Appealing?

[txconfidential]

I would have to say that the rant is not far off from my experience in life.

Let me say I travel for work and I have worked hard over the past 10 years to get where I am in business. Life on the other hand is different...

Lots of your points are bang on, having to work harder around the house when I get back from being away for days... having to hear my wife tell me she is out with friends shopping or spending a day getting her nails done... Now, don't get me wrong, I know she puts up with a lot went I am out of town, but I do it not because I like spending time away, but because it has to be done in order to pay the bills... and the amazing thing is, the only warm bodies that are happy to see me when I return are the dogs!!!

Just once I would like to come home and receive the same treatment I have to put out for her in order to receive some type of attention or sexual release.

It may sound selfish, but that is just the way it goes sometimes.

Oh Sweetie!

This sounds exactly like what my friend describes. Wow - I'm sorry that you share the same experiences.

I used to roll my eyes at the "traveling businessmen having affairs" cliche' - but hearing these stories, I'm beginning to understand why the cliche' exists. I'm not saying you or my friend are stepping out - but wow - I can see how the stage is definitely set should the opportunity and motivation arise.

Hugs!

Tx

 

[txconfidential]

Replying to the Rant

TxCon, I have been lurking here without comment for over a year, and it's your lush body, exquisite face and lusty sensuality that I always seek out. Your relative silence over the last while has created a vacuum in my vicarious life.

It's your rant that prompts me to finally add a comment – a very looong comment. While I know of a couple of women who are married to men who cannot express their inner animal, the number of men in the reverse situation outnumbers them 2 to 1. I was one of those men for over 20 years. My first wife, I believe, had a very physical relationship with her boyfriend prior to our hooking up. She was the one who first initiated sexual activity when we started going out. Five years later, at the age of 22, we were married and it seemed that her libido was sent packing upon returning from our honeymoon. She was generally uninterested in sex unless there were hours of aimless (and one-sided) juvenile adoration. By that I mean, basically just inactive cuddling. She always complained about her figure (she was not as abundantly endowed as you, my dear). Frankly, I've found any female body type alluring as long as the woman loves her body.

It's not that our marriage was all bad, but having sex 2 or 3 times a year was a little sparse for me to say the least. (At 62, I am still very fit and can lay rigid pipe for hours without the aid of a little blue pill.) She was exceedingly suspicious and jealous (without cause). For example, one day we were driving and I shoulder-checked before changing lanes. An attractive young woman was apparently in my line of sight at the time, and I got a tongue-lashing for "checking her out."

Despite the fact that she did not regularly work out of the home prior to and after birthing our children, I was expected to do half of the housework, half of the cooking, half the childcare while at home, and all of the yardwork. If I was 15 minutes late getting home from work, I got the third degree. I was repeatedly accused of having affairs. Finally, after 20 years of this, I came home one Friday, made dinner and, while clearing the table, wrapped my arms around her from behind and nuzzled her neck. She responded with, "You smell of perfume." That was the final straw for me. I decided that, if accused, I would be open to cheating.

Some months later, I bumped into a woman I'd met a couple of years earlier. She had/has a love of life and full-on sexuality. We started to see each other non-sexually. After months, I decided to tell my wife about this relationship and the potential of it becoming sexual. The tears, the hurt, the recriminations.

Here's the real irony, though. A family winter holiday with her parents and our kids took place a few weeks after my confession. Well.... she had done a serious shop at some lingerie shop before we flew off. Every night it was blowjobs, any kind of sexual joining she could think of – before bed, during the night, in the morning. After decades of saying intercourse was painful, of not wanting to be rushed (read, "hubby's horny"), she was a sexual tsunami. The funny thing was that the more aggressive she became, the more I realized how much I'd been played all those years.

Okay, time to end this sad tale (or lack of tail). I did have that affair, breaking it off broke both our hearts, I did stay with my wife for another 4 years because of the kids. Then, one day after periodic suggestions that I should just "go back to that woman," she said she needed a break. "How long," I asked. A couple of weeks was her reply. I told her that, after all this effort and time, a couple of weeks was going to solve nothing. I moved out "for a couple of months," she began hinting about men who were interested in her, and I never moved back.

