As you get angry, do you ...

[jaF0]

... get loud? Or quiet?

I don't mean mildly annoyed or irritated. I mean really angry, as in you feel you've been screwed over and are trying not to get out of hand and do stuff you know you can't.

It's seems like the hotter I get, the more quiet I get.

 

[HeavyBalls]

 

[TunnelKing089]

Interesting question...
I think I've gotten really "MAD" maybe 3 or 4 times in my life,meaning mad enough to just knock someone out.So guess my answer is I rarely get MAD but when I do it's large and loud lol.

 

[jaF0]

It's kind of like, screaming, yelling and throwing things, people just point and laugh. Quiet, like the calm before the storm, they know to stay the hell away.

 

[Taegul]

Depends how big the dude I get angry at is.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I get quiet. If I can not remove myself from the situation I may explode but it has to escalate. And even then I am going to just tell a person off. I have a rule about not being a first hit bitch.
I only yell if I care about the person and that is out of frustration at their disrespect. Casual folks get the mom stare with resting bitch face.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

Loud AND quiet. Neither good. Anger is an emotion that I'm working on. I've spent years and years internalizing things, including abuse and trauma, and sometimes anger manifests in ways that aren't good or healthy. I've never once lashed out at or physically hurt anyone but I've been told I'm scary (yelling and throwing things, Bobby Knight-style, I guess). That was my final straw to get help. It helps to make peace with past incidents by realizing that someone else's failure to treat you right doesn't mean the whole world is out to get you and that shit happens, even cruel, useless shit that isn't on you. There's no huge cosmic plan to destroy you and humiliate you. But you do have to check that shit. Both for your own well being and for others.

 

[StillRain]

I just get kind of internally seethy if it’s something small then I’ll get over it.

If it’s a big issue I’ll air it then get over it just as quick. I don’t really hold onto stuff once it’s out and done.

 

[Girly_girl]

I get quiet and isolate, I don’t let my anger linger long or hold grudges, it’s not worth it. I also don’t get angry often.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Simply being frustrated or annoyed will have me voicing it, especially if it's incompetence. Having to wait a month for appointments is frustrating and ridiculous.

If I'm angry, I am quiet. I'm lining my ducks up in a row in my head to state my case about what you've done that's pissed me off.

 

[Girly_girl]

Simply being frustrated or annoyed will have me voicing it, especially if it's incompetence. Having to wait a month for appointments is frustrating and ridiculous.

If I'm angry, I am quiet. I'm lining my ducks up in a row in my head to state my case about what you've done that's pissed me off.

You have ducks?! I never knew that about you!

 

[barefootgirl69]

You have ducks?! I never knew that about you!

It's a small flock and they're usually scattered about.

 

[eomerson]

Very quiet but only a couple times in my life. I try to always defuse things or step back.

 

[Nightspeed]

In the past I've been so angry that I have no memory of the things I did. I've been so angry my adrenaline caused me to break things I wouldn't normally be able to. I'm honestly surprised my son speaks to me now because when he was a kid, I was horrible.

I finally sought counseling and I was diagnosed with a variety of mental and emotional disorders stemming from a couple of incidents that resulted in PTSD. The other things grew from those. Nowadays I still get angry, but I have to just walk away from the cause. Most people think I've learned some funky meditative trick and never see my anger, thinking I just don't get mad. But it's there and it's there often, but I know that if I let that door open, I'll lose every bit of progress I've made since I began getting help 16 years ago.

 

[PenetratingIntelligence]

If I get mad you’ll never hear about. Good ole internalize and let it eat you up for months on end plan, here

 

[spankableBelle]

... get loud? Or quiet?

I don't mean mildly annoyed or irritated. I mean really angry, as in you feel you've been screwed over and are trying not to get out of hand and do stuff you know you can't.

It's seems like the hotter I get, the more quiet I get.

Depends on what I'm angry about...

I can get real quiet.
I can get fiesty and mean. Words have power, so the best thing is that I stay quiet, get it out in a journal or something, but I don't need to speak when I'm angry sometimes or I'll say things I can't take back.

Other times I'll ugly cry and scream into pillows... Then journal it out, shower, and sleep.

I also angry clean... Man, my house sparkles after that.

 

[Dolle]

... get loud? Or quiet?

I don't mean mildly annoyed or irritated. I mean really angry, as in you feel you've been screwed over and are trying not to get out of hand and do stuff you know you can't.

It's seems like the hotter I get, the more quiet I get.

If I get quiet and start smiling it's time to run cause the demon on my shoulders just gave me a really great idea and I've decided to carry it out

 

[PastMaster]

Neither - I get even

 

[ToPleaseHim]

It really depends on the issue and the degree to which I’m angry. I may cry, I may get loud, and I may get quiet. Me getting quiet is an indicator that I’m really, really upset.

 

[Chillygirl]

I get loud, I cry and then I get cold and quiet and start planning.

 

[Soccerfanpen21]

I get quiet while methodically plotting which bones to break depending on how bad they have pissed me off.

 

[Anastasia1999]

I stick pins in my voodoo doll, clobber my son’s punch bag and then practice some yoga to lower my blood pressure.

 

[13Fantasies]

Like when I drink, I turn quiet and introspective

 

[MrsPassion]

I get quiet. Like scary quiet and then my eye starts twitching. I prefer to hold my tongue cause I got my temper from all the matriarchs in my family and my anger can be like a tempest. If I can, I work out through the rage, then address whatever pissed me off. But if I’m cornered, I’ll tell someone about themselves, their mama, and their raggedy ass dog.

 

[PassionsFlame]

... get loud? Or quiet?

I don't mean mildly annoyed or irritated. I mean really angry, as in you feel you've been screwed over and are trying not to get out of hand and do stuff you know you can't.

It's seems like the hotter I get, the more quiet I get.

When really mad, I tend to get quiet and internalize shit. I line up arguments and state my case in my head. I overthink big time.

But that's from a lot of things in my past. I'm learning slowly to voice things in a rational way for things like when I feel disrespected or attacked.

To just speak up.

Though I'd prefer to hide under my blankets and quietly seethe. Even knowing it's not good for me.