Are most bi married men in the closet?

[dingdongditchding]

Only a select few know I'm bi/gay

My ex knows I am at least curious. being an ex who knows who else knows, one former (long ago) ex gf, and one maybe future female FWB I met on here. So a whopping 3 people (theoretically). My gay FWB I had in college for a short time, sadly, has passed on (years ago)

 

[dingdongditchding]

i am bi cd and 44c boobs from ormones
istarted cd with moms things. when i got married the first time i wore wifes things and i let her see me
later on when taking hormones i said iwanted to wear bras and p anties
, she bought my first set , a red dmi bra 38b at the time sheer red biine panties a re sheer tedy and a makeup set
as my tits got bigger and bought all my own cloths, every ting a woman wears and heels. never hid them
after she passed and got remarried had to give up hormones and purged every thing. this wife lets me wear bras and panties but no dresses
i so wish i could go back to fully dressing i have ate cum with first wife and shared blow jobs and after a a fuck
regina is my fem name

nice, very sexy

 

[cdstefi]

My wife knew I crossdressed before we met so that part at least wasn't a shock to her.

Meeting guys; that wasn't a thing when we first got together but I have since, some with her knowledge and a few without. She's super-pro LGBTQ rights so is accepting of my bisexuality although I'm not sure she's fully aware of how much I like cock

 

[BInowGay]

I'd be more than happy to get together with someone in their closet

 

[1960curious]

I am a married bisexual, been married for 43 years, but my wife has no idea. She would never understand.
I wish I had enough courage to tell her that I like having sex with a man.

 

[jimmyhedo]

I'm bisexual, married to a woman, and very much in the closet. If I came out to her, it would be the end of my marriage, and it might be the end of me. With one exception (a gay suck buddy), I only play with other married men, although I indulge in an erotic massage by a make masseur now and then. I wish I could be open, and the emotional turmoil is sometimes pretty overwhelming. I wrote about this in one of my stories (Alex and Me), which is pure autobiography.

I can relate. I'm definitely bi , and totally in the closet.

I rarely get to have m2m but desire it constantly.

Not sure she'd be upset if I was bi, but would be if I was actively having lots of gay sex.

 

[KingDavid234]

Same here. I’ve been thinking more and more about telling her. Sometimes I think it’s an unfair assumption that she’ll react poorly, but given some of my other sexual predilections that I’ve shared with her, I just don’t want to bother with another disappointment.

I also think about telling my wife about my bi desires. My hope is that, if I tell her, she would be excited by the thought of seeing me suck another man's cock and seeing him suck mine. Ideally, this would lead to us having bi 3-somes. That would be so hot!! I would really love to 69 with my wife while she is being fucked by another man!

 

[perturbedmusic]

I also think about telling my wife about my bi desires. My hope is that, if I tell her, she would be excited by the thought of seeing me suck another man's cock and seeing him suck mine. Ideally, this would lead to us having bi 3-somes. That would be so hot!! I would really love to 69 with my wife while she is being fucked by another man!

Mmm that would all be incredible. I’d love to try the same with my wife (even though I know she’d never go for it). It would be so hot licking her clit while another man pumps into her from behind.

 

[1960curious]

Mmm that would all be incredible. I’d love to try the same with my wife (even though I know she’d never go for it). It would be so hot licking her clit while another man pumps into her from behind.

I think about exactly that.
Him fucking her while I lick her clit and then he pulls out and fucks my mouth and then back to her pussy. Over and over till he comes in both of us!

 

[perturbedmusic]

I think about exactly that.
Him fucking her while I lick her clit and then he pulls out and fucks my mouth and then back to her pussy. Over and over till he comes in both of us!

Mmmm so incredibly hot! I would love doing the side by side for the big finish. Wife and I kneeling in front of him, both kissing and licking his cock before taking turns, sucking him until blow his load, filling both our mouths. Then wife and I turn to each other to share his load in a messy kiss.

 

[1960curious]

Mmmm so incredibly hot! I would love doing the side by side for the big finish. Wife and I kneeling in front of him, both kissing and licking his cock before taking turns, sucking him until blow his load, filling both our mouths. Then wife and I turn to each other to share his load in a messy kiss.

That would be so fucking hot too!

Just got to get the wives to help out!

 

[perturbedmusic]

That would be so fucking hot too!

Just got to get the wives to help out!

No kidding! It’ll never happen with my wife unfortunately, but a man can dream.

If they won’t help, they can watch us have fun.

