Are you dominant or submissive

[MrYuck]

Submissive beginner (in need of an experienced hand)

And how might one get a hold of you to give you an experienced hand?

 

[kneelingmatt]

I am a service oriented sub that would love to have a nice strict lady to guide me to be better for her.

 

[Ciceri]

Submissive beginner (in need of an experienced hand)

Do you prefer a male or female to dominate you?

 

[Ciceri]

I'm decidedly a submissive. Ten years ago I brought a woman home and we were getting it on and she told me I needed to spank her in order for her to orgasm. I didn't know what to do. I mean, it felt so counterintuitive to slap her butt. I'm just not like that. She kept saying harder so I stood up in frustration and grabbed my belt. She got really excited as I brought it down on her skin. I was nearly in tears. Whap.. ooh, ooh.. I'm so sorry! I'm such a wimp.

 

[MasterDarcy]

Dominant.

I've been a Dominant for 20+ years.

I very much see myself as a psychological Dominant as well as a mentor, teacher and guide.

I'm a sapiosexual, so I'm attracted to intellect. I'm also a demisexual, so there has to be a deep and a spiritual connection.

 

[Kittycat778899]

Very submissive borderline slave

 

[Kittycat778899]

Very submissive borderline slave

Always fucktoy

 

[kneelingmatt]

an lonely unowned submissive haha

 

[Submissivepat]

Submissive

 

[DoItAgain1144]

I think I just figured out I’m dominant. I’ve always enjoyed the idea of power in sex. Consent has been a barrier. I want a partnership outside the bedroom. It’s always been hard for me to figure out how to navigate bringing my desire for dominance and control to the bedroom in a relationship that feels like a true partnership otherwise, or that I’ve taken a backseat in. I stay home with the kids, I work remotely. My wife is a power player at work with huge responsibilities.

Once things get going with her I’ve had no trouble taking control. And the more control I take during sex the more into it she’s always been.

I want to move that window of control earlier. Tease her through the day. Be her partner, yes, always. But increase the sexual tension to not just the bedroom, but all the time. Put her in a position (psychologically, and rewardingly) where she knows she’s mine. She knows I’m obsessed with her. She knows I can’t wait to do anything and everything and just as much as I’m teasing her, steering her, loving her, I’m torturing myself for not getting my own release.

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[MeltedMoon]

I'm a switch

 

[Booboobear84]

I think I just figured out I’m dominant. I’ve always enjoyed the idea of power in sex. Consent has been a barrier. I want a partnership outside the bedroom. It’s always been hard for me to figure out how to navigate bringing my desire for dominance and control to the bedroom in a relationship that feels like a true partnership otherwise, or that I’ve taken a backseat in. I stay home with the kids, I work remotely. My wife is a power player at work with huge responsibilities.

Once things get going with her I’ve had no trouble taking control. And the more control I take during sex the more into it she’s always been.

I want to move that window of control earlier. Tease her through the day. Be her partner, yes, always. But increase the sexual tension to not just the bedroom, but all the time. Put her in a position (psychologically, and rewardingly) where she knows she’s mine. She knows I’m obsessed with her. She knows I can’t wait to do anything and everything and just as much as I’m teasing her, steering her, loving her, I’m torturing myself for not getting my own release.

Okay. This was supposed to be a one word answer. Oops!

I would refer to this as the good guy conundrum. We want to be equal in life, but there is an emotional place where we want to be in control. I'm this way dancing, and it turns out most women love a strong lead. The trick is navigating which thing we are in which place in life. Emotions are not always wiling to be tucked in to the places they belong.

 

[LiaMei]

I'm definitely submissive

 

[Badxxxwifey]

Submissive as a fuck toy

 

[Booboobear84]

Dominant

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Switch

 

[grifin]

Dominant

 

[kellyt1994]

Naturally submissive. I've tried the switch thing and I'm pretty good at the psychological/humiliation angle but I always worry that I'll be too mean because I'm jealous of the one being dominated.

 

[Cleanshaved50]

Submissive here, always have been

 

[spawnofdavey]

I'm a switch. I thought I was more on the subby side of the spectrum, but I've recently discovered I absolutely love domming. It may be the person I'm talking to currently (it's all online so far), but I had no idea I could get so much pleasure telling someone what to do and having them trust me enough to do it.

 

[desertman45]

I would like to be submissive to a man or a women, just tell me what to do!!

 

[AngelColleen]

Submissive.

 

[EoghanDubhara]

Absolutely submissive. Like, right now, I'm imagining a guy ordering me to keep my legs spread so he can play with my pussy.

"Keep your legs spread wide so I can feel your clit. Push your ass out so I can see everything. That's it. Now, hold still while I spread your pussy lips open. Good girl. Look how wet you are. You like it when I rub that little clit, don't you? I want to show my friends. Hold still while I take some photos. That's it, good girl! Now, that hole needs to be filled. I'm going to push something inside it. It's okay to make noise, but don't squirm. Don't pull away when it invades your needy hole. Take it."

 

[UsuallyPresent]

half-dominant, half-vanilla. Half-switch? Something like that.

 

[Hmmmmaybe]

Tried switching once and I was so stressed out. I couldn’t give the other person what they needed, ended up feeling pretty bad. Definitely more submissive than not, but very beginner level