a better idea than your hand.

 

[Guest]

My guess is it was one of three things...

1: A new candle, that may not have been the same as before..

2: Overly stimulated skin..Anything you do to the skin "can" increase it's sensitivity.

3: You were just having one of those days ..*shrug* It happens.

As for the where to test problem..Ever wonder why you test the baby bottle on the inside of the wrist or elbow???

Because our hands are so much less sensitive...Especially in men.

 

[rhizhelle]

Re: Re: Awfully warm wax

Was the area tortured beforehand? I usually find wax play to be more erotic than painful, but when hot wax was used over the same area that a clothespin zipper had just been pulled off of, the wax felt intensely painful.


If not, perhaps shaving made it more sensitive/slightly irritated, or as others have said you were simply more sensitive physically or psychologically at the time, or the obvious - your calf is more sensitive than the inside of your hand whether it seems it should be or not. Testing on the inside of your wrist/arm might give you a better idea than your hand.

Seconding that..

I've found that after intense stimulation like flogging or cropping or spanking, my skin is much more sensitive to wax play or fireplay. So, if the body part in question had been recently "molested" that might explain it too.

 

[Miss Diva]

The first time we did wax play my PYL held the candle pretty high so it did not hurt much. But the second time, I don't know, it was painful. MY PYL explained that it was at the same height as our first time but it was so much more painful. Might be because of PMS or other womanly factors.

 

[WriterDom]

I've read, not in regard to wax play, but non-bdsm related, that there is a physical difference between female and male skin. With the females having thinner, more sensitive skin.

 

[dragonlace]

Also there are times when my skin is just more sensitive, due to the weather, or my mood. There are times when a light raking of my skin can bother me because for some reason or another i am more highly sensitized(Even my hair sometimes bothers me). When my skin is like this its right out of the box that way, thank god it happens rarely or i would never have any fun.

 

[Krinaia]

The first time we did wax play my PYL held the candle pretty high so it did not hurt much. But the second time, I don't know, it was painful. MY PYL explained that it was at the same height as our first time but it was so much more painful. Might be because of PMS or other womanly factors.

I'm a week and and a half away from my period... so not sure whta could be causing it!