Asperger's Affinity

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Fire away.......

Woo hoo!

First time to the ASD party or have you been aware of classification?

 

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It's just a different wiring and thought processes, it has little to do with intelligence.
People usually judge others by assumptions based on their thought processes. It takes quite a bit to step outside yourself and try to see how another actually thinks. It is much easier if you think in similar ways.
One of the reasons, I got on well with Byron was that we understood how each other thought.
Things that other people would have to "tolerate" in us, we just accepted because we understood.
He was still a drama queen.
I am still wilder and weirder than he was

this, exactly
i think (going by no2 son's experience of the condition) it seems where a non-ASD person's brain might be firing in response to a broader range of input they find it less easy to apply intense concentration, and have more distractions to that concentration, than an ASD-diagnosed person. with my son, the details, specifically patterns, in sound, image and data, for example, leap out at him so he notices way more than myself; computer games, music, advertising - he spots so much and always has. but because of him focusing on these areas he misses out on other information being delivered.

you rocked his world.

Good, I'm glad he can get accommodations.

Well, Lance would like to believe he is neurotypical, which is funny in lots of ways.

It's always been a lovely thing that even when much younger, with a great deal of social deficit and trouble with symbol parsing, my son's been more eloquent and kind than those who want to classify him.

no2's very eloquent the past few years, talks my damned ears off about any topic that catches his interest... on and on and on and on andon..... but by finding out more about his wiring has helped him to understand what was going on and allows him to better explain to others how his thinking is just different. before, he'd not bother trying to explain because he would get frustrated if they didn't get it, and the way he explained things they usually didn't. but even now, if it's a subject he has no interest in, he'll make no attempt to engage even if it's really important to the person wishing to discuss it with him.

Here's a functioning site.

http://static.tumblr.com/beb2b1a06f5b3ef25dbb48d5ac0ed777/v6hism0/fmPmwbjbe/tumblr_static_33.gif

nice one, thanks
i scored a measly 10, despite biology being one of my strongest subjects in school

 

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I am now 60 and was diagnosed with it about 18 months ago by a therapist I was seeing. I have know for a long time that I was an INTJ and uber geek and thought that explained me. I have been on Lit for a long time but this was the first time I happened upon this thread

 

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I am now 60 and was diagnosed with it about 18 months ago by a therapist I was seeing. I have know for a long time that I was an INTJ and uber geek and thought that explained me. I have been on Lit for a long time but this was the first time I happened upon this thread

Ah! Cool. INFP describes me very well. It's been a great tool to help explain how my mind works. It also explains the lots of questions I'd like to ask.

My brother's about your age, and I believe he lived a life of being classified young, at a time when there was little understanding and no treatment, and my parents decided to insist he be treated as a normal person. Good and bad there. Since there was no treatment, it mostly meant he was not stigmatized, which he would have been, with little assistance.

I'm grateful that for my son, I'm pretty much the first generation able to go "I've got some, my son has lots, my brother has a bunch and my dad had a ton." Both father and brother undiagnosed, though. Once I learned more about it, though, it seemed to be my family tree.

 

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Wow, that is interesting how many in your family have it. I am not sure how I feel about going undiagnosed for 58.5 years. Grade school was definitely hard trying to make sense of it all I remember thinking how insane the first day of first grade was. I was the only kid in his seat waiting for class to start, the rest were bouncing off the walls. Collage was pretty easy but living on your own for the first time in a new city was hard. I did know what I wanted to be in life by about age 7 and was like a cruise missile about making it happen.

 

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Wow, that is interesting how many in your family have it. I am not sure how I feel about going undiagnosed for 58.5 years. Grade school was definitely hard trying to make sense of it all I remember thinking how insane the first day of first grade was. I was the only kid in his seat waiting for class to start, the rest were bouncing off the walls. Collage was pretty easy but living on your own for the first time in a new city was hard. I did know what I wanted to be in life by about age 7 and was like a cruise missile about making it happen.

What did you want to do and what did you end up doing?

 

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I always loved electronics from a very early age. Took every electronics and FORTRAN course available in high school and was taking night school electronics at the junior collage during my senior year. Selected the collage and figured out my own finances to pay for it. Finished in 3 years, and was immediately hired by one of the national weapons laboratories. Worked there for 37 years. Biggest mistake was retiring, have regretted it ever since.

 

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One of the jokes where I worked was that it was not clear if all the barb wire and armed guards was there to keep the bad guys out or keep the crazies that worked there in.........