 

[yowser]

It's a complicated and highly fraught dilemma.

From one of my stories, here's how the two married bi-guys handle the scene (initially anyway...)

I sat back. His chest was sweaty, his forehead too. His prick was a limp, damp mass sitting happily and relaxed in his groin thicket.

We talked. Freely.

It was then that we more or less made a pact, or at least sketched out some ground rules.

This was just us. We were just "messing around." Spouses didn't need to know. We weren't really cheating, there was no emotional element. We were monogamous so sexual health was fine and safe, no dangers for us, or anyone. No assholes were to be involved. We weren't gay.

Roger laughed at this last one.

 

[little cletus]

My wife knows my bi curiosity and she used to indulge it with anal play (on me) and dirty talk while she jerked me off. She used to make me confess to wanting to suck dicks and get fucked and she would aim my dick at my face so I would give myself a facial when I came (hard AF). But that play disappeared years ago. Every once in a while she will make a joke about it, and I’m like “yes…yes…keep going” but she doesn’t. We’ve been married over 20 years. I’ve always been faithful. But she can’t handle it because she thinks I’ll go gay.

 

[write_or_wrong]

Honesty does not come without risks. And in this situation those risks can become real in a heartbeat.

So true. I have experienced telling her about my interests, receiving at least moderate acceptance, then during fights was called a pervert with threats to "tell the world." If your SO is vindictive about anything, he/she will double down on this subject.

 

[Beachguy23]

I’m married and in the closet. Been 35 years now
I’m very discreet about the men I meet..
Careful careful

I’m there with you, not 35 years but likely 30. Been a long time now since I was able to meet up with another guy ( small town life does have its limits) I could never tell my wife as she would freak and our marriage would be over. Hopefully one day things will work out and I’ll find another discreet married man.

 

[leftwantingmore]

So true. I have experienced telling her about my interests, receiving at least moderate acceptance, then during fights was called a pervert with threats to "tell the world." If your SO is vindictive about anything, he/she will double down on this subject.

Exactly what happened to me. Hence my post.

leftwantingmore said:
Honesty does not come without risks. And in this situation those risks can become real in a heartbeat.

I was honest in my marriage and I got petty vindictivness in return. I probably should have left then. But deep love fades slowly. I tried to work things out. It became her go-to comment in every disagreement.

 

[write_or_wrong]

Exactly what happened to me. Hence my post.

leftwantingmore said:
Honesty does not come without risks. And in this situation those risks can become real in a heartbeat.

I was honest in my marriage and I got petty vindictivness in return. I probably should have left then. But deep love fades slowly. I tried to work things out. It became her go-to comment in every disagreement.

She could have been my SO's sister. Fortunately, now an ex.

 

[liqueur]

I'm a bi married man who has to hide his sexuality from his wife. How do others deal with this situation?

Are most bi married men in the closet?

I may be wrong, but I don't think most wives would react badly to the “bi” part. I think it's the implied non-monagamy and potential cheating that they'd be reacting to.

Our culture is built around the pretense of monogamy, and even though most people know it's a pretense, the monogamous “ideal” is so deeply inculcated that people's egos and sense of security are built on the belief that it may be pretense elsewhere, “but not in my marriage.”

 

[leftwantingmore]

She could have been my SO's sister. Fortunately, now an ex.

It tells you a lot a person's character when they use a person's inner most feelings against them to humiliate them and cause them pain. I never cheated on her with anyone, male or female. She knew that and hurt me anyway. That is why she is an ex wife. Glad you made it through.

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

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[monolith414]

I have been bi since my teens. Stopped having sex with men when I got married. Been married 35 yrs, she lost interest in sex during menopause so I started with men again. At this point if I told her she would freak so I stay in the closet.

 

[CharlieBoker]

I'm not in the closet as such, I certainly don't shout it from the rooftops but I am out to my wife.

She insists on monogamy so I don't play outside of the marriage at all which can be a little frustrating at times having to repress that side of myself. Overall though I feel it's worth it, given what I get from our relationship.

My brother and a couple of other people know I'm bi, but generally I feel that it's really nobody's business who I've stuck my cock in.

 

[Never2late4funxxx]

I am. My wife would freak if she knew.

 

[gary04]

My wife I think she knows am bi but I don't think she really wants to hear it or accept it. She let's me wear panties all the time and even gave me her bras that were miss sized and fit me. I even told her that when my friend comes over and she not home we get naked and watch porn.