Are we all Connected ?

[Clint Taurus]

I believe there is a connection between people
online.
There are people online you never feel like replying to.
People you immediately feel you dislike or who are not for you.
Also people you immediatly feel a rapport with
and quickly form friendships with.
Do you think its, what they say, or their av or their bio, or all of these things?
I believe that these people are no different from the
people you would meet in real life and that you have a feeling about these people before you speak to them.

Are we all connected ?

 

[Abner Devereaux]

I believe there is a connection between people
online.
There are people online you never feel like replying to.
People you immediately feel you dislike or who are not for you.
Also people you immediatly feel a rapport with
and quickly form friendships with.
Do you think its, what they say, or their av or their bio, or all of these things?
I believe that these people are no different from the
people you would meet in real life and that you have a feeling about these people before you speak to them.

Are we all connected ?

I believe we are all connected in some way. You can't judge someone by their AV . . . most of the time it's not them inside of it. The flirting is not always real . . . you want to find some who real? When you are having a rotten day or not feeling your best . . . those that come by to check up on you . . . those are the real people . . . those are your real on-line connections !

 

[Clint Taurus]

I believe we are all connected in some way. You can't judge someone by their AV . . . most of the time it's not them inside of it. The flirting is not always real . . . you want to find some who real? When you are having a rotten day or not feeling your best . . . those that come by to check up on you . . . those are the real people . . . those are your real on-line connections !

Yes I really do think there is something more to
making online friends.
what do you think the connection is?
Is it the soul, or the mind, or the spirit, or is it love?

 

[Abner Devereaux]

Yes I really do think there is something more to
making online friends.
what do you think the connection is?
Is it the soul, or the mind, or the spirit, or is it love?

I think it's all things to all people. There are some people I have a connection with where they are in my soul and spirit. Others are only in my mind and body. I have not found love . . . I have that in my real life. So many people are here one day and gone the next . . . ones I speak to in private message or keep in contact by email . . . those are the ones I have connected with the most and have become a part of me .

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

I believe there is a connection between people
online.
There are people online you never feel like replying to.
People you immediately feel you dislike or who are not for you.
Also people you immediatly feel a rapport with
and quickly form friendships with.
Do you think its, what they say, or their av or their bio, or all of these things?
I believe that these people are no different from the
people you would meet in real life and that you have a feeling about these people before you speak to them.

Are we all connected ?

I think connections may begin with something as simple as commenting on an AV or a person replies. maybe you have bumped into them in several threads and find your self agreeing with their posts. These are loose connections ones which are made quickly and can be broken just as quickly. The real connections develope when you start to talking to that person more both in the threads and privately, when you find you have so much to discuss and when you find yourself looking forward to hearing from them. When you realise you have been talking for months and months and are talking more now than at the beginning that is when the real connection is formed.

 

[Clint Taurus]

I think it's all things to all people. There are some people I have a connection with where they are in my soul and spirit. Others are only in my mind and body. I have not found love . . . I have that in my real life. So many people are here one day and gone the next . . . ones I speak to in private message or keep in contact by email . . . those are the ones I have connected with the most and have become a part of me .

Thanks Abner, For replying, Otherwise I guess,
I would have felt no connection with anybody.
I do feel this way at times.
I find it really difficult to make connections.

 

[Abner Devereaux]

Thanks Abner, For replying, Otherwise I guess,
I would have felt no connection with anybody.
I do feel this way at times.
I find it really difficult to make connections.

You're Welcome . It's a wonderful topic . . . I myself would like to know how I am connected in everyone's life her on Lit. I too feel like I need to connect. I think everyone who visits should speak of eveyone the feel connected to and why.

 

[Kaito_Shinshi]

Connections made on the net, while often flimsy, can become as strong as a connection made to someone you grew up with. Given the time and effort.

The bad thing of that is that they can be impossible to break...even when abusive. Because you feel so close to them, often you can't walk away when you desperately need to. So while I say enjoy the connections, be wary when you feel the need to break free, because it could easily be the worst relationship in your life.

