Are there any Dommes around? I would like to ask a few questions if I may-

[Ranxerox2500]

cookiecat-
I'm glad that you are glad that I'm back, that's nice. ;-)
As to why a Domme? Well, I've always liked and gotten along well with (and been attracted to, naturally) strong, assertive ladies-interestingly enough, shy and submissive ladies have always been attracted to me-I was in a few relationships with two or three women who were actually subs, that's kind of how I got on the whole subject-the relationships worked and didn't at the same time-it was nice, but I get along with strong women so much better when it comes to relationships.
KayceeCharles:
Your guess was pretty much correct, not so much looks and money, but I've been a professional working guitar player my whole life (rock and country and blues music, in case you're wondering), so a lot of the time women have seen me when I'm at my best, and at the top of my game, performing onstage.

You know, I gotta say, all of you are very smart and very cool, and all of the comments/responses are fantastic. It is helping me a lot, giving me different angles and things to think about.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Here's what I'd like to know: is it possible to be the male sub of a Domme, without wanting to be humiliated and punished? The reason I ask is that I have always wanted to be in a relationship with a dominant woman, a relationship where I was completely dedicated to pleasing her sexually. And I mean completely, whatever she wanted and whenever she wanted it, I would be more than happy to perform it. I know a lot of guys say things like that, but I truly mean it.

Hello
I missed this first time around. To get back to your original question, yes, there are many elements that can encompass a BDSM relationship. Humiliation and punishment are only a few of the possibilities, and are not necessary at all. Orgasm denial, forced orgasm, bondage of many sorts, sensation play (blindfolds, hot wax, feathers, ice etc) could all be engaged in without humiliation, and punishment should only ever be on the table if you want and agree to it. There is an element of power exchange possible without humiliation.

Your challenge, as can be the challenge for anyone, is going to be to find the right lady. As others have mentioned, this can take time, but don't be discouraged. There's no reason you can't find one. Better yet, find a soul that's adventurous and explore and learn together I hope you're feeling more confident about your own desires, and that it is absolutely fine to want things your way, comfortable within your own boundaries. Good luck to you, and keep coming back to ask questions if you feel the need.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

One more thing, based on your lifestyle comment below.

Given that it sounds you may pick up women through contact with the general public and your line of work, is it realistic to think you can just hop into the sack with one of them and end up with someone highly sexually compatible for a D/s relationship with you? No, I don't think so. But then again, that's rather wishful thinking even for a non-kink relationship. You are better off trying to find someone at a local munch or even through the personals here, or any venue where you can openly say.. Hey! I want some kink in my relationship!

Again, good luck

cookiecat-
I'm glad that you are glad that I'm back, that's nice. ;-)
As to why a Domme? Well, I've always liked and gotten along well with (and been attracted to, naturally) strong, assertive ladies-interestingly enough, shy and submissive ladies have always been attracted to me-I was in a few relationships with two or three women who were actually subs, that's kind of how I got on the whole subject-the relationships worked and didn't at the same time-it was nice, but I get along with strong women so much better when it comes to relationships.
KayceeCharles:
Your guess was pretty much correct, not so much looks and money, but I've been a professional working guitar player my whole life (rock and country and blues music, in case you're wondering), so a lot of the time women have seen me when I'm at my best, and at the top of my game, performing onstage.

You know, I gotta say, all of you are very smart and very cool, and all of the comments/responses are fantastic. It is helping me a lot, giving me different angles and things to think about.