Appealing?

[jake34]

I would not even read a PM from her at this point even if she took the time to send me one. I do not respect her at all. I do not expose the truth to vent or just to get back at someone. I do it so that others know what the facts truly are. Fact is. She can use all of the eloquent and fancy words she chooses to. So as to try to make herself feel better perhaps. So as to not take any responsibility for her actions/non-actions. According to my notes, a "whore" is someone who uses others to get something back themselves. Without any concern for the person on the other end. And the "transaction" does not always have to involve money. A slut is still a slut. No matter what fancy words he/she may try to use. Just sharing my opinion.

Sometimes the truth really does hurt.

I wonder how many pm's he sent Tx? Look man everybody has their own ways about them. Doesn't make it right or wrong or conceal the truth or whatever other X Files shit you want to make it about. Tx is a class act and she's been around here long enough to have much respect. Just enjoy what she shares with us man.

 

[RaylanGibbs]

Damn man that sounds personal to me. So angry.

 

[jake34]

Let go of the anger long ago, dude.

Way before she did not take the time to respond to me.

One woman is not worth all of that stress.

Just am not too fond of people who pretend to be who they are not.

Like I said. She happens to be a rather clever one with the quill.

But don't want other guys on here to fall for what is just simply not true.

She is not a "bad" woman at all.

Just like most of the other ones on here.

Damn man that sounds personal to me. So angry.

 

[RaylanGibbs]

Eh I've said what I had to say man. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Take it easy.

 

[ohverbatum7]

I feel that TX has explained why she may not reply to all PMs. I have in the past sent 4. and have had replies to 3 of them, but it is her choice to reply or not. I rather like the openess, wit and honesty in her thread,and look forward to her future posts if & when it takes her fancy.

 

[jake34]

Never suggested that it was 'not' her choice. But sometimes explainations do not make much sense. This happens to be one of those times. Sometimes we try to make silly suggestions when the truth is right underneath us. She just comes on here when she wants to get off and when it serves her "fancy". With little or no regard really for those on the other end of her thread. Nothing more. Nothing less. Not at all different than anyone else on here. So no need for all of the 'eloquent excuses' so to speak. Let's once again call a 'spade' a 'spade'.

So sad how selfish our society has become.

This is what I was trying to say.

I feel that TX has explained why she may not reply to all PMs. I have in the past sent 4. and have had replies to 3 of them, but it is her choice to reply or not. I rather like the openess, wit and honesty in her thread,and look forward to her future posts if & when it takes her fancy.

 

[RaylanGibbs]

So because she doesn't come here and post more for you and doesn't answer your pms' that makes her selfish? She has a life I am sure like most of us on here.

 

[jake34]

I would have more respect for her if she just came out and said, "I come on here only to flirt and feel good about myself", or "I come on here just to jill off".

And I do just think that it would be nice if people (not just her) would respond to those who take the time to talk to them. Not just on this site. I mean in general. Does not mean you have to respond to those who are just rude to you. Does not mean you have to force yourself to please someone else. But a friendly 'hello' goes a long way. And it does not really take up much of your "time".

So because she doesn't come here and post more for you and doesn't answer your pms' that makes her selfish? She has a life I am sure like most of us on here.

 

[James65]

Wow I see some great points of view here and respect them all, but its free and you get what you pay for.....each thread owner runs that thread and sets the rules.
Me I'm enjoying what she post and shares ,its not a perfect world dude and I hope you two get it worked out so you can enjoy her thread and keep you in the mix.
Now just where is that large breasted sexy woman hiding???

 

[jake34]

Sometimes rules are meant to be broken.

Especially when honesty and respect come into play.

Yes, it is her right to make the guidelines.

But it also should be our responsibility to acknowledge and appreciate one another.

Nothing to work out here, though.

I have barely even spoken to her.

I am sure that she will be "found" by one/all of her 'fellow masturbators' when she is ready.

Wow I see some great points of view here and respect them all, but its free and you get what you pay for.....each thread owner runs that thread and sets the rules.
Me I'm enjoying what she post and shares ,its not a perfect world dude and I hope you two get it worked out so you can enjoy her thread and keep you in the mix.
Now just where is that large breasted sexy woman hiding???

 

[txconfidential]

Wow I see some great points of view here and respect them all, but its free and you get what you pay for.....each thread owner runs that thread and sets the rules.
Me I'm enjoying what she post and shares ,its not a perfect world dude and I hope you two get it worked out so you can enjoy her thread and keep you in the mix.
Now just where is that large breasted sexy woman hiding???

James, I was not hiding.

I was once again about 2 hours south visiting with family. Over the past several months it was to give caregiver relief because my Uncle's (by marriage) mother's needed so much care. Her dementia had progressed rapidly since January, and her health began a quick decline in late April/ May. I've spent my free nights down there, and most of my weekends. Though she passed away a few weeks ago, she touched many lives and we miss her. Today I was sparing my uncle the pain of sorting through he clothes and other personal items.

