Attracted to lesbians. WTF?

[Betticus]

Okay. For some reason I find that I'm attracted to bi or lesbian women. It's like I've got some kind of chick gaydar pinging all the time. Almost all of my friends are female and almost all of them are either bi or les. I also can't stand to date straight women, just don't get along with them. With the bi's and lesbians especially though we seem to click into place personality wise.

The other evening I was in the club and there were gorgeous women all over the place but the one that tripped me was a girl with really short hair, not spiked. Really cute face, pretty eyes, smallish breasts and was wearing a long sleeved shirt with slacks. She was there watching girls but for some reason I felt a very strong attraction to her. Not just sexual but damn, I wanted to get to know the girl.

I know the obvious answers and I'll diffuse one now. I've never been very interested in a threesome with two girls. When I'm with someone it is just the one person I'm interested in.

So, am I alone in this? A lot of these women are unavailable to me but I am like a moth to a flame with them.

 

[John Doe]

My first girlfriend was bi, so I know the feeling, although I've never been attracted to a lesbian.

Maybe it's the classic wanting what you can't have thing?

 

[Betticus]

My first girlfriend was bi, so I know the feeling, although I've never been attracted to a lesbian.

Maybe it's the classic wanting what you can't have thing?

But it's not like I have an overwhelming desire to have sex with the lesbians. I get along with them to the point that we end up being like boyfriend/girlfriend but without the sex. I mostly lose the sexual attraction for her once we are friends but we end up being much closer than just a friendship. Almost like lovers but the one step shy.

I click very well with bi chicks too but there is more of a sexual attraction to that as they are more available. I do dig the tomboy type mostly like the other thread talks about. I find them to be just as or more beautiful than the really feminine ones but a lot more real. It's like they have an unfettered love for life and fun that is part of what draws me to them.

It's just hard to quantify the whole thing into words.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Coming at it from the other side

I absolutely adore gay men. Always have. My very first boyfriend came out of the closet after me..I still love him 15 years (or more)
later.

For me it's the lack of *performance* pressure that makes them so desirable. I KNOW they will never want me sexually, therefore I can really be me. (nothing like the compliment of *girl you are so cute..if only you had a real dick!!*)

Do you think that is what it could be for you as well?

And yes, I have noted that the bi-guys I get attached to have a bit more sexual tension because there is a chance that I could possibly have sex with them (if I am swinging that way..which I haven't been recently.)

OK I am rambling now, sorry...

 

[ExistentialLuv]

My poor adopted newbie

This must be why you and I get along so well. Or else it is because I am a man Trapped in a Womans body

 

[Ms_Kat]

Okay. For some reason I find that I'm attracted to bi or lesbian women. It's like I've got some kind of chick gaydar pinging all the time. Almost all of my friends are female and almost all of them are either bi or les. I also can't stand to date straight women, just don't get along with them. With the bi's and lesbians especially though we seem to click into place personality wise.

Maybe you need to get in touch with your inner lesbian. Honestly, one thing that comes to mind is that les chicks are trying to impress you, and that impresses you.

I'm sure the women you want have more in common than just liking other women. Look for common ground.

Or try therapy and a sex change.


Hugs,



kat

 

[Betticus]

You all have some good points. Perhaps it has a lot more to do with the lack of the game. There are no hidden motives with lesbians. No second guessing the subtle hidden meanings in body language and conversation. Everything can be taken at face value. There is a freedom of interchange with a level playing field. No mating rituals. The friendship is honest.

I do not open up to other men as at some level they are all competition but I do open up with women. Lesbians tend to not have an agenda. There isn't any chance of a breakup, heartache and resentment. They just are who they are. That makes a lot of sense to me.

No sex changes and therapy. I like my penis.

 

[Ms_Kat]

Glad to hear you aren't thinking of the sex change. There aren't enough good men as it is.

You say:
"No second guessing the subtle hidden meanings in body language and conversation. Everything can be taken at face value. There is a freedom of interchange with a level playing field. No mating rituals. The friendship is honest."

Guess what? You just named the qualities of a good marriage (maybe not the mating rituals, though).

Life your life openly and honestly and let people with smaller minds criticize you - it says more about their place in life than it does about you. If you do this, you'll find a woman who will do the same.


Hugs,


Kat

 

[deezire1900]

ME TOO!!!!

Funny...I find myself attracted to Lesbians. WTF. Oh Yeah, I am one.

I have so many wonderful male friends who say to me (all the time) why can't you be stright. I think it is because we like the same things, and that is a draw for men. I like to fish, ride motorcycles, watch football, go to strip clubs, and hit on Chicks. What more could a guy want in a girl.

