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[LadyAria]

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*clasps*

Yes! Yes!

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

Thread : Femdom Chat

I will certainly be lurking behind the scenes on this one and hoping for some real progress in the area of Female Supremacy. It really is time that all the little boys grew up and accepted reality. Study a litttle biology and some amazing things become apparent. The original sex is a self-fertilizing female. The female created the male for genetic diversity and to serve the needs and goals of the female.

God forbid anyone should learn any science. All fetuses have female gentalia until sometime in the 5th month. If any male looks seriously at himself he will see his origins. The clit becomes the heads of the penis which is nothing more the inner lips grown together and entend upward. The outer lips grow downward and join together to form the ball sac. The overies fall into the fallopian tube and once the mouth closes, it takes a downward journey turning the tubes inside out until the ovaries arrive at the ball sac and become testicles. That is why the penis and balls have those long scars runing down them

Without women, men couldn't exist. If anyone thinks this is hot air, go to the medical library and get any standard text on embroynic develpment.
So the idea that somehow only men are fit to rule is nonsense. I wrote a FemDom story last month and got some rather nasty anon e-mails. I'm sure that you, Lady Aria, will experience the same. We talked about this before you posted your first F/m story. Be strong and make use of the real courage I know you to have.

You just cannot know how much I admire your courage and honesty.

The world is just so much better for your presence.!!!!

Call this a love letter? A fan letter? YOU BET!!!!!!!!!!!! Stick to your guns!!

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

Apropos Of Female Superiority

About twenty years ago I ran into an incedible quote from Candice Bergan in a interview. I saved the magazine and quoted from it on several occasions. Then one day, I realized the mag had been lost or misplaced so I wrote out in a journal as best I could remember the quote. This may not be word for word but it is damn close to what she said:

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I am absolutely amazed at the extent to which men are fascinated and even messemerized by the concept of woman as cruel and demanding Bitch. From the moment a man first falls for a woman he expects to be ill treated. If she treats him well, it only serves to confuse and disorierntate him. And if she persists, will lead him to take her totally for granted.

But what is truly astonding is the case where a man actually succeeds in finding a woman who is fully prepared to live up to the role of cruel and demanding Bitch. Rather than being cured by the experience; it seems that the more cruelly and mercilessly she uses him, the more absolute his adoration and even worship of such a woman will be.
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Lady Aria, please feel free to use these in your FemDom chat if you think appropiate.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Lets give Lady Aria a bump as she helped me reach beyond what is normally me.

Though I do have a question Leather communities what does this mean, a guy at the munch I went to tried to explain it but still a bit fuzzy for me. Does anyone know where Kayte is not seen her here for a few weeks I think.

 

[LadyAria]

*cough*

Haven't been around for a minute. Hope everyone is well and having fun with their partners.

 

[FurryFury]

*cough*

Haven't been around for a minute. Hope everyone is well and having fun with their partners.

Nice to see you out tonight!

*smiles*

Fury

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

*cough*

Haven't been around for a minute. Hope everyone is well and having fun with their partners.

Love the AV. Class!

 

[Temptress_lee]

Why do some people like being dominated by someone who's physically weaker than them? Doesn't it make more sense to submit to someone who you couldn't escape if you tried?
Is the sub/dom relationship always sexual, or is it more simply about power? And if it's more about power, why do so many subs refuse to submit to someone of the same sex?
And could someone please explain the psychology behind enjoyment of humiliation to me?

Dominantion isn't all about whose physically stronger. It may make sense to you that true domination comes from physical strength. But to another person real control resides in mental strength. The ability to use your sexuality, and attractivness to get what you want and need from the bedroom. This is why men desire women who take control in the bedroom. Even in high school you hear about boys complaining that none of the girls ever ask them out, or make the first move during sex. It's because they have more of a desire to submit then they do to be in charge. The men who are more turned on by being in charge are usually the jock types, and guys who hold alot of power but even with these guys they may have a fantasy of being spanked by someone smaller then him.