And now I come back to find this - and you saying I'm "hiding"?

Wow.

EDIT:

James, a bit later on in the thread Nirvision points out that you probably weren't trying to be rude. Reading this now, I see that you were being playful. I apologize for taking it the wrong way. But after reading the attack on me above your post, the "hiding" bit felt very different than it does now.

I was especially hurt when I read it that way because you were always so warm, kind, and encouraging here on the thread and in the PMs we exchanged. Now I see that you were being the warm playful person you are and simply trying to lighten the tone on the thread, and I thank you for that. So sorry for letting my reaction to the earlier post color my reaction to yours.

 

[HighRigger]

Tx,

I've enjoyed your thread, and was kind of appalled at what I read here tonight. I'm so sorry about what's been happening in your life, and that you have to come back to this kind of treatment.

The guy was out of line.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

HR

 

[tristhan]

Sorry you had to find this.
There are many who really appreciate what you do and write!!!!

 

[txconfidential]

Let's call a spade a spade, here.

Shall we?

You use this site to get off when you happen to feel the ache to do so.

You have no one in your life

Strike one.

I do have someone wonderful in my life. I simply choose not to share that aspect of my life with you. We have great chemistry and a commitment to each other for the time being.

But, due to the nature of his work, he will only be in my life for a limited time. We’ve talked about the future, we both had hopes and still sometimes fantasize about what could be… but he finds his work very satisfying – and it requires him to be away from home for about ¾ of the time. I can’t be satisfied with so little time together. So while we are enjoying our time together, we both recognize that it comes with an expiration date. And when his work takes him away again, we will say goodbye.

It’s an odd situation for me because I am missing out on the opportunity to connect with men who could be a good match for me in the long run. And I realize that that is the reason that I’m resisting connecting with people o an emotional level. For the time being, my emotional cup runs over – but it’s tinged with the melancholy of knowing that our time together will end, even though our feelings will continue.

and selfishly use this site to finger yourself silly whenever the urge happens to strike.

Strike two

Oh Sweetie. This is wrong on many levels. First – having been faithful to my husband for 11 years without any physical intimacy left me with masturbation as my only outlet. It was fine for a while, but gawd… it is terribly boring after a while.

Now when I first discovered Lit, the novelty of it all paired with the pent up frustration, did of course lead to some wonderful self pleasuring.

But the novelty wore off and the thrill abated.

And more importantly, I developed an emotional intimacy with a few people here. Most were friendships, that, had we met in the conventional sense could easily have progressed to something more.

But one of the friendships went beyond that. What started as a flirtation via PM, quickly became much deeper than that. We both realized there was more to our connection than the standard Lit flirtation. We grew very close and shared a love for each other. We were intimate virtually (Wow!) and physically (Even more WOW!). We still share a love though not a physical intimacy (physical or virtual) communicate regularly and cheer each other on though we are so far apart.

And he’s the primary reason I stopped responding to PMs. Partly out of respect for his feelings, but mostly because I recognize the power of PMs. Given how much I’ve shared on the thread, and given the raw honesty that is possible via PMs, it would be too easy to forge yet another emotional bond that would ultimately evaporate and leave an emptiness in my heart.

Now in terms of “selfishly use this site to finger yourself silly whenever the urge happens to strike” (your crude words, not mine): I’m curious about the humanitarian and altruistic work you do by visiting site.

Also, If you revisit the posts where I refer to having pleasured myself, I’m pretty sure you’ll find that in every instance I posted AFTER the fact… and most of the time I wasn’t the only one involved in the act.

You can also see from my posts that I generally don’t respond to overt and crude references to what someone wants to “do to me”. Oh I think I did at first, in the Lit Honeymoon phase. But not after the novelty wore off. I try to respond positively in a way that doesn’t encourage further comments, and have on occasion explained why I don’t participate in that type of interaction. So that negates your following delusion:

It turns you on like crazy to think about all of the other men out there fantasizing about your pictures. Maybe you even look at some other threads. You do whatever it is that you want within the moment.

Strike Three

It DID turn my on like crazy, as evidenced by my posts during the first few weeks of my thread. But I soon learned that what I valued most was the way men expressed themselves here. They shared their experiences and perspectives and helped me understand what I was experiencing.

It was these candid conversations that brought me back. When Fred emailed me and said I had been gone too long for new posts to be added, I feared losing the warmth and insight of the men on this thread… not their admiration.

Yes, I know that some of the men do fantasize and use my photos for their pleasure. That is flattering and an ego boost. But, please! There is no shortage of visual fodder to fuel their fantasies, on this site, on porn sites, celebrity sites, beer commercials… I don’t kid myself. I’d be insane to invest too much emotion or vanity into the fact that my photos turn men on… that doesn’t make me unique in the least.