One night just before we declared the marriage over, we were watching a movie with our kids. A woman, who had always worried to her friends that her husband was cheating, showed up at an event with a new man on her arm: she had dumped her husband. My wife turned to me and said, "You think that's me, don't you?" The light finally went on. It was she who had been unhappy in our relationship and, because she lacked the courage to act, she fabricated a situation where I was the bad guy, the one who wrecked the marriage. Funny, huh?

I've been in a mutually loving and sexually gratifying relationship for over 12 years now. I went from sex hardly ever to sex 1-3 times a day for the first 5 years of this new relationship. I look back and wonder why it took so long for us to recognize our incompatibility, but I'm really glad it did eventually happen.

TxCon, I don't know if I've helped you at all, but thanks for giving me a chance to rant, too. Wishing you happiness, love and lust fulfilled.

Wow - thanks so much for sharing your story. Sounds like quite the roller coaster ride for you. I'm glad you finally saw the light - or more accurately, your former wife showed her true colors - and that you're now in a more satisfying relationship.

 

[txconfidential]

TexCon. Welcome back first off. !nd thank you for the "rant". I don't think I can add anything to what has already been said. However I do agree that a lack of communication, changes in the way families are brought up, & sociatal changes, all can contribute.

Yes - I don't think there's just one cause. If I was still in academia, I'd probably research and try to determine if there are commonalities in women who behave this way. But then again, I don't think I could stomach the research.

I could go on a headier rant that involves women's sexuality and the centureies that mean have devoted to controling it... yadda yadda... but his isn't the place, I don't have the passion for that topic, and I'm not as informed on the subject as I was when I was in grad school. ;-) (My Advisor's main area of research)

First things first, love your thread. Very, very arousing, and very thought-provoking. A nice combination, really. You are one hell of a woman, from what I can gather.

Aww - thank you Crow. I appreciate it - does a gal's heart good to hear that once in a while.

As for your "rant"...... I think that every relationship is like this, at least to a certain degree. Maybe I'm a bit cynical on relationships, but it seems to me that at its core, marriage (hell, any long-term relationship) is based somewhat on the barter system. The trick to succeeding is making sure that both sides are happy with what they're receiving versus what they're giving up. In my experience, most relationships aren't as...... blunt..... about the give and take as the relationships that you're describing. I've only rarely experienced the "If you do (this), I'll give you a blowjob" method, and most of the time that I have, it's been more like a bribe than a negotiation. Or maybe I'm just more open than most to being manipulated through the clever use of oral sex. Hmmm......

So, I guess I believe that the successful relationships, the ones in which both sides are happy, realize that this "barter system" is in place, accept it for what it is, and make sure that both sides are satisfied and comfortable with the terms of it. If those scales aren't balanced, and one side is getting screwed, then it's bad for everyone.

Argh - you have nearly said what has gone through my mind many, many times when talking to my friends/ brothers etc - and while reading some of these responses. And the gist of that thought is that these wives seem to behave like whores - demanding payment for services rendered.

Of course - hats off to them - they're very well paid whores considering how little they do to earn it. ;-)

Yes - that's an extreme extrapolation - but there is a kernal of truth in it.

 

[txconfidential]

WOW!!!!

TX Conf....You have started and opened up an interesting thread.

As a point....when I "hit reply" that has a picture included is this considered "reposting"?
I do it so my comment can be added to the previous post. If I am correct..you can add a picture as an "attachment" and the pictue will not be reposted. If the picture is part of the post..if will be included in the reply.

Is this correct?

Hey Prop69 - no worries about the differences between "reply" and "reposting" or attaching.

The bottom line is that I was surprised to find my photos on the last page - and tickled that I was happy to see them.

Every once in a while I consider removing the photos and deleting the thread - and perhaps that day will come. Don't get me wrong - I'm not ashamed of anything (in fact, I'm surprised by how much I like some of them - step back, kiss myself! heh heh). So I was just tickled that they are still apprciated.

Comment to posts....

Yes there are manipulative women and men. Some men consider only themselves when it comes to sex. I have a female friend that has a husband that will once a week or so will "tap her on the shoulder" for sex. Inside of 10 minutes he is "finished" and she is not satisfied. He makes NO ATTEMPT" at satisfiying her needs. She is forced to live this unfulfilled life. Outside of sex he is a good person.

What should she do? She is nearing 60 in a small town with limited prospects. Stay with the man or look elsewhere? A conundrum.