As for what kind of connection...I think on a spiritual level, we can tell who would be a suitable connection before even talking to someone. Wether they end up being the good person you want them to be, meh that's totally up to them.

And so forth, and so on. Yadda Yadda.

 

[Clint Taurus]

I think connections may begin with something as simple as commenting on an AV or a person replies. maybe you have bumped into them in several threads and find your self agreeing with their posts. These are loose connections ones which are made quickly and can be broken just as quickly. The real connections develope when you start to talking to that person more both in the threads and privately, when you find you have so much to discuss and when you find yourself looking forward to hearing from them. When you realise you have been talking for months and months and are talking more now than at the beginning that is when the real connection is formed.

Yes I would definately be attracted to your av simply because it appears interesting. I suppose it reminds me of gullivers travels (dont know why) that was a favorite book of mine as a kid.

 

[Clint Taurus]

Connections made on the net, while often flimsy, can become as strong as a connection made to someone you grew up with. Given the time and effort.

The bad thing of that is that they can be impossible to break...even when abusive. Because you feel so close to them, often you can't walk away when you desperately need to. So while I say enjoy the connections, be wary when you feel the need to break free, because it could easily be the worst relationship in your life.

As for what kind of connection...I think on a spiritual level, we can tell who would be a suitable connection before even talking to someone. Wether they end up being the good person you want them to be, meh that's totally up to them.

And so forth, and so on. Yadda Yadda.

I have had only one long term pming connection but that person,
I think, became jealous when I spoke or flirted with other people.
So that has fizzled out.
Its a shame because there was no chance
of anything becoming more than a friendship.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Yes I would definately be attracted to your av simply because it appears interesting. I suppose it reminds me of gullivers travels (dont know why) that was a favorite book of mine as a kid.

There you go a connection, small but still there. The real problem is when the connections we make online are an alternative to connections in RL. To want to feel a connection with someone is natural and this is no different when we are online.

 

[Clint Taurus]

You're Welcome . It's a wonderful topic . . . I myself would like to know how I am connected in everyone's life her on Lit. I too feel like I need to connect. I think everyone who visits should speak of eveyone the feel connected to and why.

Yes its frightening to think that someone else may feel differently about
a relationship. Sometimes I guess we just dont want to know, for fear of being hurt.

 

[Kaito_Shinshi]

There you go a connection, small but still there. The real problem is when the connections we make online are an alternative to connections in RL. To want to feel a connection with someone is natural and this is no different when we are online.

So very true, I love your av because it's how I feel when I look into a persons eyes...so small, looking into something so vast. a never ending sight to see, because it's ever changing. Yay for eyes!

 

[Abner Devereaux]

Yes its frightening to think that someone else may feel differently about
a relationship. Sometimes I guess we just dont want to know, for fear of being hurt.

It would depend on the person . . . if there was a person I talked to outside of lit that didn't feel the same way I did . . . Yes it would hurt.


I still would really like to know how people connect with me . . .

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

So very true, I love your av because it's how I feel when I look into a persons eyes...so small, looking into something so vast. a never ending sight to see, because it's ever changing. Yay for eyes!

The eyes are often the first way to make a connection in RL and something that is not always possible online, they say the eye is the window to the soul but words are often the door.

 

[Clint Taurus]

There you go a connection, small but still there. The real problem is when the connections we make online are an alternative to connections in RL. To want to feel a connection with someone is natural and this is no different when we are online.

I have a close immediate family, a partner and kids.
Trouble is I worked on my own in the music business for 30 years
and although I made a lot of aquaintances, I have made very few friends.
My one real friend, I have fallen out with because I cannot go along with his lifestyle anymore. (he deals in drugs)

 

[Kaito_Shinshi]

The eyes are often the first way to make a connection in RL and something that is not always possible online, they say the eye is the window to the soul but words are often the door.

Very true, though I try not to let words cloud what I see or feel when lost in someone's eyes...it ruins it for me I think.