I’ve actually tried to recapture that thrill that I experienced early on, because I don’t feel it to the same extent as I did before. But it’s not there. Maybe because it’s no longer new. Maybe because I’m in a different place now than when I started.

As for looking at other threads. The only time I’ve ventured out recently was at the suggestion of another, either via PM or email. (Oh gawd – now you know some people have an email address for me, perhaps anyone who follows the thread should brace themselves for another of your rants since you weren’t offered a direct contact for me.)

I’ve commented many times that I am disturbed by the skewed perception I get from Lit. If I spend time interacting on other threads or via PMs, then 90% of what I see are good men who are frustrated by the lack of affection and intimacy in their marriages and have been driven to Lit seeking affirmation and being emotionally and virtually unfaithful to their wives. It saddens me. (And yes, I know there are many women doing the same, but I hear more from men, so that’s my experience and perception).

You know that others take the time to respond to you in private. And you should have the same courtesy to at least respond back. Does not have to be right away. Does not have to be a full essay. But the acknowledgement should still be there.

Basically, you want others out there to treat you with respect. Yet you refuse to treat others the same way. You are a sponge and only take what is convenient for you. You have no concern for the human being on the other end.

Please realize that I mean no harm at all and just have come to expose the truth. I don't like when the truth is hidden. Don't feel like you have to respond to any of this. I would not want to inconvenience you. I know your time is so precious. Funny how you still seem to always manage to make all this time to get off. So sad that you do not try to let people in and use a technicality like distance to separate yourself. So sad how your eyes are so closed. They happen to be rather beautiful.

May your eyes be opened so that your inner beauty can finally match your outer sexiness.

You’re Out! (And so am I)

I have been nothing but open and honest and myself on this thread.

I can’t help it if you choose not to believe what I’ve said, and prefer to justify my slow response or lack of response to your PMs by calling me a “whore”.

As for “owing” people a response to their PMs, It simply is physically impossible. Sure, if I was independently wealthy and had nothing better to do than stay on lit for hours on end, I could respond to every PM. I purged my PM folder about 3 weeks ago and, because I posted photos, I now have 190 messages. It’s overwhelming and impossible for me to keep up, earn a living and live a life beyond the blue glare of my laptop.

In terms of my “precious” time, yes it is precious. I spend it working, supporting my family, and enjoying every moment I have with the special person in my life – because I know our days are numbered.

Now, when you say I “manage to make all this time to get off” you may have been thinking of the recent post where I mentioned having three Os that day.

I can understand the misperception, because I intentionally didn’t share that aspect of my life on this thread. So… those Os weren’t from self pleasure. I was counting one when we went to bed after midnight, and two in the morning before he went into the office. Physical intimacy is important to me and I make time for it in my life. It’s how we maintain our connection, express our love and revel in what we have while we have it. We’re very fortunate to both have a high libidos, so, when he is here, 2-3 times a day is the norm… and I will take that over responding to a PM from someone I don’t know and will never meet any day of my life. Even if it results in a perfect stranger calling me a “whore”.

You are rude. You are crass. And you are out of line.

But at least you have helped me resolve the ambivalence that I have felt about Lit for some time now. I thank you for that.

 

[jre1962]

Take care TC. You deserved much better here

 

[txconfidential]

But at least you have helped me resolve the ambivalence that I have felt about Lit for some time now. I thank you for that.

I wrote this inmy response above. And I meant it. The Crass Ass helped me realize the source of my ambivalence. When I first posted, it was because I truly wanted to know if men found me attractive.

Once that was confirmed, I posted because it turned me on and I loved interacting with men who found me sexually appealing. You have no idea what a relief it was to experience that after going 11 years without it!

After that passed, I posted simply out of the joy of sharing the reincarnation of my sexualiaty with the very people who made it possible.

Well, that part of my journey is done. I'm now moving on to real relationships, and it's obvious that I'm not going to share explicit photos of myself while I'm involved with someone else (aside from the bra photos, I think all my recent photos are PreCurrent relationship).

I've started to take the photos down several times before but I couldn't bring myself to do it - mainly because it was the only public place where Mal and I interacted openly, and I treasured our exchanges. Well, that aspect of our relationship is long past, so it doesn't make sense to hold onto it anymore.

And if there is one angry Ass lurking on the thread, there could be others. I've seeen other women who posted photos have their lives turned upside down because of people like that.

I figure safe is better than sorry. And that's why I removed all attachments from the thread - all because Jake34 was upset that he didn't receive a PM. While I still didn't send him a PM, regardless of how desperately he craves PMs, I did thank him for being the final push I needed to remove my photos.

Will I return to Lit? Who knows. I'm sure I'll keep a watch over the next few days. And as I said, I value the insights and conversations tremendously. Time will tell, I suppose.

