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[CutieMouse]

It seems that our prudish ancestors emmigrated to US entirely.

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One reason for the little signature thingie under my avatar, is that my best friend says I'm the kinkiest prude she's ever known.

(I really really am a prude, and my proclivities fall within boundaries which seriously unnerve her. LOL)

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[LadyAria]

[random hijack]

One reason for the little signature thingie under my avatar, is that my best friend says I'm the kinkiest prude she's ever known.

(I really really am a prude, and my proclivities fall within boundaries which seriously unnerve her. LOL)

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I completely understand that statement. I'm prudish in many ways which might be why I am drawn to victorian kink.

 

[CutieMouse]

I completely understand that statement. I'm prudish in many ways which might be why I am drawn to victorian kink.

That dignified reserve, with a whisper of something darker underneath, is lovely, isn't it?

 

[LadyAria]

That dignified reserve, with a whisper of something darker underneath, is lovely, isn't it?

Yes, I like a little mystery to my sexuality

 

[DVS]

That dignified reserve, with a whisper of something darker underneath, is lovely, isn't it?

What I wouldn't give to strip you ov that digified reserve to get to that darker underneath. I'll bet your darker side is pretty kinky and knows how to party.

That prudish wall you 've got up ain't foolin' me.

 

[DVS]

I completely understand that statement. I'm prudish in many ways which might be why I am drawn to victorian kink.

Victorians, huh? You know what Victorians are known for, don't you?

 

[LadyAria]

Victorians, huh? You know what Victorians are known for, don't you?

Mmm, I know they are the ones that came up with good ol' figging.

 

[myinnerslut]

wernt they the ones who caned nuaghty school children and wore corsets all the time?

sounds like kinky folk to me

 

[LadyAria]

wernt they the ones who caned nuaghty school children and wore corsets all the time?

sounds like kinky folk to me

Mmm victorian naughties

 

[DVS]

Mmm, I know they are the ones that came up with good ol' figging.

Why yes, they were. That is one of my more favorite kinky times. For a people to think up such a nasty thing to help keep others in line...I like how they thought.

I do love that figging...well, that and anything else that involves a female's ass. I guess I'm kind of anal about anal.

 

[DVS]

wernt they the ones who caned nuaghty school children and wore corsets all the time?

sounds like kinky folk to me

Oh, it wasn't just naughty school children, and it wasn't just caning. It was how they got caned, and the ritual that went with it.

If you aren't familiar with figging, you should google it. Or, check out the thread about it, here . And interesting group of people, those Victorians were. They really knew how to dicipline someone to the ultimate.

 

[Weenieschnitzel]

[random hijack]

One reason for the little signature thingie under my avatar, is that my best friend says I'm the kinkiest prude she's ever known.

(I really really am a prude, and my proclivities fall within boundaries which seriously unnerve her. LOL)

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well, this leads to the question: do u have many geman ancestors?

 

[skittles_lm]

when loyalty is torn...

I'm pretty new to the scene. I have had a Dom for a relatively short time in the past, and I broke trust. He dropped me, I was heartbroken, and it was awhile before I felt the urge to look further into the idea of being Dominated. I have found someone that I think I can build a serius relationship with given the way we have "clicked"...
And then He waltzed back into my life today. Out of nowhere, asking me if I was happy without him, if I was ready to work for forgiveness. My heart dropped out of chest and onto the floor, begging to be crushed under his heel.
What the hell do I do? I am so lost. I feel torn in half.

 

[FurryFury]

I'd say that someone who can waltz in and out and back into your life will keep doing so. I am not found of such emotional roller coasters but if you are that is okay. In other words, I'd be done with someone like that. Lot's of my friends seem to keep letting jokers like that in and out, over and over. It's simply not my fav way of being fucked so I'd say, no thanks.

Also when I take up with someone else I am DONE with the last dude. It's as simple as that.

Fury

 

[LadyAria]

I'm pretty new to the scene. I have had a Dom for a relatively short time in the past, and I broke trust. He dropped me, I was heartbroken, and it was awhile before I felt the urge to look further into the idea of being Dominated. I have found someone that I think I can build a serius relationship with given the way we have "clicked"...
And then He waltzed back into my life today. Out of nowhere, asking me if I was happy without him, if I was ready to work for forgiveness. My heart dropped out of chest and onto the floor, begging to be crushed under his heel.
What the hell do I do? I am so lost. I feel torn in half.

How did you break trust?

Trust is the most important factor in a D/s relationship. A serious violation of trust can earn anyone walking papers regardless of the relationship length. Did he say why he was ready to forgive? Who do you feel can get you closer to your long term goal as a submissive?

 

[skittles_lm]

breaking trust...?

How did you break trust?

Trust is the most important factor in a D/s relationship. A serious violation of trust can earn anyone walking papers regardless of the relationship length. Did he say why he was ready to forgive? Who do you feel can get you closer to your long term goal as a submissive?

I was speaking with other subs and Doms in a chatroom. He found this absolutely offensive, although I did not know it at the time. I had never been forbidden to talk with anyone. I would not allow myself to be cut off from everything even if it was demanded of me. I realize now that I could not have broken trust if I didn not know what was expected of me. I have come to agree with the idea that he is not the sort of presence I can count on. Thanks, guys!

