are orgasms humiliating?

[Passion2BFree]

Primal maybe but wonderful!!

 

[WriterDom]

are orgasms humiliating?


What a silly question.

 

[Andraste]

For Andraste you have control issues outside sex, you must be incontrol of yourself at all times, I believe you are even embarrassed about natural bowl movements and make an extra effort to not use public rest rooms and the sort. You also probably perfer a movie in the DvD player over going out to dinner and a movie with your lover.

nope.
the problems in my life come from my issues with sex, not the other way around.

Take deep deep breaths, all sex organs operate on blood flow, the richer the oxygen flow the less the heart has to pump the more higher functions your brain can maintain. And the more powerful your orgasm will be. So you see if you can achieve this deep breath technque you may find yourself less humilated by your lose of control, and more incontrol of your orgasm and perhaps you might be able to not only learn to enjoy the orgasms you give yourself but one day truly orgasm for your partner.

i breathe just fine.
if anything i tend to hyperventilate.

you're MILES off the mark.

 

[the_pet]

Crawling is animalistic. you like to crawl around naked with a pony tail buttplug stuck up your arse right?

I guess I'm thinking of someone else. We have a lot of crawlers here.

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o180/onesilentfeather/ponyplay.jpg


What are you trying to say


On a more serious note, to me, it's sad that so many don't experience or enjoy orgasms... but everybody's different. I LOVE to orgasm and don't find it humiliating. I use to be more reserved... but not anymore! I whimper, moan, cry out and really get into it. I laugh now how i use to criticize the girls in porn movies that make so much noise but i could compete with the best of them.... and my partner digs it that i get so excited that I let all my inhibitions go and just let it fly.

Hope that one day you get to enjoy your orgasms.... it's well worth the investment to get to the bottom of why you find O's humiliating.... unless you find you REALLY like it that way (i love to be tied up and forced to cum, while being told what a little whore i am) some would find that humiliating but i like it.

It's nice your interested in exploring this for yourself. How you feel is not wrong and it's obvious you're not alone in feeling that way.


pet

 

[Andraste]

Hope that one day you get to enjoy your orgasms.... it's well worth the investment to get to the bottom of why you find O's humiliating.... unless you find you REALLY like it that way (i love to be tied up and forced to cum, while being told what a little whore i am) some would find that humiliating but i like it.

It's nice your interested in exploring this for yourself. How you feel is not wrong and it's obvious you're not alone in feeling that way.


pet

nice tail, hon!

i know exactly why i have sexual hungups. therapy can only go so far.

but, way back when, orgasms were never all that anyway.
i mean, they were ok but nothing special.
i think everyone feels them differently, to a different intensity.

...forced orgasm?
hot concept, though i might die of old age, chained to the bed.
my O responses just switch off in company.

 

[ryuuai]

wat orgasm?

i'm sure the orgasm is a beautiful thing. bt i hav yet 2 reach that pinacle with a man. its beyond frustrating. i cn get myself off sure! oh wer 4 art my orgasmo man?

 

[shy slave]

Gilkane, I don't mean to sound rude but pontificating to Andraste does not seem helpful.

Starting sentences with the words 'You are..' and 'You have..' makes you sound as if you know her, do you? Or as if you are psychic.
The mind is a strange, wonderful organ and trying to figure someone out from a few posts on a board is an almost impossible task, as invariably parts of the issue remain unsaid.

I know Andraste reasonably well, she is a wonderfully complex woman.
I can't say I have ever seen a desire for control in her life. This is a woman who cannot decide what to order in a coffee shop! However she can make grown Doms cry.

I don't recall I have ever found orgasms humiliating, but I have been embarrassed by them.
My ex-husband was scathing when I orgasmed saying I was too noisy and asking if I had to make so much fuss!
I felt like a freak.
I have faked them but that was due to boredom and it seemed if I came then the person I was with would soon finish.
Have never faked them when alone though. I have opted not to cum at times.
I love orgasms but they are not the main issue for me. I don't mind if I have sex and don't orgasm. When I am with him, it is usually (but not always) about him and his pleasure. That is a different mind set from not having them because I find them humiliating.
When I first met Andante I was very embarrassed by my obvious reaction to his cock and found conversations about it almost shaming.

Regardless of orgasms remember the the mantra 'Nothing is so bad that it cannot be cured by shiny things...and shoes'

 

[graceanne]

Regardless of orgasms remember the the mantra 'Nothing is so bad that it cannot be cured by shiny things...and shoes'

And chocolate. Don't forget chocolate, you might anger the chocolate gods.

 

[shy slave]

And chocolate. Don't forget chocolate, you might anger the chocolate gods.

Chocolate is a life force, like breathing.

Ahhhh Damn, you made me say the 'c' word!

Henceforth,
I banish you to confess your sins to 'whatever his name is' the troll breathing hell fire on us all in another thread. Be sure to interupt his writing of erotic stories whilst you are there

Be gone, you bad bad woman, you!

 

[Andraste]

I know Andraste reasonably well, she is a wonderfully complex woman.
I can't say I have ever seen a desire for control in her life. This is a woman who cannot decide what to order in a coffee shop! However she can make grown Doms cry.:

*cough*
i'm a sweet little kitten, thank you very much!

