Are most bi married men in the closet?

[Travler99921]

I am in the closet, with a few exceptions. I am out to my wife. I came out to her before I had my first gay encounter. I am also out to the members of an organization of men who are also out to their wives. Finally I am out to the other members of a group of people who are in mixed orientation marriages.

 

[dundeebi_guy]

I told my wife when we started dating. I am also very open and vocal about my bisexuality, though it took me a while to be comfortable enough to do that.

 

[tall758]

I am in the closet, even with my wife. I meet mostly with other married guys, both in my town and when I travel. I’m thinking the vast majority of them are also in the closet. Since time began, I think guys have been sneaking off to suck and swallow other guys. It must be in our nature!

 

[saintcero]

Very much in the closet. My wife would not react well to the news that I am bi. I am super cautious with any M2M activities just so I can be safe and discrete. This limits my play time.

 

[BInowGay]

Wednesday night poker game was my excuse to be with the guys....

 

[tall758]

Now retired, my usual Wednesday “golf day” gives me a chance to play. I often set up meetings before going to the course, then enjoy playing a round with cum in my belly.

 

[Bisnjguy]

Going to the races is my way to meet with other guys. That way we have plenty of time together.

 

[Uncut1969]

My wife I think she knows am bi but I don't think she really wants to hear it or accept it. She let's me wear panties all the time and even gave me her bras that were miss sized and fit me. I even told her that when my friend comes over and she not home we get naked and watch porn.

Does she ask what happens ?

 

[2tallpaul]

I divorced in my late 30's from a cold woman. As I dated, sexual preferences have come up from the women. Most bi or multiple partners. The one I fell for is a second grade teacher and nicest in the world and she loves MFM or more and wondered if i would accept this. We started out MF to a FMF, then added the husband and in four months I was swinging with her and a dozen couples a weekend a month.

I didn't think I was bi or gay but she proved me otherwise. Our communication started on the female end. She loves the two day, three day swingers weekend as she can let it all out. Life is a whole different world. I've never felt so good having the communication.

 

[Milo9012]

I am in the closet, with a few exceptions. I am out to my wife. I came out to her before I had my first gay encounter. I am also out to the members of an organization of men who are also out to their wives. Finally I am out to the other members of a group of people who are in mixed orientation marriages.

@Travler99921, can you name that organization of men? I'd be curious to find out if there was a chapter in the NW region.

 

[KingDavid234]

Mmm that would all be incredible. I’d love to try the same with my wife (even though I know she’d never go for it). It would be so hot licking her clit while another man pumps into her from behind.

We should make it a 4-some! The wives could 69 each other while we each fuck our own wife, or each other's!

 

[perturbedmusic]

We should make it a 4-some! The wives could 69 each other while we each fuck our own wife, or each other's!

Mmm I like the way you think! I’d love swapping off midway to fuck each other’s wives.

 

[Turniptree]

We should make it a 4-some! The wives could 69 each other while we each fuck our own wife, or each other's!

I would love to see my wife with another woman, but instead of disturbing them, I would prefer being fucked by you or vice versa. Hard cock in my ass while kissing would be even better.

 

[amigayorbi]

Bi curious but if and when I do take the next step, I would be closeted

 

[Timdrown]

I have had bi experiences before I got married and a few since when we were swinging, have only played with and sucked cock, the only friend that knows is the one whose cock was the first that I sucked.

 

[niniku18]

I've hinted to two or three girlfriends, or tried to incorporate some toys, and they explicitly stated they would not tolerate or respect a man who was into that. So secret fondling it is...

 

[bobb_sledd]

My wife knew of my openness to experiment with sucking cock by way of us considering bringing another man into our bed. When she told me the guy we were considering had come out to her previously as gay that only strengthened my desire to experiment, but she wasn’t interested in a threesome.

Sometime later he and I exchanged blowjobs. I told my wife a day or so later. She was fine with it. As for being in the closet, at the time I was living and working in an environment where being gay or bi was career ending. After retiring from that environment, I worked in an adjacent environment with those same mindsets, so I kept my bi-side to a limited few. While my wife and I have something of an open relationship, she has no idea how far my bi dalliances have gone. She’s never asked nor shown any interest in knowing. For those outside my marriage, family and close friends, it just doesn't come up.

 

[klippert]

I'm a bi married man who has to hide his sexuality from his wife. How do others deal with this situation?

I go on with my life. I've told my wife that I had m/m sex in college...not the extent of it. she chalked it up to experimenting and has acted like it never happened. what I don't do is dwell on it

 

[Mrman69]

My ex knows I am at least curious. being an ex who knows who else knows, one former (long ago) ex gf, and one maybe future female FWB I met on here. So a whopping 3 people (theoretically). My gay FWB I had in college for a short time, sadly, has passed on (years ago)

my ex wife and my best friend one past and my current mate. All but one say that the thought of me with a man made them hot!

 

[Mrman69]

Very much in the closet. My wife would not react well to the news that I am bi. I am super cautious with any M2M activities just so I can be safe and discrete. This limits my play time.

ever feel guilty?

 

[saintcero]

ever feel guilty?

Lots I’m torn between being faithful and only having this one life to live. She is plain vanilla sexual ly and Inlike some kink. It’s a struggle

 

[bobb64]

My wife knows i'm bi but she and the men i've been with are the only ones that know.

 

[Whispor]

She definitely doesn’t know that I want to suck cock, an unfulfilled desire of mine that I find myself fantasizing about more and more as I get older.

 

[Rodian77]

Not sure. I was married for years. Divorced 2 years ago. Dated a few women. Now, I'm ready for something different. I'm ready to finally have sex with a man. I have been wanting to suck a cock for years. Now, nothing is holding me back.

 

[Cardinal]

I'm a bi married man who has to hide his sexuality from his wife. How do others deal with this situation?

Yes we are all in the closet