Deezire

 

[John Doe]

My poor adopted newbie

This must be why you and I get along so well. Or else it is because I am a man Trapped in a Womans body

Yeah, right.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

Yeah, right.

Would you please stop trolling me!!! If you continue to do so on the GLBT board I will turn you in to the Mod. This is your final warning.

Betticus had a great subject to talk about and you pop in just to make a snide remark to me as usual. This type of behavior does not belong on the GLBT Forum. Grow up and leave me alone.

Betticus

I apologize for the short Hijack above. Now on to the subject.

I wish there was more gentlman out there like you for us woman to chat with. You do seem genuine about your feelings. It is great to hear that you are comfortable around us. A lot of guys are not and find us threating (finding this out the hard way) or think that they can change us. That is why I felt comfortable chatting with you. You do not come off as an egotistical ass just interested in pussy and you do not take my flirting seriously.

Yes I am a flirt and most everyone on here knows that but they also know I am Pollyjeans and she is the only person for me. A few people on the board take flirting way to seriously and it is shame they can not pull there head out of their ass and have some fun like the rest of us. Just because I flirt does not mean I am interested, just friendly. It is men like this that ruin it for the rest of you guys. Stay sweet and true Betticus.


Existential

 

[Betticus]

I wish there was more gentlman out there like you for us woman to chat with. You do seem genuine about your feelings. It is great to hear that you are comfortable around us. A lot of guys are not and find us threating (finding this out the hard way) or think that they can change us. That is why I felt comfortable chatting with you. You do not come off as an egotistical ass just interested in pussy and you do not take my flirting seriously.

Yes I am a flirt and most everyone on here knows that but they also know I am Pollyjeans and she is the only person for me. A few people on the board take flirting way to seriously and it is shame they can not pull there head out of their ass and have some fun like the rest of us. Just because I flirt does not mean I am interested, just friendly. It is men like this that ruin it for the rest of you guys. Stay sweet and true Betticus.


Existential

I do love to flirt with the lesbians though. The ones that I'm friends with just give it right back and it's a lot of fun. My pyjama party was a blast and a some of my lez buddies were there. I surprised one of them though. I was introducing them to some other friends that they hadn't met yet. I just said "this is (names withheld), two of the coolest chicks you'll ever meet".

She said that they usually get introduced at the cool lesbians or something like that. I just don't see people as what their sexual preference is and it just kinda slipped out. They still love me though even though I don't label them.

But the topic at hand. Attraction to lesbians, bisexual girls?

 

[Stiffy Says...]

If interested....

...see the "Tomboy" thread....I had a goofy story from my high school days there. I know a couple of the posters on this thread have seen it.

 

[John Doe]

Would you please stop trolling me!!! If you continue to do so on the GLBT board I will turn you in to the Mod. This is your final warning.

Betticus had a great subject to talk about and you pop in just to make a snide remark to me as usual. This type of behavior does not belong on the GLBT Forum. Grow up and leave me alone.

First of all, you never gave me a warning before this, despite what "final warning implies.

Secondly, you are the one who was trolling me shortly after you went ballistic on me for responding less than appreciatively to an unsolicited porn link.

Betticus

I apologize for the short Hijack above. Now on to the subject.

I wish there was more gentlman out there like you for us woman to chat with. You do seem genuine about your feelings. It is great to hear that you are comfortable around us. A lot of guys are not and find us threating (finding this out the hard way) or think that they can change us. That is why I felt comfortable chatting with you. You do not come off as an egotistical ass just interested in pussy and you do not take my flirting seriously.

Yes I am a flirt and most everyone on here knows that but they also know I am Pollyjeans and she is the only person for me. A few people on the board take flirting way to seriously and it is shame they can not pull there head out of their ass and have some fun like the rest of us. Just because I flirt does not mean I am interested, just friendly. It is men like this that ruin it for the rest of you guys. Stay sweet and true Betticus.


Existential

So does this mean you can flirt but Pollyjean can't? Your actions seem to reflect that...

Your actions also contradict what you say because you reacted negatively to my friendly razz instead of taking it in stride...

Oh wait, I'm on Ignore, so why did you read my message in the first place?

 

[Etoile]

The above post got reported to mods as harrassment. So I'm taking this opportunity to say that you all need to deal with personal issues amongst yourselves. Moderators are here to manage things like gay-bashing and underage discussion, not personal quibbles. Please do not report a post simply because you feel it is harrassing to you personally. Take it to PMs, or PM a moderator if you feel you have exhausted all other options. But don't report a post - that's not what the "Report this post" feature is for.

And please, everybody, play nice. We're all adults here, let's act like it.

 

[John Doe]

Thank you, Etoile, my thoughts exactly.