Thats why men pay hundreds of dollars just to see women nude. Or to have a woman spank them for an hour. It's called female superiorty. Her beauty puts even the strongest men under a spell because she is irresistable, ecpecially if she wears leather and the guy has a fetish for it. Even some of the toughest guys out there melt at the sight of a woman with a whip, some stockings, and a sexy corrsette. In the movie Batman and Robin. Posin Ivy is the perfect example of female dominance. She's weak physically but she's strong in every other area. Thus it makes men fall under her spell, and to there feet.

 

[LadyAria]

Dominantion isn't all about whose physically stronger. It may make sense to you that true domination comes from physical strength. But to another person real control resides in mental strength. The ability to use your sexuality, and attractivness to get what you want and need from the bedroom. This is why men desire women who take control in the bedroom. Even in high school you hear about boys complaining that none of the girls ever ask them out, or make the first move during sex. It's because they have more of a desire to submit then they do to be in charge. The men who are more turned on by being in charge are usually the jock types, and guys who hold alot of power but even with these guys they may have a fantasy of being spanked by someone smaller then him.

Thats why men pay hundreds of dollars just to see women nude. Or to have a woman spank them for an hour. It's called female superiorty. Her beauty puts even the strongest men under a spell because she is irresistable, ecpecially if she wears leather and the guy has a fetish for it. Even some of the toughest guys out there melt at the sight of a woman with a whip, some stockings, and a sexy corrsette. In the movie Batman and Robin. Posin Ivy is the perfect example of female dominance. She's weak physically but she's strong in every other area. Thus it makes men fall under her spell, and to there feet.

Thorkel is going to like you

Welcome to the thread.

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

Thorkel is going to like you

Welcome to the thread.

Mind reader!!

 

[Mature1vixen]

I've been in a non-D/s relationship for that last three years. Upon finding Literotica.com I've decided to explore a light D/s relationship. I'd like it to be with the person that I'm with now. So last night I told him I'd like to try some new things in the relationship. I'd like him to be in full control of me. I'll serve him and do as he says fully. The only thing I want in return is to feel safe with him, yet diciplined and loved at all times.
He thought this was a strange request and didn't seem very comfortable taking on the role of my master.
My question is, is there a way I can slowly coax him into the role? Or should I not try to force him to attempt this lifestyle?
Thank you for reading this

Hello I am brand new here and exploring this lifestyle a bit. I would like to say that personally I don't think I could explore new avenues with the partner that I have had for the past 15 years. It just wouldn't feel right to me. Especially since he his a very dominating man,he is not willing to switch as we have talked about this about 8 months ago.
Also I have a question,which is "Am I Doing this for the Wrong Reasons"? I have been exploring different lifestyles,I have gotten a bit fed up with being told what to do. I Know that I have enjoyed role playing the Dominatrix over the phone. I Really enjoy being the Dominating factor. Also have kind of secretly ecplored just a bit in r/t,not hard core Dom though.
Your Advice is Greatly appreciated.

 

[DVS]

Hello I am brand new here and exploring this lifestyle a bit. I would like to say that personally I don't think I could explore new avenues with the partner that I have had for the past 15 years. It just wouldn't feel right to me. Especially since he his a very dominating man,he is not willing to switch as we have talked about this about 8 months ago.
Also I have a question,which is "Am I Doing this for the Wrong Reasons"? I have been exploring different lifestyles,I have gotten a bit fed up with being told what to do. I Know that I have enjoyed role playing the Dominatrix over the phone. I Really enjoy being the Dominating factor. Also have kind of secretly ecplored just a bit in r/t,not hard core Dom though.
Your Advice is Greatly appreciated.

In my opinion, whatever feels good to you and your partner and isn't hurting anyone (that is, unless they enjoy being hurt) is OK. That means, there should be no "am I doing this for the wrong reasons?" type of questions, if you follow those guidelines.

