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Thought I might mention another game. I call this "passive suffering." [Cover your eyes, if you like, Fury. This is really scary for many people.] I've never seen it on Lit. In this one the sub is bound and blindfolded (of course). Then certain toys are applied: CBT etc.--and the sub is left alone in a room. What is attention getting at 30 minutes can become painful in an hour. At the two to three hour time line it can become a decent into hell. The sub will tremble, cry; but there is no one to hear a plea for mercy. The sub looks for HER return as he has never anticipated anything. Time no longer exists, only an unendurable suspense. The sound of the door knob turning. SHE enters. he pleads. SHE is all sweetness. "I'm here to help.[caresses hair-etc.]" And SHE makes the pain go away. SHE has ceased to be the PUNISHING ANGEL; SHE is now the ANGEL OF MERCY. SHE is RESCUE AND SALVATION. How can the sub do other than fall on his face and wash HER feet with tears of gratitude. Of course, the game can be played on various levels of intensity. Private decision. BUT this is a fantastic BONDING experience.
Only for really dedicated types. Definetly not for those who don't have a long term relationship.
Responses? Ideas?
Lady Aria: your post layout is an adventure.
LadyAria said:
Thought I might mention another game. I call this "passive suffering." [Cover your eyes, if you like, Fury. This is really scary for many people.] I've never seen it on Lit. In this one the sub is bound and blindfolded (of course). Then certain toys are applied: CBT etc.--and the sub is left alone in a room. What is attention getting at 30 minutes can become painful in an hour. At the two to three hour time line it can become a decent into hell. The sub will tremble, cry; but there is no one to hear a plea for mercy. The sub looks for HER return as he has never anticipated anything. Time no longer exists, only an unendurable suspense. The sound of the door knob turning. SHE enters. he pleads. SHE is all sweetness. "I'm here to help.[caresses hair-etc.]" And SHE makes the pain go away. SHE has ceased to be the PUNISHING ANGEL; SHE is now the ANGEL OF MERCY. SHE is RESCUE AND SALVATION. How can the sub do other than fall on his face and wash HER feet with tears of gratitude. Of course, the game can be played on various levels of intensity. Private decision. BUT this is a fantastic BONDING experience.
Only for really dedicated types. Definetly not for those who don't have a long term relationship.
Responses? Ideas?
Lady Aria: your post layout is an adventure.
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LadyAria sent me a PM. She recieved a message from someone asking about anal sex. She asked me to come here and post about it, as I seem to be one of the most "anal" members of the Doms.
Because I don't know if the person who sent LadyAria the message was male or female, Dom or sub, I'm going to stick with my point of view, which is male Dom.
It's true, I love anal sex. I've often said I enjoy it more than vaginal sax, in some situations. I don't think everyone feels anywhere near the same as I do, but I know there are a lot of people who secretly enjoy thinking about it, and wish they could find a partner that was willing to help endulge their anal desires.
Anal sex can be considered part of the BDSM lifestyle, but it is not exclusively so. I'm sure there are many vanilla couples who engage in anal sex and don't think it's anything more than a little kinky. And, depending on how they engage in this type of sex, they could be delving into the BDSM lifestyle without even knowing it.
Force anal sex is very much a part of the BDSM lifestyle. With the female sub bound in a tempting position, she is forced to wait for it, while the male Dom takes his time. Anticipation can be a large part of the fun...tempting her with the act, but mentally tormenting her about it for a while, instead. When you finally do take her, she's very much primed and ready for it.
Bondage is a large part of anal sex for me. It's just not the same if the sub isn't bound. Control is what I enjoy, and controlling the sub during anal sex is almost the ultimate control. Taking her in her most private hole, while she is bound and helpless...God, I'm in heaven.
But, bondage isn't for everybody. And, anal sex doesn't have to include bondage to be hot. Just because it's anal sex, it's possible for it to seem like a very kinky act. And, that's a large part of the fun.
Anal sex should never be too rough. A sufficient amount of lubrication is always necessary, because the tissue of the anal canal is tender and easily irritated or torn. If it were to be torn, it would be a difficult healing process. So, watch out for long fingernails, pointy probs, and anything that is too large to be pushed in there.
