Article on BDSM

[devinity7]

Yeah, because there are no such things as Mistresses or Dominatrix. Yes, Stella all women kowtow in D/S relationships. No men are ever submissive, ever.

can you for once keep your "Us poor oppresses lesbians/women" crap out of a conversation?

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go worship my wife's feet and if I do a good enough job, might get to go a little further.

Guess I'm the only submissive guy in the modern world.

Worship my feet and you'd be damned sure it would go further.

 

[lovecraft68]

Worship my feet and you'd be damned sure it would go further.

Post pics and lets see where it goes

You know you got a foot fetish when a girl walks buy in the summer and my friend says see that skirt? And I didn't but knew what color sandals and polish she had on her toes.

 

[lovecraft68]

I've never lived the lifestyle, read about it some and no, not from 50 Shades. I don't find that to be an accurate accounting. It's hard to say who's right and who's wrong. I don't think anyone should advocate injuries, but it's consenting adults, so what can one do?

Also, someone stated it's not a good practice in front of children for a woman to be subservient, yet I'm sure you can find others that say homosexual couples do not teach children what "normal," relationships should be either. There are heterosexual couples that aren't into any kind that aren't good role models for their kids either...

There's always a thin line with everything.

Its like any other "lifestyle" there's some basics, but everyone puts their own spin on it.

Problem is some people seem to think they have written the book on it, when they haven't so much as ever read a paragraph of it.

 

[devinity7]

Post pics and lets see where it goes

You know you got a foot fetish when a girl walks buy in the summer and my friend says see that skirt? And I didn't but knew what color sandals and polish she had on her toes.

Post a pic of my feet? Oh boy, I will have to work on that, right now they are trapped inside Nikes...

I love my toes in summer.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

All the happy horseshit vanished for me in combat when death came calling. When you kick deaths ass sissies in capes seem absurd.

 

[lovecraft68]

All the happy horseshit vanished for me in combat when death came calling. When you kick deaths ass sissies in capes seem absurd.

I feel the same way, but learned it at about seven before the state yanked me away from my "parents"

 

[danger2no]

I still think BDSM is stupid and I still would rather be bowling.

 

[lovecraft68]

I still think BDSM is stupid and I still would rather be bowling.

Watching bowling is masochism so you're still on the right path.

 

[lovecraft68]

Yup, this woman is certainly kow towing.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yeah, because there are no such things as Mistresses or Dominatrix. Yes, Stella all women kowtow in D/S relationships. No men are ever submissive, ever.

can you for once keep your "Us poor oppresses lesbians/women" crap out of a conversation?

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go worship my wife's feet and if I do a good enough job, might get to go a little further.

Guess I'm the only submissive guy in the modern world.

You sure are good at not hearing what people say.

Yup, this woman is certainly kow towing.

She's giving him exactly what he wants. Including the perfect body with the dieting and all that stuff. Not merely passable and healthy, but Perfect.

If she were really dominating, she'd be barefoot, she'd be sitting on the sofa with a glass in her hand and his tongue up her whatsit. Also he would be staring at her with admiration and approval, not focused all inward on himself and his sexy chain and collar.

 

[danger2no]

Watching bowling is masochism so you're still on the right path.

Hot tats but I still wouldn't let you do me.

 

[sr71plt]

It's fun to watch the "I know BDSM and you don't" toing and froing. Really fun to see the assumption that there are strict (got it? ) "rules" to it. And particularly fun when there's not much you want to know about anything but the B aspect, which can be fun. The rest of it is pretty sick and a mark of arrested development, IMO.

 

[danger2no]

It's fun to watch the "I know BDSM and you don't" toing and froing. Really fun to see the assumption that there are strict (got it? ) "rules" to it. And particularly fun when there's not much you want to know about anything but the B aspect, which can be fun. The rest of it is pretty sick and a mark of arrested development, IMO.

So letting yourself be tied up is healthy and mature. Um K. You're probably into fancy Bangkok bondage with silk ropes and snakes like that makes it less sick shit.

 

[sr71plt]

So letting yourself be tied up is healthy and mature. Um K. You're probably into fancy Bangkok bondage with silk ropes and snakes like that makes it less sick shit.

Silk ropes is called "beautiful bondage" in Asia (I have a story on it) and is very erotic, yes. Snakes? No. Give me the creeps. And yes, mild bondage--basic trust and surrender issues--is miles away from the sick crap in that last photo posted here. (Just my opinion.)