Much love to all.

 

[txconfidential]

Hee hee!

Does anyone else find it amusing that I've sent 6 PMs in the last 15 minutes? They were to express gratitude to the words of kindness I received from people who were appalled by Jake34s comments.

Jake, of course, did not receive a PM. Not from me, anyway.

 

[neruda]

Hey, TX good luck in your new relationship. I think it's wonderful you found someone.

I've been a lurker on this tread for some time, and have enjoyed every moment of it. I don't normally comment on these things but I'm really happy for you and wanted to say so.

Drop us a line to let us know how things are going every once in a while. Until then, have a blast!

Yours,
Paul

 

[jre1962]

Hee hee!

Does anyone else find it amusing that I've sent 6 PMs in the last 15 minutes? They were to express gratitude to the words of kindness I received from people who were appalled by Jake34s comments.

Jake, of course, did not receive a PM. Not from me, anyway.

For some reason I have Alanis Morisette running through my head right now

 

[landlockedbeachbum]

Sorry to hear about your loss. It was a cool thing you did going down and helping your uncle out. Hope the rest of your weekend is filled with a little more fun.

 

[ohverbatum7]

I feared that this unjusified attack on you may lead to you turning your back on lit. I loved your thread on many different levels, your sexual postings were only part of that. It is pleasing you have found someone special and its understandable if he is ambivilent about the intimate details you sometimes share. hope you do look in and perharps post.

 

[txconfidential]

Tx,

I've enjoyed your thread, and was kind of appalled at what I read here tonight. I'm so sorry about what's been happening in your life, and that you have to come back to this kind of treatment.

The guy was out of line.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

HR

Thank you HR.

Hugs and good thoughts are much appreciated.

Sorry you had to find this.
There are many who really appreciate what you do and write!!!!

Thank you Tristhan. I appreciate it.

Take care TC. You deserved much better here

Ah, John! Even tonight your presence brings a smile. Thank you.

 

[txconfidential]

Hey, TX good luck in your new relationship. I think it's wonderful you found someone.

I've been a lurker on this tread for some time, and have enjoyed every moment of it. I don't normally comment on these things but I'm really happy for you and wanted to say so.

Drop us a line to let us know how things are going every once in a while. Until then, have a blast!

Yours,
Paul

Thanks, Paul. We met in October-ish, and our first date was just before Christmas. We've been together since then- committed since late January. I'm thoroughly enjoying the time we have together, though it's weird knowing that heartbreak is on the horizon since our time together will end when his assignment in this area is completed.

For some reason I have Alanis Morisette running through my head right now

Ha ha!!! Now I am too.

Sorry to hear about your loss. It was a cool thing you did going down and helping your uncle out. Hope the rest of your weekend is filled with a little more fun.

Thank you. It has been a tough several months. The physical ailments were easier to deal with. But watching her anxiety, anger, and fear as the dementia progressed was devastating. By the time she went, it was a blessing because so many of her waking hours were spent confused, frightened, and angry.

I feared that this unjusified attack on you may lead to you turning your back on lit. I loved your thread on many different levels, your sexual postings were only part of that. It is pleasing you have found someone special and its understandable if he is ambivilent about the intimate details you sometimes share. hope you do look in and perharps post.

Thank you! You have been one of the warmest and most kind participants on the thread.

You know, it's odd. I kept the relationship to myself, but now that I've brought it out, I feel somewhat giddy talking about it. Once we recognized that there can be no "happily ever after" for us, he he has encourged/ insisted that I be open to the advances of others. So when I've posted about not getting attention when I'm out and about, it is true - men generally don't approach me. I suspect it's because I'm content with what I have now, and my body language and demeanor doesn't say "Hey! I'm available!"

I'll stop by. I'd love to continue our conversations. I may post pics (though I'm sure they'll be boring compared to what I posted in the past)

Hugs!

 

[imagin8ve_mind]

Hi Txtoast

You have a dazzling smile! Thanks for sharing your beauty!

Cheers,
RJ

 

[jake34]

If I may.

I think that James was not suggesting that you were literally "hiding".

I think that he was just hoping that you would post some more pictures.

And was just trying to say it in a more clever way.

And I am the one who has anger issues.

Now it is my turn I believe to say, "wow".

James, I was not hiding.

I was once again about 2 hours south visiting with family. Over the past several months it was to give caregiver relief because my Uncle's (by marriage) mother's needed so much care. Her dementia had progressed rapidly since January, and her health began a quick decline in late April/ May. I've spent my free nights down there, and most of my weekends. Though she passed away a few weeks ago, she touched many lives and we miss her. Today I was sparing my uncle the pain of sorting through he clothes and other personal items.

And now I come back to find this - and you saying I'm "hiding"?

Wow.