Once properly lubed, everything will slide in and out with little effort. But, part of the enjoyment for most men is the fact that the anus is tighter than the vagina. It's tighter with more sensitive nerve endings.
Oh, it will stretch a lot, but not very quickly. With patience, the anal ring can be loosened to accept a rather large butt plug. Remember though, it takes patience and a sub who's relaxed.
Many female subs enjoy anal sex because they are giving up control. Just the position itself is very submissive. And, because it's their most private entrance and it's sometimes seen as taboo or even deviant behavior, it's also seen as being very kinky.
The women love it when their Dom is kinky. They are then allowed to be kinky without having to devulge their desire for it. They can be the inocent victim that's taken by the deviant Dom. Some won't even admit to enjoying anal sex, but will let the Dom "force" it on them. Yes, some famale subs are complexed. LOL.
So, never attempt anal sex without using lube. Oh, there are some who say they don't need it, and that's OK, after they know what they're doing. But, until you know what you're doing, be sure you use a good amount of it. That way, you won't be hurting her, and any sounds she makes will more likely be from pleausre and not from pain.
With anal sex, there can be a degree of pain for some people. Some say they don't feel any pain but do experience a feeling of complete fullness that is quite overpowering. Some feel impaled and unable to move. This also contributes to a submissive feeling. All of these sensations depend on the person.
Go very slow, in the beginning, and don't try to rush it. Once inside her, allow her to relax and become adjusted to the size of the cock. Let her decide when to move and how much. In the beginning, she should be in charge of this, so let her guide you. Once she is OK with it, you can begin to pick up the pace.
It's in your best interest to allow her to experience anal sex the way she wants to. If she enjoys it, eventually, you will be able to take charge and she will just be your whimpering submissive, quivering beneath you and your Dominating cock.
Because I don't know if the person who sent LadyAria the message was male or female, Dom or sub, I'm going to stick with my point of view, which is male Dom.
It's true, I love anal sex. I've often said I enjoy it more than vaginal sax, in some situations. I don't think everyone feels anywhere near the same as I do, but I know there are a lot of people who secretly enjoy thinking about it, and wish they could find a partner that was willing to help endulge their anal desires.
Anal sex can be considered part of the BDSM lifestyle, but it is not exclusively so. I'm sure there are many vanilla couples who engage in anal sex and don't think it's anything more than a little kinky. And, depending on how they engage in this type of sex, they could be delving into the BDSM lifestyle without even knowing it.
Force anal sex is very much a part of the BDSM lifestyle. With the female sub bound in a tempting position, she is forced to wait for it, while the male Dom takes his time. Anticipation can be a large part of the fun...tempting her with the act, but mentally tormenting her about it for a while, instead. When you finally do take her, she's very much primed and ready for it.
Bondage is a large part of anal sex for me. It's just not the same if the sub isn't bound. Control is what I enjoy, and controlling the sub during anal sex is almost the ultimate control. Taking her in her most private hole, while she is bound and helpless...God, I'm in heaven.
But, bondage isn't for everybody. And, anal sex doesn't have to include bondage to be hot. Just because it's anal sex, it's possible for it to seem like a very kinky act. And, that's a large part of the fun.
Anal sex should never be too rough. A sufficient amount of lubrication is always necessary, because the tissue of the anal canal is tender and easily irritated or torn. If it were to be torn, it would be a difficult healing process. So, watch out for long fingernails, pointy probs, and anything that is too large to be pushed in there.
Once properly lubed, everything will slide in and out with little effort. But, part of the enjoyment for most men is the fact that the anus is tighter than the vagina. It's tighter with more sensitive nerve endings.
Oh, it will stretch a lot, but not very quickly. With patience, the anal ring can be loosened to accept a rather large butt plug. Remember though, it takes patience and a sub who's relaxed.
Many female subs enjoy anal sex because they are giving up control. Just the position itself is very submissive. And, because it's their most private entrance and it's sometimes seen as taboo or even deviant behavior, it's also seen as being very kinky.
The women love it when their Dom is kinky. They are then allowed to be kinky without having to devulge their desire for it. They can be the inocent victim that's taken by the deviant Dom. Some won't even admit to enjoying anal sex, but will let the Dom "force" it on them. Yes, some famale subs are complexed. LOL.