The only way for me to be truly happy is to be able to hold someone and not look away from their eyes...that's when I know I've found what I wanted.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

I have a close immediate family, a partner and kids.
Trouble is I worked on my own in the music business for 30 years
and although I made a lot of aquaintances, I have made very few friends.
My one real friend, I have fallen out with because I cannot go along with his lifestyle anymore. (he deals in drugs)

Today in the world we live in it can be hard to make long lasting close friends. We are all so busy, our fast lives leading to all areas of our lives becoming faster, the need for immediate gratification and so often we have the wrong priorties. So the net can sometimes be the only way to try and form connections, for others it is just a fun outlet. I am sorry to hear about you and your close friend but take strength from the fact that you have a close family.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Very true, though I try not to let words cloud what I see or feel when lost in someone's eyes...it ruins it for me I think.

The only way for me to be truly happy is to be able to hold someone and not look away from their eyes...that's when I know I've found what I wanted.

I agree with the idea of silence when looking into another eyes, to capture theirs with yours and know that not only do you see into their depths but they see into yours. The eyes can speak volumes without a sound being uttered and you know when a real connection has been made when you can read anothers thoughts through them and they yours.

But when the eyes are unavailable or masked then words are the road to take.

 

[Kaito_Shinshi]

I agree with the idea of silence when looking into another eyes, to capture theirs with yours and know that not only do you see into their depths but they see into yours. The eyes can speak volumes without a sound being uttered and you know when a real connection has been made when you can read anothers thoughts through them and they yours.

But when the eyes are unavailable or masked then words are the road to take.

Ahhhh that's why I make my eyes Readily available

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/Kaito_Shinshi/Randy4.jpg

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Ahhhh that's why I make my eyes Readily available

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/Kaito_Shinshi/Randy4.jpg

Do you think you make more connections with them than if you had chosen another image? I like pics of peoples eyes it tells you alot about that person yet they can only be read so far for they are still, a moment caught in time and do need words to help others explore them.

Nice picture anyway

 

[Kaito_Shinshi]

Haha, I have a crystal clear webcam too For the people that feel more from the realness of a persons eyes...It's funny, I look at a persons eyes before my mind wanders to tits and ass I wonder if that's an endearing quality...lol

 

[Jail]

You're Welcome . It's a wonderful topic . . . I myself would like to know how I am connected in everyone's life her on Lit. I too feel like I need to connect. I think everyone who visits should speak of eveyone the feel connected to and why.

I'm going to reply to my thoughts on how I'm connected here. But first, I just have to reply to how I feel connected to Ab.

Baby? You were one of the very first Litters who welcomed me to the bb. If I'm not mistaken, it was in the Rate the Av above you thread. You gave me a 10 for my stockings and garters av. Whichever, you were one of the first to "talk" to me. I have always made it a point to post in your AD Room thread everyday. You're like my "cyberworld" next door neighbour. If we were in real life, I would definitely hang out with you. We'd be probably do all those fun things we talk about in your thread. No, I don't mean necessarily THAT. I mean the movies, listening to KISS, sipping on cocoa. You're a lot like I am. I feel very comfortable around you.

 

[Clint Taurus]

It would depend on the person . . . if there was a person I talked to outside of lit that didn't feel the same way I did . . . Yes it would hurt.


I still would really like to know how people connect with me . . .

You come over to me as a real cool person, sensitive and thoughtful
first impressions I know, but they are not normally wrong.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

Haha, I have a crystal clear webcam too For the people that feel more from the realness of a persons eyes...It's funny, I look at a persons eyes before my mind wanders to tits and ass I wonder if that's an endearing quality...lol

So you take making connections with people one step closer to RL situations with your webcam. I always look at someones eyes before the rest but depending on what i am looking for out of that person relationship wise depends whether i look deep or just on the surface. I have found that a whole body and face can be covered yet the eyes still make understanding possible, so that raises the question is a connection with another a real connection if you can not see them or their eyes?