 

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I always loved electronics from a very early age. Took every electronics and FORTRAN course available in high school and was taking night school electronics at the junior collage during my senior year. Selected the collage and figured out my own finances to pay for it. Finished in 3 years, and was immediately hired by one of the national weapons laboratories. Worked there for 37 years. Biggest mistake was retiring, have regretted it ever since.

This is exactly why I consider ASD to be adaptive and my father followed much of the same path. He was one of the kindest people I have ever encountered and a genius, gave me a real love for science. He worked for IBM, was one of the first programmers in existence. I was one of the first kids with a home computer.

High functioning. My father's main issues were social, and basically he had no interest in maintenance, either of the home or really his own body all that much. He had my mom to make him take a bath or get a hair cut, eat on time sort of thing. He also had a concurrent condition where he really could not feel pain, so unfortunately he'd end up in the hospital a lot because he'd have a nail through his foot, had an infection, had no idea.

All I knew was that I was in nerd heaven, could always have a great conversation with my dad about NOVA and I didn't really know that he wouldn't take a bath on his own until much later in life.

Basically without my mom we would never have had doctor's or dentist's appointments, would never have had clean clothes or schedules, and neither would he.

 

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I understand your dad had his issues, BUT for me it would of been heaven. My parents were just the opposite. My dad was a sharp dresser and the house was spotless inside and out. But they both had zero technical abilities. It was so bad I believed up until my 40s that I was adopted because I felt so disconnected from them.

 

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I understand your dad had his issues, BUT for me it would of been heaven. My parents were just the opposite. My dad was a sharp dresser and the house was spotless inside and out. But they both had zero technical abilities. It was so bad I believed up until my 40s that I was adopted because I felt so disconnected from them.

It was heaven. I still thought I was adopted. That was mostly because of my siblings, though.

 

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Sorry, I had a phone call, I see that you are a Transcription Editor. Does that have something to do with court reporting?

 

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Sorry, I had a phone call, I see that you are a Transcription Editor. Does that have something to do with court reporting?

I worked for Simon and Schuster as a proofreader for a while, then I managed medical reports for about 20 years. Now retired.

I have always written and read a lot. Hyperlexic is an understatement in my case.

 

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Sounds like you also managed to find your perfect niche in the world.....

 

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Sounds like you also managed to find your perfect niche in the world.....

Yes. I'm lucky. Now while retired, still writing a few thousand words a day and reading all I can online.

 

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It would take me forever to write a few thousand words........ what brings you to Lit? Do you read and or write erotica?

 

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It would take me forever to write a few thousand words........ what brings you to Lit? Do you read and or write erotica?

Yes, that is what brought me here, writing and reading, made friends on the forums.

Now I have been enjoying Tumblr, Reddit, writing prompts and communities of authors. We trade proofreading each other's work, trading ideas and plot bunnies.

 

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Fantastic, there are definitely some interesting characters running around this place. Is there a place were I can read some of your works?

 

[Noor]

you rocked his world.

and he mine

I am now 60 and was diagnosed with it about 18 months ago by a therapist I was seeing. I have know for a long time that I was an INTJ and uber geek and thought that explained me. I have been on Lit for a long time but this was the first time I happened upon this thread

I was thinking about Byron...

I always loved electronics from a very early age. Took every electronics and FORTRAN course available in high school and was taking night school electronics at the junior collage during my senior year. Selected the collage and figured out my own finances to pay for it. Finished in 3 years, and was immediately hired by one of the national weapons laboratories. Worked there for 37 years. Biggest mistake was retiring, have regretted it ever since.

Can you go back to work there? or go in as a contract or consultant?

Some places are full of aspies like the early high tech and computer fields were. It's easier to work there because they are like you.

 

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BAAAAAAAAAATCH!

hi, how you doing?

 

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hi, how you doing?

Best I have ever been, great to see you. Hope you are well.

 

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Best I have ever been, great to see you. Hope you are well.

I am well.

 

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and he mine



I was thinking about Byron...



Can you go back to work there? or go in as a contract or consultant?

Some places are full of aspies like the early high tech and computer fields were. It's easier to work there because they are like you.

Hello Noor,

Unfortunately not easily, right after retiring I sold the house and moved 900 miles away. I really need to get my head out of my ass and figure out how to make it work here in my new reality.

 

[Noor]

Hello Noor,

Unfortunately not easily, right after retiring I sold the house and moved 900 miles away. I really need to get my head out of my ass and figure out how to make it work here in my new reality.

Good Luck! Can you move back? Does your new reality offer something similar?
Put out feelers?