So, never attempt anal sex without using lube. Oh, there are some who say they don't need it, and that's OK, after they know what they're doing. But, until you know what you're doing, be sure you use a good amount of it. That way, you won't be hurting her, and any sounds she makes will more likely be from pleausre and not from pain.
With anal sex, there can be a degree of pain for some people. Some say they don't feel any pain but do experience a feeling of complete fullness that is quite overpowering. Some feel impaled and unable to move. This also contributes to a submissive feeling. All of these sensations depend on the person.
Go very slow, in the beginning, and don't try to rush it. Once inside her, allow her to relax and become adjusted to the size of the cock. Let her decide when to move and how much. In the beginning, she should be in charge of this, so let her guide you. Once she is OK with it, you can begin to pick up the pace.
It's in your best interest to allow her to experience anal sex the way she wants to. If she enjoys it, eventually, you will be able to take charge and she will just be your whimpering submissive, quivering beneath you and your Dominating cock.
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Thank you DVS.
DVS is quite the expert on the subject. I removed your name from the question to keep your username discreet. I think anal play may be different from a male perspective in a M/f relationship. My partnerships are F/m and F/f.
It is more figging, strap ons and enemas for me.
DVS, can you talk about how to introduce it and when?
DVS is quite the expert on the subject. I removed your name from the question to keep your username discreet. I think anal play may be different from a male perspective in a M/f relationship. My partnerships are F/m and F/f.
It is more figging, strap ons and enemas for me.
DVS, can you talk about how to introduce it and when?
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Well, when and how are always going to be different, with different people. But, there is a time when you start to feel at ease with your partner and she trusts you.LadyAria said:
Anal sex requires patience and the more she trusts you the more likely you are going to be allowed to take her that way. Sometimes, just asking is enough, but a lot of times, asking won't work because she's embarassed and won't want to talk about it.
So, you might have to get her in a more relaxed frame of mind...maybe even in an aroused state, and bring it up to her then. Sometiimes getting her attention by carressing her asshole with your fingers, maybe stimulating her thoughts about it. Maybe using a vibrator on her, lightly pressing on the opening, to give her a sensation of a cock pushing at the entrance. Again, everybody is different, and what you do to get her attention will be up to you.
It's still a taboo with a lot of people, and some think it's a dirty act, It's not that dirty, although you should never go from ass to vagina, for fear of infection. Going from vagina to ass is quite OK.
If she doesn't want to talk about it, don't push the issue. Bring it up again at a later date. Maybe taking her to a move that has a scene where a couple is engaging in anal sex will help. Be passionant about it. Tell her how beautiful her ass is and how much you desire her in that way.
But, be sure you don't force her into doing this, if she doesn't want to do it. The worst thing you can do is make her go along with it, if she doesn't want to. Sure, she might end up enjoying it if you do persuade her, but there is always the chance she won't enjoy it, and that can damage her mentally toward anal sex, if she doesn't enjoy it and may never want to attempt it again. That won't be a good result for either of you.
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Thanks for mentioning this, Thorkel. I missed it the first time.ThorkelGriersen said:Thought I might mention another game. I call this "passive suffering." [Cover your eyes, if you like, Fury. This is really scary for many people.] I've never seen it on Lit. In this one the sub is bound and blindfolded (of course). Then certain toys are applied: CBT etc.--and the sub is left alone in a room. What is attention getting at 30 minutes can become painful in an hour. At the two to three hour time line it can become a decent into hell. The sub will tremble, cry; but there is no one to hear a plea for mercy. The sub looks for HER return as he has never anticipated anything. Time no longer exists, only an unendurable suspense. The sound of the door knob turning. SHE enters. he pleads. SHE is all sweetness. "I'm here to help.[caresses hair-etc.]" And SHE makes the pain go away. SHE has ceased to be the PUNISHING ANGEL; SHE is now the ANGEL OF MERCY. SHE is RESCUE AND SALVATION. How can the sub do other than fall on his face and wash HER feet with tears of gratitude. Of course, the game can be played on various levels of intensity. Private decision. BUT this is a fantastic BONDING experience.
