Are you more open here than you are in RL?

[Cheyenne]

Have you posted information at Lit in this anonymous setting that you never previously disclosed to anyone in RL?

If your answer is "yes", did you continue to keep the information to yourself in RL or did you tell someone in RL after you posted it here first?

 

[Cheri]

I don't think I've disclosed anything here that I haven't told someone (husband or best friends) in real life. I do know that here I am less tolerant of behavior I find annoying. Here I tend to openly say you're annoying instead of real life where I try to overlook/ignore more crap.

 

[R Nitelight]

?

Then.....
This isn't RL?

 

[Guest]

Cheyenne,

I'm sure if you hit your search button (I've heard search is working again?) you will find that someone else posted a question about the "real you" and the "net you". It was a rather long thread and many people answered your question there!

 

[forgetunome]

OMG why didn't someone tell me this wasn't RL? (just joking)

Obviously, fictitious name, only because I think it is funny. And my humor wins out on me every time. I always go for the funny before serious in most cases.

My husband knows and has known from the start. So...I guess that ends this post.

 

[Cheyenne]

Tiggs, nope. This is a different question, a slight twist to it. Let me explain it to you so you'll understand the difference.

The very old thread you are referring to (and we have lots of new people since then) asked if we were the same people in RL as we are at Lit. To that I would answer "yes". And I think I did. I have the same sense of humor, honesty, values, etc. at Lit as I do in RL. My question on this thread is much more specific. I'm asking if there are things you've disclosed here that you haven't disclosed in RL. Or, that you disclosed here first.

In my case, again the answer is "yes". On one of the threads in the last few weeks I disclosed that I had seriously considered suicide one night in November, 1990. I hadn't told a single soul in RL about that night before I posted it here. It was a painful memory for me. But I have told someone about the details of that night since I posted about it here. Mentioning it here first somehow made it a little less intimidating to me in RL.

Now do you understand?

[Edited by Cheyenne on 10-08-2000 at 08:05 AM]

 

[Magic Merlin]

Good question, Cheyenne!

I am more open here on the board than I am in real life. The anonymity here offers a way to say something that I may not be sure of saying to people in my real life. That way I can somethimes guage peoples reaction in an atmosphere where I don't really worry about being judged. If I get a negative reaction here, then I would probably not share the information in RL, but if I get a positive reaction here, then I may be more open to sharing something in RL.

MM

 

[Guest]

Well hell. The question seemed the same to me. Maybe I'm tired and need to finally go to bed "tonight" seeing as how it's a few minutes 'til 10am and I've yet to go to bed "last night"? Hell, maybe it's just my stupid middle America (but NOT midwest, it's the West appearently), redneck, hick, imbread, adopted fucked-up up-bringing that has me confused on your question? Thank you ever so fuckin' much for clearing all that up for stupid folk like myself almighty Cheyenne.

~Tiggs
Aka Lindsay...
where my dad is my
brother and my brother
is my uncle. ~sigh~

[Edited by Tiggs on 10-08-2000 at 08:20 AM]

 

[Magic Merlin]

Sheesh! Cheyenne, I thought you had asked a very clear question..

MM

 

[forgetunome]

SSSSSsssssshhhhh......

It's okay Tiggs *forget starts singing Tiggs a lullaby....go to sleep, go to sleep.......*

 

[Ezzie]

Hey Tiggs, since I'm from the same place you are, do you think that it really could be that I'm carrying my sister's (You) half brother's (Chris) baby? And that Mike is really my brother on my dad's side since I always thought him and I looked alike? LMAO

I need to go back to the trailer, this library don't like us po' folk to touch their things since we're dirty inbreds.

 

[Guest]

Awwwwww......

I's loves ya's sis!!!! Now, if's only we could get Pooh up at this'in hour! After's all, he's 'nother bro!

 

[Cheyenne]

Hell, maybe it's just my stupid middle America (but NOT midwest, it's the West appearently), redneck, hick, imbread, adopted fucked-up up-bringing that has me confused on your question? Thank you ever so fuckin' much for clearing all that up for stupid folk like myself almighty Cheyenne.

~Tiggs

You're welcome. I'm not sure why you were confused, but glad I could clear it up for you. Would you like to answer the question now that you understand it?

 

[Guest]

To quote a very nice and kind Lit member here, "Awwww, fuck it....."