 

[FluteMaster]

I was speaking with other subs and Doms in a chatroom. He found this absolutely offensive, although I did not know it at the time. I had never been forbidden to talk with anyone. I would not allow myself to be cut off from everything even if it was demanded of me. I realize now that I could not have broken trust if I didn not know what was expected of me. I have come to agree with the idea that he is not the sort of presence I can count on. Thanks, guys!

Well done Skittles. Beware those who impose penalties for rules imposed without warning or on an arbitrary basis. Also, be very aware of anyone who requires you to break any friendships without exceptionally good cause, and certainly not all of them.

Emotional blackmail - Just Say No!

 

[skittles_lm]

ahhh, thanks!

Well done Skittles. Beware those who impose penalties for rules imposed without warning or on an arbitrary basis. Also, be very aware of anyone who requires you to break any friendships without exceptionally good cause, and certainly not all of them.

Emotional blackmail - Just Say No!

btw, I love 'Educating Alex'

 

[skittles_lm]

frisky vict... uh, volunteer?

That's kind of like asking why some people enjoy liver. Or why some people like jogging. Or why some people like to knit or crochet or do whatever it is they enjoy.

For some the pleasure is in the sensations themselves. What you or I might experience as "pain", they experience as "pleasure". Why? It could be physiological in nature, with endorphins kicking in quickly and a lot. For some, the pleasure may be emotional, to release the control they may have in other areas of their lives, to slip off the responsibility and to just "be".

For other it may be both, or it may be something else entirely that they get out of it.

Personally, I quit trying to figure out why masochists enjoy pain. While trying to figure it out might give me something to do, ultimately it's as useful as trying to figure out why my girl janey eats brussel sprouts. I can't stand 'em, she likes them. UGH! Go figure.

I'm just glad that the masochists are out there and that they do enjoy the pain, because it keeps me supplied with willing victi... uh.. er.. volunteers... yeah! Volunteers to do the deliciously wicked things I do to them. Some like needles... some like floggers, some like canes... some like spanking, some like hot wax, some like electrical shocks.... dayum, I'm getting frisky!

Gee, you're not the only one feeling frisky!
To try and add to your answer, I go away when I am in pain. It's a quiet place, where there is just sensation and safety. I can just ride the plaesure/pain there and nothing else gets in the way. It's about letting go of fear for me. Of course, it takes the right person to get me there, it does not happen when I bash my toe into the nightstand! more's the pity... but that could get distracting too!

 

[FluteMaster]

btw, I love 'Educating Alex'

Shucks -you are too kind, and flattery will get you everywhere. Care to see my new Violet Wand machine?? (Genuine German 1920's, lots of sparks and fun things!! ) I am hoping to include it in a new story soon.

whoops - sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread.

Like Geoff, I love the results of properly apllied stimuli when administered to the right subject!!

 

[skittles_lm]

sparks, huh?

Shucks -you are too kind, and flattery will get you everywhere. Care to see my new Violet Wand machine?? (Genuine German 1920's, lots of sparks and fun things!! ) I am hoping to include it in a new story soon.

whoops - sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread.

Like Geoff, I love the results of properly apllied stimuli when administered to the right subject!!

I think that the words "properly applied stimuli" have made me all warm and tingly! And is there a particular story I should be looking for....hmmm?

 

[FluteMaster]

I think that the words "properly applied stimuli" have made me all warm and tingly! And is there a particular story I should be looking for....hmmm?

<grins>, as yet, the machine has only just been bought, and it needed a bit of work on it before I could use it. However, in some future story it will have a starring role I hope. Note to anyone else reading this, has anyone else had a chance to try one of these toys out yet?

Meanwhile, I can't believe that you have read all my stories so quickly!! You must be more of a glutton for punishment than I had suspected. (Thinks, this is Skittles we are talking about...she loves the punishment..."more, more," she is crying out. )

 

[skittles_lm]

<grins>, as yet, the machine has only just been bought, and it needed a bit of work on it before I could use it. However, in some future story it will have a starring role I hope. Note to anyone else reading this, has anyone else had a chance to try one of these toys out yet?

Meanwhile, I can't believe that you have read all my stories so quickly!! You must be more of a glutton for punishment than I had suspected. (Thinks, this is Skittles we are talking about...she loves the punishment..."more, more," she is crying out. )

I am that! And I took a speed-reading course in grade school... I can tear thru a story like warm butter... or hot wax perhaps...

 

[FluteMaster]

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[FluteMaster]

I am that! And I took a speed-reading course in grade school... I can tear thru a story like warm butter... or hot wax perhaps...

Shame on you missy. My stories are meant to be read slowly, savoured played and teased with - until the reader is hot and flushed and ready to finish with their own ending.

After all I am sure that you would find the hot wax far more enjoyable dripped on, drop by drop, with pauses where your breath grows short with anticipation, rather than the whole hot mess dropped on in one go.

Maybe I should install speed bumps and speed cameras in my stories?