Only for really dedicated types. Definetly not for those who don't have a long term relationship.
Responses? Ideas?
Lady Aria: your post layout is an adventure.
Abandonment punishment. Interesting, but potentially dangerous depending on the toy applied. Part of me finds it intriguing, but I wouldn't want to waste suffering by not seeing it. Could add a camera for viewing pleasure? What toys did you find most effective? Instead of toys...did you ever have complex bindings serve the same purpose. I'm picturing an over/under reverse hog stretching the shoulders and thigh muscles. In my fantasy, I'd add a slip knot noose attached neck to ankles.
Disclaimer: I do not "promote" or encourage BCP in RL
I stated fantasy.
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ThorkelGriersen said:Thought I might mention another game. I call this "passive suffering." [Cover your eyes, if you like, Fury. This is really scary for many people.] I've never seen it on Lit. In this one the sub is bound and blindfolded (of course). Then certain toys are applied: CBT etc.--and the sub is left alone in a room. What is attention getting at 30 minutes can become painful in an hour. At the two to three hour time line it can become a decent into hell. The sub will tremble, cry; but there is no one to hear a plea for mercy. The sub looks for HER return as he has never anticipated anything. Time no longer exists, only an unendurable suspense. The sound of the door knob turning. SHE enters. he pleads. SHE is all sweetness. "I'm here to help.[caresses hair-etc.]" And SHE makes the pain go away. SHE has ceased to be the PUNISHING ANGEL; SHE is now the ANGEL OF MERCY. SHE is RESCUE AND SALVATION. How can the sub do other than fall on his face and wash HER feet with tears of gratitude. Of course, the game can be played on various levels of intensity. Private decision. BUT this is a fantastic BONDING experience.
Only for really dedicated types. Definetly not for those who don't have a long term relationship.
Responses? Ideas?
Lady Aria: your post layout is an adventure.
Interesting but I really don't think I would handle that well. *shivers*
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Abandoment punishment
Yes, there are several issues here. I should start by saying that in 99.9% of my experiences, I start with a fantasy and then look for ways to make it or some part of it real. In this case, there were NO fantasies, it happened and then I couldn't get the idea out of my head. I suppose there must have been something buried there. Once I had undergone the experience it seemed as if I had a new fantasy a day for ages. Obviously, a chord had been struck.
Cameras? Well,YES ! In the days of yore when this first happened the only TV cameras were the size of shoe boxes, needed tripods and cables and were as subtle as a Mack truck. Today baby stores sell simple models as baby moniters for less than the price of dinner at many places. There are so many options. Web cams, etc. Easily placed and removed and repositioned.
As for toys, there are a number that work well. One that is most suitable, but probably can't be readily found, is an item made in a small local shop by a friend. There are several variations. The simplest is single leather strap that fits around both the cock and balls. The wicked part is that it is lined with a double row of small steel teeth. He buffs the teeth on a wire wheel so they do not puncture the skin. I wouldn't guarantee you will never draw blood, but I have never had that problem.Rather, it is like having an incredible number of small needles piercing the area. It is intensely stimulating. The problem is obvious. Any progress toward an erection only causes the teeth to dig in. The pain soon stops the erection. But, of course, the relaxation of pain only drives one back toward an erection. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. In 15 minutes, such an item will have your attention; in 30-45 minutes it will concentrate you mind in unbelievable ways. There are more complex variations with seperate sections for the cock, the balls, and dividers to apply the bite over more areas. Truly wicked.[ I'm in the process of creating a custom drawing for a special one of a kind model-Actually, if it works as well as I thnik then-----?]
There are other "passive punishments" that are far worse. I mean anal. But that is very complex and this should not become War and Peace. I don't mean butt plugs! I know things that make plugs as exciting as a mayo sandwich.
A brief account of what got me started: I was fastened on a bed face down, ankles chained to the bottom corners of the bed, and arms crossed wrist to elbows with cuffs behind my back. The punishment devices added weren't all that bad, but with time everything gets worse. SHE turned off the bedside lamp leaving only a dim glow from a night light and then added a blindfold to "help me concentrate." SHE added, "When I come back, you're going to get a serious ass whipping." And then walked out and closed the door.