The old way to say it was "if it feels good, do it", but with BDSM, you can't just say that, as a sadist could feel good beating on a female victim, but if she isn't a masochist, she isn't enjoying it. So, you must also think of your partner's enjoyment, too.

You don't say what about your present partner that makes you unable to explore with him, other than he's a dominating personality. So, I take it that you are wanting to explore your dominant side, and you don't think he is the type to submit to you.

If you've asked and he said he would give it a try, I see nothing wrong with attempting some light domination on him. Maybe tie his hands behind his back and suck his cock...but do it in a way that you are in control of his pleasure. Watch him and when he's starting to enjoy what you're doing, ease up and make him wait for it. If he complains, politely tell him you are in control.

But, if you do tie him up and dominate him, give him a safe word to say, if he wants you to stop. This way, he can say "stop" all he wants, and not mean it. He might enjoy this type of thing more than you think he will. And, if he doesn't end up enjoying it, well, not everybody does. If he does enjoy you being in control, don't take too much advantage of his helplessness. You should let him cum...eventually.

A dominant personality in their day to day life, doesn't necessarily mean they are dominant in their sexual life. A lot of strong dominant men like to submit. The opposite is also true...a lot of seemingly timid women like to dominate a strong and powerful man. Fantasies take us to places we can't go, in real life. Sexual fantasies take us to sexual interests we can't go to, in real life.

Now this doesn't mean all strong and powerful men love to be submissive, and it also doesn't mean all timid women enjoy being dominant. But, there is a rule that works, in many situations...but not always...a man or woman in a powerful position in their day to day life is more likely to be submissive in their sexual life.

They tend to need a release from all of the stress they build up during the day, making decisions and being the boss in control. So, when it comes to the bedroom, they want to relinquish control and let someone else take charge. They enjoy being told what to do and just being the sexual interest of their more dominant partner.

And, the opposite is true, also. A man who has a job where he's bossed around a lot, might have the tendency to be dominant in bed. And, a woman in the same situation could be, too. Of course, there are various degrees of this, and it's also not always going to be true.

It's not an exact science, but it's something that happens in the human mind. So, don't think what the person is like in their day to day life is going to be how they are in their sexual life. They might just fool you.

Something else to take into consideration is, they might not even be aware of what they want, sexually. Many adults find themselves searching for years, before they stumble onto what the really want. Sometimes, it takes a little exploring with a partner to find out. And, isn't that what exploring is all about?

 

[DVS]

Dominantion isn't all about whose physically stronger. It may make sense to you that true domination comes from physical strength. But to another person real control resides in mental strength. The ability to use your sexuality, and attractivness to get what you want and need from the bedroom. This is why men desire women who take control in the bedroom. Even in high school you hear about boys complaining that none of the girls ever ask them out, or make the first move during sex. It's because they have more of a desire to submit then they do to be in charge. The men who are more turned on by being in charge are usually the jock types, and guys who hold alot of power but even with these guys they may have a fantasy of being spanked by someone smaller then him.

Thats why men pay hundreds of dollars just to see women nude. Or to have a woman spank them for an hour. It's called female superiorty. Her beauty puts even the strongest men under a spell because she is irresistable, ecpecially if she wears leather and the guy has a fetish for it. Even some of the toughest guys out there melt at the sight of a woman with a whip, some stockings, and a sexy corrsette. In the movie Batman and Robin. Posin Ivy is the perfect example of female dominance. She's weak physically but she's strong in every other area. Thus it makes men fall under her spell, and to there feet.

When I was in high school, I wanted the women to ask me out or to make the first move. But, I just wanted to know if they liked me. It wasn't because I was submissive, because I wasn't. I just didn't like rejection. If I knew the girl liked me, that took a lot of stress off of my shoulders.

And, of the jocks being more dominant, if they were dominant, it might have been because they were expected to be. I think, as some of them grew older and matured sexually, they found submitting was more to their liking. But, if it ever got out that the quarterback or the captain of the football team was letting his girlfriend control him, I don't think he would ever live it down. High school stereotypes can be a strong force in how someone will act.