When I first met Andante I was very embarrassed by my obvious reaction to his cock and found conversations about it almost shaming.:

ok...that's just really hot...

Regardless of orgasms remember the the mantra 'Nothing is so bad that it cannot be cured by shiny things...and shoes'

and tea

and girly talk

 

[Gilkane]

nope.
the problems in my life come from my issues with sex, not the other way around.

i breathe just fine.
if anything i tend to hyperventilate.

you're MILES off the mark.

Sweetie hyperventilating is not breathing thats what makes you lose control, controlled deep clam breaths..try it. If Iam wrong I am wrong...but just try it.



Just trying to help and I am glad your issues comes from one central issue thats actually a good thing you can concentrate on it.

Just trying to help is all remember hyperventilating is short sharp breaths, when you hyperventilate you are not getting air to the brain. Controlled deep breaths might help and its always fun to try something new.

 

[Gilkane]

*cough*
i'm a sweet little kitten, thank you very much!

By her conversations I sense what we have here is a sweet little kitten with..um very manicured...claws.

Always a fun prospect

 

[RawHumor]

Andraste is about as sweet as my jizz after I eat a dozen pickled eggs.

Just sayin.

















Not that I've, um... tasted it myself... but...

 

[Andraste]

Sweetie hyperventilating is not breathing thats what makes you lose control, controlled deep clam breaths..try it. If Iam wrong I am wrong...but just try it.



Just trying to help and I am glad your issues comes from one central issue thats actually a good thing you can concentrate on it.

Just trying to help is all remember hyperventilating is short sharp breaths, when you hyperventilate you are not getting air to the brain. Controlled deep breaths might help and its always fun to try something new.

i know how to breathe, thanks.

 

[Andraste]

Andraste is about as sweet as my jizz after I eat a dozen pickled eggs.

Just sayin.

you love me!

 

[Gilkane]

Gilkane, I don't mean to sound rude but pontificating to Andraste does not seem helpful.

Starting sentences with the words 'You are..' and 'You have..' makes you sound as if you know her, do you? Or as if you are psychic.

Überhaupt nicht Mein Kätzchen just using a second language, sometimes I forget english is not a familar language, to not address directly is somewhat of an insult where I am from. Like talking about a person in the same room as if they were not there. And what excatly does pontificating mean??

Regardless of orgasms remember the the mantra 'Nothing is so bad that it cannot be cured by shiny things...and shoes'

Spoken like a true kitten
That was a compliment

Gil

 

[Gilkane]

i know how to breathe, thanks.

*chuckles* Nice claws ouch!

 

[Andraste]

*chuckles* Nice claws ouch!

it's very easy.

my orgasms aren't powerful, overwhelming, loud or especially exciting.

i don't feel out of my depth when i have them.

it's an MENTAL, not a physical issue.

i didn't ask for help, i didn't ask for advice, i'm well aware of the causes.
i asked if others had the same deal...and i've found the replies interesting.

 

[Gilkane]

it's very easy.

my orgasms aren't powerful, overwhelming, loud or especially exciting.

i don't feel out of my depth when i have them.

it's an MENTAL, not a physical issue.

i didn't ask for help, i didn't ask for advice, i'm well aware of the causes.
i asked if others had the same deal...and i've found the replies interesting.

Oh I did not mean to misunderstand my dear. Your a very interesting kitten.

 

[toys_em_us]

My last partner had orgasms that pleased her, however during our lovemaking she went out of control, yelling, squeezing, talking at the top of her lungs and squirting all over. After a brief rest she told me that her husband never made her come close to anything like that and that if we were to continue I had to promise to make her feel the same way every time... What have I gotten myself into?

 

[shy slave]

Überhaupt nicht Mein Kätzchen just using a second language, sometimes I forget english is not a familar language, to not address directly is somewhat of an insult where I am from. Like talking about a person in the same room as if they were not there. And what excatly does pontificating mean??


Gil

English being a second language does explain why your post came across that way.
I should have realised.


pon·tif·i·cate [ pon tíffi kàyt ]

intransitive verb (past and past participle pon·tif·i·cat·ed, present participle pon·tif·i·cat·ing, 3rd person present singular pon·tif·i·cates)

Definition:

speak pompously: to speak about something in a knowing and self-important way,


Different cultures have different ways of expressing things.

Lit is a good place to find Americans and Brits misunderstanding each other at times, and we are supposed to speak the same language!

 

[PrimalGirl]

IMO, there is nothing BETTER than a good orgasm. Especially if it's good and wet...

 

[graceanne]

Oh I did not mean to misunderstand my dear. Your a very interesting kitten.

LOL..

 

[graceanne]

I have repented of my chocolate sins, and confessed.

 

[FurryFury]

I have repented of my chocolate sins, and confessed.

Good girl! I mainlined some chock today. I'm a baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad girl.

Now I would like someone to humiliate me, right now and repeat for a long time. When they are done, I'd really like them to rinse me off and tuck me in bed. I don't have the energy for any of it but damn, it sure would be niiiiice.

*sighs*

Fury