There was some discomfort at first which grew in intensity with time. The pain came and went. I wanted to escape the pain but knew that the only escape would come at the far end of even worse pain. In such isolation, time alters: mostly expanding. Some time later I began to wonder how much time had elasped. Suddenly, I realized that a signficant time was involve and SHE should be returning soon. The carpet meant I couldn't hear footsteps. I would only know when I heard the door knob turn. My ears seemed to expand geometrically. Even the slightes click made me jump and think that it was the door being opened.
Suddenly, there seemed to be the sound of movement and SHE cleared HER throat. SHE had never left the room! I felt as if I had jumped two feet outside my skin. What had SHE seen and heard? I think I seriously thought that SHE had read my every thought. Bad, because anything that displeased HER only added to a whipping. I was shaking like a leaf. Then there was whoosh and the cane found my ass.
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SPECIAL WARNING NOTE: I AGREE ABSOLUTELY WITH LADY ARIA ON BCP!! About a year ago Jay Weissman did an article in Secrets Magazine in which he said that breath control is totally off the table. He wrote of being contacted by a group who practiced BCP and offered a demo. Jay agreed ONLY if a medical team with the capacity to resuscitate was present. He said there were no mishaps but he remained unconvinced. Too dangerous and besides there are just a world of other things to do that are not likey to kill someone. PLEASE DON'T !!
LadyAria said:Thanks for mentioning this, Thorkel. I missed it the first time.
Abandonment punishment. Interesting, but potentially dangerous depending on the toy applied. Part of me finds it intriguing, but I wouldn't want to waste suffering by not seeing it. Could add a camera for viewing pleasure? What toys did you find most effective? Instead of toys...did you ever have complex bindings serve the same purpose. I'm picturing an over/under reverse hog stretching the shoulders and thigh muscles. In my fantasy, I'd add a slip knot noose attached neck to ankles.
Disclaimer: I do not "promote" or encourage BCP in RL
Yes, there are several issues here. I should start by saying that in 99.9% of my experiences, I start with a fantasy and then look for ways to make it or some part of it real. In this case, there were NO fantasies, it happened and then I couldn't get the idea out of my head. I suppose there must have been something buried there. Once I had undergone the experience it seemed as if I had a new fantasy a day for ages. Obviously, a chord had been struck.
Cameras? Well,YES ! In the days of yore when this first happened the only TV cameras were the size of shoe boxes, needed tripods and cables and were as subtle as a Mack truck. Today baby stores sell simple models as baby moniters for less than the price of dinner at many places. There are so many options. Web cams, etc. Easily placed and removed and repositioned.
As for toys, there are a number that work well. One that is most suitable, but probably can't be readily found, is an item made in a small local shop by a friend. There are several variations. The simplest is single leather strap that fits around both the cock and balls. The wicked part is that it is lined with a double row of small steel teeth. He buffs the teeth on a wire wheel so they do not puncture the skin. I wouldn't guarantee you will never draw blood, but I have never had that problem.Rather, it is like having an incredible number of small needles piercing the area. It is intensely stimulating. The problem is obvious. Any progress toward an erection only causes the teeth to dig in. The pain soon stops the erection. But, of course, the relaxation of pain only drives one back toward an erection. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. In 15 minutes, such an item will have your attention; in 30-45 minutes it will concentrate you mind in unbelievable ways. There are more complex variations with seperate sections for the cock, the balls, and dividers to apply the bite over more areas. Truly wicked.[ I'm in the process of creating a custom drawing for a special one of a kind model-Actually, if it works as well as I thnik then-----?]
There are other "passive punishments" that are far worse. I mean anal. But that is very complex and this should not become War and Peace. I don't mean butt plugs! I know things that make plugs as exciting as a mayo sandwich.
A brief account of what got me started: I was fastened on a bed face down, ankles chained to the bottom corners of the bed, and arms crossed wrist to elbows with cuffs behind my back. The punishment devices added weren't all that bad, but with time everything gets worse. SHE turned off the bedside lamp leaving only a dim glow from a night light and then added a blindfold to "help me concentrate." SHE added, "When I come back, you're going to get a serious ass whipping." And then walked out and closed the door.
