Avoiding the Size issue

[TC1017]

I am really curious about how important penis size is in long term relationships?

 

[NippleMuncher]

said she felt sick and left. I have not herd from her since; she will not return my calls.

My question is should I try to make the relationship stronger or at least perform oral on her next time before my size is exposed?

Doesn't sound like a concern to me.

A word of advice, anyone who won't accept you for who and what you are, isn't someone you want to enter into a relationship with.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

The Nipster's got it right. Any woman who won't date you because of the size of your penis is as bad as a guy who won't date a woman because of the size of her breasts.

It sounds to me like she wanted some no-strings attached sex, which is not what you seemed to be looking for. Don't be discouraged, just keep on looking and you'll find a woman worth your while.

 

[Cattypuss]

I agree. A women WORTH dating won't care about size.

 

[kaycee217]

I would like to reiterate what's already been said here.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Any woman who won't date you because of the size of your penis is as bad as a guy who won't date a woman because of the size of her breasts.

Whoa, whoa, whoa! Let's keep things walnuts to walnuts and grapefruits to grapefruits here!

I'M KIDDING!!!!!

Shallow people suck! There's far more to a being than the body - that goes for both sexes. If one is not willing to find the beauty of the being, then they don't deserve the body or anything else that comes with it.

 

[Reba67]

If she won't return your calls, I'd say it's time to move on. And, forget about her reaction to her hand in your pants. Maybe it wasn't your "small size" but rather a realization on her part that she didn't *really* want a sexual relationship at the moment.

 

[CherryBomb24]

size only matters if your video taping it, if your not video taping anything then dont worry about it.
my best sex partner so far has been rather small but was completely amazing.
I knew his size long before we even had sex. And yeah i was a little worried about how it would be in bed, but when we reached the bedroom - it sure as hell didnt matter and i learned really quick that size is over rated.
Dont waste your time on shallow people - they suck and arent worth your time.

 

[StrayKat]

Shallow people suck!

Ditto.

 

[candyapplered]

Size does too matter! Smaller guys are much better at oral! They tend to know how to use their mouth and not run off talking about how big it is in their pants!
Keep looking and someone will come around and be a very willing partner!

 

[curiousgeo62]

Size does too matter! Smaller guys are much better at oral! They tend to know how to use their mouth and not run off talking about how big it is in their pants!
Keep looking and someone will come around and be a very willing partner!

a woman after my own heart.

 

[LovingHands]

I agree with the theme of the responses; she is not worth your time or thoughts, and be happy you got rid of such a shallow person as easily as you did.

 

[StrayKat]

Size does too matter! Smaller guys are much better at oral! They tend to know how to use their mouth and not run off talking about how big it is in their pants!

In my experience that just isnt true. What matters is size of brain and will to please, and that has nothing to do with size of other organs.
I met idiots with big dicks just as I met idiots with small dicks.

Men are those that made big deal out of sizes, I will sure not cater any male egos that loose or gain confidence based on size of their dicks

 

[candyapplered]

Some times you have to have a little humor.

In my experience that just isnt true. What matters is size of brain and will to please, and that has nothing to do with size of other organs.
I met idiots with big dicks just as I met idiots with small dicks.

Men are those that made big deal out of sizes, I will sure not cater any male egos that loose or gain confidence based on size of their dicks

 

[StrayKat]

Some times you have to have a little humor.

I do. I can laugh at my mans dick all I want without getting him bothered about it one bit.
And he can use his mouth delightfully

 

[curiousgeo62]

In my experience that just isnt true. What matters is size of brain and will to please, and that has nothing to do with size of other organs.
I met idiots with big dicks just as I met idiots with small dicks.

Men are those that made big deal out of sizes, I will sure not cater any male egos that loose or gain confidence based on size of their dicks

so, you are saying that it is the size of the dick attached to the penis?

 

[StrayKat]

so, you are saying that it is the size of the dick attached to the penis?

I am saying that if all your confidence in your capability as a lover depends on a size of your penis then you have very little capability worth mentioning.
Try a size of the brain attached to dick

 

[curiousgeo62]

I am saying that if all your confidence in your capability as a lover depends on a size of your penis then you have very little capability worth mentioning.
Try a size of the brain attached to dick

I absolutely agree. I would much rather have a 45 yo, size 14 woman who was confident and self assured, than a 21 yo needy size 6 woman. Passion and eroticism comes from the heart and the mind, not the genitals.

 

[Oliver_Klozoff]

I am 23 ...