Nice to see you back TX....I love your sexy body. Hope you can find what you need.

OH! I'm so sorry for your friend. What a horrible existence - my heart goes out to her. And yes, I'm fully aware that there are many marriages where the woman desires more sex and intimacy and it's the man who can't/won't provide. (all too painfully aware of that one).

But I've never heard of men making actively withholding sex in a quid pro quo exchange the way these women do.

 

[landlockedbeachbum]

Bu t I've never heard of men making actively withholding sex in a quid pro quo exchange the way these women do.

I wonder if this is changing. Along with the workplace demographic. It would be interesting to see if this is a gender issue or a breadwinner/homemaker issue.

 

[txconfidential]

I so want to reply to each of your responses to my rant.

I do appreciate that so many of you tood the time to respond and share your experiences with me. But I'm getting soooo sleepy.

For those of you stuck in a mismatched libido marriage - you might want to look into the book "The Sex Starved Marriage" (Here's the Amazon link:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Sex-Starved-Marriage-Couples-Boosting/dp/0743227328/ref=tmm_hrd_title_0 )

I'm reading it now (well, that and 3 other books ;-) ) and I'm impressed so far.

 

[jre1962]

Work is keeping me busy today, so I hope I can continue the conversation later.

In the meantime, I wanted to let y'all know that I appreciate you taking the time to visit the thread and respond to my rant, even though I haven't posted naughty pics.

Thank you

Your smile just gets me. Every time

 

[DonQuixoteindfw]

TxCon, it's great to see you posting again, and while I do love to see pictures of your truely delicious body (your pictures always encite such wonderful fantasies), my favorite part of your thread has always been reading your commentary and seeing how your wonderful mind works. I look forward to reading your next musing/commentary/rant (or whatever you prefer to call it)

 

[purfecthost]

Naughty pics are not necessary sweetie
Just to have a chat is good
Take care

Work is keeping me busy today, so I hope I can continue the conversation later.

In the meantime, I wanted to let y'all know that I appreciate you taking the time to visit the thread and respond to my rant, even though I haven't posted naughty pics.

Thank you

 

[LonetTraveler]

Oh Sweetie!

This sounds exactly like what my friend describes. Wow - I'm sorry that you share the same experiences.

I used to roll my eyes at the "traveling businessmen having affairs" cliche' - but hearing these stories, I'm beginning to understand why the cliche' exists. I'm not saying you or my friend are stepping out - but wow - I can see how the stage is definitely set should the opportunity and motivation arise.

Hugs!

Tx

Thanks Honey... One of the reason to visit with beauties like you...

 

[JoyceMarieL]

Work is keeping me busy today, so I hope I can continue the conversation later.

In the meantime, I wanted to let y'all know that I appreciate you taking the time to visit the thread and respond to my rant, even though I haven't posted naughty pics.

Thank you

tx,
Your smile is off the charts. I am bi and love your clevage, but your smile is classic and could not be more beautiful.

Many interesting stories posted; mine is an ex, who felt giving me clit or my giving it to myself, during intercourse was an insult to his manhood. Result, of course was no orgasm and a brief marriage.

You need not show anything except that magnificent smile. After viewing it, my imagination can do the rest.

 

[txconfidential]

A quick hello! XO

Hello!

I know I've been MIA for a while. It's not necessarily a deliberate choice. More of a "there are only so many hours in the day" situation.

Between trying to keep up with work and helping some extended family members who need some extra TLC after medical procedures (one minor, two more serious) something had to give... and that something has been my play time on the computer.

I don't suddenly have more free time, but I wanted to post because 1) I received an email from a Lit sweetheart letting me know that it has been so long since I posted that moderators will delete any posts here unless I'm active and 2) I am in the midst of choosing a dress to wear for a wedding. One of my choices has made an appearance here before. Alas, it is too snug to be in the running (grrr, haven't had much exercise time lately, either), but I did have some fun with it before putting it back in the closet.

Hope everyone here is doing well.

 

[Vancouverite]

Whatever the reason to lever you back into the forum I welcome the result.

 

[ohverbatum7]

I know I've been MIA for a while.

Hello Ms Tx,
You have been sorely missed. hope you can find the time to come back to these pages. I loved the intimacy and the fun in your postings and of course the sexy photos.