There was some discomfort at first which grew in intensity with time. The pain came and went. I wanted to escape the pain but knew that the only escape would come at the far end of even worse pain. In such isolation, time alters: mostly expanding. Some time later I began to wonder how much time had elasped. Suddenly, I realized that a signficant time was involve and SHE should be returning soon. The carpet meant I couldn't hear footsteps. I would only know when I heard the door knob turn. My ears seemed to expand geometrically. Even the slightes click made me jump and think that it was the door being opened.
Suddenly, there seemed to be the sound of movement and SHE cleared HER throat. SHE had never left the room! I felt as if I had jumped two feet outside my skin. What had SHE seen and heard? I think I seriously thought that SHE had read my every thought. Bad, because anything that displeased HER only added to a whipping. I was shaking like a leaf. Then there was whoosh and the cane found my ass.
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SPECIAL WARNING NOTE: I AGREE ABSOLUTELY WITH LADY ARIA ON BCP!! About a year ago Jay Weissman did an article in Secrets Magazine in which he said that breath control is totally off the table. He wrote of being contacted by a group who practiced BCP and offered a demo. Jay agreed ONLY if a medical team with the capacity to resuscitate was present. He said there were no mishaps but he remained unconvinced. Too dangerous and besides there are just a world of other things to do that are not likey to kill someone. PLEASE DON'T !!
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Woops!
CORRECTION Later looking at a copy of S&M 101, I realized that the name is JAY WISEMAN. Sorry if anyone looked for the wrong thing. Get the book, read, and use. There is no substitute for knowledge, and BDSM's should always be the leaders in SSC.
CORRECTION Later looking at a copy of S&M 101, I realized that the name is JAY WISEMAN. Sorry if anyone looked for the wrong thing. Get the book, read, and use. There is no substitute for knowledge, and BDSM's should always be the leaders in SSC.
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ThorkelGriersen said:Yes, there are several issues here. I should start by saying that in 99.9% of my experiences, I start with a fantasy and then look for ways to make it or some part of it real. In this case, there were NO fantasies, it happened and then I couldn't get the idea out of my head. I suppose there must have been something buried there. Once I had undergone the experience it seemed as if I had a new fantasy a day for ages. Obviously, a chord had been struck... if a medical team with the capacity to resuscitate was present. He said there were no mishaps but he remained unconvinced. Too dangerous and besides there are just a world of other things to do that are not likey to kill someone. PLEASE DON'T !!
*Claps*
How splendid! I really like the description of the teeth ring. Have you read any David Aaron Clark...kind of reminds me of one of his short stories.
That article is actually in this thread on a my post about BCP. It was in response to this PM I got on Scarfing
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I'm the same on the leaving someone alone. I'd rather just act like I left and stick around for the show. Oh, and I wouldn't leave someone "haning" very long, because I'm aware of the mental anqush they could be going through. Been there, done that. Not fun.FurryFury said:That sounds exciting and fun except for the being left part. I think I might have some pretty serious issues about that.
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Still though, I think it would be rather overpowering and fun to try at least once or twice.
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DVS said:I'm the same on the leaving someone alone. I'd rather just act like I left and stick around for the show. Oh, and I wouldn't leave someone "haning" very long, because I'm aware of the mental anqush they could be going through. Been there, done that. Not fun.
Still though, I think it would be rather overpowering and fun to try at least once or twice.
*sobs* But, but, it's all scary like!
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Well scary yes, it doesn't last for ever, although it might seem like it will, at the time. But, that's why I would never leave someone alone, only act like it and only for a while.FurryFury said:*sobs* But, but, it's all scary like!
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I guess I wouldn't be a good participant, huh? I just think about myself in that situation and I know I couldn't handle, mentally. So, why put someone else in a situation that I couldn't handle? I'd only do it for a very short time, because even a short time would seem like forever to the sub.