 

[danger2no]

Silk ropes is called "beautiful bondage" in Asia (I have a story on it) and is very erotic, yes. Snakes? No. Give me the creeps. And yes, mild bondage--basic trust and surrender issues--is miles away from the sick crap in that last photo posted here. (Just my opinion.)

Whenever a guy says just my opinion, it means he thinks his opinion is more valid than mine. It's like the dickhead trump card. LOL.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Silk ropes is called "beautiful bondage" in Asia (I have a story on it) and is very erotic, yes. Snakes? No. Give me the creeps. And yes, mild bondage--basic trust and surrender issues--is miles away from the sick crap in that last photo posted here. (Just my opinion.)

I am vastly entertained by your opinion. It's adorable!

 

[sr71plt]

Whenever a guy says just my opinion, it means he thinks his opinion is more valid than mine. It's like the dickhead trump card. LOL.

Ummm, no that's not what that means, and that's not what I meant. If you want to fight on this, have a good time fighting yourself. When I say it's my opinion, I'm saying you can have yours (which you don't need me to tell you anyway). When I just flatly say something is so, that's closer to my saying your opinion isn't as valid as mine. This is a writers board. Proper interpretation is important here. Your supposition doesn't hold water (and so my first sentence ["that's not what that means"] is worded the way I would to say your opinion isn't valid--because it's just off the wall wrong. See the difference?).

And what is it with the "guy" thing? Just another crazy screamer here who assumes that anything a "guy" posts isn't as valid as what a "girl" posts? Lol back atcha.

 

[sr71plt]

I am vastly entertained by your opinion. It's adorable!

Well, that's nice.

 

[PennLady]

So letting yourself be tied up is healthy and mature. Um K.

What strikes me as immature is instantly dismissing activities that two consenting adults agree to and enjoy for their mutual pleasure. Just because you don't want to participate in that, which is fine, doesn't mean that everyone else must feel that way.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

What strikes me as immature is instantly dismissing activities that two consenting adults agree to and enjoy for their mutual pleasure. Just because you don't want to participate in that, which is fine, doesn't mean that everyone else must feel that way.

Dear Reader

What she means to say is ONLY I GET TO BE JUDGMENTAL AND HAVE OPINIONS.

 

[PennLady]

Here are some more related articles

First is the NYT story that resulted in the article I linked to in the OP.

This is a follow up by William Saletan to his own article at Slate.

There are other links in there too, to various blogs and a response column by Dan Savage, among others.

 

[Dyslexicea]

And what is it with the "guy" thing? Just another crazy screamer here who KNOWS that anything a "guy" posts isn't as valid as what a "girl" posts.

I fixed your mistake Pilot, I know that's what you really wanted to say.

 

[sr71plt]

What strikes me as immature is instantly dismissing activities that two consenting adults agree to and enjoy for their mutual pleasure. Just because you don't want to participate in that, which is fine, doesn't mean that everyone else must feel that way.

To be fair, her comment was on a post of mine where I slammed everything in BDSM except the B. But that's not a case of instant dismissing. I've had occasion to be cajoled to try some of the rest, and my reaction was to laugh and say, "You want me to do what, again?" followed by the suggestion that the requester take a hike and find someone with no self-esteem. (But I separate writing about it and doing it, of course.) This thread had turned into folks trying to one-up others on realy doing it.

 

[PennLady]

To be fair, her comment was on a post of mine where I slammed everything in BDSM except the B. But that's not a case of instant dismissing. I've had occasion to be cajoled to try some of the rest, and my reaction was to laugh and say, "You want me to do what, again?" followed by the suggestion that the requester take a hike and find someone with no self-esteem. (But I separate writing about it and doing it, of course.) This thread had turned into folks trying to one-up others on realy doing it.

True, but before you posted that, that she had a post, #14, that says: "BDSM is stupid. I'd rather go bowling." (Which I guess could mean a whole new "B" in BDSM.)

It's fine to know that something isn't for you, no matter how exotic, or not, it is. There's a whole lot of stuff out there that I don't mind reading about, whether it's fiction or not, but have no desire to engage in myself. But I'm not going to just dismiss it all out of hand. Diff'rent strokes, as it were, for diff'rent folks.

And some of those strokes will just never be "mainstream," but that's not a bad thing.