Alex xx

 

[drtshare]

Hello!

I know I've been MIA for a while. It's not necessarily a deliberate choice. More of a "there are only so many hours in the day" situation.

Between trying to keep up with work and helping some extended family members who need some extra TLC after medical procedures (one minor, two more serious) something had to give... and that something has been my play time on the computer.

I don't suddenly have more free time, but I wanted to post because 1) I received an email from a Lit sweetheart letting me know that it has been so long since I posted that moderators will delete any posts here unless I'm active and 2) I am in the midst of choosing a dress to wear for a wedding. One of my choices has made an appearance here before. Alas, it is too snug to be in the running (grrr, haven't had much exercise time lately, either), but I did have some fun with it before putting it back in the closet.

Hope everyone here is doing well.

OMG the sexy lady is back!! WOW! Yes it is a pain about mods, but they have their rules.Just some ladies have lifes that kept them away but do check in from time to time. Now about choices for dresses.. very nice start... hope to see more and some in color too.
A lot of choices..please
hehehe I know bad fred but love to see more of you

hugs

fred

 

[txconfidential]

Whatever the reason to lever you back into the forum I welcome the result.

I'm glad Vancouverite. The internet is much more fun when I have some Lit play time.

I know I've been MIA for a while.

Hello Ms Tx,
You have been sorely missed. hope you can find the time to come back to these pages. I loved the intimacy and the fun in your postings and of course the sexy photos.

Alex xx

Aw- thank you, Alex. I have missed it, too. Though to be frank, I'm not sure I have much to share that is worth reading these days.

OMG the sexy lady is back!! WOW! Yes it is a pain about mods, but they have their rules.Just some ladies have lifes that kept them away but do check in from time to time. Now about choices for dresses.. very nice start... hope to see more and some in color too.
A lot of choices..please
hehehe I know bad fred but love to see more of you

hugs

fred

Ha ha! Thanks, Fred. I understand the rationale behind the rules. I have about a month to choose a dress, who knows what I'll come up with. Btw- it's always nice when someone wants to see more of you, no?

 

[drtshare]

I'm glad Vancouverite. The internet is much more fun when I have some Lit play time.



Aw- thank you, Alex. I have missed it, too. Though to be frank, I'm not sure I have much to share that is worth reading these days.



Ha ha! Thanks, Fred. I understand the rationale behind the rules. I have about a month to choose a dress, who knows what I'll come up with. Btw- it's always nice when someone wants to see more of you, no?

Yes Sweet Lady it does.. I know the feeling well. I so miss seeing friends.. just getting a hi.. a hug and a kiss would be heaven for me.

so what other choices.. is there a color you like or can not wear?

hugs

fred

 

[mranyguy]

Great to see you back!!

 

[jre1962]

Hi TC! That dress certainly does wonders for me anyway Glad to hear you are well

John

 

[billrichards41]

Can I be jealous of a dress?
Glad you are okay

 

[sammyIammy]

One word tx

YAAAAAAAY!!!

 

[Whiskey1965]

Can we see it from the back and can I say love the legs!
Missed you girl,hope you get it sorted out and can rejoin your playmates soon.

 

[prop69]

Welcome Home TxConfidential

You have been misssed

Hope things are better with your family

 

[ohverbatum7]

Aw- thank you, Alex. I have missed it, too. Though to be frank, I'm not sure I have much to share that is worth reading these days.

Don't you believe it! If you were to recite "Mary had a little lamb" it would sound sexy to me.

 

[Van093]

Hello!

I know I've been MIA for a while. It's not necessarily a deliberate choice. More of a "there are only so many hours in the day" situation.

Between trying to keep up with work and helping some extended family members who need some extra TLC after medical procedures (one minor, two more serious) something had to give... and that something has been my play time on the computer.

I don't suddenly have more free time, but I wanted to post because 1) I received an email from a Lit sweetheart letting me know that it has been so long since I posted that moderators will delete any posts here unless I'm active and 2) I am in the midst of choosing a dress to wear for a wedding. One of my choices has made an appearance here before. Alas, it is too snug to be in the running (grrr, haven't had much exercise time lately, either), but I did have some fun with it before putting it back in the closet.

Hope everyone here is doing well.

...you sure make that dress look good!