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ThorkelGriersen said:Thought I might mention another game. I call this "passive suffering." [Cover your eyes, if you like, Fury. This is really scary for many people.] I've never seen it on Lit. In this one the sub is bound and blindfolded (of course). Then certain toys are applied: CBT etc.--and the sub is left alone in a room. What is attention getting at 30 minutes can become painful in an hour. At the two to three hour time line it can become a decent into hell. The sub will tremble, cry; but there is no one to hear a plea for mercy. The sub looks for HER return as he has never anticipated anything. Time no longer exists, only an unendurable suspense. The sound of the door knob turning. SHE enters. he pleads. SHE is all sweetness. "I'm here to help.[caresses hair-etc.]" And SHE makes the pain go away. SHE has ceased to be the PUNISHING ANGEL; SHE is now the ANGEL OF MERCY. SHE is RESCUE AND SALVATION. How can the sub do other than fall on his face and wash HER feet with tears of gratitude. Of course, the game can be played on various levels of intensity. Private decision. BUT this is a fantastic BONDING experience.
Only for really dedicated types. Definetly not for those who don't have a long term relationship.
Responses? Ideas?
Though I am not a stickler for SSC to the letter, simply because there is risk in just about everything, this is something I would consider highly dangerous and not worth the risk. No matter how well you know a person, leaving them alone and restrained is just not an option, especially for 2-3 hours!! How do you explain it to the authorities if on your return for a giggle at the suffering sub you find them dead from any number of unexpected events like heart attack, choking, fits, stroke, suffocation (which can happen even without the airways being obviously blocked), to name a few possibilities? Giving the impression they may be alone, perhaps even with regular checks they are aware of, is a much safer option IMHO.
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catalina_francisco said:Though I am not a stickler for SSC to the letter, simply because there is risk in just about everything, this is something I would consider highly dangerous and not worth the risk. No matter how well you know a person, leaving them alone and restrained is just not an option, especially for 2-3 hours!! How do you explain it to the authorities if on your return for a giggle at the suffering sub you find them dead from any number of unexpected events like heart attack, choking, fits, stroke, suffocation (which can happen even without the airways being obviously blocked), to name a few possibilities? Giving the impression they may be alone, perhaps even with regular checks they are aware of, is a much safer option IMHO.
Catalina
Catalina, thanks, you have a good point. Selfish me was just thinking and not getting to see the suffering first hand. I caught the toy danger, but I didn't even think about possible suffocation
LadyAria
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FurryFury said:I'm sorry to hear that but . . . what about that HUGE grin? I think I'm missing something?
Fury
Oh Fury...I clicked the wrong smiley. No big grin on that statement. Though, just seeing you around is always a good reason for a big grin.
ThorkelGriersen
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Ssc
Sorry if I sared a lot of people with this one. Of course, I am firmly committed to SSC practices. By being left alone I don't mean to imply that someone should be bound and left alone while the Dominant partner goes to dinner or a movie. Going to another room or even tricking the sub I find acceptable. Of course, the subs ability to accept such things is the critical factor. I have listened to people describe what they consider extreme situations that for me would not at all be extreme. This, I think, is the key to the entire exchange. It is impossible to specify rules for everyone--other than the matter of physical danger. The house could catch fire, etc. I have some rather dark fantasies that would never work in RL. It doesn't keep me from having them but I would never attempt to make them real. But psychological differences do exist and must absolutely be taken into account. A thorough dicussion of fears and such are necessary.
Personal note: I love Opera and cannot remember a time when I didn't have it. Most of my family hated it. ON Saturday afternoon I took an extension cord to the radio and went into a closet and sat in the dark listening. This was in an ancient house with solid oak door and there was no light -probably not a lot of air now that I think about it. I heard Aida in that dark closet when I was about 5 years old. For those who don't know the opera's final scene is the live burial of Radmes and Aida in a tomb. I am never experienced any opera with the intensity of that. I still go to Aida and it doesn't bother me at all. --My younger brother would hide his eyes at cowboy movies so he wouldn't see anyone get shot. ---So as people used to say "Different strokes for different folks."
If anything is going to cause you serious mental anguish --DON'T 
To All.-- Thanks
catalina_francisco said:Though I am not a stickler for SSC to the letter, simply because there is risk in just about everything, this is something I would consider highly dangerous and not worth the risk. No matter how well you know a person, leaving them alone and restrained is just not an option, especially for 2-3 hours!! How do you explain it to the authorities if on your return for a giggle at the suffering sub you find them dead from any number of unexpected events like heart attack, choking, fits, stroke, suffocation (which can happen even without the airways being obviously blocked), to name a few possibilities? Giving the impression they may be alone, perhaps even with regular checks they are aware of, is a much safer option IMHO.