To answer your question, Cheyenne... NO, I have NOT posted something here at Lit that I have not told someone in RT. I am a VERY open person, period. I don't feel that the net is a place where someone can "hide" or pretend to be something they're not. I have met TONS of people offline from the net, so why hide and not be myself? I think it's stupid. I think it's a pitty and a shame when someone thinks they can't be HONEST about everything with people (especially the ones that they're "close" to)!

~The Tiggs Bitch~
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[wolfy]

Yes

Well first of all the topic of discussion in real life generally for me hasn't been sex or involved sex very much in any way. So i've said many things already on here that i've never talked about in RL before. I don't have any objections talking about them in real although I would need to know the person alot more before talking about it then I do on here.
I think it's easier to write about something anyway then to actually try and explain it out loud. This is a safe forum for topics that most people would probably think are twisted. I'm a guy tho and we generally don't talk about sexual situations much or at least none of my friends ever have.

 

[Bliss]

Discretion is the better part of valor.

Interesting question, Cheyenne. Are we more open here than in RL.
For me, probably about the same here as there, as I'm always a little too blunt. As with RL, the folks I consider friends know more than the acquaintances.

I don't see anything inherently honest about providing enough information for lurkers and psychos to find your driveway. I believe the correct word there is naive.

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: Discretion is the better part of valor.

I don't see anything inherently honest about providing enough information for lurkers and psychos to find your driveway. I believe the correct word there is naive.

Thanks, Bliss. I was thinking the same thing but was afraid to point it out and have my head bitten off again. I don't see how posting detailed personal info like your real name, where you live, etc. on the net is being "honest." I think it is plain dangerous, not just naive.

 

[Sonora]

Have you posted information at Lit in this anonymous setting that you never previously disclosed to anyone in RL?

If your answer is "yes", did you continue to keep the information to yourself in RL or did you tell someone in RL after you posted it here first?

Yes.
No, I haven't told anyone IRL.

 

[Softly]

Only on Literotica do I tell

We have moved nine times, and still each travel separatly for a time each month. We do "Wild and Crazy things," when away from home, but project a very conserative front in our home areas. Several of my stories are based on things that I have done, or my husband has arranged for me.

A private joke is that in many cases the name of men in my stories are the actual names of men that I have slept with.

 

[Never]

I can't quite remember the last time my sexuality popped up in a conversation with another person..
"How are you doing today?"
"Fine, fine.. You?"
"Wonderful.. Do you like anal sex? I've never done it but I think I'd enjoy it because when I masturbate.. wait.. Come back! I haven't even told you I'm gay yet!"

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

 

[wolfy]

laugh!

LoL never....I can picture that.....thats so funny.

 

[Cheyenne]

I can't quite remember the last time my sexuality popped up in a conversation with another person..

LOL. You have to get out more, Never.

There are a lot of threads that we participate in that aren't directly related to sex though.I assume your answer means you're much more open here than you are in real life about sexual topics. What about the non-sexual topics?

 

[wolfy]

non-sexual topics

I'm pretty up front about any non-sexual topics that we have discussed on here. Things like the death penalty have come up in conversation many times and tho my views may have changed a bit i've always expressed myself fully. I think most of the non-sexual topics are far less personal tho. Alot easier to talk about an abstract idea then about how you really want to watch your wife do it with you best friend while you are hanging upside-down and being spanked by a german Mistress.
Of course that might just be me

 

[Siren]

Yes, my lil Wolfy.....it is just you.

 

[Ezzy]

Mmmmmmmmmmm well...

not really answering yes here or no either.

I have used the board to post on subjects that do not come up IRL on a regular basis; most of them under my true ( fictitious) name, some of them under different names.

I do not Troll post, but do show other aspects under other names, it feels less restrictive that way.

I have also posted on boards things that only a few people IRL know, but they knew them before I posted; a couple of things have been spoken about with friends after I posted, as and when they asked me.

So rather than not really answering yes or no; it looks like I have answered no and yes!

As others have said here, and on the " are you the same on the board and IRL" thread; I am always "me" so the "I / me" is always the one that posts.

EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif

Ps.I'm not going to tell ( LOL ) you just have to guess.
Pps. It is not ever nor will ever be Ezzie (she's not me).



[Edited by Ezzy on 10-08-2000 at 03:15 PM]