Are fetishes a choice?

[DaleHenry30]

Do you consider fetishes a choice?

Or is it something forced upon us based on a personal experience that interacted with our pre-existing personality type?

 

[HordHolm]

Do you consider fetishes a choice?

Or is it something forced upon us based on a personal experience that interacted with our pre-existing personality type?

I don't know about 'forced upon us' in many/the majority of cases, but an experience we are exposed to that interacts with out personality type? Yeah, maybe. But I also wouldn't rule out cultural contexts, either. For example, something that transgresses a cultural norm, regardless of what 'it' actually is, might do it for someone when it wouldn't if the same act/image/sensory stimulus didn't transgress said cultural norm. It's complicated...

Though I don't really consider it a choice.

 

[SmokingFap]

Everything is a choice.

Like my height? I guess I haven't been choosing hard enough to be 6'2"...

 

[Britva415]

In my opinion, if it's a choice, then it's more of a kink than a fetish.

 

[FantasySharer1]

I CANNOT STOP thinking about:
1. Sibling incest
2. Pee play
3. Sharing my wife with her brother
4. Incest in general

It's not that I am trying to do it, it's that I literally remember a handful of little experiences that formed mental processes in me that simply cant be undone. I remember when I was younger and my pretty cousin had come from out of town, and she went to the bathroom. I could HEAR her urine hit the water in the toilet with a stream. I remember immediately feeling all kinds of curiosities:
1. I know she doesn't have a penis but I wonder what girls look like down there.
2. Shes my cousin and we are good friends, I wonder if she'd show me
3. Her piss stream sounds really strong, does it come from the same hole as whatever else is down there?

Incest, piss play, all at once had a hold in my mind. They didn't become fully sexualized till later.

Later as an adult, I saw my wife's brother in the locker room and realized his cock was fucking HUGE, bigger than anything I am packing. Somehow THAT one experienced mixed with the rest of my mind and turned into: "I wonder how well his cock would please his sister, my wife."

It's run away from there into a mind of perversions centering around these topics.

So are they a choice? I guess since I haven't actively pushed them away through some kind of therapy there is some component of that. But really, things happened to me or in front of me and they did things to my brain that simply cannot be undone.

I don't mind. They add an incredible shade of color and fun to my life and even my sexual relationship. They let me fantasize outside of the box.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I think yo like what you like but you don’t have to act on it. a lot of the people fantasize about something they would never do.

 

[Christy2Cum]

I think fetishes are just another part of who you are!
I love to dress sexy and get the attention from men, maybe not a fetish but it is what turns me on, not a choice just a fact!