Catalina
Sorry if I sared a lot of people with this one. Of course, I am firmly committed to SSC practices. By being left alone I don't mean to imply that someone should be bound and left alone while the Dominant partner goes to dinner or a movie. Going to another room or even tricking the sub I find acceptable. Of course, the subs ability to accept such things is the critical factor. I have listened to people describe what they consider extreme situations that for me would not at all be extreme. This, I think, is the key to the entire exchange. It is impossible to specify rules for everyone--other than the matter of physical danger. The house could catch fire, etc. I have some rather dark fantasies that would never work in RL. It doesn't keep me from having them but I would never attempt to make them real. But psychological differences do exist and must absolutely be taken into account. A thorough dicussion of fears and such are necessary.
Personal note: I love Opera and cannot remember a time when I didn't have it. Most of my family hated it. ON Saturday afternoon I took an extension cord to the radio and went into a closet and sat in the dark listening. This was in an ancient house with solid oak door and there was no light -probably not a lot of air now that I think about it. I heard Aida in that dark closet when I was about 5 years old. For those who don't know the opera's final scene is the live burial of Radmes and Aida in a tomb. I am never experienced any opera with the intensity of that. I still go to Aida and it doesn't bother me at all. --My younger brother would hide his eyes at cowboy movies so he wouldn't see anyone get shot. ---So as people used to say "Different strokes for different folks."
If anything is going to cause you serious mental anguish --DON'T
To All.-- Thanks
FurryFury
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DVS said:
Hey I like the way you think but you knew that already.
Fury
LadyAria said:
*grins*
Thank you LadyAria!
That makes me so happy to hear! I needed that!
Fury
catalina_francisco said:Though I am not a stickler for SSC to the letter, simply because there is risk in just about everything, this is something I would consider highly dangerous and not worth the risk. No matter how well you know a person, leaving them alone and restrained is just not an option, especially for 2-3 hours!! How do you explain it to the authorities if on your return for a giggle at the suffering sub you find them dead from any number of unexpected events like heart attack, choking, fits, stroke, suffocation (which can happen even without the airways being obviously blocked), to name a few possibilities? Giving the impression they may be alone, perhaps even with regular checks they are aware of, is a much safer option IMHO.
Catalina
Yeah, I thought that was the case and anyway, it scares me bad!
Fury
ThorkelGriersen said:Sorry if I sared a lot of people with this one. Of course, I am firmly committed to SSC practices. By being left alone I don't mean to imply that someone should be bound and left alone while the Dominant partner goes to dinner or a movie. Going to another room or even tricking the sub I find acceptable. Of course, the subs ability to accept such things is the critical factor. I have listened to people describe what they consider extreme situations that for me would not at all be extreme. This, I think, is the key to the entire exchange. It is impossible to specify rules for everyone--other than the matter of physical danger. The house could catch fire, etc. I have some rather dark fantasies that would never work in RL. It doesn't keep me from having them but I would never attempt to make them real. But psychological differences do exist and must absolutely be taken into account. A thorough dicussion of fears and such are necessary.
Personal note: I love Opera and cannot remember a time when I didn't have it. Most of my family hated it. ON Saturday afternoon I took an extension cord to the radio and went into a closet and sat in the dark listening. This was in an ancient house with solid oak door and there was no light -probably not a lot of air now that I think about it. I heard Aida in that dark closet when I was about 5 years old. For those who don't know the opera's final scene is the live burial of Radmes and Aida in a tomb. I am never experienced any opera with the intensity of that. I still go to Aida and it doesn't bother me at all. --My younger brother would hide his eyes at cowboy movies so he wouldn't see anyone get shot. ---So as people used to say "Different strokes for different folks."
If anything is going to cause you serious mental anguish --DON'T
No worries. I'm no where near this level and since it scares me so, that might be a good thing.
Fury
PS I'm posting all sick and zonked out so if I messed it up that might be why, please forgive fever typing. LOL.
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