You shouldn't avoid the size issue. If you're worried that it will be a problem, declare it up front as early as possible, and then you'll be able to avoid disappointing an expectation latter on (... and wasting a lot of time prior to that point).

Most people don't have relationship "must have" attitudes. Think about the women you've dated or been attracted to: doesn't every last one of them have something that, considered on its own, would make her unattractive? We (at least those of us who are not completely fucked up) can all love people who are not perfect, and who are not anywhere near perfect.

But if we go in with great expectations, and they are disappointed, then we are not likely to pursue anything further.

For myself, my teeth are kind of fucked up. When I have made this clear before meeting someone, it has not been a problem. But more than once when it was only discovered upon meeting, it was pretty clearly a problem. So now I make damn sure before I meet any potential romantic complication that it is clear that I don't have great teeth. No one has canceled a meeting otherwise planned over it.

 

[curiousbeth]

That's totally insane! I've had amazing sex with guys with small cocks and bad sex with guys with average cocks and vice versa (anything over 7 inches I wouldn't be able to handle however) Don't even think about it for a second x

 

[StrayKat]

I absolutely agree. I would much rather have a 45 yo, size 14 woman who was confident and self assured, than a 21 yo needy size 6 woman. Passion and eroticism comes from the heart and the mind, not the genitals.

Ah we finally agree

I must say I mostly like the 45 yo comment tho...

 

[WriterDom]

She grabs your cock and gasps and runs away? Why would you even want to talk to her again?

 

[Firebrain]

What's wrong with not being attracted to small cocks or small breasts? In fact, what's wrong with deciding not to continue seeing a person you decide you aren't attracted to? This girl could have handled it a lot more tactfully but let's face it, it's an awkward situation all round. How many of us have got to the bedroom and just decided a person wasn't for them? Aaaalways awkward. You can't predict how compatible you'll be.

It's not about being "shallow." This is a sex forum - we should be allowed to point out that a large portion of a relationship is the physical side, and we stick with people who are attractive to us; whether they are small or large in many departments. TC1017, your cock size isn't an issue because it's a cock that's small. It's an issue in the same way as any other part of you, because a person might get to know it and decide it's not what they like. That's a bummer, especially when it is handled as dishonestly as this girl, but I actually have a bit of sympathy for her because how was that conversation going to go? [shudder] (Sympathy for you too, of course).

The difference between a cock and many of the other bits that make you up is that it can't be vetted before she says yes to you (usually ). However, one might say that that goes for elements of personality too, and they are just as important as in relationships.

You'll find someone who likes all the bits of you; probably where you least expect it.

Until then, if you're still paranoid about this, go down on her before you drop your pants and be nothing less than eye-watering...

(Also, if it's any consolation, there's a small chance it might not have been your cock at all. I have a friend who came down with norovirus in the middle of a date and was so embarrassed, she never contacted him again).

 

[StrayKat]

What's wrong with not being attracted to small cocks or small breasts?

Nothing. Just like there is nothing wrong being attracted to blue eyes. I am, for example.
But I dated guys with brown eyes as well, and I married men with green eyes.

The thing is that even if I am attracted to one particular part of the body, I do know we are not just our separate body parts and attraction can go any way. So I give people a (second) chance to attract me if they lack whatever usually attracts me at first look.
Not doing so I personally think is shallow and hasty.

 

[Firebrain]

Nothing. Just like there is nothing wrong being attracted to blue eyes. I am, for example.
But I dated guys with brown eyes as well, and I married men with green eyes.

The thing is that even if I am attracted to one particular part of the body, I do know we are not just our separate body parts and attraction can go any way. So I give people a (second) chance to attract me if they lack whatever usually attracts me at first look.
Not doing so I personally think is shallow and hasty.

So you'd date someone with a physical feature that really put you off? I couldn't. I don't think colour of eyes quite has the same impact People who say "well, I'd do it anyway..." evidently are not that put off.

And you've no idea what happened on this guy's date, how he came across, what they discussed. One person's deal breaker might not be another's.

Frankly, if I didn't like someone on a first date, I wouldn't be going back for another "just to see." It's not about being shallow but about knowing what you want. A first impression is one thing; an evening together is quite another.

I should add, TC - I might come across as a bit blunt but the point I'm trying to make is that people get rejected for all sorts of reasons - it's part of finding someone you're truly compatible with - and cock size is just one of a long list of those reasons. Everyone likes different things. Case in point: I'm too blunt/opinionated for some men but I found one who quite liked it in the end!