Bert Notorius
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i'm pretty sure my no.2 has it.
we shall see.
we shall see.
Asperger's Affinity
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If they do, I can share some good survival tips.
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Asperger's has now been rolled into ASD, Autism Spectrum Disorder.
My son was very happy about this, because the immediate chime of his classmates of "Ass Burgers!" was not helpful.
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BAAAAAAAAAATCH!
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Back in my day they called it "sensory overload" and something else and I got sent to a speech therapist
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can't do it - it all shows up but doesn't let me click on the responses.
on another note, no2 son (23) has now been fully diagnosed as having ASD. he's high-functioning and now we can get the support in place he'll need in those areas he struggles . lance likes to call him a retard but, as you know, people who are high-functioning can be way smarter than your average 'norm' in certain areas of their lives but it's the other bits that get in the way.
on another note, no2 son (23) has now been fully diagnosed as having ASD. he's high-functioning and now we can get the support in place he'll need in those areas he struggles . lance likes to call him a retard but, as you know, people who are high-functioning can be way smarter than your average 'norm' in certain areas of their lives but it's the other bits that get in the way.
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It's just a different wiring and thought processes, it has little to do with intelligence.
People usually judge others by assumptions based on their thought processes. It takes quite a bit to step outside yourself and try to see how another actually thinks. It is much easier if you think in similar ways.
One of the reasons, I got on well with Byron was that we understood how each other thought.
Things that other people would have to "tolerate" in us, we just accepted because we understood.
He was still a drama queen.
I am still wilder and weirder than he was
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Back in my day they called it "sensory overload" and something else and I got sent to a speech therapist
That's the area where I'm most ASD like - sensory overload in my case is pretty much a quiet state for other people.
They also call me "something else"
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Good, I'm glad he can get accommodations.
Well, Lance would like to believe he is neurotypical, which is funny in lots of ways.
It's always been a lovely thing that even when much younger, with a great deal of social deficit and trouble with symbol parsing, my son's been more eloquent and kind than those who want to classify him.
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By the way, I highly recommend the following books for those on the spectrum:
The four agreements
The Ten Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships
Choosing Civility
These 14 things are what help me stop and re-evaluate situations when I get to the WTH is going on here, why are they doing this? stage.
With children, I think teaching them kindness and old school manners to be used at all times can be a great help. You can get over a lot of people's discomfort with kindness and basic courtesy. It also gives you something to fall back on by rote when you are upset, uncomfortable or don't know what to do.
The four agreements
The Ten Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships
Choosing Civility
These 14 things are what help me stop and re-evaluate situations when I get to the WTH is going on here, why are they doing this? stage.
With children, I think teaching them kindness and old school manners to be used at all times can be a great help. You can get over a lot of people's discomfort with kindness and basic courtesy. It also gives you something to fall back on by rote when you are upset, uncomfortable or don't know what to do.
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For those who would like to understand the state of mind, I'd recommend watching "Temple Grandin" - reading her books, and also "The Reason I Jump"
It took me a while to realize that kindness, accommodation, even emotions and not relying on humiliation or fear is what is required to help an autistic person relate better and accept other agencies than their own.
Of course...that should apply to neurotypicals as well...so...one size here fits all.
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The unwritten rules is by Temple Grandin- maybe I should have included authors.
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I really love the Four Agreements and I had read it before talking to you, so yeah, I just looked at your list and thought "Yes! Those!"
Grandin's written a lot of books, so I just kicked those in and the movie, which always makes me cry.
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Ah, thank you!
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Back in my day they called it "sensory overload" and something else and I got sent to a speech therapist
I beat the stammer before the scheduled speech thearpist by increasing my rate of speech.
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I am afraid, fear is a bad tactic because while it may work to get one to not do something again, the actual action which is unwanted maybe interpreted differently.
You need to be very specific if you threaten because aspies take things very literally.
For instances tell a kid never to interrupt you on the phone or they will never get ice cream again, could mean that they won't interrupt in emergencies because interrupting has now been wired as a hard "No."
You need to be very specific if you threaten because aspies take things very literally.
For instances tell a kid never to interrupt you on the phone or they will never get ice cream again, could mean that they won't interrupt in emergencies because interrupting has now been wired as a hard "No."
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Yes, I imagined you need that book before talking me
The movie is good too. I have met her only once, not formally, but she came up and gave me some advice me at an event. I tried it, she was correct. This was in the late 80's. She seemed a bit strange even to me, but not threatening or anything though she was much bigger than I was.
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And it took me a while to realize that my anger itself overwhelmed any content I had in a verbal discussion. I learned to not invest anger, began making polite requests and giving examples.
Turns out that works with neurotypicals as well.
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Yes, I imagined you need that book before talking me
The movie is good too. I have met her only once, not formally, but she came up and gave me some advice me at an event. I tried it, she was correct. This was in the late 80's. She seemed a bit strange even to me, but not threatening or anything though she was much bigger than I was.
Pshaw.
Talking to you is soooo easy.
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I just scored a 46
What do I win????
Me asking you tons of questions!