 

[Sweetness_15]

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[FurryFury]

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Yes, some people do switch roles Sweetness, quite a few around here do, including me.

Fury

 

[Sweetness_15]

Yes, some people do switch roles Sweetness, quite a few around here do, including me.

Fury

Thank you FurryFury.

 

[FurryFury]

Thank you FurryFury.

My pleasure Sweetness and anytime!

Fury

 

[DVS]

Yes, some people do switch roles Sweetness, quite a few around here do, including me.

Fury

I don't switch, but there are times when I like to use one, for fun. Of course, I make the sub go out in the yard and cut me one.

It should be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch on the handle end and it should be about 2 feet long, tapering down to nothing, on the business end. It must come from a living tree, and should be nice and springy and flexible.

And, if it's not a good switch, I'll go out and cut my own. But, if I have to do that, I don't think she's going to like what I come back with.

Well...maybe she will.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't switch, but there are times when I like to use one, for fun. Of course, I make the sub go out in the yard and cut me one.

It should be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch on the handle end and it should be about 2 feet long, tapering down to nothing, on the business end. It must come from a living tree, and should be nice and springy and flexible.

And, if it's not a good switch, I'll go out and cut my own. But, if I have to do that, I don't think she's going to like what I come back with.

Well...maybe she will.

You are a hard man!



I left you a lil present in your Raw Anal Lust thread!

Fury

 

[DVS]

You are a hard man!



I left you a lil present in your Raw Anal Lust thread!

Fury

You know the present I REALLY want...

 

[FurryFury]

You know the present I REALLY want...

And I'd LOVE to give it to you too!

Fury

 

[Sweetness_15]

I don't switch, but there are times when I like to use one, for fun. Of course, I make the sub go out in the yard and cut me one.

It should be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch on the handle end and it should be about 2 feet long, tapering down to nothing, on the business end. It must come from a living tree, and should be nice and springy and flexible.

And, if it's not a good switch, I'll go out and cut my own. But, if I have to do that, I don't think she's going to like what I come back with.

Well...maybe she will.

*Grabs pocket knife and runs out to yard*

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

A Real Switch!

I don't switch, but there are times when I like to use one, for fun. Of course, I make the sub go out in the yard and cut me one.

It should be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch on the handle end and it should be about 2 feet long, tapering down to nothing, on the business end. It must come from a living tree, and should be nice and springy and flexible.

And, if it's not a good switch, I'll go out and cut my own. But, if I have to do that, I don't think she's going to like what I come back with.

Well...maybe she will.

In Florida we have a plant commonly called "Florida Holly" from its bright red berries. Actually it was brought here from the Amazon Basin and is properly called "Brazilian Pepper Plant" (I can never recall the Latin name.) It is a pest and the state spends millions each year on eradication. I do my bit.

It is possible to cut switches that are 8-10 feet in length. The large ends have diameters of 3/4- 1" and taper to nothing. I have found that about a dozen of these make for an interesting evening.

Of course, I play a little more seriously than most!

 

[LadyAria]

Hrm, you know it is amazing how many Dommes either switch or started out in the sub roll and flipped. It seems not to be as common with men in the lifestyle though. They tend to go one way or the other and stick with it. Some rare exceptions.

I was a sub for 5 years before I flipped when I returned to the states. I think it has something to do with American Doms too. (That is a whole different conversation.)

I've been a Domme for going on 4 years now. I think both roles are equally fulfilling. It is all about what you need to achieve your personal journey.

As for cutting down all those switches, I am getting flashbacks from youth. We use to call that making peach tea since it was a peach tree in my Grandmother's back yard. Grandmother would ask us if we wanted peach tea when we were acting up and all of us children would snap to proper behavior No one generally misbehaved more then once around my grandmother. Well, except me, I tended to get a lot of peach tea for falling asleep in church on Sundays and wrinkling my dress or lossing one of my kid gloves.

 

[mickeydamouse]

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